Second-Life is ruining my real life!
Q. Hi, I've been seeing my fiancee for 9years, and known her for over 10. A couple of years ago we started having problems within out relationship because my fiancee was feeling too tired most nights to talk to me let alone anything else. So,I s...
A. 1 June 2008: You seem very tolerant. She sounds like a complete mess! She is right, she does need to sort her mind out. Trust me, you dont want to marry a girl going nuts. She will only get nuttier. She might be able to talk to a theropist better than you think. ... (read in full...)
I've cheated on him, but I really do love him!
Q. Okay so i've been dating this guy for a year on and off and i've cheated on him more than once, but I really do love him and I'm not entirely sure why I've done it. But I know I'd never do it again, but now he doesn't trust me and he wants me to ...
A. 1 June 2008: I see your intentions are beautiful, and something, somewhere along the lines, you were weak to temptation. Get yourself strong. Put him in the front of your mind next time temptation surfaces. You love him. The only thing that will make him trust ... (read in full...)
I think he is waiting for the right opportunity to leave me, as we own a property together. What should I do??
Q. I have been married 7 years, my husband is 11 years younger than me, he suddenly is rejecting me and talks secretly to his ex wife, the mother of his 2 kids. His sister is best friends with his ex and always wanted them back together, and she hates ...
A. 31 May 2008: This is so hard, because you still love him. He will probably do what he's doing no matter what kind of advice we give you and you take. At this stage in your marriage/possible split, the only thing there is to do is comminicate. Create a ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with the fact that everyone I know loves my abusive ex bf?
Q. How do i deal with the fact that everyone i know loves my abusive ex bf? They all think he is this great guy, caring, chamring, respectful and a good catholic guy. But hes not...it just really frustrats me. People would always say when we were ...
A. 31 May 2008: Yeah, I had one of those. He was everyones favor because of his profession. Once I left him, after we had a kid and he closed fisted hit me, I decided to let eveyone find out for themselves what kind of person he really is. It's been 6 years, and ... (read in full...)
He wont have sex with me should I seek it elsewhere?
Q. ive been with my boyfriend for a few years and we used to have sex a few days out the week if not everyday but now ill be lucky if i get it once a month sex or any type of affection and we have been arguing alot but still im not feeling loved im ...
A. 31 May 2008: Yup, need more info! Whoa, a 10-12 year old with a baby? That must have been intresting;)... (read in full...)
Do you think a 20yr old guy is too young to be dating a mother and become a father figure?
Q. I am a 20 year old guy who is still living with his parents at the moment ( i am currently looking for a apartment to move out). i have a decent paying job and i have begun dating a 25year old mother of 1. My parents dont think im ready to do this, ...
A. 31 May 2008: I was 19 when I had my son. When I turned 24, I met a younger guy whos parents sounded just like yours. We fell in love. He loved the way I was raising my son, and looked up to me, and he had never even tought of having children till he met me. We ... (read in full...)
Do you think there is something wrong if a guy asks for sex all the time even though you told him that you were only interested in friendship?
Q. Hey everyone, I know i prolly shouldnt of done this but I did it. Anyway I met this nice guy in school and we became friends. I told him I was not interested in a relationship right now cause I am so busy with school and work. He was fine with that ...
A. 31 May 2008: Nope. He's a typical guy. Just a little more open about it. ALL guys think of sex, pretty constantly. And you are feeding it to him. He might be an addict. Just like drug addicts, he tried it, got hooked, and now relates your face to sex. Lol! Be ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with a mature lady, the problem is that my classmates are making jokes about me! What should I do?
Q. Dear agony aunt, I´ve got a really big problem. I´m in love with a mautre lady. The problem is that my classmates know it and they make jokes about me. The girls in my class laugh and that makes me angry!! Why cant people leave me alone. I just wa...
A. 30 May 2008: Unfortunately, we have very little control of what others do, say and feel. You do, however, have control over how you react to it. What is most important to you? The lady you love or the opinions of others around you? When it comes down to it, at ... (read in full...)
Why do women believe married men's lies? So many seem to fall for them
Q. I have been reading through posts about affairs and cheating, and there is constant theme that I keep encountering that boggles my mind. I am hoping readers out there could help answer this for me.... In most of the posts, where a woman is having ...
