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Could he have gone from no-strings sexual flings to a "serious relationship" with me, in just a few weeks?

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Question - (31 July 2006) 1 Answers - (Newest, 31 July 2006)
A female United States, anonymous writes:

I was wondering if I could get some opinions on this and if I am really being stupid about this or not.

My boyfriend, before me, had lots of flings that usually lasted a few months. He claims that they were just flings-all physical, no emotions attached. The thing that bugs me is that he doesn't take sex seriously. So when I lost my virginity to him, I feel like I made a mistake. But he says he loves me and that anything in his past can't be compared to what he has with me. But I don't see how someone can go from flings to a serious realtionship (within a month's time). I am nothing special, I can't/didn't "magically" change him, so what's the deal?

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A female reader, Serene Katy +, writes (31 July 2006):

Serene Katy agony auntOh Sweetheart, don't even say you are nothing special. You probably have a good heart, and many other qualities that are sooo special. You could be the one he was looking for, time will tell.

You have given yourself physically now, be careful though, protect yourself against infections if he has a reputation. You could have all the qualities he is looking for and the fact he was your first probably means something to him too. Don't imagine the relationship has to be exactly the same for you as it was for the other women.

Give it a chance, doubts about you being any different from what has gone before could turn into a self fullfilling prophesy. Just a warning, bide your time before you give all your heart though, you will know soon enough if this is for keeps or a few months.

Enjoy the newness, it's early days yet.


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