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30 March 2008: Slashdot is a geek site focussing mostly on tech. Relationship advice is not something you will find there, but this story just has to be mentioned. http://entertainment.slashdot.org/article.pl?sid=08/03/30/0028211 http://www.livescience.co...
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The Understanding Male Species...or not?
Q. After reading several of the replies submitted by Agony Uncles here on Dear Cupid, I have come to realise, or should I say, believe, that the majority of them are really very sympathetic, kind, loving, caring ~ but most of all understanding. But ...
A. 27 July 2008: Perhaps I am just to much of a guy to understand. I like to think there is some sense in the world. That there is logic. If I do X and Y then Z happens.
As an outsider is just seems so often to be the case that the warning signs are clear. F... (read in full...)
The Understanding Male Species...or not?
Q. After reading several of the replies submitted by Agony Uncles here on Dear Cupid, I have come to realise, or should I say, believe, that the majority of them are really very sympathetic, kind, loving, caring ~ but most of all understanding. But ...
A. 27 July 2008: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/is-it-possible-to-make-yourself-like-someone.html
This story is hardly unusual for this site, people (men just don't post as much) just don't seem to be able to see straight when they are in heat. Oops sorry, l... (read in full...)
The Understanding Male Species...or not?
Q. After reading several of the replies submitted by Agony Uncles here on Dear Cupid, I have come to realise, or should I say, believe, that the majority of them are really very sympathetic, kind, loving, caring ~ but most of all understanding. But ...
A. 25 July 2008: Some women go into a relationship thinking love conquers all. I got a pet theory that while men know they have feelings of lust and of love and that there is no relation between them, women think that the moment their panties catch on fire think ... (read in full...)
Before our three-way relationship even starts I know I want him to myself. How?
Q. Just to start off I have a deep love for my ex and now we're planning to get back together but there's a catch. You see he doesn't have much trust towards women due to what many have done him wroung including myself. So he's been talkin to someone ...
A. 11 July 2008: Right, because women have cheated on him in the past he now wants a harem...
Capitol idea, hang on while I try this on my GF.
*in a much higher voice*
She didn't go for it, any tips on how I can change her mind?
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Are you kiddin... (read in full...)
Tight or flappy down there - what do guys prefer?
Q. Ok got a question. I know all women are different "down there", but what do you guys generally think of labia or flaps or whatever you want to call them. I've seen girls who have really short labias, and then girls with really puffy labias and ...
A. 11 July 2008: I would say that most men in our porn filled world KNOW that all women are different down there and just take whatever is there without giving it any real thought.
Might as well ask what kind of nipples men like. Hint: the type that are attached... (read in full...)
Am I reading more into this FWB relationship? I'm seeing some signs...
Q. I am in involved with a FWB, but when we are having sex he makes constant eye contact with me or starring at me and cuddles (I’m generally not the cuddle type), also whn we have spent the night together, sleeps holding on to me like I was going to ...
A. 11 July 2008: Right... signs.
He makes eye contact when you are fucking. Well, that has been known to happen, after all, it is a pretty intimate situation. You must have some pretty odd sex experiences if you thinkn eye contact during sex is a sign of love.
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Do guys like it when girls 'squirt'?
Q. Hi there! Wondering if you could help me out here, last night my boyfriend and I were being intimate and he was giving me oral, all of the sudden I climaxed. The problem here is that as I was finishing I 'squirted', that's never happened before. ...
A. 11 July 2008: What is there to be embarresed about, you had an orgasm. Some women squirt, some don't. Intense orgasms tend to make it more likely although this depends on the woman.
The liqued is freshly produced, and (from my own limited knowledge) doesn't ... (read in full...)
I slept with him, and now I feel disgusted.
Q. I've met this guy a 6 years ago through a friend. We only started to see each other since about 2 years ago. At that time I was very much in love with him. He said he liked me too! Was trying to sleep with me a few times, but I refused because he ...
A. 10 July 2008: Why didn't you answer him? Pride? To late for that, since you already went all the way you might as well risk it all and try and find out if there is something there apart from a one-night-stand.
While it seems likely he was just after sex, you... (read in full...)
I'm afraid of what might happen, should I date this man?
