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Annalisa
writes:1- Remember that your partner should be your best friend, so talk to him/her about your worries;2- Don't let yourself become close friends with a particular person of the opposite sex! The moment you tell another man about problems with yours spells trouble!3- If you find yourself fantasising about someone other than your partner, STOP! Go home and make love to your partner;4- If your sex life is stale, talk to your partner about it and make sure you improve it together: fun is within variety, so you can try different positions, games, new places... not new people!5- When you feel there's no love in your relationship, remember the early days, remember why and how you got together;6- Accept that people change and a partnership is about readjusting every now and then;7- Pray to God for strength;8- Discuss problems without fighting, don't take it personally that you aren't happy all the time! Everyone has problems!9- Have fun together and make sure you regularly get away from stress and enjoy a game together, be it football or scrabble.10-Don't go to bed on an argument: forgive and love each other and strengthen your friendship. Who or what could come between you then!
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reader, Annalisa + ♥, writes (8 April 2008):
Annalisa is verified as being by the original poster of the question In response to the last comment and question:
I find people tend to take arguments personally, like they're either being accused or what they want must happen, because it's all about them!
Aargh!
The way I deal with it is to remind my loved one that we are one, what hurts him hurts me. At the end of every day, what matters is us, that we are at peace with each other.
If you find yourselves shouting at each other, stop, don't be afraid to break down and cry, make him understand that the argument has hurt you more than you want to be told you're right and he's wrong.
Some people need time to calm down, even after they've forgiven. He might still think he's right, then just try to agree to disagree and remind him what's important:
you love him. Kiss him good-night and hug him.
You might want to bring up the subject away from arguments and evenings. He'll find it easyer to listen and see your point of view if he's not busy being mad!
God bless and good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2008): Really good tips. I know of alot of people who make the mistake of doing number 2 and 10.
I hate going to bed on an argument, I can't sleep! But my bf seems to be fine with it. He refuses to solve problems before bed. This really upsets me. any tips on how to solve them?
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reader, Annalisa + ♥, writes (7 March 2008):
Annalisa is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTotally, Kawika, nagging is a pain in the relationship's arse!
But if we tryed to do our bit, our partner might not nag so much...
And what is this about being legendary??? I've had some 4 messages already calling me that!
Spending so much time as a house-mum, I'm glad I can help a little through this site.
It'll be nice to get back on stage next month, but I'll try to keep in touch!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2008): Great tips Annalisa :] some more great advice from the most legendary person on this site :]
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reader, Kawika  +, writes (6 March 2008):
 Hey Annalisa,
Great article, topic, and advice. One more thing though...STOP NAGGING...and that goes for both men and women. The misconception is that it is only females who nag. Men are just as much whiners as females. Nothing is more detriment to sex drive than nagging. Don't you think?
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