A. 30 May 2008: I ask that question myself. I just think it is human nature to go after the challange, the rush, the "rollercoaster" instead of the boring old "marry-go-round". People get so bored with themselves that they do stupid things, like get involved with a ... (read in full...)
Can I forgive after he cheated and got a girl pregnant?
Q. How do you forgive your husband after he has cheated. And made a baby with another women during your marriage....
A. 30 May 2008: Did he have the balls to ask your forgiveness? Is he worth it? It will change your marriage forever (assuming you forgive him), and at that point, I would begin convincing myself that there is someone better out there for me. Someone that cared ... (read in full...)
Had sex with the ex and current boyfriend, both unprotected, now I'm pregnant, I don't know what to do?
Q. Hello! I'm a 23 year old college student. My boyfriend broke up with me to go back to his ex, and by my own nature of not wanting to be alone I returned to my ex boyfriend as well. I was on my period for the first week that my ex and I started...
A. 30 May 2008: I'm not completely sure, but it is my understanding that a woman is most fertile within 6 days before and after her period. I believe that would make April 16th and 17th's lover the baby's father. I AM NOT POSITIVE, but when you have your 1st ... (read in full...)
I love her but my friends think she is ugly, shall I go out with her or leave it?
Q. I love a girl and im 90% sure she fancies me. All my friends are friends with her but they think she is ugly. If i go out with her they will probably take the piss. Shall I go out with her or leave it?...
A. 29 May 2008: At your age, everything your friends think matters the world. Take my word for it, as you get older, you realize that your friends opinions are not always in your best intrest. Is this girl smart? Fun to talk to and hang out with? Does she make you ... (read in full...)
I deleted nude pictures of his ex. Was I right?
Q. I turn to the Agony Aunts for everything! Today I'm writing about the following issue: My boyfriend brought up the topic of marriage a few months ago and we are already making plans. I work for him so I am at his house every day. We already act like ...
A. 29 May 2008: The right thing to do is to follow your intuition, and if it was telling you delete tose pics, it was the right thing to do. I, personally, would have approached things differently. I am all about open communication, and before I deleted anything, I ... (read in full...)
Why don't I feel like having sex more often?
Q. I simply dont feel like having sex very often, maybe twice a month. My partner is a wonderful man and he means the world to me. It makes me feel bad that I'm not in the mood more. I've had the same problem with previous boyfriends. I know this cant ...
A. 29 May 2008: I've had 2 kids, and at 1 point, I felt like that too, but I tried to keep my partners feelings about sex in consideration, and once I got back on the bandwagon of doing it every day, I started to enjoy it again. But, I know how you feel. Busy all ... (read in full...)
Why do some men wear a band around the penis during sex?
Q. Does anyone know why some men wear a band around the penis when having sex? Does that really help with erection problems or something like that?...
A. 29 May 2008: I was told it is for multipurposes. It helps with erection, keeps the man from ejaculating prematurely, and for "her pleasure" adding a little extra texture.... (read in full...)
How do I politely turn him down and still maintain a good working environment?
Q. Help!! I just started a new job and my coworker is clearly interested in dating me. I hung out with him and had a drink on the weekend thinking it was totally casual but it is clear now that he is interested and I am not. He keeps calling and of ...
A. 29 May 2008: There is a lot you can do. Tell him you are intrested in someone else, but you value his friendship. Or you can tell him that you arnt good with relationships. Or you can tell him you are a lesbian, lol. Be creative. Time heals everything, he'll be ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to be jealous of your man watching porn?
Q. Hay qupid is it normal to be jealouse of your man watching porn? It seems to make me feel unwanted, i dont mind if he does it when im not around and dont let me know bout it but it makes me feel like he need somone prettier or im not pretty enought ...
A. 28 May 2008: oh, I see, anon, so you even admit to not liking your girlfriend masterbating to porn! You'd kick me to the curb for it, so why should this girl not kick her man to the curb?! You justify it because males have more of a drive than females?!! Give me ... (read in full...)
I'm so nervous! How does one kiss?
