How do I contact this married man to tell him I'm pregnant? I want him to help support me!
Q. Dear Cupid I'm the op of this post "He lied to me..he was cheating on his wife with me. Do I tell her?", which I posted a month back. I found out that I'm pregnant few days back and I'm positive he is the father since I didn't have sex with an...
A. 29 February 2016: I am shocked to see some of the nasty comments here - come Aunts, this poster is reaching out to us for some advice not condemnation.
Dear Poster
from your question I can see that you are in a very difficult position. As some of the Aunt... (read in full...)
33 year old wife being hit on by a couple
Q. oman, my husband took a promotion at work to get into management. I didn't understand why he needed to take it because he gets the jobs that no one else wants and is constantly away from home for long periods of time. This has put a strain on our ...
A. 16 February 2016: This could go two ways... either you could get your husband into this lifestyle with you and this other couple, or... you could go ahead into the lifestyle without your husband and totally destroy your marriage.
I do suggest marriage counsell... (read in full...)
I'm unhappy and want out of my marriage
Q. I always wanted to meet a normal bloke settle down have kids well i got married but i cant say hes normal when i have had little digs said to me, i had my children who are all now 18 and over and i hate my life because i hate my husband and cant see ...
A. 16 February 2016: There sounds like there is a lot of hurt and lack of trust in your marriage, and it has reached a point where there is nothing left to salvage.
I would suggest a couple of things, firstly get yourself into counselling which will help with the feel... (read in full...)
Boyfriend left me for my best friend. Just found out they're getting married.
Q. Sounds straight out of a movie I know. I was with my ex from 2010-2013. We were both 23 and met at a party. We hit it off right away and started dating. I personally thought we had the 'perfect relationship' we never fought, we always knew exac...
A. 26 January 2016: Sorry you had to experience a double whammy! But look at it this way, you got rid of a cheating BF and a crummy girl friend.
I don't hold out much hope for a happy marriage for them, they have built their relationship on lies and deceit.
Put ... (read in full...)
He lied to me..he was cheating on his wife with me. Do I tell her?
Q. Dear Cupid I was dating a guy for a month, I was not attracted to him physically but sounded a nice decent person with a great job and everything. I asked him so many times whether he is single and he said he is and he never married since he...
A. 26 January 2016: I am always for telling the betrayed spouse however in this case, unless you have proof, don't approach the wife.
There is a possibility that even with proof the betrayed wife wouldn't believe you.
Be angry with the guy. He is a creep. Put th... (read in full...)
Two children and a home together breaking down over a kiss. Something doesn't add up. Should I still meet him?
Q. A guy of 40 I'm chatting to online lost everything in his divorce. He said he kissed his wife's best friend and that her friend was jealous of their relationship. His wife of 10 years never trusted him again. To me this sounds a bit far fetched. Two ...
A. 8 December 2015: Hon, I suspect it was the final straw that broke his wife's back. He has probably been cheating on her for ages and when this last incident occurred she probably had enough.
This guy is now playing 'victim' to make you feel sorry for him, but... (read in full...)
I like him so much but my head says no
Q. I've just got into a new relationship and we made it official. We've been together for 5 weeks but I'm feeling it's not right. I'm feeling more like a handbag used when needed. In the 5 weeks we've been together we've seen each other once. He has ...
A. 27 November 2015: Stop chasing this guy, he is not worth it.
YOU are in the relationship, he is, well.. not really interested.
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Why do I stay when he never uses my name?
Q. Hi everyone I just need a bit of advice. I have been going with my boyfriend for about 2 years. He secretly goes dancing without me although he knows I would love to go too, and he never calls me by my name although I ask him if he can remember ...
A. 27 November 2015: Hon, sorry to say but you are just Plan B for when he hasn't anyone else to visit or places to go. He is not going to change anything about himself as he has his life just how he wants it.
He is certainly not doing you an favours, so time to ... (read in full...)
She's dating me but seeing 2 other guys for just sex
Q. So, I have been seeing a lovely woman for about a month. We get on extremely well and have alot of fun,we have tons in common and love nearby. We laugh like crazy and there's never a dull moment or awkward silences. She texts me every day from ...
