The father doesn't want to step up now that I'm pregnant!
Q. I'm 15 and I'm 30 weeks pregnant and I'm not with the father any more. We were together for about two and a half years then in Feb I moved away but he still came to see me, we ended up breaking up the day after I got pregnant. I was 14 when I got ...
A. 19 November 2008: You can't force him.
This is the risk you take when you have underage sex, you get stuck with a little boy who is not ready to grow up.
Perhaps in a few years he will come back and take an interest. But until then you will just have to cope wit... (read in full...)
A woman giving birth turned me on... am I a pervert?
Q. Hi, this is an odd thing. A few weeks ago i was flicking through the tv channels and there was a documentary on about women giving birth...normally this sort of thing chrns my stomach but on this occasion i decided to watch the programme and got ...
A. 18 November 2008: It is a little odd, I'm not going to lie....
But unless you start hanging out on maternity wards with a fake beard, I really don't think it's harmful.
As long as you accept it as a fetish and don't let it take over your life then go for it. ... (read in full...)
I think she sees me as nothing more than a sex toy... any advice?
Q. I have been with my girlfriend now for 3 years, and i have recently moved homes and she has not been able to join me as she works near to where she currently lives. Since i moved home our relationship has deteriorated into arguments all the time and ...
A. 18 November 2008: You say she interrupts your tales of your day to talk about animals.
That's called a conversation!
You are both talking about your days and relating incidents to each other.
If you friends no longer email you then call them, find new ones... (read in full...)
Does his e-wink ; ) mean anything?
Q. I sent a message to someone i like on a social networking site, and told him i thought he was attractive and funny, and he replied saying thanks, kiddo and put a wink symbol like this - ; ). what do you think his response means ?....
A. 18 November 2008: I think eyes has got it right on.
If he was interested, he would have said something nice.
He's basically saying "ok you fancy me, received and understood." He's flattered.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Let's try again... do you think my marriage is worthy saving?
Q. I need help with this, however I do not need any harsh comment so please, please, restrain: I married my first guy 14 years ago, we had a girl and when she was 6 my husband started to be different with me, I think it was also my fault, 'cause, ...
A. 18 November 2008: You left a man who was wonderful to you and your kids, to go back to your horrible husband for absolutely no reason. You did this twice!
It's no wonder that Ed doesn't want to speak to you again, you broke his heart twice and he is not going to... (read in full...)
Did I do something wrong to the potential love of my life?
Q. Hi, I've been friends with this girl for 5 months who has a boyfriend. She moved from the east coast out here in the West to be with him for his new job. She doesn't want to be with him, but doesn't know how to end it because they live tog...
A. 18 November 2008: She wanted to keep you on the side.
You said to choose him or you and she chose him.
She can say that she isn't happy all she wants but she keeps making excuses to stay with this guy.
I think until she is prepared to leave this guy you shoul... (read in full...)
Help! I've been hanging out with my ex's best friend and now my ex has called. Do I call him back?
Q. I recently got dumped by this guy i was seeing. We only dated for a few months but I got really attached. It started off slow, casual dating. We had the talk about not seeing other people and he expressed that he would be jealous if I did. ...
A. 18 November 2008: Well you can text him if you want to. It might not lead to anything.
Do you want to talk to him and risk getting hurt again?
Or would you rather leave it and move on.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Should I ask her out ?Or because shes fooled around in the past, does it seem I'm just going to be a time consumer in her eyes ?
Q. I have been talking to a girl recently, and she doesn't live to far away from me. We've hung out a few times, and the times we have we couldn't get our hands off each other. It was pretty much just flirting/cuddling/ and kissing the whole time. I ...
A. 18 November 2008: Well if she has cheated in the past then ask her out but tell her you want her to be honest with you.
If she wants to kiss someone else then she should just tell you.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
The father doesn't want to step up now that I'm pregnant!
Q. I'm 15 and I'm 30 weeks pregnant and I'm not with the father any more. We were together for about two and a half years then in Feb I moved away but he still came to see me, we ended up breaking up the day after I got pregnant. I was 14 when I got ...
