Is he just making excuses? Or is there something I can do to make this work?
Q. I met this guy while I was looking for no one {still burnt after the last one}- we were both waiting to take an exam at our Uni, he started talking to me and we got along well, so he left me his email. For the following couple of months, we wrote ...
A. 13 July 2012: Ah ah, I know, right? I'd like to believe both of us would choose to handle this a little more maturely than we have a few days ago, looking back- but at times you just act on impulse, it can't be helped. {As a matter of fact, I did meet another guy ... (read in full...)
Is he just making excuses? Or is there something I can do to make this work?
Q. I met this guy while I was looking for no one {still burnt after the last one}- we were both waiting to take an exam at our Uni, he started talking to me and we got along well, so he left me his email. For the following couple of months, we wrote ...
A. 11 July 2012: Update: I bumped into him yesterday. I was standing in a hallway, talking to a guy, and he walked right toward me to reach the stairs. Sadly, I have to say he did make me quite nervous and anxious- I guess it's because I had not expected to see him. ... (read in full...)
Is he just making excuses? Or is there something I can do to make this work?
Q. I met this guy while I was looking for no one {still burnt after the last one}- we were both waiting to take an exam at our Uni, he started talking to me and we got along well, so he left me his email. For the following couple of months, we wrote ...
A. 20 May 2012: @Cerberus: "The price of a return bus fare to spend a night or weekend with you, that's a bargain if you ask me." A really good way to put it, so thank you. You're right about him being insecure, definitely- he got so even when we met a friend... (read in full...)
Is he just making excuses? Or is there something I can do to make this work?
Q. I met this guy while I was looking for no one {still burnt after the last one}- we were both waiting to take an exam at our Uni, he started talking to me and we got along well, so he left me his email. For the following couple of months, we wrote ...
A. 20 May 2012: @Tisha-1: No specific script at all, no. He did get better, to be fair, the second time, as everything does, with experience- which is also why I partially did not get why his reaction to my reaction to that first kiss was so bad. {I definite... (read in full...)
Both of us are upset about our break up. Does he really love me if he puts his religion before me?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been attached for half a year now. We started off as colleagues 3 years back and he has been courting me since then but we just got together recently. The reason why I did not accept him earlier is because of his reli...
A. 20 May 2012: Interesting situation. I think you're focusing a lot on 'why he is so religious', whether it's his true desire or just to appease his mother- I get it, it's normal for you to try and understand that. The main point, though, from my perspective, is ... (read in full...)
Is he just making excuses? Or is there something I can do to make this work?
Q. I met this guy while I was looking for no one {still burnt after the last one}- we were both waiting to take an exam at our Uni, he started talking to me and we got along well, so he left me his email. For the following couple of months, we wrote ...
A. 20 May 2012: @Cindycares:
I agree that this whole thing doesn't make that much sense as it is. {As an aside, the drive thing doesn't really count, as he'd have had to come by train, because his family only owns one car and he can't borrow it frequent... (read in full...)
I'm hurt and I don't understand what went wrong!
Q. Hello. I dumped someone I was dating for 2 years. I tried to be as nice to him, such as telling him it wasn't his fault, and that it was mine. However, there was quite a few things that WERE his fault. I just kept it all to myself, until he...
A. 19 May 2012: It is plenty fair in my book, you may have not wanted to hurt him, but you have, probably deeply, and you need to take responsibility for that.
Just give it a few weeks/months, let time take care of his anger and pain, then maybe approach... (read in full...)
Is he just making excuses? Or is there something I can do to make this work?
Q. I met this guy while I was looking for no one {still burnt after the last one}- we were both waiting to take an exam at our Uni, he started talking to me and we got along well, so he left me his email. For the following couple of months, we wrote ...
A. 19 May 2012: @ Cerberus: Thank you for your through reply, first of all. I really do get what you're saying, it does make a whole lot of sense and I'd likely agree with you- IF he wasn't the one who had clearly been chasing me before the whole kiss thing last ... (read in full...)
Is he just making excuses? Or is there something I can do to make this work?
Q. I met this guy while I was looking for no one {still burnt after the last one}- we were both waiting to take an exam at our Uni, he started talking to me and we got along well, so he left me his email. For the following couple of months, we wrote ...
A. 19 May 2012: Thank you for your time and answer.
I agree, I feel as though, as of now, not much can be done about this. If I didn't persuade him talking in person, if my kisses did not change his mind, I highly doubt that writing an email or a text will do.... (read in full...)
Will my relationship with my fiance survive?
Q. Hi. My fiancee and I have been together for about a year and a half and became engaged three months ago. We planned to get married six months from now, in the fall and were getting excited about making a life together. One month ago, not long af...
A. 18 May 2012: I think you sound like a loving partner, who is also legitimately worried for the future of his relationship, given the fact your wedding has also been postponed- not a selfish thing, in my book.
As you predicted, no one can really tell you how ... (read in full...)
He took offence. He said that he wont be disturbing anymore. Can I regain his interest? how?
Q. There is this guy who I have been in the same class with during high school but we have never spoken. He used to see me as a rival back then and disliked me. Last year, he added me on Facebook and would occasionally comment on my status and posts. ...
A. 3 March 2012: You should let him cool off for now; wait and see what he does, that will tell you a lot about how he really feels for you. Do keep in mind, anyway, that this flirt is also fairly new, so, please, try not to invest yourself emotionally too ... (read in full...)
Is this domestic abuse? Is it safe to stay with my father after his behavior towards my mom and me?
Q. Really important- please read. I'm writing regarding an issue I feel it's really serious. I live with my mother and father; whilst I adore her, I never bonded with my father. He is essentially an extremely narcissistic person, who's the center...
