Why didn't he give me his number?
Q. Hi. Just wondering if anyone has any idea why he didn't ask for my number. In a quite busy night life area, I was with a friend and gave this very cute guy signals of interest. He came over and we chatted for about 10 minutes. As I enjoyed both h...
A. 24 July 2013: I wouldn't say I'm the ballsiest girl around but I have asked guys for their numbers and in fact most of my female friends have. I don't think there it's anything exceptional about that.
I also don't think there is anything unusual about a guy ju... (read in full...)
Why didn't he give me his number?
Q. Hi. Just wondering if anyone has any idea why he didn't ask for my number. In a quite busy night life area, I was with a friend and gave this very cute guy signals of interest. He came over and we chatted for about 10 minutes. As I enjoyed both h...
A. 23 July 2013: He probably did the same thing with 19 other girls that same evening. That would have been a lot of names and phone numbers to keep track of. I think you need to put this down to a bit of a flirt and a kiss with a player and try to forget about him. ... (read in full...)
I want his girlfriend to know he's been cheating on her with me!
Q. So I've been talking/hooking up with this guy and he has a girlfriend of a few years... I don't want to change my situation with him yet but I do want her to know what he's doing. She seems like a really good (virginal) girl... How could I do this ...
A. 23 July 2013: Yeah, why would you want to do this? You don't give a lot of information, but do you somehow feel that you are morally superior to him? You are not. If you're going to tell her, our allow her to find out, then at least be honest about your part in ... (read in full...)
It's not that she had sex, it's that she had sex with *him*
Q. Dear community, currently, I'm in a relationship with a girl (19. I'm really in love with her and I strongly believe that she's too. But there's this one thing that keeps bothering me the whole time. During the time her previous relation...
A. 22 July 2013: When I read your question I had pretty much exactly the same thoughts as You Wish. She cheated on her boyfriend, who cares who she cheated with? ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend lies to authorities and tells them his parents are dead. Isn't that kind of sick?
Q. My partner is currently serving a prison sentence for violence towards me. At first he was being very apologetic saying it would never happen again and please dont leave him. Now he says to me that he doesnt trust me not to go to the police again ...
A. 16 July 2013: He was violent enough towards you to end up in prison, and he's still making threats and manipulating you. This is your chance to get out. Why are you still calling him your boyfriend and waiting for him?
The bottom line is that he can't control ... (read in full...)
Since I no longer pay for everything, he doesn't hardly see me at all!
Q. Ok I'm back with more questions. I am still in the LDR. But have made some much needed changes. I no longer pay for everything but with that change it means he doesn't see me hardly at all. So this is probably the last straw. This weekend I drive 3 ...
A. 13 July 2013: I remember your previous question from when you were on holiday with him and he brought his kids without telling you and without telling them who you were and why you were there and then expected you to pay for them.
I believe the general ... (read in full...)
My online guy is giving me the silent treatment
Q. Hi, Guy’s I hope you can help. I met a guy online. We have been talking for two months now. He asked me if we could become exclusive since we got along so well. I said yes. We haven’t met yet because he lives long distance. I have asked hi...
A. 12 July 2013: Never mind him, I think you really need to seek professional help. I see a lot of posts like this from women who are in a physical relationship with an abusive man and they can't leave because they love him or are scared. You've never even met this ... (read in full...)
Married man dumped me and I am feeling so used and stupid!!
Q. I had a fling with a married man. I posted here not long ago but I think my question reached a max with 27 answers because I tried to post a follow up and the site would not allow me. This is my follow up. You can say I TOLD YOU SO and I had it ...
A. 9 July 2013: Saying you are both "messed up" is just making excuses. Lots of people go through really bad stuff. You're not the only one.
Like others have said, there is no point in trying to help because pretty much every person on this post and your las... (read in full...)
Girlfriend knew she had STD and still had unprotected sex with me. I found out from seeing her medication!
Q. I found out about a week ago that my live in GF has an STD. She did not tell me, I found out. I found medication that she's taking, that she never told me about. I did confront her. Naturally a fight ensued, and the house is tense now. My quest...
A. 8 July 2013: I'm one of the "judgmental posters" and I have herpes type 1 (I get cold sores around the mouth). It is not contagious most of the time but I absolutely tell anyone I'm going to be kissing if I think I might pass it on. A healthy adult is not going ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend knew she had STD and still had unprotected sex with me. I found out from seeing her medication!