A. 18 November 2008: You'll have to get a DNA test once she is born.
It's understandable that he is scared and acting in this way, as he is a little boy, and in now way ready to way to grow up and be a dad.
What you have to do is get your parents and his parents ... (read in full...)
Are condoms still necessary even if I'm on birth control pills?
Q. I was just wondering if I was on birth control should my boyfriend still need to wear a comdon so we don't get pregnant? Thanks for all the help....
A. 18 November 2008: As long as you have both been tested for STDs and you are taking the pill correctly every day then you should be fine.
Find out what brand of pill you are on and how long you have to take it for, before you are completely covered.
Good Luck!! x... (read in full...)
My husband's friend keeps sending him nude pictures and it upsets me!
Q. Hey there, My husband's friend keeps sending him nude pictures on his email. I talked to him about how it makes me feel but he is still looking at these and tells me "he's just a guy" how do I make him stop? ...
A. 18 November 2008: Tell your husband to tell this man to stop.
If he doesn't then I think it's fair to say that your husband has no interest in stopping these pictures from arriving.
If that is the case then really let your husband know how much this has hurt yo... (read in full...)
Improving is needed... HELP!
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together almost 4 years (in April). When we were in high school she would right me love notes an she always had said she and I would be together forever, now it's down the line I have made my screw ups and have ...
A. 18 November 2008: Well you say yourself that you want to cheat but know she'd find out.
So it's no wonder that she doesn't trust you!
I honestly think that your relationship needs to end.
You've been together since you were kids and you seem to have just gr... (read in full...)
Does size matter?? I want to be a porn star!
Q. Hey everybody, Im a 16 year old,latino And im measuring at 7 1/4 Umm well I have a lot of questions to ask well I want to know if im "big" enough to be in porn? Also my penis has been growing rapidly I was a 5 1/2 just 6 months ago is this normal?...
A. 18 November 2008: The fact that you want to go into a profession that is based purely on you performing to pleasure men is very selfless.
However, there are far better ways to give a boost to your fellow man than.
Why not go and do some volunteer work a... (read in full...)
I had begun to put this all behind me but now am forced to try and talk it out.
Q. I'm trying to recover from an always unrequited love. They were my good friend beforehand and they know that I like them. I just never told them that I love them, to spare us both the humiliation. I told her that I liked her almost a month a...
A. 18 November 2008: I think you can just not reply.
Carry on trying to get over her and text her when you are ready to be her friend.
I think she probably didn't mean it to come across so harshly.
Just carry on doing your own thing and you can be friends with ... (read in full...)
Should I go to see a doctor, or has my body sorted it's self out?
Q. Hey I'm just asking this for a bit of reassurance, I know how helpful people have been on here on the past and I just want some help. Please don't judge me and only answer my question. About 4 months ago I had an abortion and my body has been a litt...
A. 18 November 2008: It will do you no harm to go to the doctors and get checked out.
The pill can sometimes take a few months to figure itself out so this could all be a side effect of that.
If you have taken the pill properly then the chances of you being pregna... (read in full...)
Please help, I am worried over the porn I looked at.!
Q. I am a 15 year old girl, I have a boyfriend of almost a year and yesterday we got close and when we were kissing and things I told him what I would do with other girls partly to excite him but mostly because at that moment I would have and I wanted ...
A. 18 November 2008: This is the reason why porn is certified as being unsuitable for under 18s. It's not just because they don't think you should know about it, it's because you are not emotionally experienced to cope with all the feelings that go with it.
Porn ... (read in full...)
Simple question, but I need help! "How do I get a girlfriend"
Q. how can i get a girlfriend ...
A. 18 November 2008: Find a girl you like, flirt with her, see if she likes you, ask her out.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
How do I seduce him without being embarassed?
Q. my boyfriend stopped in the middle of having sex last nite, complaining that im to quiet in bed, and because he doesnt know if im enjoyin it he doesnt enjoy it! he wants me to be more dominating in bed, but i cant change the way i am! Im just scared ...
