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writes:I dated a guy for 2 months then he stopped responding to my messages one day. I didn't confront him about it or anything, I was actually about to be going on a trip so I didn't have time for the drama. 2 weeks later while I'm on my trip he tells me he just got my messages now and call him when I get back, he'd like to see me. I told him I didn't believe he just got my messages now and he just snaps at me and says "Lol, If I was going to break up with you, I'd just tell you. I wouldn't disappear on you, but I'm sorry if I offended you".Then he asks if he can call me and talk about it and I say sure, we arrange a time for him to call and he didn't call me and never spoke to me again. I didn't bother confronting him again because I didn't want him to know it bothered me. Did I do the right thing to not confront him? I feel like I didn't stick up for myself. Reply to this Question
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reader, agneeman  +, writes (23 December 2015):
 You did perfectly
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (23 December 2015):
 Sometimes, fading quietly in the the backdrop is the smartest thing to do. THIS is one of those times....
Good luck...
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reader, Been there Now over it +, writes (23 December 2015):
One possibility is that he found another romantic interest and his attention went in that direction. That fizzled and he came back to you. But whether he got your messages or not, it is a bit of a mystery as to why he stopped corresponding with you. In addition to being a flake, he is rude and very possibly a liar.
Be done with the guy. If he was your child you would be justified in confronting him so that he would learn not to do this again. However, in this case it would be a useless confrontation for you and you would just spreading negative energy and wasting your time. Good luck!
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reader, no nonsense Aidan  +, writes (23 December 2015):
I share the consensus opinion here. It’s not about sticking up for yourself: so what if you had stuck up for yourself and confronted him? It wouldn’t have changed anything if he’s a flake, which it sounds like he is. I wouldn’t give him another thought as he’s wasted enough of your time.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, Garbo +, writes (23 December 2015):
 You did good. You don't want to waste time on him. And don't let this get the better of you: him being neglectful about communications means you are nowhere on his priority list. Just go no contact, especially if he tries to contact you again.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (23 December 2015):
 You have done the right thing, he is obviously a time waster. Block his number and profile on any social networking sites and move on.
If he contacts you again with silly excuses simply let him know you are not interested in flaky time wasters, and leave it at that.
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