How on earth am I going to make it to April? How do I keep this going?
Q. Needing a bit of advice. Sorry for the length but it's a long story. Just before Christmas, I ended up back in touch with my high school boyfriend after 3 years of not really keeping in touch. We lost contact when a mutual best friend killed ...
A. 29 January 2009: Hun you shouldn't be worried about "how to keep it going till April."
If you run out of things to talk about then, then it wouldn't have worked anyway.
As for how to cope with the waiting you just have to keep busy and try not to think about i... (read in full...)
A lesson to be learned here...
Q. Met this guy on internet dating site. Texted, only, for 5 weeks, and then we arranged to meet. Because he works till late.... he came to my house.... I was sure he was someone I could trust. Of course, our texting was mostly of a sexual nature... ...
A. 29 January 2009: You sent him sexy texts and then you had sex with him. It's not like you went on a date and discussed what films you like and what you want in the future.
It's a well established fact that if you have sex on the first date then a guy will just see... (read in full...)
He's more like a little kid than my boyfriend
Q. I'm really confused. My boyfriend never seems to say the right thing with me. Whenever were doing sexual things etc. He always says the wrong thing and ends up putting me off. Then he never really seems interested in me. Like, I want to have sex...
A. 29 January 2009: He is a little kid. He's a teenage boy.
If he's not making you happy and only wanting you in his way when he is in the mood then that is all he is after.
Boys will treat you like crap because they know they will get away with it.
If he's n... (read in full...)
Is it realistic to think we could stay in love and get married eventually?
Q. Is it possible to love someone since a teenager until marriage? Well that's how I feel, I really love her and she really loves me but I'm afraid there will be something bad happen on our way in the future and the thing is how do I go through if ...
A. 29 January 2009: Anything is possible hun.
It's a ride! There are ups and downs, so don't ruin the times when you are on top of the world by worrying that you may go down low at some point.
I believe that if it is meant to be then it will be so I enjoy the mome... (read in full...)
I think my husband is cheating on me
Q. I think my husband is cheating on me! I know this is true because of the things he’s been doing to me and my kids. His behaviour has changed dramatically towards me ion the last two months and I could really kill right him this very moment. Let...
A. 29 January 2009: If you are this angry with him and things have got to this point then I would seriously suggest some time apart at the very least.
See if he can go and stay with friends for a week or so, or a hotel if that is an option.
Book in for marriage ... (read in full...)
Sex for the first time.... but I've taken my period!
Q. Me and my boyfriend have never had sex before, and this Saturday was going to be our first time. The only problem is today I have started my period (this morning) and we were planning to have sex either late saturday night or the early hours of...
A. 29 January 2009: I really really wouldn't advise that you do it during the first few days of your period. It's hardly going to be very romantic with all that blood about.
It's just not your time this week. There will be lots of other times, another week or two w... (read in full...)
My boyfriend called me fat and repulsive!!!
Q. Ok I need some advice please, I have been going out with my boyfriend for around four years... he can be controlling with me and mean but I never feel like I have the strength to leave him. I suffered a bad eating disorder last year and lost a ...
A. 29 January 2009: Wow, this is really the emotional equivilant of beating you up and when you are on the floor crying, putting the boot in.
If you do not leave him now then you will remain miserable for the rest of your life until he finally gets bored of torturin... (read in full...)
Anyone know what these pains might be?
Q. hey, i know this probably isnt the right place to be asking this question but im just curious. im on the injection, have been on it for like a year now. but just recetly ive been getting pains which feel like period pains. im not due to go and get ...
A. 29 January 2009: Are you the same girl with the strange lumps?
I think you should go and get yourself checked up hun.
Better safe than sorry and if you are having pain and clot type things then it's much better safe than sorry.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I looked into his account to see he was in contact with the ex
Q. Hi I've been with my boyfriend for 7 months now and i love him with all my heart and he tells me the same. However theres one thing that he does which really upsets me. He still talks to his ex daily, by this i mean he often has long text conv...
A. 29 January 2009: He's probably just trying to save your feelings as he knew you'd react like this.
Talk to him and tell him that you know he can't cut contact completely but that you'd really like it if he put you first a bit more.
As you say you can't take t... (read in full...)
I want us to break up so I can continue seeing the other guy and seek out new relationships.
Q. Well, I cheated on my boyfriend of a year with another guy. Now I feel like I want us to break up so I can continue seeing the other guy and seek out new relationships... do you have any advice as to how to break it off with him? I know there is no ...
A. 29 January 2009: I take it he doesn't know about the cheating then?
I think you just have to tell him that you are not happy and that you have been unhappy for a while.
Apologise for not having the decency to talk to him about your problems and giving him t... (read in full...)
He hasn't technically cheated, he's crossing what I see as major boundaries.