Q. I found out about a week ago that my live in GF has an STD. She did not tell me, I found out. I found medication that she's taking, that she never told me about. I did confront her. Naturally a fight ensued, and the house is tense now. My quest...
A. 7 July 2013: This is unforgivable. I don't see how you can stay together after this. Her excuse is appalling. I would break up with her asap. Depending on the STD she has, she could have committed a crime by knowingly having unprotected sex with someone when she ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend dumped my because I wouldn't add her as a friend on Facebook.
Q. My Girlfriend dumped me because I wouldn't add her as my friend on Facebook. I don't understand what everyone's obsession over Facebook is. I like to keep my private life private. I think she is just too jealous. I don't feel I should have to add ...
A. 5 July 2013: This sounds like a teenage issue. If a girlfriend is not your private life, then what is? No offense, but if your privacy was that important to you, you wouldn't even have a Facebook account.
I hate Facebook and don't have it but I'm with you... (read in full...)
I'm tempted to have an affair with my hot co-worker to get back at my husband for the pain he put me through 3 years ago
Q. I am currently married for 3 yrs now. However, my husband and i had many issues in the beginning of our relationship when we were dating. he didnt tell me that he was still emailing his exgirlfriend because he told me she wanted to end her life so ...
A. 29 June 2013: Sorry. You chose to continue the marriage and work on it, but you haven't worked on yourself. If someone breaks your trust and you chose to continue a relationship with that person, that means you accept what they did, forgive them and move on ... (read in full...)
I'm tempted to have an affair with my hot co-worker to get back at my husband for the pain he put me through 3 years ago
Q. I am currently married for 3 yrs now. However, my husband and i had many issues in the beginning of our relationship when we were dating. he didnt tell me that he was still emailing his exgirlfriend because he told me she wanted to end her life so ...
A. 29 June 2013: I don't even know where to start with this one. Your logic is so twisted. Cheating your husband with a coworker to get revenge for something that happened years ago is a horrible idea that will not make you feel better. You would (rightly) be racked ... (read in full...)
Is it just me of has anyone else noticed the same assumptions and consolations that people make when someone says that they've never had a girlfriend and are having difficulty finding one?
Q. Is it just me of has anyone else noticed the same assumptions and consolations that people make when someone says that they've never had a girlfriend and are having difficulty finding one? 1) You have to be happy alone before you can be with some...
A. 29 June 2013: Sorry, sent too soon. Anyway, I feel relatively optimistic about this new relationship, and I completely understand where you're coming from, so I hope that maybe that gives you some hope.
Some practical advice- perhaps you could ask some tru... (read in full...)
Is it just me of has anyone else noticed the same assumptions and consolations that people make when someone says that they've never had a girlfriend and are having difficulty finding one?
Q. Is it just me of has anyone else noticed the same assumptions and consolations that people make when someone says that they've never had a girlfriend and are having difficulty finding one? 1) You have to be happy alone before you can be with some...
A. 29 June 2013: I've heard every one of these cliches numerous times but in relation to finding a boyfriend. I know just how frustrating it is. People mean well but they just feel like empty words.
Some people have lots of partners in their lives, other people n... (read in full...)
Just started talking, then nothing?
Q. Utterly confused and hoping someone could please shed some light! Been flirting with a guy that works in a store I shop in once a week. Really felt a lot of tension between us, definitely a connection. Two days ago we spoke for quite a while. H...
A. 28 June 2013: The fact that he's a rubbish communicator and blows hot and cold at this stage doesn't bode well for a potential future relationship. It would really do my head in if I were in your shoes.
My advice is to get out before you form an emotiona... (read in full...)
Married man dumped me and I am feeling so used and stupid!!
Q. I had a fling with a married man. I posted here not long ago but I think my question reached a max with 27 answers because I tried to post a follow up and the site would not allow me. This is my follow up. You can say I TOLD YOU SO and I had it ...
A. 26 June 2013: I remember your first thread very well because when you updated us that you had given in and had sex with him it was the first time I've ever felt disappointed in someone from DC, someone I did not know and would never meet. A lot of people gave you ... (read in full...)
He gave me chlamydia and wasn't upfront with me about it. Is withholding information the same as lying?
