Is it rape if it was your boyfriend?
Q. Was hanging out with my boyfriend one night and he wanted us to go to the drive in later that night after dinner so i agreed and when we got there we let all of the seats down to get comfortable and in the middle of the movie he starts unbuttoning ...
A. 31 August 2008: I'm very sad to agree that it was rape. Anytime it is non-consensual (not agreed), it is rape. This man sounds cruel, knowing it was your first time, and didn't stop. Generally, this may not have been the first time he's done that, and probably ... (read in full...)
How can we work through my trust issues?
Q. Hello, I am about to marry my fiancee in three weeks. However, I am feeling very confused. She and I have had issues, but we've worked through them. Trust issues. Last week we were having dinner with her family, and she told this story....
A. 27 August 2008: I would like to ask her if this was a true story. I would like advice on how to ask her this without it being hurtful. If it isn't a true story, then I want to ask her why she would tell it. She has issues trusting me, so I want to be delicate ... (read in full...)
I'm 11 and think I'm pregnant! help
Q. im 11 and i think im pregnant ive had sex once a week ago my friends wont get me a test and im really scared what do i do? help!!!...
A. 31 July 2008: If your friends won't get you a test, then buy one yourself... say it's for a friend, but get two so you can do both of them. Then, talk to your parent or a trusted adult. I am so sorry to say this, but you are entirely too young to be sexually ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wants to stop having sex and says other guys are hot. Is she going to break up with me?
Q. I think my girlfriend of 6 months ( were both 18) is going to breakup with me soon but she claims she doesnt want to. I dont know if this girl is a person who is good for me. I feel like I love her and she claims the same about me but she just makes ...
A. 19 July 2008: Agreed with Frank. Learn what you can from this, and get as far away from this person as you possibly can. She is toxic.... (read in full...)
My love for her is fading and there's another woman on the horizon, what should I do?
Q. Hello, I got engaged and moved in with a woman whom I love. Now she's gotten sometimes distant and jealous, and acts out in mean ways. She's changed. My love for her is fading, but I want to work on this and make it happen for us. At the ...
A. 15 June 2008: I should say that I am falling in love for this woman... and I don't know if the risk of leaving my fiancee for her is worth it. Please help. Thank you.... (read in full...)
My love for her is fading and there's another woman on the horizon, what should I do?
Q. Hello, I got engaged and moved in with a woman whom I love. Now she's gotten sometimes distant and jealous, and acts out in mean ways. She's changed. My love for her is fading, but I want to work on this and make it happen for us. At the ...
A. 14 June 2008: Thanks for the thoughtful answers. This is an incredibly immense challenge for me.... (read in full...)
What good first liners can i say to ask a girl out. Secondly what are good places to go to on a first date?
Q. i was at a party last night and there was a really attractive girl there. the problem was that i couldn't get the courage to ask her out, even with a bit of alcohol down me. Anyway it's too late now to ask her out but I just need some advice. ...
A. 12 August 2007: Dear Anonymous, great question. I used to be quite shy, but in the past 10 years (I'm now 33 and happily engaged), I became much more successful in engaging women in conversation and asking them out. The second best first-line is always... (read in full...)
36, still a virgin and have no desire for sex! Am I strange?
Q. I am 36 years old and still a virgin! I have never had any desire to have sex with anybody! I have never seen a real life woman naked (and have no desire to do so, and I am definitely not Gay!!!) Please can you tell me why people have a deisre for ...
A. 8 August 2007: I think you may be one of those few "asexual" people. There are a large number of asexual people (who have no desire for sex, ever) worldwide. Scientists think it may be a genetic issue. Google it and you'll be surprised. Best of luck!... (read in full...)
He keeps touching my vagina.... why!?
Q. My problem is this, I have been dating my boyfriend for 2 years now and he has this habit of constantly touching my private parts (vagina), he says that it is his to touch, this is really starting to irritate me, I have spoken to him about it before ...
A. 14 January 2007: Doc Silverback is way off... what's not OK with you is not OK. Period. End of story. If it's love, he'll respect that. If he doesn't, it's over.... (read in full...)
What do men look for in their ideal women?
Q. My question for all. What do men look in for their ideal women in our society today? Do they want them to be working class women and a housekeeper (who might not be able to give 100% on both ends and might get frustrated at times) OR just a housek...
A. 13 April 2006: My friends and I look for strong, independant women who are also feminine. Intelligent, but not overtly serious... need to be able to hold a good conversation.