Q. My bf hangs around a lot of girls who all have crushes on him. They are always very physical with him, hugging him, kissing him on the cheek, touching his legs etc and getting him to put sunscreen on them and they put it on him. On several occasions ...
A. 29 January 2009: If he was like this when you met him, and then you started going out with him then you can't expect him to change.
If it is a more recent thing then you have a big issue here.
Either way, I think you need to talk to him about it and tell him ... (read in full...)
Will being sick with a fever and strep throat hurt my baby?
Q. Will being sick with a fever and strep throat harm my baby? i am about 7 months pregnant.?? what can i take to feel better faster?...
A. 29 January 2009: Go to another doctor, not the one you hate.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Help me to not have sex with this guy who just wants to get in my pants!
Q. So i really need advice because i dont kno if i should lose my virginity right now to this guy..he gets his license in 4 days. only 4 DAYS! and thats how much time i have left to decide because that is when he gets his license. and when he does, he ...
A. 29 January 2009: It's simple. Stop shaving your legs and don't do your bikini line. Let yourself get REALLY hairy and horrible down there.
Then wear jeans when you see him.
You need to tell him NOW ahead of time, that you do not want to lose your virginity t... (read in full...)
Guy wants a booty call but I don't want to be one, how do I tell him?
Q. This guy Im friends with and am attracted to has been hot and cold with me, calling me recently only when he wants a booty call. We used to talk about everything from school to friends to family but now, he only talks when he wants 'some'. I do...
A. 29 January 2009: Just tell him you see him as a friend and you are NEVER going to have sex with him.
Then change the subject to talking about something else.
You may have to accept that he doesn't want female friends and that he wants you for sex and nothing ... (read in full...)
A baby coming soon and a dog who's afraid of loud noises! What should I do?
Q. so many of you know i am pregnant... well the baby is getting closer to its due date and i was talking to my doctor and we came across a problem. I have a rotwiler shepard mix dog. She is an older dog about 11 years but still... she is a rescue ...
A. 29 January 2009: Unfortunately the baby's safety has to come first.
Keep the dog locked up and away from the child when it's born. If it shows signs of aggressiveness due to the noise then it has to be rehomed / destroyed.
If it is not dangerous but ju... (read in full...)
Is my ex fiance playing games with me I'm so confused?
Q. My fiance in the military of almost 2 years broke up with me out of the blue but after the break up I didn't contact him for a month, then I initiated the first contact he replied to my outmost belief quickly when we talk he talks about the future ...
A. 29 January 2009: Yep, he sounds like he doesn't know what he wants so he's messing you about rather than getting some balls and making a decision one way or the other.
If I were you I'd remember how much he hurt me when he just split up and then use that to cut c... (read in full...)
Sexy calendar good? Or cheesy idea?
Q. Hey all! I am just looking for some male opinions here. My boyfriend is in Iraq right now, unfortunately. While over there he is not allowed to have any pornography. For a Valentine's Day gift I decided to create a whole calendar for him with ...
A. 29 January 2009: The fact that it's you being naked and not some paid girl does not change the fact that it's pornography.
If he gets caught he'll be in trouble, not only for having porn, but also because you KNOW what will happen, his ENTIRE regiment will get... (read in full...)
I feel pressured to say "I love you"
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months, we get on very well and I can see a future. The problem is that he is acting very needy and clingy and I feel under a lot of pressure to say I love you to him. He says it to me, but I dont want ...
A. 29 January 2009: Don't do it.
This situation is high pressure I agree. He's basically telling you that although you have explained about your ex and how you want to take things slowly, he doesn't care!
He's trying to force the issue to bring you closer as th... (read in full...)
Should it be me that makes the next move to arrange to see him?
Q. Hi there, A few months ago, a friend of mine introduced me to her male friend. She gave him my number a few weeks after this (she told me she was going to, not because I told her to) and a couple days later, I had a text message from him. We cha...
A. 29 January 2009: He's texted you, phoned you, asked you to come and see him at work, and you have been a little standoffish.
It's 2009. He is not going to pop round to ask for your dad's permission while riding a white horse.
If you want to see him then go and ... (read in full...)
How would you treat someone with a lot of pride?
Q. If you knew someone who was very proud of themselves and their achievements, and gets jealous when others outperform them, would it be okay to keep your own achievements to yourself around them to prevent bruising their ego? Keep in mind that you...
A. 29 January 2009: a) I'd get bored of it and tell them as their best friend that people think they are a dick. Tell them to stop being a spoilt little brat and learn that the world does not revolve around them. If your friends can't tell you home truths then who ... (read in full...)
We're not together should I tell him about ectopic pregnancy?
Q. If you had an ectopic pregnancy would you tell the guy you were seeing? Not seeing each other more, just friends now. It wasn't serious. He knows you haven't been feeling well at all and this explains why . . . is it a waste of time and just...