A. 3 March 2012: Thank you everyone for your time and thoughtful comments. @Deagan: I doubt his issues do come from the inability to work- he never liked having to do so, even if his job wasn't extremely demanding; personally, I think his issues come from his... (read in full...)
I can't lie to myself and say I'm truly happy...but why do I feel so shallow?
Q. I feel mildly shallow about feeling this way, but regardless, here it is. I'm young, healthy, middle class, smart with perfect academic achievements, pretty enough. I should be reasonably content with all of this, but instead I consistently fee...
A. 7 January 2012: Thank you for your time and answers. =] @princess13 That's a good question and of course I don't mind you asking. I guess if I thought that I was lovable, I wouldn't feel the need to put up a mask. It really is more complicated than this though... (read in full...)
Was I too harsh on him? Should I move on or reach out to him?
Q. Hi, I would really appreciate advice on my situation. It's difficult to be objective at the moment. I went for a first date with a guy I met online (dating site), we'd only exchanged few emails, it wasn't anything special but I still decided to meet ...
A. 13 December 2011: Let me see if I got this right:
-he grabbed you and kissed you and even if you pushed him away, he kept asking for you to kiss him and/or hinting at a kiss afterwards all the same.
-he ignored several calls and messages from you.
-he canc... (read in full...)
I like a confusing guy, do you think this sounds like its worth it?
Q. At my Uni, there's a very politically involved guy who's hated by the majority of people and almost worshipped by the few who don't; my group of friends was among the people who disliked him, so to speak. I added him on Facebook out of curiosity, to ...
A. 13 December 2011: Wish I could edit my previous post to answer to anonymous and oliviaclairex as well- since I can't seem to do it, I'll post again.
@anon It's entirely possible he does love the attention I give him- even if lately I pay always less attentio... (read in full...)
Establishing friendship: does she dislike me or needs more time to get to know me?
Q. I became friends with a guy about five months ago; most of his other friends like me enough and others I'm probably indifferent to, which I have no huge problems with. The girl he hangs out with during classes and after them too has a mixed ...
A. 12 December 2011: Definitely was, debating on whether I still am now due to other issues that have nothing to do with this girl.
I think that she's possessive of him because he's one of the few people she talks freely to- so that could be it. Maybe a little b... (read in full...)
I like a confusing guy, do you think this sounds like its worth it?
Q. At my Uni, there's a very politically involved guy who's hated by the majority of people and almost worshipped by the few who don't; my group of friends was among the people who disliked him, so to speak. I added him on Facebook out of curiosity, to ...
A. 12 December 2011: First of all, thank you for going through this essay I wrote about it- really. He is very charming when he wants to be and is interesting- that was always the adjective I used to define him. And our relationship was never what one would normally c... (read in full...)
Is going to a strip club like cheating? Is it worth losing someone you love to go?
Q. My friends and I were having this debate over the fact my girl and I agreed with each other that neither one of us would be okay if the other went to strip clubs. They happen to believe I am submissive to my gf, when in fact it was a MUTUAL dec...
A. 12 December 2011: Because they see this as an easy way out to get away with what would otherwise be classified as cheating, by objectifying the women who work there as mere sexual tools.
Personally, I would consider it cheating and thus, most likely, end the rela... (read in full...)
Do you think he's interested?
Q. Ok I really fancy this guy at university and we’ve talked a little over the past year but not really a lot. The other day I typed ‘I’m sleeping’ as my Facebook status in Norwegian (I can speak Norwegian, but we both live in England and I am NOT ...
A. 12 December 2011: He's clearly interested in getting to know you- only then he will be able to determine whether he's actually interested in you as a person or not. ... (read in full...)
Questions about my sex life on the first date
Q. Today I went out with a guy for the first time- we've got some mutual acquaintances and that's how we got to meet. Date went well enough- the standard movie + eating one. He seems cute, easy going, laid back, kind to people and very good looking. ...
A. 12 December 2011: I'm looking forward to the day when I'll be able to laugh about this then, trusting your predictions on the matter. =] ... (read in full...)
Questions about my sex life on the first date
Q. Today I went out with a guy for the first time- we've got some mutual acquaintances and that's how we got to meet. Date went well enough- the standard movie + eating one. He seems cute, easy going, laid back, kind to people and very good looking. ...
A. 12 December 2011: Everyone, thanks for your time and answers.
Of course, I was surprised when he brought it up and briefly considered not answering, but then I felt as though I was better off being honest about the kind of person I am and my beliefs, because ... (read in full...)
I adore my man! But, will his having kids and a rather controlling ex threaten the relationship in the long run?
Q. Hello! Hope you can give me some advice. I am in a real predicament. I have met a wonderful man. We have been together 5 months and we have such a wonderful relationship. He is kind, caring, respectful and the bond we have is truly amazing. I...
A. 9 December 2011: Frankly, this situation seems to me like a mess waiting to explode in your face. Between the threatening ex, the kids you haven't even met yet, the amount of time he spends with them, your parents should be the least of your worries imo. Keep in ... (read in full...)
Girls, especially, do you think a guy being able to dance well is important to you?
Q. I hate dancing. I mean REALLY HATE IT lol. Its embarrassing and boring. And everyone else loves it, which makes me feel awful for dissappointing my friends, and i just end up hating dancing even more. Thing is, i keep hearing about how impo...
A. 7 December 2011: I don't think it is necessary at all. I hate dancing -well, modern club dancing at least- myself, and if that is a dealbreaker to someone, then it's their loss, not mine. ... (read in full...)
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