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Why is this relationship making feel like a wreck?

Q.   I think I'm expressing symptoms of codependency, and they have really damaged my relationship of 8 months. Everything in my relationship seemed peachy--I really feel like I made her genuinely happy. But recently, I've been probing for validations of ...

A.   14 June 2007: For some reason reading your post has brought a tear to my eyes. Assuming that the age listed is correct for you and her I cannot help but to hate the situation you're in right now. Any woman can be won back if there's ANY feeling left fro... (read in full...)

Will he go off me because I lack sexual experience?

Q.   right i really like this lad i have known him 3 years now and we meet like every month somtimes not for a few cause we live like 3 hour drive away from each other any wayss..eevn thou i have had sex before i somehow dont think i could have sex with ...

A.   14 June 2007: Men are dogs. = He'll take it any way he gets it. Trust me, you have no worries. He most likely will like the opportunity of teaching you, you'd be suprised of the male ego.... (read in full...)

I miss the passion in my affair with the bad boy

Q.   I have been married for 8 yrs.24 months ago we were having a rocky relationship and were having counselling. I was emotionally down and depressed during this time and wrongly turned to a friend of mine for comfort. We ended up having an affair and I ...

A.   14 June 2007: My first thought is to reply in a way that would toy with you to make you think clearly. The only reason I feel that way is #1. Your question is written in a pre-answered format. You're looking for someone to comfirm that the smart way is the...we... (read in full...)

I cheated on her. Should I come clean before we get married?

Q.   My fiancé and I have been together for about 13 months. 6 months ago we separated for a few days and I slept with three different woman trying to ease my suffering at the time. one of them was my ex who was always a worry of hers, one random stray ...

A.   14 June 2007: You say my ego is in control yet it's my insecurities that truly rule me. To fully understand my situation you're going to have to know my background story. My story is unique and posting publicly would pose a serious threat to exposing my inden... (read in full...)

We had an argument and he stayed out all night, checked his phone- was put on hold and heard her talking about payment for sexual services!!!

Q.   hi all, in a bit of a delenma, wonder could u help me with some advice or opinions. Myself and my boyfriend are 3yrs together, we have 2yr old son. Had terrible row that lasted whole weekend, we are both very head strong people and neither of us ...

A.   29 May 2007: I feel terrible for you...I've been on your side of this recently. Couple of tips: The more you ask him to deny what happened, the harder it will be for him to tell the truth if his conscience really does kick in. It turned out that there ... (read in full...)

How do I decide if 'He genuinely made a mistake'?

Q.   Soon after me and my ex boyfriend broke up he got together with a girl he knew. I removed myself from the picture as he had been rude and disrespectful towards me throughout the 1 year relationship and I guess he had her ready for when he broke up ...

A.   29 May 2007: Yes!!! I am NORMAL AFTERALL!!!! I've been on your boyfriends side of this. Done the same thing. Treated her like crap and we broke up after near a year of it, went on to somebody else I had waiting and decided I wanted my girlfriend back ... (read in full...)

I cheated on her. Should I come clean before we get married?

Q.   My fiancé and I have been together for about 13 months. 6 months ago we separated for a few days and I slept with three different woman trying to ease my suffering at the time. one of them was my ex who was always a worry of hers, one random stray ...

A.   29 May 2007:  At that time I was experiencing temporary insanity...To cheat wasn't a conscious decision. It took me those two months to get my mind back from the blow she had thrown me originally. Thanks for the good wishes... ... (read in full...)

I cheated on her. Should I come clean before we get married?

Q.   My fiancé and I have been together for about 13 months. 6 months ago we separated for a few days and I slept with three different woman trying to ease my suffering at the time. one of them was my ex who was always a worry of hers, one random stray ...

A.   29 May 2007: The whole story would have to be told for you to give a proper answer to my question. I just spent three hours writing the story out. It's 7 pages long in word at 10pt font but it would potencially incriminate me because it has to be specific, ... (read in full...)

He's rather small and floppy down there. If I get serious is this all I am going to get? Is this common thing with men?

Q.   I don't want this to sound shallow or lame but I have been seeing a guy for 6 months. The sex is ok but without sounding too dirty he is rather small down below and when erect it's a bit floppy. You cannot seem to do many positions because of this ...

A.   25 May 2007: How small is small? and how limp is limp? everyone has a different perspective... (read in full...)

Bf has jealousy problems with my guy friend! Bf has refused to meet him--what should I do?

Q.   long story short , i have a boyfriend and another friend but he's a guy. And my boyfriend has problems(he's jealous) with me talking to my friend. I don't think that my friend loves me because we've known each other for like 3 years and he never ...

A.   25 May 2007: I personally am going through this myself right now but from the BF's side of it. Here's what i've gathered from what i'm feeling. Guys know guys better than woman do. For the most part, one in a guy/girl friendship wants more and sometimes it takes ... (read in full...)

We're going on a party camp out..and my bf wants to have sex with me! Should I let him?

Q.   Hii. Well next friday I have a party and me, my boyfriend, my best girl friend and maybe her boyfriend and my best boy mate are planning to camp out. As we are typical teenagers we will obviously want booze and we want to have a good laugh. My boyfr...

A.   25 May 2007: OMG! Please listen to me closely - You have no idea what your about to do to your life. Once you have sex with a man you're going to change. I promise this to you. You are going to realize something that you 100% will wish you never learned when you ... (read in full...)

Because I'm very good at sex-he's very insecure and thinks I will stray. How do I reassure him I won't do this?

Q.   I think my b/f is going through a slight insecure phase because I have a high sex drive (usually want it more often than he does) and he tells me I am great at oral sex (the best he's ever had) and when we go out he thinks I look at other men. I do ...

A.   25 May 2007: Must be something you're doing wrong to make him feel that uncomfortable. It's very possible that the way you are wouldn't bother other men but it's bothering him obviously. He doesn't like you looking around at people in bars? Stop looking then! ... (read in full...)

What is it that turns some guys on by coming or ejaculating on a girls face, breast, stomach etc?

Q.   What is it that turns some guys on by coming or ejaculating on a girls face, breast, stomach etc? ...

A.   15 March 2007: It's because dominating and degrating you makes us feel bigger. Making a whore out of you ourselves is stimulating, although most don't like if a woman gives these things up too easily either. We want to view you as a whore, but a whore for us only ... (read in full...)

Can a born again christian and an aethiest marry? I'm really wondering whether this would work or just cause problems.

Q.   Can an Born again christian and an Atheist marry? I've been with my girlfriend for near 10 months now and we have very strong feelings for each other. I am an atheist but I hide under the title of a catholic. I don't believe in Satan, I simply ...

A.   21 February 2007: thanks for the replies, I was raised in a catholic family. I did communion, catechism etc. and was baptized. I stopped following it all when my parents allowed me too around 12 years old. Since then I've learned tro trust my "gut" and follow my ... (read in full...)

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