Basically, strength and suppleness at the same time... just like most women want a m... (read in full...)
I have nightmares, every night! It's been going on for months!
Q. Hi, over the last 8 months or so, almost every night - and I mean like 5 to 6 nights a week - I have nightmares. They always change every night; it can be of someone trying to kill me one night, to someone breaking into my house the next. I even had ...
A. 13 April 2006: Nightmares are scary, and very tiresome...I'm sorry for your having to endure them. Dreams help our brains process information so we can be healthy in our waking lives. Nightmares reflect unresolved issues that we have in our waking lives. It's ... (read in full...)
My bf wont have sex with me till he's obese!!
Q. Hi, I'm 18, my boyfriend's 21 and he refuses to have sex with me any more. We have a good relationship but sexually it isn't as good as it used to be. I asked him why he doesn't want sex with me any more, and he said he won't have sex until he be...
A. 13 April 2006: I'm afraid they're right. Obesity, in fact, is the root of much sorrow, health problems AND sex problems. Actually, when you look at most male sexual dysfunction issues, one of the first questions asked is about obesity.
I'm totally ignorant... (read in full...)
She broke up with me, but I would really like to get her back!
Q. Hi I don't know what to do. I'm 19 and my g/f - who's 22 - broke up with me over a week ago after asking me to stay for a week at her house. It came as a shock to me and I am still very hurt but she says she can't take the emotions involved and that ...
A. 1 April 2006: It's hard to move in this direction, but when you start to show her your independance, and your lack of "need" to be with her, her attraction for you will increase. Attraction cuts through everything: looks, income, status... everything. Women ... (read in full...)
Why did I make the mistake of prying into her phone? Did I ruin her trust in me?
Q. My girlfriend has trust and openness issues, though she is a total sweetheart. She's starting to open up to me. But I'm afraid I may have screwed up! She got a late-night phone call (unwanted)from a random guy. I got mad, and looked in her phone ...
A. 25 January 2006: Dear anonymous. It would be most helpful if you would read the question more carefully. While some of your points are well taken, it's obvious you are projecting personal issues onto me becuase you said some things that were not in the question at ... (read in full...)
I'm 50 and I'm having erection problems...need some advice.
Q. dear sir or madam. i am a 50 yr old man. and have met thr girl of my dreams. i love her to bits and plan to marry her. at the morment i am having erection problems and it is really getting me down. can you help me??...
A. 24 January 2006: Sir, I've had some problems with sex, not ED, but other issues, and western doctors could not help. Finally, I've had great luck with help from Dr. N.K. Lin, PhD with other issues, and I'm sure he can help you, too. www.linplaza.com
Read ... (read in full...)
Do I deserve a second chance?
Q. i never thought this could happen to me but i cheated on my boyfriend. since the day i met him i loved him so much. i dont even know how it happened but it happened. my first mistake was not listening to my boyfriend after it happened, till now i ...
A. 15 January 2006: Nearly everyone deserves forgiveness... the question it whether you'll get it or not... perhaps the pain of your deception is too deep. If I was your boyfriend, I would need to see plenty of proof of your loyalty before I forgave. Good luck!... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend interested in the pub guy who "drunk-dials" her?
Q. A guy my girlfriend met at a pub before we got serious still calls her once in a while, but its always a "drunk dial" at 3 or 4am. I checked her phone, and turns out she had called him on New Year's Eve at 10am (before the eve)... which was a week ...
A. 15 January 2006: Sage advice. I should add that she's a little shy, and doesn't like confrontation, which could be why she's not calling... like hoping it will go away. ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's lack of communication is making me feel suspicious!
Q. I have recently started dating a younger woman (she's 24, I'm 32) that I am now in love with. However, she has a hard time communicating anything with me... when she has momentary issues of self-confidence, she completely shuts down, and has even ...
A. 15 January 2006: Thank you for being straightforward, and I appreciate your kindness.... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend interested in the pub guy who "drunk-dials" her?
Q. A guy my girlfriend met at a pub before we got serious still calls her once in a while, but its always a "drunk dial" at 3 or 4am. I checked her phone, and turns out she had called him on New Year's Eve at 10am (before the eve)... which was a week ...
A. 14 January 2006: Thanks for the response. Actually, I saw she called him on New Year's day, the day after I told her I loved her for the first time. I didn't say anything. Then, he called her a week later at 3AM. Who does that? Why would he think that's ok?... (read in full...)
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