She's married we had an affair ended things but is it really over?
Q. The girl I feel in love with is 6 years younger than me. We were best friends before anything. i had been in two different relationships and we would discuss and vent to one another. She also had a bf at the time. We were best friends. ...
A. 20 February 2020: She is just using you for sex. That's OK if you understand your risks. What if she gets pregnant? What if her husband becomes violently jealous towards you? Are you wasting your time that my be better spent looking for your true love. She's the ... (read in full...)
I'm compensating my lonliness by filling my life with material things.
Q. Hello all, I've been having a really hard time controlling myself spending a lot of money. It all started 3 years ago when I first started university. I lost contact with my friends from school, they kept cancelling plans whenever we wanted to ...
A. 20 February 2020: If you are going to try and get away from loneliness and depression you need to be smarter about it. Buy items that are low priced with respect to your income. Get something many people are interested in. Then join a club or group so you can make ... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm treading on eggshells at work and don't know where to go from here
Q. I started a new job nine months ago. I come from a very different background (many aspects) from my employers. I’m female and relatively young (mid 30s) versus my employers (group of men aged mid 50s-60s). They hired me for my experience which...
A. 20 February 2020: Office politics are usually more important than job skills. I know a talented executive who refused to promote the CEO's child and instead appointed another employee he thought was more qualified. The CEO fired him, demoted the other employee and ... (read in full...)
In love with 2 men I am just in limbo at the moment and don't know which way to turn
Q. I have never been so tormented. I am in love with two people. I have been with my boyfriend for 12 years but I got to know someone else. It started as friendship but somehow we have developed feelings for each other. I now have no idea what to do. I ...
A. 20 February 2020: Ask you boyfriend if he would be willing to share you with another guy. Maybe this would open a dialog that could solve the problem.... (read in full...)
Am I too messed up and damaged to ever have a happy relationship?
Q. I am 26 and have lived in a toxic, emotionally abusive household my whole life. I come from a culture where you're guilted into never moving out until marriage. (I'm saving up to move out as soon as I can though). Also, if I ever go no contact with ...
A. 17 February 2020: Sometimes distance and different surroundings can change your outlook. Find a temporary job at least an hours travel from your current location. Get a specific time limit on the job so you can give your family less anxiety about your leaving. Find ... (read in full...)
When my partner gets mad I get the silent treatment
Q. I have this ongoing issue with my bf of 5 years. Whenever he gets mad at me, he gives me the silent treatment. Sometimes it's a few hours; sometimes it's days. He's even gone a few weeks, which was absolute torture, but I'm getting better at ...
A. 14 February 2020: I suggest you talk about this method he uses to control you. Do this sometime when he isn't doing it. Tell him if he does it again for more than 3 days you will break up with him. You could negotiate something different that you both agree on.... (read in full...)
I don't like the boy my mom has me dating. How do I break up without hurting him?
Q. Dear Cupid, My mom has me and my best friend dating but I don't love him the same way he loves me. He's sending me money and stuff but I have feelings for another person and I'm clueless on what to do. How do I tell the boy i have feelings for i li...
A. 14 February 2020: Misleading him is inappropriate and cruel. Ask you Mom to approve of the boy you want to date. Maybe your Mom sees a problem you don't see.... (read in full...)
I'm a bit naive, how do I get myself out of this pickle?
Q. I have a co-worker who has a bit of a crush on me. He has been persistent in trying to go to the gym together and he can "show me how to work out". It's actually starting to get a bit annoying because he keeps mentioning it every day on our break. ...
A. 14 February 2020: Ask him if he knows the difference between asking a girl out and stalking and harassing her. If she declines 3 times all further requests are illegal.... (read in full...)
How Do I Get My First Date Before I Turn 30?
Q. I am a overweight, not very handsome, not particularly smart or interesting, bald, geeky, awkward male virgin. I am very introverted to say the least. I've never even kissed a girl and I've never been on a date. When I get nervous, I stutter and my ...
A. 14 February 2020: Develop self respect. Diet to your ideal weight. Excess weight can shorten your life. Develop a hobby that you can use to join related groups or clubs. Social interaction will help you acquire skills needed to make friends. ... (read in full...)
I need answers and support.
Q. My last post here I got super judged on here and went into a depression. More then I already am. So please be kind. I m a 30 year old single mom of an amazing 4 year old. My child’s father and I were together (we never’ married) for 5 years and ...
A. 14 February 2020: I suggest you try to become more like the daughter your father had hoped for. Go on a diet with your child. Engage in exercise activities with your child. Determine an occupation that you can learn to do. Spend more time teaching your child to love ... (read in full...)
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