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I'm breaking up with my boyfriend because I found him on dating websites

Q.   hi, not going to be a long question but, i found out my boyfriend of nearly a year has been going on dating websites. He knows i know now and i told him im leaving him, but hes begging me not to saying he loves me and all that waffle, honestly im ...

A.   27 September 2012: I agree with Person12345. Do not back down. Leave this man, and don't look back. I wasted 11 years with a man who cheated on me various times. I was foolish enough to believe his lies. Please don't do the same. It will hurt, and it will be h... (read in full...)

Could you tell me why you think this question was asked??

Q.   I know this is not your usual type of question on here but I would very much like your opinions on this please. Last year I had a good friend killed in a car accident. A few days after the accident the police called to my friends home and asked ...

A.   1 May 2011: Police have to exhaust all possible causes of a death, be it an obvious accident, or otherwise. It was certainly not an unusual question for them to ask.... (read in full...)

Friend who only talks about herself!

Q.   Hi guys, just a question. I would appreciate some advice. I have a good friend who talks about herself most of the time. She would call me and tell me about herself, sometimes even asking me to ask her a question so she can tell me more about he...

A.   29 September 2010: Tell her it bothers you, and why. If she gets angry, don't be her friend anymore. Simple. Why would you let someone who annoys you waste your time?... (read in full...)

I'm in love with my sister-in-law's brother and everyone in my family is against it!

Q.   hey, i am 17 and i am HEAD OVER HEELS in love with this guy thats 24 and he tells me that he is MADLY in love with me but....my ENTIRE family is against him he is my brothers wifes brother and omg he is amazing...he has a gf that is a couple months ...

A.   28 September 2010: Sounds like an ex-con with a penchant for underage girls. I can't imagine why your father wouldn't love this man. Stop. Just stop. You're better than this. He does not love you. Your father loves you, though...listen to him.... (read in full...)

My parents think the sooner I'm gone the better

Q.   my parents seem to hate me. i mean some times are really good and i really love them but others they just seem to hate me. i always argue with my mum and she always gets me down. according to her i can't do anything right. 'i'm fat, i am stupid' ...

A.   28 September 2010: What 16-17 year old hasn't said the exact same thing? Remember, your parents are human beings, and are capable of all the emotions you are. Think of how your younger sibling annoys you with their immaturity...your parents probably feel th... (read in full...)

He lies to me about smoking pot, do I have the right to be upset or am I just making a big deal about this?

Q.   A few years ago, my husband hid the fact that he smoked pot from me once in while. I found it and that's when he admitted to it. I know a lot of people think this is not a big deal, but when you have children and are married, I think it's time to ...

A.   28 September 2010: Pot smoking is not a big deal. In my opinion, it's no worse than drinking or smoking cigarettes. If he is growing or dealing, then it would be a problem. If he's just getting it off his buddies and enjoying the occasional joint here and there, ... (read in full...)

I moved five hours away after our break up -- and now he's dating someone here??

Q.   My ex and I were together for about nine years. When we broke up (about nine months ago) it was basically mutual. The relationship had become stagnant and we both needed to move on. To make it easier on me and to cut the possibility of ever ...

A.   17 September 2010: It may seem harsh, but, in my opinion, you are no longer together, and he is free to date anyone anywhere. There's the possibility that he told you just to hurt you, but, you said yourself, you wouldn't have known if he hadn't told you...me... (read in full...)

How can I start making money of my own? and how can I get rid of my acne without seeing a doctor?

Q.   Hey are u ready to hear one of my many questions? If so, then pull up a chair. With the times a little rough, its hard to get some of the stuff I want and need. My mom can't always buy me the coolest brand of shoe or a funny graphic tee (my usual ...

A.   17 September 2010: Definitely try babysitting. The Red Cross offers babysitting courses in which you can become a Red Cross certified babysitter. I did it when I was 12, and it was a pretty fun course. It was on the weekend, 8 hours each day, I believe. You do all ... (read in full...)

Am I wrong thinking that he is mean watching me and my family struggle to make ends meet?

Q.   I am an unemployed single mother living with an adult daughter who is having a part time job at minimum wages. Money is really tight. I've met this wealthy man 20 years older than me. From the start he says I bring no money into this relationship ...

A.   3 September 2010: Perhaps he has been hurt before by women who were just after his money, and he is being cautious. Maybe he will soften over time. And LLindy87, sorry to say this, but your friends are jerks. How much does a drink cost...5, maybe 6 bucks? ... (read in full...)

Does he just need time alone? Will things get better when I am not at home 24/7?

Q.   Hey guys, I have a quite complicated problem so ill try my best to explain it. I’m 16 and my boyfriend is now 19, we have been together for 3 years and met during high school, through a friend. I’ve been through a lot of problems during our relation...

A.   2 September 2010: You should get out of this relationship. You are clearly not happy, and it certainly can't be helping with your depression and anxiety. Trust me, I have been in your shoes, and it may hurt at first, but the relief you will feel by no longer hav... (read in full...)

Is it wrong to have sex with a prostitute? I'm married.

Q.   I love my wife, and have never cheated on her, and have no fantasies about doing so in the future. However, what if your wife just flat out refuses to do something that you are curious about? What if you want to experience a threesome at lea...

A.   1 September 2010: YES. It is VERY WRONG to satisfy your curiosity with a prostitute! You're the one being selfish. Is your wife entertaining the idea of cheating on you with a male prostitute to satisfy curiosities she might have? Ask yourself, is anal sex seri... (read in full...)

Older woman w/ a younger man

Q.   is it wrong for me to have a relationship with a 17yr lad i am a 33yr woman with 2 children, i don't look 33 and he doesn't look 17, we both are very much in love so i wanted to know does age really matter if you're happy?...

A.   27 August 2010: Enjoy this moment in your lives. He is of legal age, and fully consenting. All that matters is how you both feel about each other. Even if it only lasts a short while, I'm sure it will be a relationship the two of you will never forget. ... (read in full...)

Bad acne! What can work?

Q.   Hi, i need help. i have bad acne, we've tried everything. i dont know what to do anymore, mum doesnt have the money for proactive and a friend of ours said it made her face swell and she was allergic to it, and because i have sensitive screen...

A.   25 August 2010: Search the internet for home remedies for acne. Lime juice is said to help. Use cotton pads, and gently rub juice onto skin...will sting and redden. Rinse and moisturize. Try this for a week and see how it works out for you. I don't have acn... (read in full...)

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