A. 20 November 2015: Sorry but this woman is not a 'keeper'.
Continued interaction with her will only result in heartache for you.
Dump her now before things get too serious.
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How dare my husband ask for a threesome after he had an affair!
Q. Hi all, earlier this year I found out my husband had an affair. We are working it out, however, my husband has asked me to have a threesome. I feel like it's a common fantasy for men but at this time of working things out, I don't know what to ...
A. 20 November 2015: I cannot believe the audacity of your husband!
Are you sure he is still not in the affair and is hoping that you will consent to a 3-some with his affair partner?
He is hoping that because you want to keep the marriage that you will do anything... (read in full...)
Will I ever be able to trust again? His cheating has so affected me.
Q. I was in a relationship one and a half year ago. The reason for the break up was the guy was cheating on me with another girl. I was devastated because I really loved him. Now I have moved on completely. I dont care if he exists or whatever...
A. 19 November 2015: Hon, so sorry you have been hurt this way.
I suggest you see a counsellor to help you overcome your feelings of distrust of people.
Contrary to what you say, you are not over his cheating, and it hurt you very much. It is not something that c... (read in full...)
A friend has a crush on my BF. What needs to be done to discourage her unwelcome attention ?
Q. Hello aunts and uncles, I need some help here regarding a female Friend who has been asking my Boyfriend out. My Boyfriend and I discuss about boundaries with opposite gender friends and we both agree hanging out one on one with the opposite gender ...
A. 19 November 2015: Hon, this is your bf's problem. He needs to block his person from all social media, and block her on his mobile.
If she is indeed chasing after him after all he has done to block her, then maybe she is stalking him? Possibly then a matter f... (read in full...)
Worried I'll lose him. Why did he wait to tell me about her pregnancy?
Q. am 21years old i met this guy when i was still at primary school due to our relationship my mother got the romours about our relationship and my mum vacant to another area far from where we were living , IT WAS SO DIFFICULT TO COMMUNICATE WITH HIM ...
A. 19 November 2015: Hon, something doesn't add up here.
you were in a relationship with him when you found out his [ex?] was 8 months pregnant??
Okay was he still in a relationship with her? As in cheating on her with you or had he broken up with her and out of t... (read in full...)
Am I his first real Gf? Or is it that he lacks consideration and empathy? Or does he lack commitment to our relationship?
Q. ive been with my boyfriend for 5 month. we dont get to see each other so much due to work and other commitments. im wondering if im expecting too much , this is the reason why . we message everyday even if its just to say hi and the odd day we dont ...
A. 19 November 2015: Sorry hon, this guy is a waste of time.
He is so involved with whoever he is chatting with on facebook that you have taken 2nd place.
You have only been with him for 5 months, dump him and move on with your life.
... (read in full...)
My ex is behaving weird and watching me!
Q. We broke up april. I havent spoken to him since because he strung me along during exam season and asked for a break, when it seems he just wanted me to do the dirty work. I eventually dumped him after waiting for him and he accepted without fuss ...
A. 17 November 2015: Hon, your ex has become a stalker!
Rather have NO contact with him at all, make sure that he is blocked from all your social media etc.,
Ask your friends to refrain from any contact with this guy as well as discussing anything with hi... (read in full...)
Feeling shattered that my Bf has been talking to his ex for 4 weeks. What can I do?
Q. I am really disappointed with what I found out yesterday im not really the jealous type but this lie has me broken!i Found out that my boyfriend has been talking to his ex for about 4 weeks now and no I did not snoop into his phone to find that out...
A. 17 November 2015: Hon, sorry you find yourself in this position.
Your bf has been having an emotional affair with his ex.
You need to decide whether this is a dealbreaker for you or if you can over time, get to trust him again.
Sorry to say that he does not ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend loves me but made it clear we will never marry. I'm heartbroken!
Q. Hi, in really confuse, sad and needed an advice. I have a boyfriend. I love him so much, he said he love me too. Im too serious in our relationship and im hoping that this wll lead us to marriage. Today i make a joke to him about getting married, ...
A. 7 November 2015: Hon, maybe he fears the whole idea of marriage but is happy with a long term exclusive relationship with you?
