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He wants to have sex, but i'm scared.

Q.   ok i'm 13 and me and my bf who is 14 have been going out for 3 in a half months i love him with all my heart but he wants to have sex in La in 2 weeks i want to but im scared i dont want to get pregnant what do i do HELP!!!!! plez ...

A.   13 August 2007: I can tell you that you are not ready to have sex yet. This is your mind and body letting you know that this is a bad decision and it's time to start listening to your instincts. This is a big choice for you to make and it should not be taken ... (read in full...)

My girfriend is travelling away from me and keeps telling me about men hitting on her; what's her purpose with that?

Q.   My girlfriend is out of my state for 6 weeks and will be traveling heavily for a year or more. Only one week into this new job and she is going to bars most nights and telling me about all of the men hiting on her. What is she trying to ...

A.   4 August 2007: She is obviously trying to make you jealous. Maybe she doesn't feel you give her enough attention anymore and she wants to let you know other men do find her attractive, or maybe she just wants to make you jealous to hurt you. Only you know this ... (read in full...)

I don't want to get so attached.

Q.   i get to attached to boys and i dont want to because it hurts a lot if something happens. help...

A.   29 July 2007: It sounds to me like you have some self-esteem problems and find it hard to 'exist' away from other people. Once someone, anyone, you like in the slightest comes into your life and gives you a bit of attention, you worship them and think you can't ... (read in full...)

I can't help but flirt.

Q.   Im a natural flirt...Im 20 (21 Pretty Soon) Anywasy everyone i meet (I mean everyone) I flirt with my girlfriend hates it and i keep telling her im not...I cant stop i mean i only notice it because people tell me my girlfriend is really emotional ...

A.   29 July 2007: You need to start thinking about your girlfriends feelings more and not focus on your own ego. Everyone flirts, it makes us feel good about ourselves and is often fun. However, when it is becoming destructive towards the serious relationships you ... (read in full...)

I'm still in love with my ex and he feels the same.

Q.   please help me! im still in love with ex boyfriend and the feeling is mutual.. our relationship is complicated because we constantly break up and get back together again. it seems like everyone is against us. wat do i do? please i need help...

A.   29 July 2007: Maybe the constant break ups should give you an idea that this relationship is not meant to be? No one gets on with their lover all the time but when it's that hard to even get along, surely that can't be true love? I know it can be hard, es... (read in full...)

My 'friend with benefits' is meeting a girl and I'm jealous

Q.   How deal with friends with benefits? My roommate and I have been "friends with benefits" for nine years. Tomorrow this girl he has been talking to is coming home. During this week he has mention her name to me more than once. For example, he said ...

A.   25 June 2007: This is the problem with 'friends with benefits' arrangements: it's very hard for a girl to think of it as 'just sex', like the guy can and we usually end up much more invested in the relationship than he and end up hurt. I don't advise these ty... (read in full...)

I've never had an orgasm even though I've had 8 lovers

Q.   I need help, Im, 25 and Ive never had an orgasm , Ive only been in 2 serious relationships but ive been with about 8 guys so I dont know what the problem is?...

A.   25 June 2007: I don't think you will ever have an orgasm with a guy if you have never had one alone. You're obviously one of us unlucky women who doesn't come easily so need to get to know their own body before someone else can pleasure you. I wouldn't... (read in full...)

Are all women are like this?

Q.   My fiance would only only accept me if i was nice to her all the time or no complaining to her, get angry on her and keep entertaining her with talking interesting things. Are these unrealistic expectations on her part or all women are like this?...

A.   13 June 2007: All adults are not like this, no. In a relationship there will be times when it's all fun and giggles but other times there needs to be seriousness and she has to understand this. You need to talk to her and see if she is willing to try and change. ... (read in full...)

I found out he cheated...because he gave me an STD!! Can I ever trust him again?

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend nine years. Recently found out he has cheated. Only found out as we ended up with a std due to him playing away. He then went on trying to tell me we must of had it all this time. Got the truth in the end but i don't fe...