Q. A man has asked me to date several times . I don't know should I accept ? It is said that girls have been raped by the man while they are have a date. For this man,I am just first time to meet him in the college. I am a open-minded girl ,easy-...
A. 10 July 2008: I would be careful, if you heard this from different people then it is very likely true.
One person telling you might just be someone with a grudge but if it is different people who have no reason to work together...
You wouldn't be the ... (read in full...)
How do I properly dispose of the evidence so that my family isn't suspicious of my masturbating?
Q. I masturbate regularly, about 2-3 sometimes 4 times a day. My parents don't know, neither does my sister. I think that they are starting to get suspicious tho, I don't know how to properly dispose of the evidence...What should I do???...
A. 10 July 2008: Yeah, your parents don't know. Sure.
Your father after all doesn't have any personal experience to tell him what his son is doing in his room.
Your mother is completly ignorant and doesn't have a clue as to what happens in a teens life.
A... (read in full...)
Married for a year and I don't understand why I am so miserable.
Q. I am 22 years old and been married a year. My husband is a great man, the type or man that i am beyond lucky to have. i don't understand why im miserable then. I moved away from my home town, and met this man 6 months after i moved. i do love him...
A. 9 July 2008: You are finding out that life as an adult ain't that much fun. No longer can you just count on your parents to pay the bills, and rescue you. From now on it is you against the world and the world doesn't hold back. Day in day out the same routine, ... (read in full...)
Child from my boyfriends past, makes two, by two different women, if true, I want kids, can all this work??
Q. My boyfriend has a 5 year old with another women, he just got an e-mail from someone he dated 4 years ago claiming he is the father of his little girl What do I do? I am currently 27 years old and have been dating my current boyfriend for ab...
A. 9 July 2008: Sigh.
Okay, you got a man, he abandoned one kid, then another and now you are with him for a grant total of 60 days and you want a baby with him and wonder if this will be alright?
Just out of intrest, I got this bridge, intrested in buy... (read in full...)
Should I let him see our son?
Q. im 22 years old and i have a 2 year old son with a 27 year old guy. a few days after i found out i was pregnant i left the father cuz he got really bad in to drugs and a month before that i gave him a chance to get clean and he wouldnt and i didnt ...
A. 9 July 2008: In your update you say this man has been giving death threaths via you to your husband?
And you wonder if you should let him see your son?
Buy a mobile phone with a record function and next time her calls, record the call and go to the police... (read in full...)
My Tampon Went Missing After Sex
Q. the other night i got blinding drunk and had sex with my new man, forgetting that I had a tampon in. Ok, I didnt "forget" but i was extremely drunk and just sort of didnt think about it. The next day I tried to get it out myself and was shocked to ...
A. 8 July 2008: Most likely you or he pulled it out. Do they drop out? Learn something everyday.
While the vagina does stretch when aroused it also shrinks again. It really shouldn't be possible for it to get lost although it might be tricky to pull it out if t... (read in full...)
Can men really be horrible to a woman they really like?
Q. I have read somewhere that soemtimes men CAN really seem as if they hate you and do everything they can to be nasty but deep down its becasue they like you. Is this true? Because I have to admit soemthing happend recently to make me think th...
A. 8 July 2008: It depends what you mean by being really horrible.
Sometimes people just are unaware that what they do hurts someone else, you might be nasty without ever realizing it.
But if being nasty on purpose, no, I would say that you don't do that to... (read in full...)
Do I tell my family about a sexual assualt?
Q. Should I tell my family about sexual assault? I have been sexually assaulted several times but sometimes by family members- recently by a bro that is not dna related. I don't want to get the family angry at me. Should I tell?...
A. 8 July 2008: Since it seemed to have happened several times with different family members, I have to conclude that this is not a well functioning family.
Sadly, too often, people even those related to victim will prefer to keep the illusion going that everythi... (read in full...)
Is it unusual for men my age to be into mature women?
Q. I am only 18 years old and I really have a thing for much older women i'm talking 50+ I have never been with one as it is very hard to find mature women into men so young. Is it unusual for someone my age to be into this sort of thing?...
A. 7 July 2008: Robbing the grave eh?
It is 2008, we cares about what is normal or isn't, if that is what you want go for it.... (read in full...)
