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Can someone really be ready to marry after only three months?

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Question - (28 February 2012) 5 Answers - (Newest, 29 February 2012)
A male United Kingdom age 41-50, anonymous writes:

So I posted on here a while ago and the advice was pretty good so I wanted some opinions on something else. Basically I was in a relationship and through no fault of hers I moved away making it an LDR and this put a strain on the relationship to the point she said she couldn't do it anymore. I found out she'd been involved with texting and seeing another guy that she worked with which when we split she denied and said she loved me but the situation was too hard.

Three months later she's getting married to the guy. She was always desperate to get married quickly when we were together. I know she cant have been seeing him before the last month of our relationship so is it possible she's really ready to get married after three/four months, is she on the rebound or is she just a loon?

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (29 February 2012):

So_Very_Confused agony auntI know couples that married after 6 weeks and that was over 30 years ago...

I knew pretty much by month three that I was going to marry husband #1.... so yea I think it's perfectly reasonable to know you want to marry someone early out.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (29 February 2012):

Honeypie agony auntFor me that would be too fast, but maybe not for her?

Honestly, I wouldn't worry about it. She OBVIOUSLY moved on from your relationship way before you two broke up.

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A female reader, natasia United Kingdom +, writes (29 February 2012):

natasia agony auntIt is possible, but relatively rare. It is, truly, possible to meet someone and to click on many levels in one instant. And that is a real match. But, as I say, very rare.

I suspect that she is on a hormone drive. She wants to bag her man, have him solidly signed up, and ... get the nest ready. It is a female thing. So she is a loon, to some degree - chemically controlled by her own hormones.

Don't underestimate this. It is the motivation/power behind a lot of female behaviour.

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A female reader, Sweet-thing United Kingdom +, writes (29 February 2012):

Sweet-thing agony auntIs it possible for someone to be ready for marriage after three or four months?...probably not. But she'll figure it out and unfortunately so will the poor guy she's marrying. It's no longer your problem. You are probably better off without her.

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A male reader, MarlonT United Kingdom +, writes (29 February 2012):

She's moving on and has nothing to do with you any more.

Whether she is or isn't ready it doesn't have any relevance to you and you are stalling your moving on process by thinking about her mental stability to get married after 3 months

My parents got engaged after 3 months and married after 6 months. They've been together 27yrs now I think. Depends on the people.

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