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She used to be a swallow!

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Question - (31 March 2006) 10 Answers - (Newest, 21 July 2012)
A male , anonymous writes:

My g.f used to swallow after Oral sex. Now, she wont. She jumps up and runs to the bathroom and then i hear her spitting. I could understand if she never did that before. But SHE HAS!.

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A male reader, splibber Canada +, writes (21 July 2012):

My wife of 8 years recently told me she used swallow....a lot.

but not mine. Not sure why because she gets defensive when i bring it up....maybe because of age? She's 45.

But i love and i mean LOVE to lick her. Every woman i had sex with i went down on and LOVED it.

So....why is it she won't swallow some cum for me? I'm not asking for much except once in awhile to see/hear her swallow. I will lick her any time/day she asks and no questions asked. what should i ask/say/do to get her to reciprocate once in a while. Even if it is just once a year. I would love her to look at me with my semen in her mouth, swallow it and tell me she loves me.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2011):

I think if the woman take her man deeper into her mouth it can help in the swallowing aspect. It does for me, talk to her about that as option. A mans orgasm during oral is a sudden issuing forth of fluid, that makes it a bit different from a man giving a woman oral where the fluid is constant. It's good to talk about it and feelings about swallowing. I hate disruptions during sexual intimacy such as 'jumping' out of the bed for some reason. I don't want the semen on my face per se, I want it inside me. I like him to feel accepted. Swallowing at the back of my throat works out. He is not too big so that helps. I'd not want him jumping up because he cannot deal with my fluids when he gives me head. What woman would want that?

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2008):

My wife used to swallow at first but then gradually stopped. Now she more often spits than swallows. She knew it made me feel very good when she swallowed so she asked how I felt about it and we had a good conversation about it. I know that she gets tummy ache after swallowing and I don't intend to hurt her if she does not want to. While it may seem strange that your partner used to swallow and now she does not, think about how she perceives it. Do you get off and leave her hanging? Do you just have her give you head and then go to sleep?

If it is really this important to you please first have a good conversation with her and express how you both feel about it.

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A female reader, xXxBabymamaXxX +, writes (2 April 2006):

xXxBabymamaXxX agony auntYou have to remember, you PISS out of that dick and fare fucks for her putting in her clan little mouth! If I was a boy I would find it rude if a girl done it to me and i didn't relly know her! Take this as a compliment, what she is doing is showing you that yous are more than just lovers you's are best friends, by running to the bathroom, this shows she is comfortable with you enough to do that!

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A female reader, smeedle United Kingdom +, writes (1 April 2006):

smeedle agony auntI swallow when it is a new relationship as you dont feel you can get up and run to the bathroom, and dribbling is also not always an option.

Once I know my partner better I also spit it out as It is yuck! this is not a reflection on you it is just her being honest, be glad she is still giving you oral sex!!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2006):

I agree with "Hopeful' on this one. She has likely never enjoyed swallowing and was only doing it, because you liked her to do it, in the beginning. Don't worry about it. If she wants to spit don't make a big issue of it. Let it go. If you respect her and cherish her, this should NOT matter.

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A female reader, bodylotion +, writes (31 March 2006):

bodylotion agony auntWhat do you expect?She proberly accidently swallowed it before or mabe she was trying a new way.But now she's relised that she doesn't like it and thats why she spat it out.She proberly doesn't mean anything by this so don't worry and be grateful she's doing this for you as some girls don't like oral.

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A male reader, zhyid +, writes (31 March 2006):

I don't thin that affects a relationship, like one of the answers says it just makes her gag, i think you're making a big deal out of it, you feel the same pleasure if she swallows or spits so? ehy should you be worried now that she spits, its perfectly natural if something makes you gag, but if you feel uncomfortable with it talk to her and let her know how you feel.

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A female reader, BluntBabe +, writes (31 March 2006):

Yeah yeah yeah. What guys may not understand is that taking the cum in your mouth is fine, but the swallowing part makes a lot of us gag. And gagging is not a pleasant sensation. Personally, I swallow, because I feel I can sacrifice a bit of unpleasantness if it means my boyfriend won't feel awkward about cumming, but I totally understand if a woman is more comfortable spitting. Before you ask her if she'll start swallowing again, I just want to tell you that she probably does not think your cum is gross, or dirty, or that she doesn't want it, or all the funny things men imagine when a woman doesn't swallow their cum... it probably just makes her gag. And that's not because we think it's gross, it's just that the gooey texture of it will inspire a reflex action in her throat.

If you're still uncomfortable with her spitting, well then, yes, go ahead and have a gentle heart-to-heart with her about it. But don't be so greedy, I mean, it's a lot of work getting you to cum in the first place.

Good luck,


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A female reader, Hopeful +, writes (31 March 2006):

Hopeful agony auntPerhaps she did it at first because the relationship was new, where now, she thinks that she doesn't have to do it if she doesn't want to.

When the relationship is new sometimes we do things inside and outside the bedroom that when the relationship ages and things change, we stop doing.

Also, perhaps the taste has changed for her. Has your diet changed? Started smoking etc? Maybe something has changed and she doesn't want to tell you but the same time she doesn't want to swallow.

As well, there are some guys who don't like to taste it on their partner's breathe after so maybe she has had a chat to some girlfriends or read it in "cleo" and has stopped doing it because she was scared you didn't like it.

I would tell her that it turns you on when she does and would she be comfortable with doing it again and see what she says.

It is probably a simple explanation so if you bring it up in a gentle manner and discuss it, I'm sure the two of you can come to some sort of arrangement.

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