Why do you want to get married? Because he doesn't want to get married doesn't mean that he doesn't love you or want to spend the rest... (read in full...)
How could he let another woman come between us?
Q. I was with my boyfriend for 5 years. We have 1 daughter together. Our relationship started going downhill ever since I caught him talking inappropriately with another woman. I trusted that he wouldn't continue doing it but in the back of my mind ...
A. 7 November 2015: Hon, so sorry this has happened to you.
Now to get to the nitty-gritty of the situation. I suspect that your bf has been cheating on you for ages, and the OW [other woman] demanded either you or her, and he chose her. Whatever he told you abou... (read in full...)
Is my husband remorseful for what he did?
Q. My husband had an affair 3 yrs ago, it's been a very difficult recovery process for me since- I offered forgiveness and he lied and continued communication with her for 3 months after discovery-told many other lies and till this day hasn't given me ...
A. 13 October 2015: Hon,
He is not at all remorseful, he is just sorry he got caught.
Unless he is willing to open up all his passwords etc., to you and tell you everything you want to know, accept that you will want to discuss things over and over again until... (read in full...)
I hate hearing about how happy they are in the bedroom! What do I do to get over this hurt and jealousy?
Q. What can I do? I hate hearing about their sex lives and I'm hurt enough! How do I stop thinking about my ex and his new woman? My ex boyfriend was very sexual - sex obsessed I would say. I didn't date him for long as he wanted to move too quic...
A. 10 October 2015: Sorry posted before I had finished rambling on....
Keep yourself busy, join a gym or zumba, go to night school, take up a new hobby and everyday, thank your lucky stars your sexual prowess is not being openly discussed.
mmm... wonder if his ne... (read in full...)
I hate hearing about how happy they are in the bedroom! What do I do to get over this hurt and jealousy?
Q. What can I do? I hate hearing about their sex lives and I'm hurt enough! How do I stop thinking about my ex and his new woman? My ex boyfriend was very sexual - sex obsessed I would say. I didn't date him for long as he wanted to move too quic...
A. 10 October 2015: Hon, consider yourself lucky! If you had given him bedroom action then it would be openly discussed like it is being discussed now about his new flame.
Sorry but in my opinion that guy was NOT a keeper!
Block social media, and refuse to listen... (read in full...)
His substance abuse is making me think of ending the relationship
Q. I'm 21 year old female that's been in an on/off relationship with my high school sweetheart for 6 years. He loves me and he is gentle soul that had all the best intentions and I too love him. I have many issues however, with the type of Man he is. ...
A. 10 October 2015: Hon,
"I've adopted the task of trying to change him throughout the years" this is a waste of time and energy. He would change IF HE WANTED TO.
You have direction unfortunately your bf lacks direction, and if you stay with someone like tha... (read in full...)
He's constantly accusing me of cheating
Q. I am absolutley fuming! My boyfriend is always accusing me of cheating, and I mean always! I put up with it because I know it's rubbish and he is just insecure. However, tonight we were supposed to go out and have a nice night out whi...
A. 10 October 2015: On what grounds is he accusing you? Is he perhaps doing this so that you do not look too closely at his behaviour? Or is he just one of those overly possessive jerks that get off on emotionally abusing their partner?
"Why do I keep taking t... (read in full...)
What do I say? Where to from here? I wanted his support and his response was insensitive
Q. Hi. I'm looking for support from someone out there :( tonight I felt so down and sadly I took it out on my boyfriend while he is working away (over the phone). I told him I wish he understood how I felt having pcos, but his reply was - 'you can walk ...
A. 8 October 2015: Hon, trying to tell a man about a woman's gynae issues, well.. they just have no idea at all. They don't have to worry about any of the "woman" stuff so they see it as insignificant.
I do see where he comes from, and he feels that you should b... (read in full...)
Why would he lead me on to think we would have a future together and yet now he's seeing one of my friends? I'm heartbroken
Q. Hey, can someone help me make sense of this? I'm heartbroken. I was meant to meet a guy out travelling really soon. He went out a few months back for a year and I was going to go meet him once I'd saved enough money. We have a lot of history ...
