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After a 15 month relationship, should I , I'm 18, marry my boyfriend, or wait?

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Question - (1 December 2008) 6 Answers - (Newest, 6 December 2008)
A female United States age 30-35, *othic Wolf writes:

i am 18 years old and my question is should i marry my boyfriend, he is also 18 and we have been dating for a year and three months. i know i am young , but i want to know if the aunts from dear cupid think i should wait alittle longer

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A female reader, Gothic Wolf United States +, writes (6 December 2008):

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Gothic Wolf agony auntmy boyfriend lives in purto rico so it is a long distance relationship and the only time we see each other is on my breaks. he will move to where i live when he finishes college.

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A female reader, Emilysanswers United Kingdom +, writes (1 December 2008):

Why do you need to get married? Why spend all that money?

Why not carry on as you are and travel together and do amazing things together.

You are very young and you have not been together for very long. Has your relationship been tested at all or have you been together every day so you have never had a chance to check your feelings are real?

If you really are in love then you will have your whole lives to plan and save for your perfect wedding. If you rush into it now then you may regret it later.

Do something with your life before marriage kids and mortgages tie you down.

Good Luck!! xx

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2008):

If that is what you trully want then go and get married.

Just don't do it lightly, because thats how divorces happen.

If you can't tell if you love someone after a year and half of dating, then you shpuldn't get married.

Flynn 24

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2008):

From personal experience I believe you should wait. I married at 18 to a guy I really loved with all my heart and believed he loved me as well... I am now 24 and my divorce just finalized on Friday.

I didn't want to hear people tell me I was to young or anything like that I was determined that I could handle it and just because we were 18 we still had the same feelings we would have at 30 but I must admit I was wrong!

Getting married is huge and it effects the rest of your life honestly if you love each other and really see this relationship as being in for the long haul then wait a few years and both of you get your futures mapped out.

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A female reader, babyminow United States +, writes (1 December 2008):

babyminow agony auntif yall love eachother, and want to spend the rest of your life together. then waiting a couple of years wont hurt. i would go with wait! good luck

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A female reader, MzNonchalant United States +, writes (1 December 2008):

MzNonchalant agony aunt YES...I think you should wait a little longer. Your still young you two have years to get married. You don't need a ring to show your love for each other-you two being together is good enough.

I think with you two being so young, you should wait. Not only that but marriage is a HUGE committment! I don't think a year and 3 months is long enough for you two to be making BIG decisions like this.

When you get married will you two move in together? If so how will the bills be paid? How about the car note [if either you have a car]? Where will you get furniture from? How will groceries be bought?

I mean at the age of 18 wouldn't you want your space and time to explore and just have fun [with your boyfriend Ofcourse]! You don't need marriage for that.


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