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I feel second best

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Question - (26 September 2006) 1 Answers - (Newest, 27 September 2006)
A female United States, anonymous writes:

Pleasssssssssssssseeeeeeeee help me! My boyfriend and I have been going out for about 6 months. I am very much in love with him and he tells me he loves me all the time. But here is the problem: sometimes I feel like he just tells me that because I want to hear it. Also, his last serious gf (broke up about a year and half ago) is married and has a young baby, so I feel like he still cares/loves her but knows there is no chance of getting back together. He says he doesnt care about her when I bring it up, but he will mention her by accident sometimes, looks at her myspace, used to call/text her (before I made that stop) plus I feel like she is dragging him along (cause she is a pure b**** and she wants to rub her marriage and kid in his face- she is not a very nice person at all so I am still wondering why he even still cares about her after she cheated on him many times). I just feel like I deserve a guy who realizes what a nice, loving person I am and he doesnt make me feel that way. I feel second best like I am always competeing with her- which I shouldnt be. I just cant keep holding it in or I am going to explode. I bring it up but he just says "it was a year ago" or "just forget it" but I cant. What should I do?? Please help me if you understood all that!

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A female reader, Toria +, writes (27 September 2006):

Toria agony auntNo you shouldn't be second best and if he does still love his ex then he shouldn't have got involved with you in the first place, most of us still care about our ex's as we spent time with them and was once close to them but you really need to know if you are the one for him or are you just the one for him because he can nolonger have her.

I would suggest talking to him and see what he says also watching his body language and reactions to what you are talking about as sometimes the truth doesn't come from words.

Good luck :o)

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