A. 18 November 2008: If he's that shallow that he'd leave you or cheat on you just because you don't scream in bed then he is not worth staying with.
But to give you some hints on being a bit more confident then just start small telling him what feels good. All men ... (read in full...)
The more I think about my life so far the more I think I might be gay.
Q. When I was in high school I always considered myself straight, and figured that I would eventually find a guy I liked. I have since graduated and still haven't found a guy I like (I have never had a b/f). I have always thought girls were pretty or ...
A. 18 November 2008: Take your time, see what happens.
I think the fact that you have never been interested in boys will be pretty obvious to your friends and family so they may not be as shocked as you think.
However, you don't have to come out and tell them.
... (read in full...)
I feel like my wife has just died and the grief is horrible!
Q. My wife and I are having a big problem. Over the past 3 years I sometimes drank too much. I no longer drink at all now. (I was a fall asleep drinker)I have never been abusive, sarcastic or bad to my wife in any way. I have always supported her in ...
A. 18 November 2008: You don't seem to know what you have done wrong.
Just that you used to fall asleep when drunk. I don't really think she'd this be this angry because of that.
Ask her calmly what it is you have done, specifically, to make her feel this way.
... (read in full...)
I'm basically a dumbass and I'm in love with someone who doesn't trust me. Ladies preferrably.
Q. I was dating this girl for a while, and she was amazing. She's fun, and outgoing, smart, and utterly gorgeous to boot. everything I could ask for but about 5 months into it I had a drunken folley, if you will, and the relationship ended with large ...
A. 18 November 2008: However bad you felt, it will have hurt her SO MUCH more.
However a year has passed and she is over the pain enough to consider you a friendship.
All I can suggest is to be her friend, and try to win her back.
There is a good possibility th... (read in full...)
Is my penis length natural?
Q. Hii. I am wondering if my erection is normal. First of all I guess I should tell you my age, its very embarrasing. I am only 13 years old but my erection is 6-7 inches. Is that normal? I've looked at multiple length charts and all of them said ...
A. 18 November 2008: I'm 25 and have seen more penises than you.
But if you are going to be an ungrateful patronising little idiot then I shall not give you any advice again.
Please be more specific in your question if you don't want qualified answers.... (read in full...)
During sex I like to be on top, but he likes to be in control... where is our happy medium?
Q. do guys prefer to be on top or for a girl to ride them? for me personally i like to be on top but he prefers to be in control how can we do both at the same time?...
A. 18 November 2008: Why don't you wear a blindfold while being on top.
You get to be in control but he gets to tell you what to do and touch you where he likes...
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
We broke up because we were better off friends and now he hates me.
Q. i recently broke up with my boyfriend of one year because i felt that we were more friends than lovers (although the sex was good). now he really hates he and thinks i set out to hurt his from the start. i didnt he say he will delete my numbe...
A. 17 November 2008: You have to let him go through this phase.
You can't just simply dump him because you want to be friends and expect him to be fine with it.
You've split up with him. He didn't want to split up and so he is very hurt.
You have to accept th... (read in full...)
My friend has told me we're just friends yet he goes all weird whenever I talk about my dates.
Q. I have had an interest in my best male friend for a while now. I have been honest with him about my feelings and we still maintain a friendship. He has said he does not have romantic feelings for me. Recently I have begun dating someone else and ...
A. 17 November 2008: Well it's really great to be told that "I think you're brilliant."
So for you to go and then go and find some one else brilliant instead is a bit of a blow.
He's had his ego boost taken away, and so he is acting in this way because he is je... (read in full...)
What to do for the best?
Q. I had sex about a month ago, my period was 2 weeks late and very light only lasting on and off for about two days, two pregnancy test were negative, should I just take the negative test and be happy or should I consult with my doctor?...
A. 17 November 2008: Well it's up to you.
Your doctor can do a blood test so if you don't want to wait for your next period and want to be completely sure then yeah go for it.
