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He can't stop staring at other women, what does this mean?

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Question - (30 September 2006) 6 Answers - (Newest, 2 October 2006)
A female , *eanna6544 writes:

my fiance has a really bad staring problem. even if he just hears a womans voice on tv it gets him checking her out. i'm not ugly. and he's not great looking! can you tell me what it might mean? we are engaged and i'm thinking of calling it off. he was dating someone when I met him. but i didn't know about it until a month or so into the relationship...please help me...thank you.

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A female reader, deanna6544 +, writes (2 October 2006):

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Thank you everyone for the feedback. I've decided to chat AGAIN with him about it and hopefully we can work it out. I think he's really insecure. we'll se....thanks so much. =)

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A female reader, Astrid Spain +, writes (30 September 2006):

Astrid agony auntDear my dad stares at anyone and he's been married to mi mum for 50 years, some people like staring it0s not always to do with sex just with curiosity or gossip

I wouldn't care at all


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A reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2006):

Did he stop dating her when you found out? Was he going to stop dating her if you hadn't found out? I would dump him because he isn't going to change, he will continue to check women out which is unacceptable...he needs to control it especially around you otherwise he is being disrespectful. He is probably worried that since you are better looking than him you will go off with someone else, leaving him to no one, just pretty women to look at on TV or on the street. He is a loser, dump him!

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A female reader, lovett_23 +, writes (30 September 2006):

I can't say that I would call the marriage off, but I will postpone things for a little while. Does he know how much this worries and bothers you? If not then I suggest you tell him. If all else fails then I think that you should try doing that very thing to him. No, it is not disrespectful, but you have to give respect in order to get it. Don't become his doormat and don't let him think that the way he is treating you is ok. If this has been going on for a while then he probably thinks that it is ok. Don't let him know when and where you will do this. Just do it out of the blue and once the shoe is on the other foot then he should feel completely different. Men's eyes will wonder and there is nothing we can do about that, but he should at least do it when you are not with him.

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A female reader, helpmeunderstand +, writes (30 September 2006):

sit him down and tell him how you feel! after that ask him if hes serious about the relationship and this marrage!if it is ment to happen then it will! but its up to you hun!good luck and i hope all goes well!

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A female reader, Toria +, writes (30 September 2006):

Toria agony auntI think you'll find most men stare at other women same as most women do the same with men, doesn't mean you've got anything to worry about its window shopping and as long as he doesn't buy he's not cheating, but if it really worries you talk to him.

With me I don't mind if someone I'm with looks at other women on passing if it's just looking but I put my foot down on them doing it if I'm there with them as I'm their girlfriend and I'm there and they could be looking at me so why look at them instead.

As for the beginning of your relationship and him still being with someone else when getting with you, you still choose to be with him even after you found this out so really you can't do alot about this unless he does the same to you, remember he picked you over her so be happy for that at least.

Good luck :o)

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