Q. I'm 3 months pregnant and through the series of required blood tests, I tested positive for chlamydia. Totally shocked, I told my bf what the doc said and asked if there was anything he needed to tell me (I tested negative at my last visit in ...
A. 26 June 2013: I agree completely with pinktopaz. It doesn't sound like a healthy relationship, not a good one for that matter. Babies do not provide the glue to hold a fragile relationship together, rather they are more likely to break the relationship up. Having ... (read in full...)
Overreacting to a Missed Happy Birthday?
Q. I have a really good friend that lives in another state. Overall he is a really good guy and his birthday was a few months ago. I sent him a "birthday" package with a few items. I also made sure to wish him a Happy Birthday as well on his special ...
A. 26 June 2013: He did a lot more than most of my (especially male) friends usually do for my birthday. And he did actually acknowledge your birthday, by buying you gifts and going to the trouble of sending them to you. That's really nice.
May I ask, do you perh... (read in full...)
Its false projecting when she's making her lips look larger than they are!
Q. I met this girl, who is incredibly beautiful, funny, smart and so easy to get along with! One the thing that I found alluring about her was the fullness of her lips. And we've been on a few dates and yesterday we went out in the day and I noticed ...
A. 25 June 2013: Nobody is "right" or "wrong" because it is subjective but I think it sounds like you were pretty rude about it. And it's not like you were saying it for her sake, either, but because YOU were disappointed that she didn't look exactly like she had ... (read in full...)
How can I convince him that it is so hurtfull to me to have no idea what is he doing and with who??
Q. Dear cupids, my perfect boyfriend of about 1 year have one little triat that can drive me crazy most of the times and i get to the piont where i find it so irrespectfull that i do not like him any more and do not want to hear his vioce anymore. W...
A. 25 June 2013: He's not perfect. He sounds controlling. It's one rule for you and another for him, how is that fair? While I do think you should be able to go a day without hearing from him, it is common courtesy to let your partner know you're not going to be ... (read in full...)
I called him on what I thought was a lie, and now he's blocked me on Facebook
Q. I saw my boyfriend yesterday. We had sex with each other. I was only at his house for about four hours, He told me to go home earlier than I usually do. He said he was going to go shopping ( the supermarket closed a few hours later). He also asked ...
A. 24 June 2013: Only he knows whether he was lying, but do you really want to be with a guy who gets into fights, especially one who gets involved in other people's fights? I don't know about you but to me that is very unattractive.... (read in full...)
She broke my heart and she's expecting me to wish her a birthday message
Q. Hi, My ex- girlfriend that broke up our four year relationship would be celebrating her birthday in some days time. The fact is 4 months ago she broke up with me and recently she's been finding different means and tactics to get us talking,...
A. 24 June 2013: I'm with Cindy on this. There is no need for you to wish her a happy birthday or reply to any of her messages. You are doing the right thing by staying strong and ignoring her. I've seen several of your posts about her and it just sounds like she's ... (read in full...)
How much, if any, of the insurance money I got after my father passed away should I be expected to give to my guardian?
Q. Hey everybody I'm getting $37,000 from insurance because my dad passed away, and I live with a guardian. I've been living with her for a year. How much should I give her because I know she wants some of it, she asked me if I was gonna give her...
A. 22 June 2013: What? You don't have to give her anything! How dare she ask if you're planning to give her 10 grand? The money is none of her business. You would do well to stick it into a bank account far away from her.
Please listen to the advice you're g... (read in full...)
Just started talking, then nothing?
Q. Utterly confused and hoping someone could please shed some light! Been flirting with a guy that works in a store I shop in once a week. Really felt a lot of tension between us, definitely a connection. Two days ago we spoke for quite a while. H...
A. 22 June 2013: Five days is a good length of time. Just don't be tempted to ring the number again, hidden number or not. ... (read in full...)
Just started talking, then nothing?
Q. Utterly confused and hoping someone could please shed some light! Been flirting with a guy that works in a store I shop in once a week. Really felt a lot of tension between us, definitely a connection. Two days ago we spoke for quite a while. H...
A. 22 June 2013: I don't know about this. I mean, it's possible of course that his phone it's broken but I wouldn't bet on it. It has happened to once that a guy gave me his number, I texted and he didn't reply and I later found out he had lost his phone, so of ... (read in full...)
