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Do guys really give up on women that easily?

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Question - (27 November 2014) 6 Answers - (Newest, 28 November 2014)
A female United Kingdom age 51-59, anonymous writes:

Have I missed the boat now?

I was chatted up on line by a guy who was gorgeous in his youth - judging by his photos, but older now. He wanted to meet for a 1 night stand but I turned him down as I wasn't sure.

He is now chasing my friend instead and is a lot cooler with me now - not getting in touch much (as we used to flirt a lot) - but now I think he's lost interest now he's got her and I really regret turning him - down!!

He said he finds me attractive and likes my smile - but will that be enough to bring him back?

Do guys really give up on women that easily? Is there no going back?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2014):

Yes you've missed the boat.

What kind of friend tries to lure the man who sort of seeing her friend?

You had your chance. You said no. Now let him go.

He'd have no self respect to come back to someone who rejected him. Or if he did com e back it would be for a quickie before he dumps you to prove that he still has the power after all.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2014):

From a man's point of you, this guy is interested in any girl as long as he gets laid. He does not care about you but your crotch. Whats there to regret? That he didn't bang you before he gets your friend?!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2014):

What kind of a boat have you exactly missed?,you know exactly what he wanted, and this is not what you want.,or is it??

Honestly, you sound a bit like a little naive girl not a woman in her 40s. We all know the value of this kind of "attention". Who cares if a guy only want sex. Of course they will give you attention by trying to get you in bed. And then what? . This kind of attention you can get anytime from any guy. Being a woman I am so used to this kind of "attention" that I just desgard men like this and can see through them with their intentions right away.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2014):

Thanks - Yes I know I have seen through this guy - but at the same time his charm has got me hooked & I'm missing the attention I guess!

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A female reader, YouWish United States +, writes (28 November 2014):

YouWish agony auntHeh, my question is - why would you care about this guy??

He wasn't interested in YOU in the first place. He only wanted a quick piece of ass. A fast and easy lay. A penis holder he could hit and quit.

If you aren't interested in a quick anonymous one night stand with him, why are you wanting "a second chance with him"?

Seriously, my advice SHOULD be short, but I'm genuinely curious about why you'd be feeling like YOU blew it after YOU saw through his crap and turned him down for easy sex?

You don't sound like a one night stand girl, and on the contrary, you seem like the type who would be more interested in finding a more permanent partner to get to know, date, and be there for each other.

What's making you think about this guy??

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (28 November 2014):

Honeypie agony auntYou didn't put out fast enough for him so he moved down the list, he is looking for a "bed-warmer" not a GF. So it's not that he gives up on women, he just moves on when he figures out that sex isn't something he will get easy...

He sounds like a cad.

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