What is the best way for a single person to create a sex life?
Q. The last time I had sex was while I was in a committed relationship. I have been single for some time and want to get in the sex scene again. What is the best way for a single person to create a sex life?...
A. 7 July 2008: google "dogging".
Wouldn't be my cup of tea but I am not you.... (read in full...)
I'm Attractive, but Guys Don't Notice
Q. Dear Cupid, Please help me out with something. I don't know what it is, but guys just don't notice me. I'm told that I am attractive, I have been in pageants, was a NFL cheerleader and modeled. Not saying that to brag, but I want you to kind...
A. 7 July 2008: When you are occcupied with something you notice it more. If for instance you are thinking about kids suddenly you notice all these pregnant women and babies around.
Could it be that because you are insecure about your looks, perhaps because ... (read in full...)
Having sex, or being in a relationship, is there a difference?
Q. what is the difference between having a relationship and just having sex...
A. 7 July 2008: Simple, a relationship can survive without sex, just sex can't.
You might as well ask what is the difference between having a mother and having a butler. Both take care of you but the difference should be obvious.
... (read in full...)
After a nightmare I wet the bed with my boyfriend in it!
Q. OK, this is pretty embarassing. In bed with the boyfriend last night, fast asleep. I have a weird dream that involves me taking a pregnancy test. Next thing I know, I wake up, and it's all wet... Yeah, turned out that dream was a little more real...
A. 7 July 2008: Well, things happen. If you are living with someone else then you are going to have to deal with things that you rather keep private.
One common thing is farting during sex. Or burping when kissing. It happens. Hopefully you two can laugh it off, ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend hasn't ejaculated in a while, the next time he does will he split the condom?
Q. I have a question, if my guy hasn't ejaculated in a while does that mean he will bust the condom or am I jus bein paranoid...
A. 6 July 2008: No, just silly.
First off, ejaculation really ain't all that powerful. Second semen does not build up indefinitly, unused sperm simply is re-absorbed back into the body.
Third, condoms are designed to catch the sperm, that is what they are th... (read in full...)
He's addicted to porn but he's perfect in every other way. I don't know what to do.
Q. I'm pretty depressed right now. I've been with my 42 year old boyfriend for 3.5 years. I am 40. At the start of our relationship he was upfront about his porno tapes. About 6 months later when feelings started developing I became insecure with ...
A. 6 July 2008: *shrug*, now the other side.
"She has an issue with porn but she's perfect in every other way. I don't know what to do."
Who is the one with the problem here? You are saying HE must change to make YOU feel better. Why don't YOU change to make H... (read in full...)
He enjoyed the lap dance last time, but doesn't seem to want one again. How can I get his approval?
Q. a few months ago i gave my bf a striptease and a lapdance because i had an urge to do so. He told me i couldnt pull it off but i did and he was so hot for me afterwards that he couldnt keep his hands off me. Well i asked him after if he would like ...
A. 6 July 2008: Emily got a point. Angel outside, queen in the kitchen, whore in the bedroom or something like that.
You don't need his permission, just do it when the moment is right. He might just not feel right asking you and since you want to do it, why not ... (read in full...)
How can I leave this guy? He does nothing to help out!
Q. How do I leave my boyfriend of 5 years and two living together. He refuses to work more than two days a week and plays video or is on the computer from the moment he wakes up until he goes to sleep. When I tell him a man must work he tells me I am ...
A. 6 July 2008: Well, you are sexist when you say a man must work.
Or can I say that a woman should stay at home? Of course not.
BUT if he is the housekeeper then HE does the cooking, cleaning etc etc. Reversed gender roles are fine as long as they are properl... (read in full...)
I'm furious at what I found on his Facebook account. Am I over reacting?
Q. I need advice. I have been married for 15 years and we have 4 children. My husband recently got a facebook account. He has added old friends and even an old girlfriend. I didnt like that much but she also added me as a friend so I did not let...
A. 5 July 2008: From the history I presume you already had a facebook account. How many of your friends are male? Any of the highschool friends ex-crushes perhaps?
Online anonymity can cause us to behave in ways we would never do in public. Few men would really s... (read in full...)