B/f doesn't think its a big deal to have a kid with another woman. It bothers me!
Q. I am 17, 2nd year college, while my boyfriend is 26, already a professional. i met him at school when he was tasked to be the substitute teacher for our class since our teacher is still on leave. he handled the class very good that he draws all our ...
A. 22 June 2013: Lots of people have children from previous relationships because sometimes it just ends up that way. As long as everyone is grown up and puts the wellbeing of the child above everything else, there is no problem.
However, that for me is not the ... (read in full...)
Fiance wanted a break, he's talking to another woman about but isn't trying to fix things. What does he want?
Q. Hi, I wonder if anyone can help - five weeks ago my fiance and partner of three years, who I lived with along with his little girl, told me that he was unsure of his feelings for me and we should have a break. I was devastated - we only got eng...
A. 22 June 2013: I think you know in your heart that you have to leave. Do you really want to marry someone who is so uncertain and who is just walking all over you, keeping you hanging? This isn't normal behaviour, either. Most guys who are getting married do not ... (read in full...)
Do you need to be attractive in order for people to talk to you. Please help me I feel invisible!
Q. hi this is not a relationship advice question however i need some help. Im currently studying in uni, iwould consider myself a less attractive plus size gal. I have always had issues with weight and have very bad hyperpigmentation on my face. Im not ...
A. 20 June 2013: People will surely tell you that you just have to love yourself, and while that is true, it is also nigh on impossible to just start loving yourself overnight. If I told you that day was actually night and night was day, or that blue was red and red ... (read in full...)
I don't understand why he wouldn't simply deactivate these accounts!
Q. Hi, My boyfriend left his email open on my laptop once, and already having had previous trust issues we are working on, and have been getting there, I couldnt help myself cast an eye....(the previous problem was him trash/sex talking with a '...
A. 20 June 2013: For me the bigger problem is that you spent enough time snooping through his private emails to check the junk mail folder, open very old messages and link to the websites. That's really bad. Ask a person if you can see their emails/texts or ... (read in full...)
Friend has given me an ultimatium--either be his girlfriend or we no longer talk
Q. I'm really close to my friend who told me he wanted to be more than friends about a year ago. Initially I said I didn't feel the same way and we tried to carry on as we had been before, talking everyday but I was seeing other people. Since then ...
A. 18 June 2013: You don't ever have to go out with someone that you have no romantic feelings for, but you've treated this guy unfairly. You know that he wants more, you turn him down and then you flirt with him. What kind of mixed signals is that going to send ... (read in full...)
HELP! How do I tell my flatmate she rude, without being rude myself???
Q. Moved into a great new place 3 weeks ago. My new flatmate is a 45yr old Russian and I am 25yr old British, so I appreciate that perhaps there could be a cultural thing with the difference of how things are said/done in our different countries. ...
A. 17 June 2013: You can and should talk to her but she sounds like a pretty unreasonable person so be prepared that it may not resolve anything. It may cause a massive bust-up but at least you would have everything out in the open.
You don't owe her squat. H... (read in full...)
HELP! How do I tell my flatmate she rude, without being rude myself???
Q. Moved into a great new place 3 weeks ago. My new flatmate is a 45yr old Russian and I am 25yr old British, so I appreciate that perhaps there could be a cultural thing with the difference of how things are said/done in our different countries. ...
A. 17 June 2013: You can and should talk to her but she sounds like a pretty unreasonable person so be prepared that it may not resolve anything. It may cause a massive bust-up but at least you would have everything out in the open.
You don't owe her squat. H... (read in full...)
Do I give up and move on to try to find happiness? Or do I stay? We have 2 children together.
Q. Please help! I will get straight to the point. My husband and I have been married for 6 years and together total for 10. In the beginning of our dating and married relationship I tried my best to be the best wife I could be. Obviously I know ...
A. 17 June 2013: You stay to make a person who's hurt you happy, because you can't stand hurting him. That's heartbreaking to hear.
This is exactly how I used to be. I let people walk all over me because I was concerned about their feelings. I didn't want to ... (read in full...)
I can't take the way my mother treats me, what should I do?
Q. sorry this is a bit long... I can't believe at my age I still get hurt from the way my own mother treats me. I am not holding any grudges towards her and I am not talking about the past, no, I am talking about the present. It surprises me that...