You may want to get an STD screen if you had unprotected sex though.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Guys and liking me - am I asexual?
Q. Guys seem to have feelings for me but I never feel anything for them, I get nervous sometimes if they get too close for my liking but that's it. Am I asexual?...
A. 17 November 2008: It could be... or it could be that you are just picky, and you haven't met anyone you liked yet.
Don't worry about it as long as you are happy.
You'll either find someone or you'll be happy alone.
Good Luck!! xx
... (read in full...)
We've set our wedding date but I'm having second thoughts about it all...
Q. I am engaged to be married in 2010. Everything in our life is perfect except for a few things that are HUGE in my eyes. We enjoy doing the same things, our family and friends are perfect and everyone gets along very well and we have the same ...
A. 17 November 2008: He's been honest and set out his stall.
He has made it clear that if you marry him then you will be sexually frustrated, fell unsexy, and have to struggle financially.
He;s also made it clear that your happiness in the relationship doe... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend is seeing someone else.
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years now and he tells me he loves me and how he wants to settle down with me, have kids ect.. but I still have that feeling he is seeing someone else.. He is very secretive and won't let me near his ...
A. 17 November 2008: KSnider is right, any man who says he wants to settle down with you should not be getting his mates to shut up in case one of them says something.
I think you are within your rights to demand an explanation next time he asks his friends to shut ... (read in full...)
I want without my parents negatively judging me for it.
Q. Hi. I have been dating my bf for almost 3 years. I'm 23 (almost 24) and he's 25. He works for an airline company and is always saying we should go places and travel, especially since it's free for us. I would love to travel, but my parents are very ...
A. 17 November 2008: It sounds like you really don't want to upset your parents but at the same time they seem to want to keep you in a small box until they can marry you off.
When they see, we'll see, just say "great I'll book tickets!" and that will force them int... (read in full...)
What's happening to this world?!
Q. What's happening to this world? Every time I'm here everyone is talking about sex, even 10-11 year olds, what happened to childhood? I didn't even know what sex meant when I was 10, there must be something to do, I can't take seeing some girls ...
A. 17 November 2008: The reason you see all the problems here is because this is a website for people with problems.
If you are a happy normal 15 year old with no interest in sex then you don't come on site like this.
If you go to a hospital you will see lots of... (read in full...)
How can I get my mother to accept that I'm making myself miserable by staying with my husband?
Q. Hi - about 3 years ago I moved out from living with my husband as I was very unhappy (verbal abuse and undermining, some physical violence). It came as a shock to my parents in particular as I had hid my unhappiness from them but I told them of ...
A. 17 November 2008: I'm sorry but any mother who wants you to stay with a man who hits you must have a screw loose.
What do you get from the relationship with your parents.
They seem happy to cut you out of their lives when you are not doing what they want.
Wh... (read in full...)
They won't let her leave!
Q. Hi, my girlfriend needs out of where she lives. She's in Germany, 19, with people (very bad kind) and she wants out. She's a U.S. citizen but the people she lives with won't let her leave. They have her passport, it's abusive there. She's scar...
A. 17 November 2008: Call the police who will get in touch with the german police and they can go round and check she is ok.
If she is able to get in touch with you, why hasn't she been in touch with the police or embassy herself?
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Is my penis length natural?
Q. Hii. I am wondering if my erection is normal. First of all I guess I should tell you my age, its very embarrasing. I am only 13 years old but my erection is 6-7 inches. Is that normal? I've looked at multiple length charts and all of them said ...
A. 17 November 2008: Yes it's normal.... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a girl of that age to be like that? What made her do it?
Q. My girlfriend walked into my room without knocking and I was caught doing sexual activity's. After 3 seconds she came directly onto me she started to take off her clothes and I asked her what are you doing because I was scared, I wasn't ready to...
A. 17 November 2008: She did it because she saw you and wanted you.
However if you told her to stop and she didn't then she committed sexual assault.
Don't see her again and talk to someone about this if you need to.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has cancer and he is doing kemo. I think I am pregnant. Is that bad for the baby ?
