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Happy in relationship, but can't get pleasure from sex!

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Question - (29 September 2006) 5 Answers - (Newest, 2 October 2006)
A female , *attay writes:


I'm 16, been with my boyfriend for a year and half.

I love him very much and we both lost our virginity to eachother. He's now 19.

I'm really happy in this relationship, but the only thing that gets me is that I don't get pleasure in sex at all!

We've tried different posisitions and such. The most pleasure i can get is Foreplay. And its great...until the we start to have sex, he gets all the pleasure..and I don't. I feel absolutely NOTHING during sex.

Has anyone else had or experienced this before?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2006):

Could it be because your bf is inexperienced? I had a friend who told me how boring sex was for her(she enjoyed foreplay same as u). She changed her tune since meeting her second bf. Maybe he could try going in circles while inside you. Things that drive me insane is licking my ear while my guy's cock is all the way inside pounding my cervix.

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A female reader, Toria +, writes (29 September 2006):

Toria agony auntThere are plenty of things you can do to make the actual sex a more enjoyable experiance for you, try having your boyfriend or you touch your clit during sex or your breasts, there are certain sexual toys that you can wear that will pleasure your clit where your boyfriend is inside you.

There are many girls that don't experiance any proper pleasure from sex and find that they get their pleasure from the foreplay and once the female has received her pleasure then move onto sex.

Good luck :o)

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2006):

no from personal experience i and my girlfriend have never had this problem maybe its just his manhood but have you tried anal sex yet maybe you still need to open a few doors with each other if his cock is under 5 then thats the problem

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A male reader, fallenman United Kingdom +, writes (29 September 2006):

fallenman agony auntI have had this problem and found a way that worked for me, is to mount him on top, so that you are knelling over him, in that way you can control the thrusting as he will be mostly static, at the same time he can rub your clitoris with some KY gel with each thrust you make. In some women the sensitive part of the clitoris is to high for his penis to excite in the missonary position and the G spot can be hard to reach.

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A female reader, camille United Kingdom +, writes (29 September 2006):

camille agony auntIf you get off during foreplay, have you tried him (or you) touching your clitoris whilst he's inside you? Or a vibrating egg? Is he touching/licking your breasts whilst you're having sex? If not, encourage that too. There's lotions to stimulate your clitoris too. That may help when you're on top. Hope that helps a bit.

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