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He went soft for a brief period during unprotected sex.. then he said it felt like he hadn't come.

Q.   Hey guys, Ok, so here it is. My partner and I had unpretected sex last night and usualy we use the "pull out method' which i know is risky blah blah blah not looking for a lecture on that. But last night, he said during sex for a very brief peri...

A.   25 July 2008: Hey one more question. Say, it did happend - and it is at the stage where it hasnt reached yet, will one or two drinks hurt it do you think? pretty sure your going to recomend not drinking till I know for sure, but just wondering if you had any more ... (read in full...)

When I'm left alone I have terrible thoughts, about people who I'm very close to, dying or becoming very ill. Why does this happen?

Q.   Hey, I have a wonderfuly life. I love living. I think life is the most beautiful of gifts. Today I am truly truly happy. However. Often when Im left alone I have terrible thoughts, about people who Im very close to dying or becoming very ...

A.   25 July 2008: Hey - I thought I had answered you though on my screen it doesnt seem to have come up so incase, I will write again. Nope - I dont think the worst possibly scenarios. I just have terrible thoughts when Im alone. I use to love being alone - 'my time' ... (read in full...)

When I'm left alone I have terrible thoughts, about people who I'm very close to, dying or becoming very ill. Why does this happen?

Q.   Hey, I have a wonderfuly life. I love living. I think life is the most beautiful of gifts. Today I am truly truly happy. However. Often when Im left alone I have terrible thoughts, about people who Im very close to dying or becoming very ...

A.   25 July 2008: nope, its just when Im alone and have nothing else to think about realy.... (read in full...)

He went soft for a brief period during unprotected sex.. then he said it felt like he hadn't come.

Q.   Hey guys, Ok, so here it is. My partner and I had unpretected sex last night and usualy we use the "pull out method' which i know is risky blah blah blah not looking for a lecture on that. But last night, he said during sex for a very brief peri...

A.   25 July 2008: Thanks so much. I felt like a school kid again watching this video but its fantastic and call me nieve but I realy wasnt aware of this information! Also how fantastic are the characteristics of those cartoons? Fantastic! But on a more serious note, ... (read in full...)

My problem is I don't enjoy sex although, according to the women I have been with, I am good in the bedroom.

Q.   I'm a 23 year old guy. And my problem, put simply, is that i don't enjoy sex. Ever sinec i was a kid i wanted that sort of "fairy tale" experience. Since then though, i've learned to know better through a series of heartbreaks and backstabs tha...

A.   25 July 2008: To be honest, obviously Im not male, and no professional in the field. But personally, although I have enjoyed sex whilst not in love, it always feels best when you are. Maybe the only problem is that you feel guilty that you do not love the person ... (read in full...)

What am I to her now? Not even a friend? Is it best to walk away without a word?

Q.   I have been together with my girlfriend for a year. Until few months ago, I moved for working and no longer meet each other that often. We still talk to each other on phone everyday. Last month, she told me she is going to vacation on the ...

A.   25 July 2008: Hey, I have had a similar experience, although of course not exactly the same. For an entire year I tried to keep my relationship knowing with all my heart he did not love me. We broke up and got back together a number of times. In the end I ... (read in full...)

The girl I like was forced to perform oral sex with a guy... Should I risk trying to date her?

Q.   Guys suppose you see this nice college girl you liked, but you heard she was force by a guy she was dating to performed oral sex once,but she ended the dating after that with him. Would you still try to date her or You may fear that the same guy...

A.   25 July 2008: Quite simply it sounds like it was not her fault at all, why should she be punnished with it? Bless her for not giving in, and let her know you think she is a beautiful person. As for him - if it was over three years ago, and he treated her like ... (read in full...)

My family is worried about me seeing my ex, what should I do?

Q.   My ex-boyfriend and I have been talking to one another for the last 6 months and we were planning this week to see each other but I had to lie to my parents about where I was going. They found out and my mom says that I am 21 to make my on decision ...

A.   25 July 2008: Hey buddy, First of all and foremost, I truly believe that if your family is so close to you they will understand.... everything. Having said that, My family are my best friends, in particular my bro and my Dad! We r best friends. Until I ... (read in full...)

How do you deal with a member of a group who won't give?

Q.   Hi, I'm studying events management, and a group of girls in my class are manageing a large event for our final semester of studies. We need to come up with a name for the group and we are deciding between Zap Events or Vibrant Events. The majo...

A.   25 July 2008: Thank for all your help guys! I want to print your answers- just for a discussion point in our next meeting, but im not sure if I should have posted it on here in the first place. oops. Once again, thank you!... (read in full...)

How can I tell him we need to have more sex if we want to have a baby?

Q.   My boyfriend and I would love to have a child somewhere in the near future but we have one problem, we hardly ever have sex. If my period is late he gets all excited but I know that I cant be pregnant because we barely had any sex that month. Take...

A.   15 July 2008: Hey. I'm not a medical professional or anything, but it's actualy extremely likely to become pregnant even if it's your first time let alone only once or twice a month. Also I think it helps when both partners are more relaxed? Stress can do a... (read in full...)

What things should I know about relationships so I can keep this great girl?

Q.   Im with this girl who im very attracted to mentally and physically. shes 17 shes smart and has a voice older for her age. we are bascially taking it slow. and its almost perfect bc like she said, i dont have to prove anything when im with you. like ...

A.   15 July 2008: Hey buddy. It sounds like she is already very impressed with you. Just keep doing whatever it is your doing, it seems to be working. Good for you.... (read in full...)

Might be pregnant, boyfriend stressed - What to do!

Q.   My boyfriend has been really stressed lately, mainly because we're thirteen and might become parents. I always feel like I am doing something wrong. I try to get him to talk to me about it, but he says he doesn't want to because he doesn't want me ...

A.   15 July 2008: First of all, I absolutly agree. Take a few deep breaths and get the pregegnancy test! Things could still be ok. If, it turns out you arn't pregnant then definetly look into contraceptive methods such as the pill or implamon (a small stick th... (read in full...)

Our age difference isn't that big, how can I win this guy over?

Q.   Ill make this quick. I met this guy, I liked him right away. He would always call me, and ALWAYS want me to go see him. When we hooked up, it got out pretty fast. People started talking and they told him that I was lying about my age. He got mad...

A.   15 July 2008: Hi, Here's my thoughts on your situation. They are only my personal thoughts and nothing more so think what you like of them but I do hope they help. As you get older, and have experienced more things in life, age difference doesnt become s... (read in full...)

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