A. 8 October 2015: Hon, you were in a friends with benefit relationship. He has now met someone else so he now has the best of two worlds. A nice gf and a friend who will have sex with him with no strings attached.
I think it is too late to tell him how you feel... (read in full...)
Did I assume too much about her? What's my next move?
Q. I came back tonight from work a bit disappointed. This is the situation. I work at a job that haves a cafe and the connection between me and one of the girls there is strong. She stumbles every time I am there and acts nervous when I apporoah her ...
A. 8 October 2015: She likes you, you like her but company procedure forbids relationships between employees..... so you LIED TO HER!
Wowie, what a way to start a relationship! When she finds out that you lied, she will probably chalk it up to you being a liar and... (read in full...)
What's some ''feel good'' to take to my boyfriend who is into fitness and keeps to a strict diet?
Q. Hi, My boyfriend is feeling weak and I want to take him something nice like food which would make him feel better keeping in mind he is working on his fitness and has a strict diet to follow..what would you recommendations do you have for "feel go...
A. 8 October 2015: Google for healthy smoothies, there are some awesome recipes out there, just perfect for the fitness fanatic. Also, google recipes for energy bars, made at home just for him, I expect he will appreciate it!... (read in full...)
Boyfriend driving me crazy! If I play hard to get he's upset, if I call too much he doesn't answer!
Q. My boyfriend and I were fighting too much as he puts it so he kicked me out but we are still together. He kicked me out because when he would give me the silent treatment because I wasn't talking enough and I would try to reassure him by holding his ...
A. 8 October 2015: Hon, you deserve better.
This man is an emotional abuser and user. He wants everything on his terms and sulks when he doesn't get it.
You need to put on your big girl panties, and stop calling him, stop running every time he opens his mouth.... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend takes me forgranted
Q. I feel a bit taken for granted with my boyfriend, I have bought him presents and paid for dinner out etc and while I'm a generous person what really upset me was he bought a big box of chocolates for his team at work, just to get them motivated and ...
A. 8 October 2015: Hon, stop buying gifts and paying for dinner.
If he makes the suggestion for dinner out - ask him if he's paying because you don't have any money. If he doesn't want to pay, well sorry to say, but hes taking advantage of you.
What will hap... (read in full...)
She cheated. At what point will I know I can get past this?
Q. Hi guys. I could do with some help. My Girlfriend cheated on me 15 months ago, and i found out around 6 months ago. IT's a pretty unique situation so I'll try to explain, We've been together 8 years, and she's been best friends with this guy ...
A. 8 October 2015: Hon, you need to find yourself an individual counsellor who is experienced in infidelity, who will help you on this rollercoaster of feelings that you are experiencing.
Have you been to your doctor for STI and HIV testing? If not, go NOW. Yo... (read in full...)
My trust is wavering with my girlfriend. I see her standing way too close to another man
Q. Dear Cupid, Long story short, I met this amazing woman at the hospital I work at (a nurse), and we have been talking since the beginning of the year. She says she loves me, and her son looks up to me like a father. I honestly felt we had a solid f...
A. 8 October 2015: Hon, I am a bit confused here, are you in an exclusive relationship with her? Or are you just friends?
If you are in a relationship, then perhaps some relationship counselling will help, to help her with her boundaries and both of you with com... (read in full...)
Have you helped your adult children financially, like pay for their wedding rings
Q. After the fact and the wedding, my significant other told me that he helped his son pay for his daughter-in-law's engagement ring to the tune of $800.00. It was suppose to be secret and only between him and his son. My significant other is d...
A. 8 October 2015: My daughter recently got married. I paid for [amongst other things] her wedding band and my son-in-law's wedding bands. Yes both of them are working and could easily have afforded it, however it gave me great pleasure to get them their wedding ... (read in full...)
Do I listen to my gut? I want a committed relationship. Am I over-reacting?
Q. I have been on and off with this guy for a few years, I went through his phone (I know I shouldn't be doing that!!) and found out he had a girl stay over at his place recently.. lets just say he lives in a studio. I confronted him and he told me ...
