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writes: I slept with a guy last year. We decided to stay friends but there is a big problem. I'm late and there is a oochance I could be pregnant. My friend says to wait and tell the guy who would be the father if I was pregnant. I thought I should wait to see if a test proves negative or positive first, then if it's positive tell him and see if he'll come to the doctors with me. I'm not sure what to do about the situation at all. I've never been in a situation like this before. Please help me!
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reader, xapathyxrebornx  +, writes (18 February 2008):
 Hey, if one was negative but one was POSTITIVE its means your pregnant. Go to the doctor and get it confirmed.
Pregnancy test come up positive not from random hormones stimulated by nerves.... in pregnancy we release HCG into our urine which is only there if pregnant and thats what the pregnancy test reads for x
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI took a test to see if i was pregnant and 1 of the tests was negative but the other was positive. My mate said that the positive one was probably nerves and made my hormones rush a bit but I'm not sure. I'm still feeling like something isn't right but if one was negative, surely i'm ok, right? Please help!
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reader, Serinity  +, writes (5 February 2008):
 That's why I said to be careful who you confide in. If you've only told close friends, then chances are one of your close friends has said something to someone else, and on down the line.
Regardless of how mad he may or may not be, if you're pregnant with his child he should assume responsibility. But you should try and put yourself in his shoes for a moment. If he has heard that you may be pregnant, he's probably in shock. First of all, he's hearing this from sources other than you, how is he to know what to believe? He may think that you are just starting a rumor.
You need to find out for sure if you are pregnant or not and put this issue to rest.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNOw the guy that could be the father thinks that i have been saying that i am pregnant to everyone but i haven't. I have spoken to a few of my close friends telling them my fears and asking for advice. He is really angry with me now and im scared that if i am pregnant and i tell him then he'll get even more angry and i don't know how i'll cope. What am i going to do now? I'm so scared.
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reader, Naakai  +, writes (5 February 2008):
Sweetie i don't really get this one, why he is ignoring you? He should a lucky guy to have you first. There is something wrong here this guy is not being a true man excuse me to say he is being a coward. Just inform him of what has happened, you don't have to keep this whole thing on your shoulders besides it takes two to make a baby. Be bold and much confident i know you can face him. I wish you all the best!
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reader, Serinity +, writes (4 February 2008):
If you're comfortable having an abortion and that's the road you want to go, then I think it's your choice to tell him or not (though I believe personally believe that he has the right to know either way) . But if you decide not to tell him, it should remain that way. Don't bump into him a year from now and say, "oh, by the way......" That could cause him serious emotional/mental issues on down the line. If you're going to keep it from him I would be careful as to who you confide in because if he finds out from someone else then it could be just as damaging, if not more. Also, if you are considering an abortion you should find out how far along you are. The longer you wait the harder it is, as the baby is continuously developing inside your womb. Good luck sweetie!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAgain, thank you for your help but The guy that would be the father if i'm pregnant (i was a virgin before i slept with him) if ignoring me now and i thought we were going to still be friends but i guess not. I'm still really scared that if the test is positive i'll have to sort this on my own. I nearly two months late so the odds are that i am pregnant (im due fo the test this week) I don't think that i could tell him. Everyone says that i'll have too and I know you all have too, but i'm still confused. Do I like 100% have to tell him? Couldn't i just get an abortion and he'll never know or is that wrong to go behind his back even though he is ignoring me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe guy that would be the father if i'm pregnant (i was a virgin before i slept with him) if ignoring me now and i thought we were going to still be friends but i guess not. I'm still really scared that if the test is positive i'll have to sort this on my own. I nearly two months late so the odds are that i am pregnant (im due fo the test this week) I don't think that i could tell him. Everyone says that i'll have too and I know you all have too, but i'm still confused. Do I like 100% have to tell him? Couldn't i just get an abortion and he'll never know or is that wrong to go behind his back even though he is ignoring me?
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reader, Naakai +, writes (4 February 2008):
it could be that you re pregnant so you need to do the text and if it is positive you inform him thats the father and hopefully he agrees to marry than thats your faith but if not then i pity you, remember u should always be of the safe side to avoid this kinda unplanned problems.
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reader, Serinity +, writes (4 February 2008):
If you are pregnant and you are 100% sure that it's his baby, you definitely need to tell him. If you don't it will cause tremendous problems in the future. It's better for him to know asap so he can prepare for it as well. It doesn't mean you two should run off and get married but he needs to at least help you support the baby and hopefully be a father to his child. I wish you all the best love. Take care and good luck! God bless.
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reader, xapathyxrebornx +, writes (4 February 2008):
You should tell him, its his baby too =] x
message me if you need to talk x
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm just thanking the people who have me such good advice. I'm planning on taking a test next week. If its positive, what should I do? Should I tell the father or keep him in the dark and make a decision without him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2008): Last year? How far along are we talking? o.O But yes, I agree with the others; get a test first. A now-ex friend of mine faked a pregnancy to try to get back with her boyfriend (and lied to all of us when we were in school and all of us, her best friends). When he didn't get back with her, she faked a miscarraige and couldn't keep her story straight (she told me her mom took her to get it removed, then told another girl she had her friend take her), and said she had just gotten back from the doctors when she walked into school that morning moaning 'oh, my stomach hurts from the miscarriage, oh, I'm so tired from anaseeshia (didn't even say it right). It really was pitiful to see her attempt to lie to us. Not that you're lying obviously, but we were all really mad at her. And if you accidentally say you're preggie but aren't, people might get mad at you, too. :( Good luck!
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reader, xapathyxrebornx +, writes (29 January 2008):
take a test first and then tell him x
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reader, sxcbabiegal +, writes (29 January 2008):
 Do take a test before you tell this guy anything. otherwise you may be accused of lying to him when the test turns out negative. If it is positive, but your still not completley sure, go to a female doctor and ask for a hospital pregnancy test. take a friend with you on both ocasions these times are when you need your friends the most. If it turns out positive again. sit down and talk with the father and discuss what you both want to do. and just remember it is his child too.
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reader, Serinity +, writes (29 January 2008):
Definitely find out first before you say anything to him.
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reader, JBxoxo  +, writes (29 January 2008):
I think that you should discover first if you are pregnant before you bring him into it. If you do not want to go to the doctors alone, go with a close friend. I am suer you are a strong woman and you can hang in there until you find out. Somewtimes men react in a bad way and this can make it hard on you. Why go through this before you even know if it is true? Hang in there gal!
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