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Ex and I are talking again should I assume he might like me?

Q.   I don't know what to do. My ex and I from two years ago have become closer recently we have been talking more face to face and we have also started bbming each other a bit. A few months after we broke up i had got completely over ...

A.   30 January 2012: I am in the same situation except i am the guy here and i have recently started talking to my ex. Girls generally get more attached than guys... Your ex probably knows this and if he isn't getting any girls trying to play this card on you. ... (read in full...)

Going to be married in 2 months and I feel so unloved

Q.   Hi all I feel I have no one else to turn to. Me and my fiancé have been together for nearly 4 years and are due to be married in march but I feel so unloved. We have sex once a month and it's over in 2 mins. I'm bored and I have tried and tried ...

A.   30 January 2012: Too many people see the red light before marriage but never stop. Sometimes i know it is hard (4 years is a long time) but a red light is a red light hunni. If things aren't looking up now are they going to be soon? Can you cope with this throu... (read in full...)

My cousin loves me and wants me to have his baby

Q.   my first cousin and i have always been close. we barely saw each other when we were little due to him living in another country, yet when he can to visit with his mum we always hung out. i didnt see him for about 6 or 7 years and he was 18 when i ...

A.   30 January 2012: "Inbred or intrafamial children, in general, may have physical deformations due to the increase in homozygousity - genes which dictate physical characteristics. They may also have lower brain function (i.e. lower intelligence). There are also... (read in full...)

Confused!! is this a bag of issues or a wife material?? will my kids have any trouble being mixed too??

Q.   I met this girl while going through a rough patch with another girl who i did not like that was trying to force herself on me. This new girl was prettier and more intelligent had a full time job and proper stuck up for me and fought the other...

A.   29 January 2012: Thank you so much... It has been a rough ride but as of now we are no longer together... she wants to get back but i am quite stayed on my decision... Very many thanks :)... (read in full...)

I went for her sister and it didn't work; will she give me a chance?

Q.   After a checking this girl out for some time I decided it was time to approach her. I walked up to her and asked her out to lunch and she seemed excited and agreed to it. Her mum was standing close by so I said i wouldn't take her number there and...

A.   6 July 2011: Thanks for the kind advice guys... Much appreciated... (read in full...)

I went for her sister and it didn't work; will she give me a chance?

Q.   After a checking this girl out for some time I decided it was time to approach her. I walked up to her and asked her out to lunch and she seemed excited and agreed to it. Her mum was standing close by so I said i wouldn't take her number there and...

A.   5 July 2011: Thanks for your swift response guys and i completely agree with you. However, just the other day i told the elder sister to let me know whenever she was free so we could hang out and she agreed to... I dont wanna get dissed but i feel she would wa... (read in full...)

Looking for wife's love

Q.   I am not happily married. It is my wife. She has no interest in sex. She never touches me. She has no reaction to my foreplay. She never let me kiss her and has no desire for making love. I have not ever experienced a kiss in my life before. I ...

A.   14 June 2010: I also believe in sex after marriage and monogamy and i am keeping myself for that... that said, issues like this bother me because i feel a lot of people lack tactics and practical solutions to their problems. I can not help but imagine that you... (read in full...)

I don't know what my destination should be when I've found it impossible to find romantic attachment to any other human being.

Q.   Howdy everyone, 6 years ago I met someone who has consistently shown herself to be the most amazing human being to walk this earth. I love her, and all I want is for her to be happy. I am not pursuing her. I'm lost now though, I don't know what my ...

A.   11 June 2010: One of the many things that puts people in your kind of situation is pornography. Many people argue that it has no effect but it actually does. Now you certainly do not sound like someone who is not attracted to women but someone who has no feelings... (read in full...)

Am I being unrealistic with regards to his offer?

Q.   My partner has let me down on quite a few occasions and has always promised that he would make it up to me in one way or another but that never really happens as he hopes that I will just forgive and forget. He works abroad and I only see him ...

A.   8 June 2010: I dont think so, sounds more like he's not appreciative of your love, effort and time. Tell him what you want and he should do it if he loves you... personally i would do it for you cos u sound like an angel...i mean, you've had all this and not ... (read in full...)

I'm falling for my fiancee's cousin!

Q.   hello, i think i am in love with my fiancee's cousin, she is 8 years younger then me but very mature for her age, me and her are into the same kind of music, tv, movies ect. and over the past year we have become really close we talk a lot online and ...

A.   8 June 2010: You did say she was recovering from depression... you will end up sending her back to square 1 if you do not fix ur head back in line. If it was a random girl it would have been fine but with the same family, everyone will turn on this girl and make ... (read in full...)

I am in love but she doesn't know it

Q.   Hy I am a 20 years old student from Bulgaria. From almost two years ago I've met a girl, and we are very close but she likes me more like a friend. Here in Bulgaria girls are very complicated and easy. For example I know a lot of girls who have ...

A.   7 June 2010: Hey, i have been in your shoes many times and even though i scaled through some of them, i still ask for ideas with each new girl cos they are all different. In this case, She has a boyfriend and says you are too young... there isn't really m... (read in full...)

I often feel really guilty after orgasming, whether it be from oral or masterbating

Q.   Hi Aunts, I've noticed that I often feel really guilty after orgasming, whether it be from oral or masterbating. I feel like I've got better at dealing with it (physically - I used to just tense up and freak out), but the mental problems are stil...

A.   7 June 2010: I know exactly how you feel because i am religious and had a similar upbringing to you. I usually feel guilty when i masturbate or engage in other sexual acts. i think it has to do with the fact that the mind condemns promiscuity because of what we ... (read in full...)

I want her badly, but I'm afraid of being turned down

Q.   There is this girl at work i would really love to date. I accually see her as someone i could marry but i am scared to ask her out. I have walked her home a couple of times and jokingly mentioned hanging out maybe going to the movies or someth...

A.   5 June 2010: thanks LiL :)... (read in full...)

I want her badly, but I'm afraid of being turned down

Q.   There is this girl at work i would really love to date. I accually see her as someone i could marry but i am scared to ask her out. I have walked her home a couple of times and jokingly mentioned hanging out maybe going to the movies or someth...

A.   5 June 2010: Thanks DrPsych, you already seem to know me very well :). I am just in my very early 20's so i know i have to leave the marriage thing aside. and Thanks quirkLady. I will go for it but i dont want it to ruin the friendship that exists. Anot... (read in full...)

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