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writes:Random questions: Do men ask their women to give blow job if they want one? I know there are guys who don't ask and they won't even allow their partner to give head, cause they have respect for women.Well, its just a curiousity. Thanks for the answers!
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reader, bitch +, writes (27 October 2009):
This is a personal decision hopefully made between two people in love. Sex is not a bad thing or something to be ashamed of or afraid of. Sex is something two people in love should enjoy with each other and share as a way to express their love and desire for one another. It is ok to have sex in any position or manner if both people are consenting and enjoy it. If you enjoy making the one you love happy and making them feel good, this is ok. It is ok for a man to ask for oral sex if he feels comfortable with his mate and the relationship. It is not a disgusting thing in any way. It is just something men desire. You can provide this for your man if you feel comfortable doing it and you want to make him happy. It is between you both. Nobody else should make this decision for you and it should not matter to anybody else what you do in the privacy and comfort of your own home.
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reader, marriedlady + ♥, writes (27 October 2009):
 in some 'cultures' it is considered 'wrong.' i grew up and married with the mindset that it was gross, and just ummm...well basically sex wasnt talked about and oral sex was just what...well NICE people just didnt go there. I dont remember hearing it verbalized, it just was too dirty to talk about. It took me years...YEARS...to give head. And even longer to accept oral...and even then...a while before i could relax and enjoy it. Maybe it is an ingrained mental taboo. Without a persistant husband, i never would have overcome my negativaty.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question
@rosesarered86.. I know it's downright crazy. Well maybe those guys have had bad experience before or they haven't been with a girl who give good blowjob.
@natasia.. The thing is he never gave me a chance to do it. He always give me a body language that doesn't want it.. Yeah I shd try talking to him. He gave me once but not for long. Besides, I just feel uneasy on getting oral from a guy.. I don't feel less respect for him for giving me oral, in fact I appreciate him for not being selfish in first place.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo. I don't think it's disrespectful at all if a guy goes down on me. But, in fact I've read that some guys find it disrespectful for a woman to give him head. Don't get me wrong, I love giving head tho.. Its just that I find it really weird that my bf always gives a sign that he doesn't want one.
@larac.. Hmm my bf is british. Like u said it's normal for them to give oral sex.
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reader, natasia  +, writes (27 October 2009):
 It sounds like your partner is a bit strange, or maybe just embarrassed. Most men love it. And if your partner doesn't do it for you, too, I would say he has a bit of a problem with it all. Maybe you should try talking? Although I know men don't like talk ; ) - they usually just like blowjobs!! I think you should try persevering and giving him a really nice blowjob, until he orgasms. If it is that nice, he will perhaps want to try it again. He needs to realise that for you it is a pleasure.
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reader, RosesAreRed86 +, writes (27 October 2009):
Most men will ask for them, but prefer not to have to ask. It's far better for the man if the girl just does it on her own accord when the time is right. Having to ask always seems a little awkward and it makes the guy feel as if the girl is not really taking care of his needs.
As for the men who won't allow their partner to give them head, I think that they are few and far between and frankly in my opinion are just downright crazy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the answers! :)
Yeah I agree. I don't feel disrespect as well, but there are actually guys who feel that way. I dunno why.
My bf doesn't ask, but when I try give him one, his reaction always looks like he doesn't want one. He just goes straight to sex. I prefer giving to getting oral tho. That's why I never asked him to go down on me. Though he did once but not for long..
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reader, marriedlady + ♥, writes (27 October 2009):
sorry, i meant honning kanin. I think there is no disrespect involved when their is mutual pleasure.
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reader, marriedlady + ♥, writes (27 October 2009):
i dont feel disrespected...my husband doesnt verbally ask...but the invitation is there. It is an act of love on my part...as it is when he gives oral as well...konning said it well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2009): Men will ask, and what do you mean by saying that men wouldnt ask because they have repsect for women? Do you think that oral sex is dis-respectful? There is nothing wrong with oral sex as long as its consensual.
Elpigaro
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reader, HonningKanin  +, writes (27 October 2009):
 Some men ask and some men dont ask.
My advise is not to think if a man doesn't ask he has more respect than the one who does. The act of oral sex is one a woman can enjoy as well.
Lets do a gender reversal. If a woman asks a man to go down on her, does she have less respect for the man than a woman who doesn ask? My answer would be a no and that it would be down to preference.
If you don't ask you will never receive either. When I give head to my husband I dont feel like he has less respect for me. I actually enjoy pleasing him and I know giving him head pleases him. But it is also something I am comfortable doing. Its pretty much the same with him giving me oral sex. I dont have less respect for him and he takes pleasure in giving me pleasure.
Giving your partner oral sex is, for me, part of foreplay. It helps with getting the body ready for sex, making it feel better and prolongs the sexs. Quickies are great, but not always. To me sex is about pleasing your partner as much as it is about being pleased. "Give a little to get a little" if you will.
HonningKanin
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reader, Ginalolabridga + ♥, writes (27 October 2009):
 Yes i think the majority will ask for one.
Gina
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reader, helplessgirl08  +, writes (27 October 2009):
most guys will ask if the want anything like that
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reader, LaraC +, writes (27 October 2009):
I think this may be a cultural issue as well as sexual.
Where I'm from (Sweden and UK) oral sex is very common with your partner. Either as foreplay or as a quickie - oral sex (giving and receiving) is a very pleasurable experience and something that is reserved more to relationships that one night stands.
My fiancé and I have a very good relationship and he loves receiving oral sex and has no problem asking for it. On the other hand he loves giving it to me as well, I too have no problem asking for it.
I suppose the only way it would be considered disrespectful is if your partner would ask you to give him head but then refuse to give it to you. But then again I've never met such a man ;)
Best of luck,
L
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2009): I never Ask, but I get :)
I dont see it as being disrespectfull atall, whats disrecpectfull about it?
Would you think its disrespectful for a guy to let him go down on you?
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