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Questions for women about virginity and sex...

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Question - (4 January 2009) 11 Answers - (Newest, 9 January 2009)
A male United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Okay I don't want to seem rude or anger anyone when I ask this. I am simply curious to know more about women and their beliefs on virginity and sex.

1) Do many women lose their virginity after high school

2) Do a lot of women save themselves for marriage?

3) It may be personal and you don't have to answer, but many of the people who seem to respond are older and have lost their virginity and have had sex. However is there any virgins? Or women who waited to have sex.

Once again please don't take this the wrong way! I am simply curious. No I don't have a problem with girls who have sex! I just can't see myself with someone who has had a lot of partners. I also don't think sex is evil, I just don't believe it should be as casual as it sometimes is.

Please don't be offended,I am just simply curious.

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A female reader, LaydeeOfSorrows Australia +, writes (9 January 2009):

LaydeeOfSorrows agony auntI lost mine a few weeks after my sixteenth birthday...

I'm still with him, and love him. I don't regret it at all, and he was totally understanding and was willing to wait.

I felt it was right for me, every person is different!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2009):

I agree with one of the others that have replied, it depends on the person

i'm only 15 and i'm not a virgin

you might say i'm too young but i believe that i was ready

i was with the right person (and still am :D) and i don't regret it

he asked me a million times if i was ready because he knew it had to be right

and i feel it has brought us together

but most of my friends haven't even considered being close to a boy or having any sort of longterm relationship

so it depends.

hope this helps x

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2009):

Save yourself for marriage. Only then, have you and your spouse made the strongest commitment towards each other that can be made - a lifetime commitment. You will hopefully not have regrets about giving away your virginity that many people face. Daletom below gives good statistics.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2009):

Don't apologize for thinking about this stuff.

About 2 billion years of evolution programmed your preferences and emotions that this was VITALLY important when picking a partner. But now about 45 years of cultural evolution is telling you it no longer matters.

2 billion is more than 45.

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A female reader, Jizelle United Kingdom +, writes (4 January 2009):

I lost my virginity shortly after i turned 17 (i'm still 17 now) and i've never regretted it. Nearly all my friends who are the same age have had sex by now, and I know that one or two of them have regretted it. For example, my friend lost her virginity to a sort of friends-with-benefits guy at the age of 15 just for the hell of it. It ruined their friendship and they barely ever spoke to each other after that. She did it because she was bored. A few months later her current boyfriend came along, and she has completely fallen in love with him. They have slept together, but her biggest regret is not being a virgin when she slept with him. She wishes she waited for him.

So yeah, I do think its a good idea to wait until you're sure you're with the right person. I did have an opputunity to with a fling before my current boyfriend came along, but i'm glad I didnt take it. Th

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2009):

hi im a girl, turn 17 in may and live in the UK

i am a virgin and have only ever kissed a guy (not even with tongues) but ive recently got a new best friend who is a guy and he loves the fact that im "untouched", lots of men do, and he has told me that men prefere it and says that i am the type of girl who has self respect becuase when a "man says jump you dont say how high"

im not waiting for marriage or anything like that, i simply havent thrown myself at lots of guys like most girls in my school do as i have more self respect, and i have never found that guy i feel happy and safe enough with.

hope this kind of answers your question

love hannah xx x x x xx

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A male reader, Griffo Australia +, writes (4 January 2009):

Griffo agony auntI know a couple of ladies that are late 20s and still virgins. The thing I've really noticed is that they are very pure in nature. Very relaxed and calm they seem to enjoy life so it makes me wonder a lot about how much sex actually changes people.

Most people I know who have waited for marrage seem to have longer lasting marrages whereas most people I know who are not virgins marrage seems to not last as long and they tend to go through more partners.

I think the first person you do it with is soulfully bound to you forever there is some kind of magic there even if they break up there is still a conection like when you first fall in love.

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A male reader, daletom United States +, writes (4 January 2009):

A lot of people have been curious about that question. A little research on the 'net or in your public library will turn up quite a few studies about that question. Some of them have questionable results; they lack what scientists call "good experimental controls". Many of them were done by organizations that have a vested interest in obtaining a certain result - to obtain grants, sell a product, promote a political policy, etc. However, if you carefully consider the best and toss out the rest, the pattern looks something like:

- In the U.S. at the start of the 21st century, by age 19 about half of all people have had sexual intercourse. Maybe a little more than half of all women; a little less than half of all men. This also means that about half have NOT had sex.

- By age 22 the number is up around 80% - 90%. That still leaves 10% - 20% virgins - a minority, but a significant minority.

- There aren't very many wedding-night virgins, at any age - probably 5% or less (my wife & I were). However, many couples wait until they are engaged to start being sexually active.

- A significant number of young people, especially High School ages, who claim to have had sex actually haven't.

- Many (in some studies, over half) who have first sexual intercourse before age 16 say they were too young or not ready for sex.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2009):

It really depends on the girl or woman. Her values, morals, and everything else in between. As for me, when it comes to the reputation my high school had, I waited quite some time. I was seventeen and a few months old and lost it to a guy I was with for two years. I've only had one partner so far.

I'd say now-a-days though, in college, you will not find many virgin women or men. Society has gotten to a point where sex sometimes isn't about loving or caring about the person, it's about having that one-hour (or few hours) of self-satisfaction. As a whole, we have gotten virtually obsessed with sex and all its glamour and appeal.

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A female reader, xxlovexxhurtsxx United States +, writes (4 January 2009):

xxlovexxhurtsxx agony auntSex!!?!! WOW..a very difficult subject.

Basically...nowadays people are just having sex for the heck of it and to semm "cool."

I don't believe you should wait until marriage..but do it with someone you really love.

and you know you love them cause you won't call it sex.

you'll refer to it as making love.

to answer your questions:

1) I believe most women would lose their virginity after high school because they are most likely in college or away from their parents.

2) I think a reasonable amount of women save themselves until marriage but few admit it.

3) I am no longer a virgin lost it at 16..but i waited, i was with the guy for more than a year, i loved him..and he loved me,, and i know he did. He was the love of my life... now its been 5months since he passed glad we made love...its one of the most wonderful memories i have of him.

I do agree with you on sex being evil...many children and teens are raped, prostitution, and porn and all things related to sex that make it EVIL.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2009):

Im proud to say Im saving myself for marriage!

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