A.   7 June 2007: I don't think you will ever trust him 100% again. Maybe he could earn some of it back but never all of it. That's just not the way we work: once the trust has been broken once, it takes a heck of a lot to get that back and sometimes, it's not even ... (read in full...)

People say I'm too young to be in a long term relationship - now I'm doubting us!

Q.   Hey, I'm 19 + have been with my boyfriend for 2 years. Just recently a few people have been saying that I'm too young to be in such a long term relationship + to be honest, it's making me starting to doubt us a little bit. I love him to piece...

A.   7 June 2007: Don't listen to what other people say. If you're having fun, enjoy it: letting them make you doubt it and losing him will make you resent them in the future. I personally think you may need some time to experience the world on your own, you only ... (read in full...)

I have horrendously low self esteem, so when my guy doesn't call I think it's because he doesn't care! Help!

Q.   I met a guy a month ago and, although we can't see each other very often (as he lives too far away) we get on really well and I think I'm falling for him. He's Italian and very passionate so we've already made love and he's expressed his love for ...

A.   7 June 2007: These are obviously problems with you that need addressing before you ruin what could be a really big chance of happiness for you. You've probably wrecked so many things throughout your life because you don't believe in yourself and this has to ... (read in full...)

If we had a baby would the baby have the cockney accent also?

Q.   Just an equiry really as i'm confused. My other half is a cockney. If we had a baby would the baby have the cockney accent also? Any advice would be great and very soon. Thanks...

A.   3 June 2007: A child can learn any language(s) it hears when it's growing up and it will also pick up the accent of those around him/her. If your partner has a cockney accent but he's the only cockney person it meets, it may say some words like him but will more ... (read in full...)

I have a boyfriend but just lately I've been having lesbian tendancies... I'm so confused.

Q.   Im straight and have a boyfriend but lately i have beeen thinking about being a lesbian i look at pictures of naked women and feel the need to masturbate. after i have masturbated i feel dirty but i still like boys :S im confused please help tara x...

A.   28 May 2007: I think this is normal: it's human nature to be turned on by sexual images, even if they are of something we do in our sex life. Don't be worried that you're a lesbian because you find this attractive, we all do! Don't worry about it, just enj... (read in full...)

Why do I never feel like having sex with my boyfriend?

Q.   I've been with my boyfriend for a year now and things are great but i never feel like having sex... other sexual acts are ok... but wen it comes to sex i never really feel like it. its not that hes bad in bed coz he's really good but i just never ...

A.   28 May 2007: This happens in most relationships: once the first few months has passed where you can't put each other down, this happens: you just get a bit bored and comfortable with it all and it's up to you two to get that spark back before it fizzles out ... (read in full...)

I can't just stop liking him. He's so perfect... one in a million. What do you think I should do?!?

Q.   Ummm well my sister has this friend Ray. And I really like him. Majorly. Everything he does is completely awesome. But he is probably the least liked guy at my school, simply because of the way he dresses. He doesn't really care about that and ...

A.   28 May 2007: Definitely don't change your plans for your life to get to know some guy. I know you think he's perfect but this is about your future - sort that out before you think about guys. Go to college and do what you wana do there, you'll only regret it in ... (read in full...)

I feel used! Had sex with me but wants to date other females! what's wrong with me?

Q.   i have slept with one of my mates from uni four times and have fallen for him. i thought he liked me because all the signs were there but he kissed someone infront of me the other night and keeps saying things like "i could shag her" (about other ...

A.   27 May 2007: You need to stop this because you're only going to get more hurt than you already are. Girls don't cope as well as guys with just having sex with someone, no strings, because we usually end up wanting more. You're fallen for this guy and he's being ... (read in full...)

Am I bad for feeling that my Dad may think my bf is weird?

Q.   Ok, say me and my boyfriend were out in the living room talking to my dad. I kept thinking "what if my dad thinks my boyfriend is weird" because i do call my boyfriend weird alot and he agrees. Anyways, i am not looking for reassuarance. Am i a...