A. 7 October 2015: Hon, you were in a friends-with-benefit relationship. He is free to see other people if he so choses. You have obviously invested more into this 'relationship' that's why it hurts.
I have no doubt your gut feeling was right, there was another ... (read in full...)
He talks about getting me pregnant, but is it just all talk?
Q. Hi,(long story) im 23 and my guy is 19 yrs older. He uses the pull-out method. A few times he's came inside me. He askes about when im gonna have his baby. He says i hope you're ready to have a baby. But sometimes he says you better not get preg...
A. 23 September 2015: First of all, get yourself onto some contraception. Take responsibility for your body, and your future. Do not let him dictate.
Time for him to step up to the place and marry you.
Otherwise, its a case of "why buy the cow when you get the... (read in full...)
My now ex Bf goes missing in action, but is furious if I don't pick up the phone. What gives?
Q. My Now ex boyfriend of 2 and a half years gets really annoyed with me if I don't answer my phone or text back or call back quickly. He always said "keep me updated". He made it clear how he feels and I honor this request as best I can. He has had ...
A. 23 September 2015: Hon, you need to block all contact from this guy. He is controlling and emotionally abusing you.
Do not take him back no matter how much he cries or tells you he has changed.
He has shown you who he really is, so believe him!
... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is separated but is going on holiday with her husband and kids, I don't know what to think about it!
Q. I've been dating a really nice women since May and although she told me a few months ago that she is going on holiday soon with her ex husband and their two children there is something niggling at me about the situation. She says it's easier if the ...
A. 10 September 2015: This woman is sitting nicely on the fence! Enjoying the security from her husband [yes she is still married until the divorce is final] and getting her thrills by having you as her 'secret' on the other side.
Not a healthy relationship for you ... (read in full...)
Any input on contraceptives?
Q. Which is the best contraception to take? I've tried a few and they either make me bleed forever on end or be physically sick. I need to start taking something that will help with my acne and very painful periods and to also make them lighter? Any ...
A. 10 September 2015: Hon, best suggestion is to visit a gynae and let them take hormonal tests to see just what your hormones are doing. There are a lot of different options available, I am sure your gynae will be able to assist you with a suitable choice.... (read in full...)
What is my co-worker's problem?
Q. So this new girl just started working at my job about two weeks ago and when we met I thought we clicked right away. I showed her the ropes which she appreciated and we talked a lot about our personal lives. She would even compliment me on a lot of ...
A. 10 September 2015: Is there perhaps one or two of your co-workers that have issues with you? Maybe they have passed on their version of their grievances and she is taking their side?
If that is not the issue, maybe she has found her feet within the company and has ... (read in full...)
Am I a fool for falling in love?
Q. Did I do the right thing, I turned around an walk away, without saying a word, I was seeing this gal for three months, fell head over heals in love, her ex beat all the time, she was going through therapy, for the abuse, when he got out of jail, she ...
A. 10 September 2015: Ouch! You sound like a really nice guy, but time to move on. She is happy with her abusive man, there is nothing you can do to change that.
What she does want is a friends with benefit arrangement - not good at all since you have deeper feelings... (read in full...)
Porn and sex, why doesn't he want to touch me or do anything with me?
Q. My boyfriend has been watching porn since 13 all the way to 23. We started dating and he stopped shortly after. Our sex life is terrible still. When we first started dating he couldn't get off, it was hard to get him aroused then he lost it. He ...
A. 10 September 2015: Hon, first of all it is not you - you are gorgeous and sexy! It is about him. He has become so desensitized to porn that nothing in real life does it for him. You will find that he is probably watching more and more bizarre stuff as the vanilla ... (read in full...)
My wife went to an adults-only topless pool in Vegas. I'm not so sure what to think about it
Q. My wife recently went on a bachelorette party to Las Vegas. Some of the girls decided to go to the adults-only topless pool. My wife and a couple other girls (single) decided to take their tops off. The one's who were married did not. My wife ...
A. 10 September 2015: mmm.... couple of red flags here.. first your wife bared her breasts infront of other people, and if she was so comfortable doing this, perhaps she has done it before? I am under the impression that these adults-only topless pools were for ... (read in full...)
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