Q. i am going 2 a swimming party w/ my bf this weekend.we plan 2 hold hands, hug,and kiss. but neither 1 of us have ever kissed anyone b4 and i am really nervous.i dont know wut im supposed 2 do and nuthing is giving me good answers.plz reply soon!!...
A. 28 May 2008: This is so sweet. Your first kiss, how exciting! I was 11 when I had my 1st kiss. It was akward (as most first kisses are) We puckered our lips too tightly, felt like kissing a rock. Keep your lips kind of moist, but not super slobbery. Don't be ... (read in full...)
Argh! My boyfriend is planning to go out partying when I'm teaching!
Q. My boyfriend is so... argh! I can't quite describe just how angry he makes me! See, I broke his trust, because last year I told him I wouldn't talk to this certain guy who used to have a crush on me anymore. But the thing is said guy is in my cla...
A. 28 May 2008: I see this trust issue as being petty. Just because you talked to this guy? Seriously. What kind of relationship is this if he gets jealous of a guy that has a thing for you. He should be flattered. Now he's trying to control you by threatening you ... (read in full...)
How can I play this one cool and have some fun?
Q. My BF had oral sex with another gal. He thinks I don't know about it and yet he's acting guilty. I think I'm gonna have some fun with this instead of falling apart like most women would do. This oral sex happened at work. I need lots of ...
A. 28 May 2008: First, it's not good to contain your feelings, if it is truly upsetting, you need to vent it, or it will fester inside you. My brother came home one night, and told me he went to a party and saw my boyfriend at the time going in to a bedroom with ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to be jealous of your man watching porn?
Q. Hay qupid is it normal to be jealouse of your man watching porn? It seems to make me feel unwanted, i dont mind if he does it when im not around and dont let me know bout it but it makes me feel like he need somone prettier or im not pretty enought ...
A. 28 May 2008: This is a contravecial subject. On one side if the coin, It is completly normal, healthy and expected of guys to watch porn, masterbate to it ect. At least thats what my opinion was before I caught my partner masterbating to porn on his cell phone. ... (read in full...)
Help! I kissed my best friend, am I a lesbian?
Q. right. i recently kissed this girl, my best friend, and it wasnt the first time, we always talk about it and have a laugh but everytime i hear of a boy she has been with i instantly hate them. i dont fancy her, and im sure as hell not a lesbien. ...
A. 28 May 2008: Aw, sweetie! You are not sick! I am a bi sexual woman, and was in your situation at your age. I was in denial that I was in love with my best friend, and I felt disgusted with myself for thinking that way. When I turned 17, she confessed that she ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to be pregnant if the second line is very very faint?
Q. is it possible to be pregnant if the second line is very very faint? i took a home pregnancy test and at first i thought it was negative but there is a VERY lightly colored blue line in the results window.i even thought maybe i was seeing things or ...
A. 27 May 2008: Congrats, you are pregnant. The test picks up on a hormone that occurs in your body ONLY when you are pregnant. I have 2 kids, both, VERY faint pink lines. My honey didnt believe it because the line was so faint, so I went and bought the test that ... (read in full...)
I'm completely obsessed with this player. Help me!
Q. Ok, I apologise in advance for how long this may be. Theres this guy at work, and I am completely obsessed with him and have been for months. He is a complete player, however he showed interest in me. Me, being the stupid person I can be a...
A. 24 May 2008: I had just answered a question to someone who had a hard time getting girls, andI told him that many ladies like a good challenge in a guy. I think this applies to you too. It seems you arnt actually obsessed with the guy, but obsessed with the ... (read in full...)
He's a millionaire but won't give me money for a deposit, how can I make him regret this?
Q. I am a 25 year old female who has been involved with a married man for 3 years. We have an okay relationship, I dont ask him for much or expect much from him at. I respect his private life, and know where not to cross the line. He is a millionaire, ...
A. 24 May 2008: Hey girl! Glad you're over it. Hope you meant over this guy. I stand by what I posted earlier. I never assumed you didnt have a job, and my honest intention was to give you good advice, and that was to move forward. Find a guy that loves you and ... (read in full...)
My new husband says I'm mental, am I ?
Q. Hi, I am recently married and I need some advice as to how to stor the rows that are happening in it. It's not so much the rows but the escallation of them. For example today my husband asked my opinion on a carton of milk that had been left in his ...
