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writes:i am pregnant and my boyfriend is in the army what can he do to help, he cant be with me at the moment, i tell him he doesnt need to do anything but he wntas to, what can he do? Reply to this Question
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reader, edsbabygirl  +, writes (3 August 2007):
 he can only be there for you emotionally and make sure he has a safe time. He could ask for a military leave. Men can do that!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2007): I think he can do a lot...even though he's away. He can keep in touch with you regularly (and be reliable on that!), he can ask how you are, listen to you whine when you're feeling crappy, share in the joys with you with little firsts like baby kicks. He can send you flowers, and have a mom or friend bring you a card or something for baby. If he has email access, you can probably send him pictures from your ultrasound, and your growing belly. As much as women today (including me) seem to think that we don't NEED men in our lives when we have children, it sure is nice to have one who knows all the details of the pregnancy and birth, even if he can't be there right now. Don't push him away. It's as much his child as yours' and he does have the right to be as involved as he can be. I went through the same thing with my daughter's father, and we just got married (5 years after she was born). Good Luck! And don't push him away.
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reader, sxcbabiegal +, writes (3 August 2007):
 i think your boyfriend wrote a letter on here earlier asking exactly the same thing and as i said he can write to you you can write and send him pictures of the baby when you have scans and make sure your friends are close round you and helping you out too you need your friends most when your guys away and your carrying his baby because they'll be the ones who are there in person but don't worry about him going away just write and stay in contact lv jodie xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2007): I have answered this to a male who wanted to help his pregnant girlfriend. Tell him that it would help if he called a reasonable amount to check up on how your feeling and if the baby is ok? Let him in. Tell him he can maybe buy a little something for the baby. Thats all he can do. X
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2007): call and check up on you and be there for u when he can and maybe send a card saying hey iam thinking about you but other than that love just make hes love known with that simple but all enough three lil words "i love you!"well hun good luck and keep your self heathy and happy and always keep in mind that he'll return safely sincerly luva
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