A.   27 May 2007: I don't think you have anything to worry about. We all like to have the respect and aggreement of our parents, as we respect them enough to value their opinion. If you're worried your dad will think your boyfriend is weird, you're just worrying ... (read in full...)

Worried by my girlfriends sexual past...

Q.   Before my girlfriend I was a virgin, we have been dating for 5 months and its been great fantastic and wonderfull. Currently the main problem in our relationship is how I feel about her sexual past. Personally I have become gradually more i...

A.   22 May 2007: I have the same problem as you but my partner has been with over 100 women. I can't get over this and never will, you have to decide whether you can. I suppose part of it is jealousy: i.e. you wish you'd had these experiences as well as her, and... (read in full...)

We can't seem to have a baby! When's the best time of month?

Q.   i need some help, my husband and i have been trying to have a baby and it dont seem to work, we both have been to the doctors and we both are good to have a baby but i was wondering if any one can tell me when the best time to try is? period ...

A.   22 May 2007: The best time to get pregnant is 14 days after the start of your last period. But if yours are all messed up, it will be hard to see when is the best time to conceieve. You need to see a doctor to see why this is happening to you and to work out how ... (read in full...)

I have a "make other people happy complex". I feel guilt if I don't please people. Any advice as to whether this could be dealt with?

Q.   I have a "make other people happy complex" and i feel guilty if i am not able to make others happy at the place i go. I fear criticizm from my parents if i am not able to please the people i associate with wherever i go. That seems to be the only ...

A.   20 May 2007: I have exactly the same problem as you: I spend my life worrying about the way I make others feel, even though I never do anything to intentionally hurt people. I spend time worrying that I've annoyed or upset people who are rude or nasty to me! I ... (read in full...)

Husband wants a big party for the guys with beer and porn! I am worried about the neighbors and am against this. What should I do?

Q.   Apologies for the length of this but I am really really worried by my husband's idea. My husband told me he is holding a lads' party - in our house. He said the party rules are - no clothes, just your underwear, and bring booze and porn too, pl...

A.   20 May 2007: This doesn't sound much like a normal male party to me I'm afraid. I know the men I know couldn't think of anything worse than sitting around with a load of almost naked men watching porn! Sounds to me like he's got other plans and whether that's ... (read in full...)

How do i become friends with a guy without giving him the impression that I want a relationship?

Q.   Hi, this may well be a silly question but i thought id ask just in case you had any good advise. Well I'm a single 19 yr old female and i don't have any real guy friends which bugs me because i love guys company. I've been told that I'm quite ...

A.   17 May 2007: This is a tricky one because men seem to think than any woman who talks to them wants more than friendship. You just have to set up camp as soon as you start to interact with them. It's funny how quickly someone can form an opinion of you and what ... (read in full...)

Is a condom enough or should it be combined with pills?

Q.   Is using a condom enough whilst having sex or should I go on the pill too? ...

A.   17 May 2007: Both are good types of contraception but, as eyeswideopen said, none are 100% effective. If you want to be extra sure there can be no accidents, go on the pill and remember to take it religiously and use a condom. Plus, condoms protect you from ... (read in full...)

I'm missing the passion that I don't feel with my current boyfriend

Q.   hello, I need some advice please, i was with my ex for 18 months the relationship was hard work to say the least, but now im with a new partner we have been together for 4 months early days i know, but i find it too boring even, i hate to say that ...

A.   17 May 2007: You're placing so much emphasis on your ex, I don't think anyone will be able to live upto him until you have completely moved on. I don't know what you want from him, you said it was hard work, which usually means it wasn't all fun and games but I ... (read in full...)

Is my husband faking impotency or is he just passive by nature?

Q.   My husband is very warm, loving and tender but rather inactive in our love department. Is he feigning impotency or is he just taking an indifferent and passive stance?...

A.   15 May 2007: Maybe he's bored? Too comfortable? Or feeling low at the moment? Whatever the reason, there's only one person who can set you straight: him. Talk to him: you're married, talking about these things should be second nature to you two. Let him know... (read in full...)

