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writes:ah, I can't stop the way I feel and stay away..I love someone he loves me too but we can't be together coz plenty of reasons anyway, I have a health issue for years and it got worse in the last year. Recently, the medicine stop working I tried alot but doesn't work, my doctor told me that I'm dying and just have months to live he isn't sure how many.I didn't tell my bf about that even though he keep asking about what the doctor says. some days ago there was a problem in my family they doesn't accept my bf so he decided that it's better if we broke up as he doesn't want to cause any problem for me. I just want to spend what left for me with him but he keep pushing me away I don't know how to tell him that I can't it hurts and I don't mind putting myself in troubles. I don't want him to regret later..
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhe is acting like everything is just normal and nothing is happening, I really can't understand the way he act
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI told him, hope that I'm not gonna regret
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2010): No it'll make him feel obliged and guilty to stay with you
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questiondon't you thing that it's better if I let him go by doing that at least he would have the chance to move on so it won't be that painful to him
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2010): Girl, if he has asked for your hand in marriage, then he does love u! Please tell him the truth and give him the chance to cherish these last few months with the woman he loves! How sad, I am very sorry that you are ill.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (24 January 2010):
 Tell him of the prognosis, if he still wants to marry you and you want to marry him go for it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2010): Honestly IS THE ONLY POLICY HERE.
If your time is short and You want to spend the time left with your boyfriend... YOu are going to HAVE TO TELL HIM THE TRUTH-THE WHOLE TRUTH-AND NOTHING BUT THE TRUTH !!
You're refusal to tell your boyfriend everything about your feelings and medical condition is the same as lying,, and your behavior has the result of pushing him away.
If YOU want him that much and he is that important to you, you are going to have to confide everything to him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionit's getting more complicated he asked for my hand, I don't know what to do now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2010): I think your boyfriend is sensing your rebuff, pushing him away, when you do not tell him about your prognosis and what your outcome may be at the results your tests and discussions with your doctor reveal. He is sensing your wall and feels that you are rejecting him.
I think given your circumstances you should involve your boyfriend and fight for him with your family. At the very least why would they deny you a little happiness now that you are around to enjoy some emotional nurturing and support. While you are alive and may yet live a very long time -I hope you do- any nurturing that makes you feel good can only help you.
PLEASE SEE ANOTHER DOCTOR ABOUT YOUR CONDITION. THERE MAY BE ANOTHER DOCTOR WHO IS MORE EXPERIENCED WITH IT AND HAS A VIABLE SOLUTION.
BONNE CHANCE.
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reader, pinktopaz  +, writes (23 January 2010):
I think you should tell your boyfriend and I also think you should see another doctor.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (23 January 2010):
Tell your family you want to be happy in your last months and that means you want to spend time with your boyfriend.
They should accept that.
Once they do then tell him that they have changed their minds and you want to spend time with him because you are ill and don't know what the future holds.
I wouldn't tell him you are dying unless you have to. It's far better to know he wants to spend time with you because he likes you, and not because he feels he has to.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (23 January 2010):
If you family know of your illness surely they will allow the time you have left to be spent with the people you love, even if one of those people is somebody they don't approve of, I would tell him.
Let your family deal with it as best they can, that's their problem, after all their approval or not isnt going to make a lot of difference in the long run.
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