A. 17 June 2013: Your mother treats you this way for the very reason that her mother treated her badly. It doesn't make it right or excuse her behaviour, but it's a reason.
I think the only thing you can realistically do for yourself (because this should be about... (read in full...)
Boyfriend refriended his ex. Do I believe the reason he gave me?
Q. So boyfriend refriended his ex on Facebook a couple of months after unfriending her because I had asked him to. I had insecurities about her even though they broke up about two years ago. He says it was weird that he unfriended her in the first ...
A. 17 June 2013: It isn't that weird to be friends on Facebook with an ex. If they are ok with each other and there are no lingering feelings or anger I think it's fine. Why did you think it was I to ask him to unfriend her? Did he do something specific, was she ... (read in full...)
Should I cheat on my girlfriend because she's overweight?
Q. Should i cheat on my GF? I know its wrong and everything, but i have been talking to this girl lately and i feel i have a connection with her, like its crazy how similar we are. Im not 100% sexually attracted to my current gf, she is over weight, ...
A. 17 June 2013: Do you seriously think anyone on here is going to say yes, what a great idea? You sound unbelievably immature. Please break up with her though output you're this shallow and disloyal, as you'll be doing her a favour in the long run.... (read in full...)
He says he loves me even though he cheated, got another woman pregnant and plan to marry her
Q. I've been seeing this guy since march 2012. I was 20 and he was 33. He's from south america and was doing his masters. It was his last year here and after he's done with the masters he was supposed to leave. So we started this knowing we don't ...
A. 16 June 2013: This is a no-brainer - the guy needs to go. I know you love him but he'll never give you what you want and need because he doesn't love you, I can promise you that.
He treats you like crap and you take him back, knowing he is in a relation... (read in full...)
We are so great together, except that his son doesn't accept the relationship
Q. I am a 36 years old female and seeing a man 58. We started this semi-affair 5 years ago. He ended things abruptly about 2 years in saying one of his five sons felt really uncomfortable with it. (the middle of the 5 and only one who doesnt live on ...
A. 16 June 2013: I'd say go for it because the son is 27 and quite frankly can butt out of it, but the fact that he's already broken up with you abruptly once because the same adult son had a problem with it is a red flag. ... (read in full...)
Would you dump a nice guy that makes too little money?
Q. Im in my early thirties, I have to think about starting a family. I barely make any money and would prefer being a full time mom. I went out on one date with a nice guy that seems interested. He told me his job.... I think he makes very little ...
A. 16 June 2013: I think it's a little bit unfair to write someone off just because he doesn't make loads of money when you yourself are not willing to work. I'm all for staying at home and raising children if you have the financial means to do so, why not, but ... (read in full...)
Is he trying to make me think that ruining our family was my biggest mistake ever?
Q. About two years ago I was going through Great Depression and I cheated on my husband twice and had a 6 week affair. We were in different locations at the time. I fell pregnant and had an abortion because he wanted me to. So I did. We moved into a ...
A. 15 June 2013: You're both much better off without each other. You had an affair, got pregnant by someone else, had an abortion and blamed all that on being depressed. A LOT of people suffer from horrible, crippling depression and don't do any of those things. You ... (read in full...)
Do I give up and move on to try to find happiness? Or do I stay? We have 2 children together.
Q. Please help! I will get straight to the point. My husband and I have been married for 6 years and together total for 10. In the beginning of our dating and married relationship I tried my best to be the best wife I could be. Obviously I know ...
A. 11 June 2013: He cheats on you with your best mate then wants you to be open and vulnerable? She thinks it's OK to have a thing for her best friend's husband and to act on it? You don't owe your friend anything. You don't have to pretend that she is still you... (read in full...)
Do I give up and move on to try to find happiness? Or do I stay? We have 2 children together.
Q. Please help! I will get straight to the point. My husband and I have been married for 6 years and together total for 10. In the beginning of our dating and married relationship I tried my best to be the best wife I could be. Obviously I know ...
A. 10 June 2013: Never stay in an unhappy relationship for the sake of your children. You will not be doing them a favour. They will grow up to think that being unhappy and feeling trapped and disgusted by your spouse is normal, and that cheating is acceptable and ... (read in full...)
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