I'm scared I'm too old for all the men out there!
Q. i keep reading that men prefer younger women and this is starting to panic me as we're all getting older and i haven't yet met the man of my dreams! I'm worried it'll get too late. At which age do women lose their appeal to men?...
A. 5 July 2008: Well, personally I have to admit I go for the older type. Unusual I know but I am willing to go as high as say 18.
But really even I draw the line at 20, past that and you might as well be humping a coffin. Robbing the grave it is called. ... (read in full...)
I'm going to be married and miss having a crush on a guy!
Q. I'm sorry this is so long.. but I wanted to get in as much details as possible and PLEASE read it I really want some input. Okay I'm feeling so confused and worried. I have been with my boyfriend for about 2 years, and best friends with him...
A. 5 July 2008: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/ive-wasted-my-life-on-a-loser-now.html
Read this woman's post and then ask yourself, are you about to make the same mistake as this woman made 20 years ago?
A crush is a wonderful thing but it will always fade... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my soon-to-be step-brother!
Q. My Mom will be getting married to this guy in March of 09. I really like my "soon to be step brother". I think I might be in love with him. I am 13 and my step brother is 14. I REALLY REALLY like him, A LOT. I don't know what to do. I know there's ...
A. 5 July 2008: I would talk about it with your mother and get some legal advice.
I am not certain that it is NOT illegal to be intimate with a stepbrother. Depends on whether you are mutually adopted perhaps. If you become brother and sister legally then fro... (read in full...)
I just had a baby and now my partner seems unimportant!
Q. Dear Agony Aunts! Please help me as you've always guided me so well in the past.. I am 23 and my boyfriend of 2 years and I have just had a beautiful baby boy whom I absolutely adore.. The only thing is that now he is 4 months old, he seems to...
A. 5 July 2008: Perhaps you need a timeout? You have been busy with this baby for over a year now. A little break is in order perhaps?
Is there someone who can take care of the baby for you so that you and your husband can spend a night or even weekend with jus... (read in full...)
Spit or swallow? Where should I spit?
Q. If I want to give my boyfriend head what do I do with the sperm? People say spit or swallow but I don't want to swallow so where do I spit it?...
A. 5 July 2008: The SAFE option and the one you REALLY should be using is to use a condom.
STD's can happen just as much from oral sex as from intercourse. More so, because your mouth is constantly receiving small wounds from eating. You never have to notice i... (read in full...)
What does "cute little fellow" mean?
Q. I have a question for the ladies. What exactly does a girl mean when she calls you(a guy) a cute little fellow? I was described as such by a girl and she has refused to explain to me what she meant by that. What does it really mean?...
A. 5 July 2008: I would assume it means she thinks you are cute but as in "younger brother/son" type then any romantic interest.
The killer bit is the "little fellow" bit. It is not exactly a description women use when their heart is on fire.
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He thinks a woman's only goal is to steal a man's money...how do I break up with him?
Q. he lives at home and ive suggested we buy a house but he says he wont because women are only after money and he would prefer to get his own, he doesn't ever want kids and i do, he never wants to get married because women steal the mans money. im not ...
A. 5 July 2008: While you should ditch him and quick you also need to sort yourself out.
You got pregnant twice and had two abortions with the same man? Sometimes people are used because they allow it.
You need to take charge of your own life and not let othe... (read in full...)
How do porn stars last so long?
Q. I watch porn and I was wondering.. how do they last that long? They can't all use Viagra can they? What's there secret?...
A. 5 July 2008: Oh god, watch a behind the scenes movie or a blooper reel.
I remember one where the guy has three girls trying to get him up and he still can't. "you sure know how to make a girl feel wanted" one of the 'stars' quips.
You REALLY need to l... (read in full...)
Where can I find a decent man? I've tried all the suggestions!
Q. When I read various problems from other people and have one myself similar-I always smile when people say dump him get out there and find a man who really loves you. I dont think there are many men who want love or a steady woman or girl friend. ...
A. 5 July 2008: The problem is very simple, especially for your age, the men who want a steady girlfriend FIND ONE and are out of the dating game.
While you took the general advice of going out there and meeting people the trick is to keep doing this. If you got ... (read in full...)
