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writes: i met this guy in work and hes amazing really nice guy and we've hit it off. he emails me cute messages in the office etc and i love being round him. we've been out on a few dates and they been lovely but he stayed over last night and we ended up having sex, i was wanting to wait because i really like him but things just happened and he was really wanting to. does this mean he just wanted sex, im scared i wont hear from him again and he "got what he wanted" kind of thing. hes a lovely guy and dont think he'd do that. am i reading to much into it? he was also really quite in bed even when he cum did i do something wrong? need advice Reply to this Question |
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reader, tulipdame  +, writes (20 October 2007):
I think the question I want to ask isn't "IS that all he wanted?" but "Was having sex with him your way of testing if that's all he wanted?" because if it is than that's a problem. Sex is not a building block in a relationship, it is the the relationship, so you don't have sex until you have a solid relationship. It doesn't sound like that's all he wanted but that was definitely a big part of the package and I can guarantee you after last night he's lost some interest. I mean, I don't mean to sound cynical, but a man is wired to declare "mission accomplished" after sex, not "there's still a long way to go to building a relationship". American (and I guess British) culture says otherwise but that has been my experience and it makes genetic sense.
When do you have sex? When you are married. It sounds conservative and old-fashioned, but its still true.
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reader, kenny  + ♥, writes (20 October 2007):
 All you can do really is wait and see what happens. You say he is a lovely guy, so on that basis the likellhood is that he wants you for more than just sex. I don't think you did anything wrong that night, you were both probably abit nervous because it was your first time together ect. Stop worrying and relax, im sure all is going to be fine.
Good luck x
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