A. 23 May 2008: He is acting like a child, starved of attention. He has an issue he isnt telling you about, and instead of discussing it with you, he's acting like a pompus ass. I had a partner like that. I threatend to leave him if he dosnt communicate (we all ... (read in full...)
He's a millionaire but won't give me money for a deposit, how can I make him regret this?
Q. I am a 25 year old female who has been involved with a married man for 3 years. We have an okay relationship, I dont ask him for much or expect much from him at. I respect his private life, and know where not to cross the line. He is a millionaire, ...
A. 23 May 2008: You're asking advice on how to get even with a man that you knew wasnt a sure thing (because he's married), because he wont give you money? Seriously. I've never been handed anything my whole life, work my tail off just to servive. Ugh, anyway, I ... (read in full...)
Is my mind set affecting my probabilities of getting a gf?
Q. im 17 yet i cannot get a girlfriend even though i dont really understand why. i used to be really shy but in the past few months i've started to become less heldback but i dont interest girls which is why i've given up and plan to go through life ...
A. 23 May 2008: Now that you feel like you are giving up is when the girls will start noticing you. Sound nutty? Thats because girls are! They always go after a challange. When you give up, or go the "screw it, I'm going solo" route, they notice that and do their ... (read in full...)
I think my husband is an alcoholic, but if I leave him I'm not sure how I would support my family!
Q. Okay, here goes....... I think my husband is an alcoholic. I have been married for 12 years now, and have 2 young children. We started dating when we were 20. We both partied back then, as well as when we first were married. I stopped when I b...
A. 22 May 2008: I left my 1st childs father because of his occupation of dealing drugs. It consumed him, and he constantly put me and my son in harms way. When I would try to confront him about the dangers of the occupation, I would end up abused in front on my ... (read in full...)
How did you proposed or were proposed to?
Q. I kno there's a lot of married people on dear cupid. So I want to know how did your husband propose to u or guys did your wife ask u. Just curious...
A. 22 May 2008: My brother is the romantic in my family, took his lady to the end of a peir, where waiting for her was 25 lilies. In each lily was a card that explained a different reason why he wanted to marry her. This was done at sunset on their 2 year ... (read in full...)
What are the tell tale signs of pregnancy after the first few weeks?
Q. I've been sleeping with a boy without a condom for a few weeks now, stupid i know but he did tell me he's infertile. He only knows this because he's never got anyone pregnant before, including past girlfriends. He's never used a condom and his girl...
A. 22 May 2008: Yeah it's a good time for a preg test. I've had 2 kids, and in my 1st trimester (first 3 months), I was tired, a little nausious, my tight little jeans felt a little too tight, a little moody and hormonal. Some ladies get a little dizzy. It's almost ... (read in full...)
My husband walked out, what do I do?
Q. Okay I just need some advice/pick me ups...I am 4 months preg with a 2 yr old and a 1yr old and the man if thats what u would call him thier Dad, my Sign.Other, supposed to be my Best Friend walked out the door to work one day and never came ...
A. 21 May 2008: In my opinion, it's time to prepare yourself to be a singe mommy. Millions of mama's do it, so can you. It's better than dealing with this jackass (is what I'd call him). So many ladies go after the "challange", the guy that makes it difficult to ... (read in full...)
I had sex with him before I was ready, any advice?
Q. Hi, I've been with my boyfriend for 5 months now. It was all going great, until 4 days ago. It was the first time i'd slept at his house, but not the first time we'd slept in the same bed. We were messing around, and he asked if I wanted to do ...
A. 21 May 2008: Sure! I have advice:) Would you please stay on this site and give advice to girls who think they are ready at 13, 14 years of age? I wasnt ready either, but there is no changing what happend, you know, so to protect my good, pure name, I didnt ... (read in full...)
I moved in with my boyfriend and now my parents hate me!
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for three years. He seriously means everything, and this past year we both moved away to college. The good thing is that our colleges are only 15 minutes away from each other, however we still drive to see each other ...
A. 21 May 2008: You are old enough to move out and get married. Thats not why your folks are mad. They are mad because their baby girl is not a baby girl anymore. Their house is lonely and quiet. The only advice I can think to give you in this situation, is tell ... (read in full...)