Q. My boyfriend has cancer and he is doing kemo. but we still have unprotected sex and now i think i am pregnant. is that bad for the baby what should i do?...
A. 17 November 2008: If you had sex while he was undergoing Chemo then yes it could cause problems as the radiation may have damaged his sperm.
The baby could also be just fine.
Go and talk to a doctor about it and get all the tests for disability done so you know... (read in full...)
He needs a nick-name. Any suggestions ?
Q. ok, so my boyfriend calls me all these nick names and keeps talking about how i don't really have one for him.But I want the nickname for him to be special, maybe having something to do with the first time we met.We met at a campsite and start ...
A. 17 November 2008: Pink - he's camp as a row of tents.
Skippy - not the bush kangaroo, but because he skips stones
Flash - for the lightning
It's a bit daft to actually ask for a nickname.
Just call change his name slightly and call him that.
Stu = Stuie
St... (read in full...)
She has told me that she is happy with her new boyfriend however everytime we talk she talks about how she has thought about us being together in the future ! What do I make of this ?
Q. So ok... In my last question i asked if i should let go of the girl i love with all of my heart right. well here is an update and a new question... she has told me that she is happy with her new boyfriend, however everytime we talk she talks about ...
A. 17 November 2008: She's being honest although she is being very selfish.
She's basically saying that if you want you can wait around and then when she's finished having fun she will come back to good old you for kids and marriage.
If you want to wait around ... (read in full...)
Should I forget I ever met this girl and never speak to her again? Please help.
Q. Hi I have some major problems going on at the moment that i need opinions on. I've been going out with a girl for 2 years, its been quite a serious relationship and i do love her. At the moment she is out of the country and has been for 15 days, and...
A. 17 November 2008: Well it sounds like your feelings for your girlfriend were purely superficial.
I think you need to call her and end it. It's not fair for her to stay faithful when she has been forgotten by you so easily.
Then you'll be free to go off and do wh... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is a workaholic. What should I do? I'm not ready to lose him either!
Q. I have been going out with this boy for about 3 1/2 years- we are 19 and he is a workaholic , always stressed - he bought some land to build on and now our relationship is suffering. With his always working , i know he wants to get ahead for the ...
A. 17 November 2008: I think you need to tell him that you are going to leave if he doesn't cut down his hours.
If that doesn't work then perhaps a break would be a good idea. See how he feels doing all that work and not having a girlfriend to come home to.
Find ou... (read in full...)
Can anyone do our business research for us? We need advice.
Q. ok, so i have a college mate we are both pretty good mates now although not known each other over a year but we are doing the same course and classes in college and he asks me over an online messenger. "after college would you like to start ...
A. 17 November 2008: Sounds great but is there anyone in your town who would actually use an internet cafe?
Would they all be 16 and come in and buy 1 coffee between 10 of them and take up all the tables for 3 hours?
Go out on the street and do a survey, also ask... (read in full...)
Why are redheads teased? Have you had to deal with it, too?
Q. I hope people can help me out here. I have long red hair, titian is what my family calls it. It is not like I do not like it or anything but whenever I am assertive or stand up for myself I always get the same comment from people...oh it must be ...
A. 17 November 2008: It's a well known fact:
Redheads are firey
Blondes are dumb
Brunettes are boring
Black hair is exotic and interesting, but just a bit evil
Jewish people are very good with money
Yorkshire men are incredible stingy with money
Super villain... (read in full...)
Should I forget I ever met this girl and never speak to her again? Please help.
Q. Hi I have some major problems going on at the moment that i need opinions on. I've been going out with a girl for 2 years, its been quite a serious relationship and i do love her. At the moment she is out of the country and has been for 15 days, and...
A. 15 November 2008: Oh dear, she's away 2 weeks and you didn't even care about her enough to stay faithful for that long.
So you have to tell the girl from school that you used her for sex and now can't speak to her again. She'll hate you and you'll lose friends ... (read in full...)
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