A. 29 January 2009: Well if he asks "Why were you unwell recently?" then tell him.
If not then just talk to people you know about it as you seem to want to talk to it about someone.
Most guys will be content not to know about issues you are having in your fallopia... (read in full...)
Do I have baggage? Or is he trying to control me?
Q. I have been dating my fiance for two years and we have been living together for the past year and a half. We have been engaged since May. Both of us have been married before. I have been divorced for 5 years and he has been divorced for 10 ...
A. 29 January 2009: A couple of comments about "well I am just a girl and really can't do anything as complicated as this, perhaps I'll go back to my embroidery!!!" may make him realise he's being a dick. Or it will at least bring up the topic.
He probably doe... (read in full...)
What is your view of political socialization?
Q. what is your view of political socialization?...
A. 29 January 2009: I like it, I think it is good.
As I see it, it's basically "having a mind of your own" and "thinking about your views" so if the alternative is being a sheep then how is it a bad thing?
This site will probably not help you with your essay. Try ... (read in full...)
Pain & cyst on testicle..any advice?
Q. I am experiencing pain in my right testicle and have been researching online - i need some advice..the back of my testicle on the epididimus is really quite tender and is sending an achey pain through me. I have a small cyst there anyway and i am ...
A. 29 January 2009: My husband who is a trained medic says:
Go to the hospital you F*ing idiot! If you suspect torsion then it's a surgical emergency and you are likely to lose one of your balls. If it's not torsion it could be cancer. Stop pissing around on the inte... (read in full...)
When do you become too old for this kind of stuff?
Q. Is it normal for teenagers to randomly pull guys at parties and stuff? when do you become too old for this kind of thing to stop happening?...
A. 29 January 2009: Watch sex in the city.
They are in their 40's and still pull guys at parties.
Look at Maddonna. She's in her 50's and pulls guys at parties.
Where is the fun if you can't pull guys at parties?
What are you after if you want EVERYONE to st... (read in full...)
Any medical websites where you can put on a photo?
Q. Is there any website that i can put a picture of a medical problem online to ask advice?...
A. 29 January 2009: Man up and go and see your GP.
They will have seen a million penises before (I'm guessing this is why you want to not show the "problem" to a real person.)
No matter how bad or embarrassing you think it is they will always have seen worse.
G... (read in full...)
How do I tell my girlfriend to stop grabbing me in public?
Q. Okay I need a little help. Me and my gf have been going out for over a year and I really like her and she does too.. Now I don't mind pda (public displays of affection), like holding hands, hugging, or making out but she just goes a little too far....
A. 29 January 2009: Just tell her that you find it really humiliating when she does it. Point out that she wouldn't like it if you groped her chest in front of people.
Give her the puppy eyes when you tell her.
This is the kind of thing you really should be able t... (read in full...)
How do I tell this girl I want to be more than just friends with her?
Q. I have a female friend, that was married to my mate, for 20 years, they split, 4 years ago after a couple of years she met someone else, but they have recentley split. I've always liked her, and we have become really close as I've been a shoulder to ...
A. 29 January 2009: Just go for it!
Take her out and have a really great night in the pub and then tell her how much you enjoy her company. Get yourself close to her and give her a hug.
Then if you feel the moment is right lean in for a kiss.
If it all goes ... (read in full...)
Why do teenage girls always go after hot guys?
Q. why do teenage girls never even give not so hot guys a chance? why do they feel awkward around ugly guys?...
A. 29 January 2009: It's a sad fact that they probably know you are letching after them and that makes them feel uncomfortable. Really hot guys can get away with being a pervert and weak minded girls will mistake their arrogance for confidence.
Make friends with a g... (read in full...)
I feel like I am the other woman even though he was with me..she's still in the picture
Q. I am so deprest, this year has been a very hard year for me. My fiancee and I broke up like 10 million times last year because he cheatted on me. I called of the engament but I woul always find my self accepting him back. This year he cheated on me ...
A. 29 January 2009: You know what you need to do.
Stop being his dependable doormat. Tell him to sort his own problems and start sorting out yours. Work out how you are going to look after your son and raise him the best you can alone.
You do not need this lowlif... (read in full...)
My boyfriend watches porn whenever I leave the house. Help!
Q. My boyfriend watches porn whenever I leave the house. We live together and are rarely apart. He told me he threw out all his porn, which he did, but the history on his cpu (which I use for work) says he was watching it last week, in the middle o...
A. 29 January 2009: If he was that sick and twisted then surely your sex life would not be so good.
I agree that too much porn can isolate some men from real women, especially if they are young and inexperienced. BUT he is old enough and bright enough to use a comput... (read in full...)
Any advice on how to get her to come round to the fact that me and my boyfriend are an item would be appreciated.