I finally feel ready to start dating, any advice on how to go about it?
Q. I'm a 25 years-old male who've never went anywhere with a female. I've also never been shown explicit interest by one, save 2-3 times when I was a young teenager. For nearly all my life I've been passive and secluded as I was excessively fat. Now ...
A. 20 May 2008: Sounds like you are on the right track. Try to remember that materialistic things don't make a person, experiences do, with that being said, travel. Even if it's to the next big city, it's important to check out the scene other than where you are ... (read in full...)
Is there anything wrong with me?
Q. I just want to know if theres anything wrong with me. I prefer being alone, i laugh at misfortune, i hate, really hate some people and love only family and closest friends. Im irritable, and sometimes nasty. I dont trust people. In the past, my ...
A. 20 May 2008: LOL!!! No one here can define "normal", so I personally, dont think there's anything wrong with you. As long as you are not phisically harming people, your fine. Perhaps you can warn people who want to get close to you that you are a grumpy guy, ... (read in full...)
My 3 year old is masturbating, how should I to handle this? Is it normal?
Q. hi i'm a mom, i have a question if a girl 3 year old she is masturbation herself is normal? if it is what can i do for that, to me is not normal cos she just too baby please somebody help me?...
A. 20 May 2008: My daughter is 11 months and has just discovered her parts. We just laugh, and ignore it. It's not masterbation, as everyone here has sad. My 6 year old son did it too, all the time, we just ask him if he has to go potty when he does it. That way he ... (read in full...)
I know I'm going to be criticised for this, but please! I'm VERY concerned about this pregnancy because of the family history of VERY large babies! I'm terrified!
Q. I know people are prob going to criticise me for this post but here goes. I am pregnant with my first ever child but I am terrified and am even considering if to go through with the whole pregnancy. My husband family have a history of havin...
A. 20 May 2008: Get this, my 1st kid was born 10lbs, before I got pregnant, I weighed 93lbs! I had a 6 hour labor, only, WITH NO DRUGS!!!!! 1 month later, I was back to 93lbs. I have always been very little, it isnt a health issue. The thing is, you control your ... (read in full...)
How can I break my Father's heart by telling him that my Mom is cheating?
Q. HI all, This question is not directly involving me, but even though I can not control it, I reap the consequences of the problem. All of my life, I have believed that I had the "perfect homelife." My parents always told my siblings and I th...
A. 20 May 2008: I'm really sorry you are going through this. I dont think parents consider the kids in situations like these, you know? I think the best way to let him know is to not tell him directly, but hint to him, so he can find out on his own. This will ... (read in full...)
We're both ready for sex, I trust him, so what do I need to know about it? Does it hurt, and if it does, how do I deal with the pain?
Q. Hi Guys (: Me and my boyfriend have been going out for 2 and a half years. We're both 15 and considering having sex for the first time. I know what your probably thinking "Just another teenage couple rushing to grow up" but thats not the case....
A. 20 May 2008: My first time didnt hurt. For most girls, however, it does. You might tare, which will be followed by some bleeding. Make sure you are in a comfertable place, and tell him to go slow, so you can get comfertable will the whole thing. If you do hurt, ... (read in full...)
Sex with cousin, we used the withdrawal method. What are the risks?
Q. i had sex with my cousin. we are 2nd cousins, and he did not use protection, but he pulled out before he came. Is there a chance i might be pregnant???...
A. 20 May 2008: Just before a guy has an orgasm, and ejaculates, he has a pre- ejaculation, or "pre-cum". It contains more sperm than his ejaculation. Most guys dont even know they "pre-came". If you give ahand job to a guy, you will notice that he does it, but he ... (read in full...)
I finally feel ready to start dating, any advice on how to go about it?
Q. I'm a 25 years-old male who've never went anywhere with a female. I've also never been shown explicit interest by one, save 2-3 times when I was a young teenager. For nearly all my life I've been passive and secluded as I was excessively fat. Now ...
A. 17 May 2008: I am your complete opposite. Super outgoing, socially over experienced (for my age) and have a great ability to click with most people. However, I am cynical, and dont put up with any kind of fake energy. Because I am your age, I can say, that the ... (read in full...)
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