I had a baby very young and people seem to judge me. How should I handle this?
Q. why do people always judge me when they see my in the streets, or abuse me and call me all the names under the sun when they see me with my child. im 16 now, just after my 14th birthday i was raped by a friend of my cousins in his late 20's and ...
A. 4 July 2008: Because people pigeon-hole others. It is just the way we work.
There is a simple trick you can try to test this out. Take a match (the item you use to start a fire) and hold it between your fingers with the head part so only the blank wood sti... (read in full...)
I've wasted my life on a loser, now what am I going to do?
Q. Not sure where to start here really, but I feel I've got my 'just desserts'. I left a loving relationship (but not exciting one) for someone which was no more than a conman, in respect of who he really was. We've now been married 20yrs and all he h...
A. 4 July 2008: Talk to a lawyer? Basically, you need legal advice on what the results of a divorce would be.
Although you mention right of the bat that you got your "just desserts' I still feel I must point out on thing.
He is not the loser. You are. YOU LOS... (read in full...)
What's the clue that a western boy wanna go to bed with a girl?
Q. Hello,guys,I'm a Chinese girl.I'm wonering what's the clue that a western boy wanna go to bed with a girl. I have a friend and he's enlish.He wanted to invite me to watch a film in his own apartment.Before that we are only common friends and we t...
A. 4 July 2008: Same things as a Chinese boy.
The shaving? Well if it was dry, it probably just means he forgot to do it before you arrived and suddenly thought of it. Since it is well known that women prefer a man to be shaved it means he at least cares a ... (read in full...)
How old is TOO old? What's an acceptable age gap for a 24yr old woman?
Q. How old is too old. I'm 24 years old and get asked out alot by older men my last boyfriend was 32 and the one before that 34. My first real boyfriend was 27 and I was 17.I just like older men more. I really don't see that much of an age diffrence ...
A. 4 July 2008: The problem is, can you two make a relationship work.
A relationship consist of two people trying to co-exist as a unit. They can do this by being the same OR by complementing each others differences.
For instance, if both are health nuts then... (read in full...)
Anyone know the percentage of women who masturbate in India??
Q. precentage of women masturbation in india?...
A. 3 July 2008: Easy, just count the number of new puppies god(s) have created.... (read in full...)
The Understanding Male Species...or not?
Q. After reading several of the replies submitted by Agony Uncles here on Dear Cupid, I have come to realise, or should I say, believe, that the majority of them are really very sympathetic, kind, loving, caring ~ but most of all understanding. But ...
A. 3 July 2008: There is a big difference between giving advice and how you behave in real life.
DearCupid: You should only attempt anal sex if you really want to and even then care must be taken to avoid injury.
Realife: Squeel piggy, squeel!
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W... (read in full...)
Did I break my hymen?
Q. I just tried sticking a dildo in my vagina and it hurt so I left it in there for like 20 seconds because I wanted to see if I could break my hymen, but then it kept hurting so I stopped. I started bleeding afterwards (obviously), so does that mean I ...
A. 3 July 2008: It is not unknown for women to tear their hymen during child birth.
The hymen is just a loose bit of skin at the entrance to your vagina. Some women tear it during normal life, others have it so strong that it needs to be cut by a doctor. ... (read in full...)
Help! My ex tried to use me to cheat on the mother of his child and she just called me to ask if he's been faithful!!
Q. Please help me! I don't know what to do... I recently had a very, very complicated situation dropped into my lap. About four months ago I broke up with my boyfriend. Shortly after he moved out he found out his ex-girlfriend that he had dated ...
A. 3 July 2008: Their are pros and cons no matter what you do.
My advice would to do what you wish someone else would do.
If you were in her shoes what would you wish to hear?... (read in full...)
Why would a guy have sex with a girl and not want her to be his girlfriend?
Q. If a guy doesn't want a girl to be his girlfriend but still wants to have sex with her, does that mean that shes ugly or doesnt have a good personality?...
A. 3 July 2008: Because he wants sex.
Men are often called dogs. This is wrong, we are cats. Feed a dog three times and he is yours. Feed a cat three times and all you will have achieved is a happy cat looking for the next free meal.
Do NOT make the mistake... (read in full...)
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