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I have run up huge debts on my husbands credit card and now he is seeing his solicitor.

Q.   I have told my husband that I have run up credit cards.Two are in his name and he knows he's liable for them. It is a significant amount. He left to live with his parents, ten days ago, whilst I am left at the business house to deal with it all. I ...

A.   14 November 2007: No, I'm not an alcoholic. Not sure I'm an addict any more, either. I haven't used a card for two months and have no intention of ever using one again. I gave up smoking sixteen years ago, after falling pregnant and never touched cigarettes again, ... (read in full...)

I have run up huge debts on my husbands credit card and now he is seeing his solicitor.

Q.   I have told my husband that I have run up credit cards.Two are in his name and he knows he's liable for them. It is a significant amount. He left to live with his parents, ten days ago, whilst I am left at the business house to deal with it all. I ...

A.   12 November 2007: "You've treated this relationship in a poor fashion. Lying and hiding actions." I think I know that, thank you. I didn't come here looking for understanding and pity, I came for objective help, but can see that some are not objective; merely p... (read in full...)

I have run up huge debts on my husbands credit card and now he is seeing his solicitor.

Q.   I have told my husband that I have run up credit cards.Two are in his name and he knows he's liable for them. It is a significant amount. He left to live with his parents, ten days ago, whilst I am left at the business house to deal with it all. I ...

A.   12 November 2007: I'm not sure that I'm making myself clear here. I have always accepted fully responsibility for the debts. I know that I spent the money. But, I honestly believe that I have an addiction to spending, which Is why I hope that he will have to manag... (read in full...)

I have run up huge debts on my husbands credit card and now he is seeing his solicitor.

Q.   I have told my husband that I have run up credit cards.Two are in his name and he knows he's liable for them. It is a significant amount. He left to live with his parents, ten days ago, whilst I am left at the business house to deal with it all. I ...

A.   12 November 2007: I cut up all the cards weeks ago, as the guilt became too much and I wanted to confess. I had one affair, seventeen years ago. I've never done it again. I didn't realise that he hadn't come to terms with it; I only found that out very recently. I ... (read in full...)

I have run up huge debts on my husbands credit card and now he is seeing his solicitor.

Q.   I have told my husband that I have run up credit cards.Two are in his name and he knows he's liable for them. It is a significant amount. He left to live with his parents, ten days ago, whilst I am left at the business house to deal with it all. I ...

A.   11 November 2007: "You ultimate goal is to get him back home, and your refusing the help that will get him back." I'm not really sure that I understand that comment. I haven't refused any help either. I just haven't received any, yet apart from that given from the... (read in full...)

I have run up huge debts on my husbands credit card and now he is seeing his solicitor.

Q.   I have told my husband that I have run up credit cards.Two are in his name and he knows he's liable for them. It is a significant amount. He left to live with his parents, ten days ago, whilst I am left at the business house to deal with it all. I ...

A.   11 November 2007: "Why is it his responsibility to see if you were responsible?" Because, he too, benefited from the items bought from his cards. He told me last week that he was aware that this was probably going on, but chose to do nothing. I am sure that ... (read in full...)

I have run up huge debts on my husbands credit card and now he is seeing his solicitor.

Q.   I have told my husband that I have run up credit cards.Two are in his name and he knows he's liable for them. It is a significant amount. He left to live with his parents, ten days ago, whilst I am left at the business house to deal with it all. I ...

A.   11 November 2007: I accept the vehemence shown here by some; but surely, when someone earns a specific amount, then it should alert them when more money than is earned is spent. At no point in this discussion have I denied responsibility for any of this. I just wan... (read in full...)

I have run up huge debts on my husbands credit card and now he is seeing his solicitor.

Q.   I have told my husband that I have run up credit cards.Two are in his name and he knows he's liable for them. It is a significant amount. He left to live with his parents, ten days ago, whilst I am left at the business house to deal with it all. I ...

A.   11 November 2007: ''So what you were looking for in the relationship was a father figure. to tell you what you can and can't do?'' No, I simply commented on the fact that he should have looked after his OWN credit card accounts and checked them now and again. ... (read in full...)

I have run up huge debts on my husbands credit card and now he is seeing his solicitor.

Q.   I have told my husband that I have run up credit cards.Two are in his name and he knows he's liable for them. It is a significant amount. He left to live with his parents, ten days ago, whilst I am left at the business house to deal with it all. I ...

A.   11 November 2007: I did reply to this before, but my answer hasn't appeared. Yes, I agree that I have been selfish., I have never said otherwise. However childhood abuse probably didn't help here. I have also just been diagnosed with a malignant tumour, so I'm not as ... (read in full...)

I have run up huge debts on my husbands credit card and now he is seeing his solicitor.

Q.   I have told my husband that I have run up credit cards.Two are in his name and he knows he's liable for them. It is a significant amount. He left to live with his parents, ten days ago, whilst I am left at the business house to deal with it all. I ...

A.   11 November 2007: I applied for the IVA because this will take my credit rating down to zero. It prevents me from having cards, cellphones etc for six years which I feel goes some way to proving that I am sorry and also it prevents me from doing it again. It also ... (read in full...)

I have run up huge debts on my husbands credit card and now he is seeing his solicitor.

Q.   I have told my husband that I have run up credit cards.Two are in his name and he knows he's liable for them. It is a significant amount. He left to live with his parents, ten days ago, whilst I am left at the business house to deal with it all. I ...

A.   11 November 2007: There are many reasons for my doing this; including his refusal to deal with my affair and try to come to terms with it. He simply closed up about it. I can understand that he must feel terribly betrayed. I have arranged for an IVA to prove to him ... (read in full...)

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