My girlfriend gets annoyed when I don't stay errect. What can I do to make her understand it's not helping?

Q.   Me and my G/F have had sex about 4 times. Before we finally had sex I was a virgin and we had to try 3 times cause I kept losing my erection. Partly because of nerves and partly because of should I say this...Lack of Stimulation. 2 of the ...

A.   14 May 2007: I can see it from her point of view. She's probably inexperienced and embarressed when you lose your erection. You need to encourage her. If she's not done much of this before, it's a scary thought in case we do it wrong! Help her along, take her ... (read in full...)

Why do I always fall for people who are not interested in me?

Q.   I am sixteen years old and I have never had a boyfriend. I am not delusional. I know that I am not extraordinarily pretty. And I know that not everyone you fall for will feel the same way towards you. But, seriously, for me it's a repetitiv...

A.   14 May 2007: I think this is all about your insecurity. You're so worried about being rejected, you subconsciously go for guys you know you won't get so you can sit in the bubble of pity and it just goes round and round again. You're so used to the feeling of ... (read in full...)

How can I get my boyfriend to be more liberal in bed?

Q.   My boyfriend is very uptight in bed, but he doesnt mind me being open and I always lead him. Sometimes he just doesnt wanna have sex, but i always force him because we are not always together.... Sometimes I worry that he will think i am a whore, ...

A.   14 May 2007: You just have to talk to him about this. I'm sure he doesn't think you're a whore, we all have differing tastes about what we like in bed, you just have to find someone who enjoys things similar to your or someone who is willing to be open-minded ... (read in full...)

Can you tell me something to help get rid of the ugliness I feel I have?

Q.   Hi. I need some help, your the only people i can turn to for an honest opinion really. 1) I'm Ugly. People tell me im not. My friends tell me im not, but i know full well I am Ugly. I have spots, i have spot cream, and my features just ar...

A.   10 May 2007: You need to get to a place where you look in the mirror and YOU think you look amazing, and not care what others think but this can be a hard place to get to when you feel so low. I have periods in my life when I feel the way you do and I walk ... (read in full...)

He threw a couple of cushions at me and now my friends are saying he is violent and I should leave him.

Q.   Hi...... This weekend my boyfriend of over 1 year and me fell out. I know this happens all the time but we're currently buying a house together (i know it sounds soon but i've known him a lot longer) which is very stressful. His previous re...

A.   1 May 2007: This is a tough one: we all have stressful times but I think that violence only gets worse over time and, if he's throwing cushions now, what will he be doing a year from now? I'm sure he's really sorry about what happened but he can't be taking it ... (read in full...)

When she goes out with me it's jeans and a jumper but shen she goes out with friends she looks amazing!

Q.   Hi! I am 19 and dating my wonderful 28 year old Girlfriend, we have been together for around 10 months and now live together, but recently she has started to be really funny with what she wears, when she goes out with me its jeans and a jump...

A.   1 May 2007: I think she's just getting comfortable with you and doesn't feel the need to get too dressed up or anything. That's a good thing, it takes a lot of love and trust for a girl to get to that point where she knows you love her for her and not what she ... (read in full...)

I am afraid during sex that it will 'slip out' and hurt us - how do I cure my phobia?

Q.   I am aftaid during sex that it will 'slip out' and hurt us - how do I cure my phobia? I have been sexually active for 10 years, but 1 year ago I had a painful experience with a penis 'snapping' and he had to go to hospital. It hurt me as ...

A.   1 May 2007: I feel like this sometimes too, you just have to relax, as the muscles in your vagina contract when your tense and there's more chance of him coming out of you. Also, go slow and do an easy position, as anon said, and tell him not to pull too far ... (read in full...)

Our sex drives are different, I sought attention elsewhere, nothing happend sexually, but now she doest trust me!!!