Q. Ok this is going to take quite a while so here goes. . Me and my boyfriend have been together for over a year, there is quite a big age difference, I'm 19 he's 30 but that doesn't matter to us at all, the problem is my parents, well my mum especial...
A. 29 January 2009: You are 19. It is your life. I know you don't want to cause trouble but you are an adult. You can take the bus / train / plane alone!
If your dad seems more reasonable then talk to him first. Tell him you have the chance to go to India, which le... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend bisexual?
Q. Ok, so last night by boyfriend was not sober and I went to his house this morning. I went into his bathroom and I saw a dildo on his shower, I didn't want to say anything about it cause I didn't want to embarrass him. I walked out of the bathroom ...
A. 29 January 2009: Some blokes just like to feel some thing up there. Some people recommend sticking a finger up a man's bum to increase his enjoyment of a blowjob.
Just because he enjoys that particular feeling, does not mean in any way that he is attracte... (read in full...)
Is she being immature about this?
Q. My wife and me had our first daughter (she's 6 weeks). I usually like to party after work with some friends so I can wind down (7 times a week) and won't be until 10:00 pm (my wife will be mad at me if I stay any longer). Anyway when I got home one ...
A. 29 January 2009: You go out EVERY NIGHT when your wife has JUST given birth a few weeks ago. You give her little or NO support and when she finally snaps and tells you to actually LEND A HAND WITH YOUR CHILD you swear at her and tell her to just shut up?
She i... (read in full...)
How often do guys jerk off?
Q. I'm not a guy and I honestly don't understand how men work. I am with my boyfriend for almost a year. For 5 years prior to this relationship he was single. He had to get used to taking matters into his own hands for quite some time. When I first ...
A. 29 January 2009: It does just sound like he's a bit sex mad.
You could try coming on to him more and making him come many times when you do have sex to try and wear him out a bit more.
But to be honest I wouldn't worry about it. If it does bother you then ... (read in full...)
Hoe can I prove how sorry I am after I cheated on my BF?
Q. Dear cupid I'm 16, i lost my virginity when i was 13, but anyway, im 16 now and i have a boyfriend and i went to a party and i met this guy who i didn't realize is my boyfriends 2nd cousin, i had sex with him at my boyfriends house and he cau...
A. 28 January 2009: I don't think you can get him to forgive you.
It wasn't just a drunk snog, you went up stairs and had full sex. There are severally stages to go through, you could have stopped at any time.
You've told him you want to be with him, now you jus... (read in full...)
Help me choose the best vibrator!!!
Q. Hello cupids, This may seem a silly question but I'm looking to invest in a vibrator. I have not used one before and have been looking at the Ann Summers website but there is such a variety I don't know where to start. Could anyone give me some ...
A. 28 January 2009: Get any of the rabbit type models.
A basic one should be under £20. Anne Summers is a bit over priced since you are paying for the brand.
Most of the rabbits are pretty much the same and they are all amazing.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
How long should I wait to get on birth control with a new relationship?
Q. My boyfriend of a few days ago wants me to get on birth control. I've gone on it before and it's great! But to me that a huge thing to be sleeping with someone and just relying on the pill. Plus, I have to look out for myself. How long should I wait ...
A. 28 January 2009: You are right it is risky to not use condoms.
I think you should tell him that if he doesn't want to use them then you want to go to a doctor TOGETHER where you can get tested for STI's.
The fact that he doesn't want to use them says to me ... (read in full...)
My BF is being forced to marry - should we run away together?
Q. my boyfriend of 3 years is being forced to marry someone else, my parents do not no about us as they are very traditional but his parents do. What should i do should i just run away with him, i cant live without him but i know it will destroy my ...
A. 28 January 2009: http://www.fco.gov.uk/en/fco-in-action/nationals/forced-marriage-unit/
This website will help you.
Forced marriage is illegal in the UK and if you call the number on the site then they will be able to help your boyfriend.
His family will n... (read in full...)
B/f joining the army. Shall I stay with him?
Q. My bf said he is joining the army and that I will leave him. Shall I leave him??? I love him but I will never see him I don't know what to do because I know that if he goes then I will never see him n I havent seen him in over a week and I miss him ...
A. 28 January 2009: Sweetheart, it sounds from your update like his mind is already made up.
He'll go away from you and end up posted to the other side of the country.
Basic training will change him and then you'll never see him and he will out with all his mat... (read in full...)
I tried a threesome and hated it!
Q. I have had a boyfriend for about 2 years and recently I found out he wants to watch me have sex with another man and he won't feel jealous or anything. We tried to do a threesome but I couldn't do it.. I couldn't stand another person touching my ...
A. 27 January 2009: You tried it, you didn't like it.
So don't do it again.
Simple as that.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
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