Q.   Been married to a gorgeous girl for 3 years and we have a 6 month old daughter. I love my wife very much but we have very different sex drives. Mine is high and hers is low. When we don't have sex for a length of time I feel undesirable and I crave ...

A.   1 May 2007: I understand how you feel when she doesn't want to be intimate but you must understand how all this is making her feel. Sex is an important part of any relationship but it's not the 'be all, end all'. You need to make her feel special in other ways ... (read in full...)

We want a 3some with my best friend, But I dont want to lose either of them, what do I do ?

Q.   My fiance wants to have a threesome with me and my best friend. My best friend and I have had sex together twice, but he doesn't know about it. I quite like the idea and I am pretty sure she would be up for it, but I don't want to lose her or my ...

A.   1 May 2007: Absolutely not! There is obviously something there between you and her and bringing her into the bedroom will cause so many problems, it's just not worth it. I'm not saying don't experiment, if a threesome is something you both want to do, go ahead ... (read in full...)

My Bf and my best friend are at logger heads over who spends time with me! Help!!!

Q.   Hiya, Please Can Someone Help.. My Best Friend And My Boyfriend Always Argue With Each Other Over Who Spends More Time With Me I Try To Spend An Equal amount of time with them both, but they still find a way to argue over me. One Night They Had A...

A.   1 May 2007: These two people who claim to love you are putting you in a difficult position: you can't be expected to be able to choose between them and lose the other one! They need to grow up and learn to act like adults: no one's saying they have to like each ... (read in full...)

I think my partner is having a fling with a girl he works with-he called her name out while making love to me! I am devastated. Any advice?

Q.   I think my partner is having a fling with a girl he works with. They (with some others) went abroad working for around 4 weeks. I noticed when we were all out together she always went to the bar with him. When he got home he was annoyed with me b...

A.   29 April 2007: You're not being paranoid at all, I think he needs to think how this would feel if the shoe was on the other foot and you were obsessing over some guy and saying his name in the bedroom. I can't think of anyone who would put up with that, man or ... (read in full...)

My bf broke up w/ me b/c of the way I acted...but it was due to my depression! How do I get him back?

Q.   I recently found out that I'm suffering from depression and anxiety and that I have for a long time now (for a few years). My boyfriend broke up with me because I got frustrated about some details of getting home, got in a mood and walked out on his ...

A.   26 April 2007: It was insensitive of him to walk out when you needed him most but I can understand how he saw the depression as you just being moody and not easy to live with. From the outside, people don't understand and it's your job, now you know the reasons, ... (read in full...)

My husband is moody, abusive, controlling and hates my daughter! What can I do?

Q.   hi, i need advice, my husband of 1 1/2 yrs but been together for 3 1/2 yrs is a control freak,moody,and a very quick nasty temper(doesn't hit all verbal) when we meet he knew i had a teenage daughter which he got along with, now he hates her and ...

A.   26 April 2007: You need to take your life back. Your daughter is more important than this man, and so is your happiness for that matter. You say all this bad stuff about him, I think you've answered your own question and you just want other people to help you ... (read in full...)

Why is it that I can throw my self at guys that I'm not into but...not with the guys I like?

Q.   why is it that i can throw my self at guys that i'm not really into but not the one i really like and would want to be with? There's this guy who I really like and apparently he likes me too but i'm too afraid to let on anything to let him know that ...

A.   26 April 2007: I think it shows you're insecurities. You don't think these 'good' guys will be interested in getting with you so you go for the ones you know you can get with. This is perfectly normal, no one likes to be knocked back. But maybe it's time to do ... (read in full...)

I sometimes agree with the nasty things they say about my GF, should I finish it ?

Q.   ok me and my girlfriend are kinda having problems. i love her to death but my friends hatee her. non of my friends like and they say mean things that i sometimes agree with . should i keep her or dump her? please help me!...

A.   26 April 2007: This is typical of a young lad like you and you shouldn't feel bad about it. You're young and you want to be young so just embrace that and get out there and have some fun! Don't get tied down. Your friends call her because they're probably jealous ... (read in full...)

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