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All the signs are there to say he is cheating!
Q. My boyfriend is the kinda guy that is usually so nice and understanding and not the typical asshole, even when we're super bad and he knows im upset he tries to make everything better. Takes his blame and even some of mine.. and just complete ...
A. 30 January 2015: While it could be cheating, making this assumption is a bad call and no one should use this as an answer to problems. You have to look at the things that revolve around coming to a conclusion and ultimately deciding if the relationship is worth it ... (read in full...)
Does he not appreciate my virginity?
Q. My boyfriend and I have very different sexual backgrounds: he has had many partners but I have never had sex with any of the people I have dated. I'm 23 and I have always wanted to have sex with "the one" aka the person who loves me to death and I ...
A. 29 January 2015: I think all of the answers given are on the same train of thought. Do you know the difference between Patience and Waiting?
The main difference between the two is the attitude. There is nothing admirable about a woman that brags about sleeping... (read in full...)
I'm an underpaid nanny. What should I do?
Q. I've worked for this family for a bit over a year now. I'm honestly starting to feel like I'm underpaid compared to other Nannies. I m a certified nanny with CPR/ First Aid training. Hence I get paid 300 a week with no taxes taken out (7.50 an ...
A. 28 January 2015: I would honestly to find another family to work with and beef up your resume. I believe that managers should be proactive about their employees and offer betterment at all points of job milestones. If you bring up such discussions with your employer ... (read in full...)
How can I stop making my current boyfriend pay for the sins of my ex-boyfriend?
Q. [MOD NOTE - OP's title] My last boyfriend cheated on me and broke my heart. I never want to go through that kind of pain ever again. Because of this, I am having a very hard time trusting my current boyfriend. My boyfriend has done nothi...
A. 28 January 2015: Firstly, it is fine to depend on your partner for emotional support. It is not ok to dump your issues on said person expecting them to fix everything and prove your negativity right.
Life is full of mistakes and no one has lived a perfect ... (read in full...)
Blowjobs, snapchats, and exes! All are causing me to unhappy in our 6 month relationship!
Q. Girlfriend and I have been dating for 6 months. When we first started dating she spilled her sexual past with me despite my reservations. Initially I hated hearing it because it was much more than my own but I grew to love her and respect her past. ...
A. 27 January 2015: A nagging man or woman isn't sexy. Let's agree on that. So begging for a blowjob, you can imagine, isn't the most manliest thing you can do.
Concerning your girl friend and her actions, I honestly have no idea why she has her ex bfs on her list... (read in full...)
Should I stop hanging with my friend, his sister broke my heart?
Q. So I committed the sin of dating my best friend's sister. He was surprisingly very okay with it but I digress. The sister and I were really good friends before and she was in a shitty relationship and ended up leaving that guy and one thing led to ...
A. 25 January 2015: Go out and date some other girls, she is not worth losing a friend over. ... (read in full...)
I'm scared I'm dating this guy for security but nothing else!
Q. I am not sure if I ever want to get married or not. I hear a lot of people say single people are lonely and also that marriage is not for everyone. I can be very erratic in my decision making and change my mind many times before I get to where am ...
A. 25 January 2015: I think this relationship is very one sided and is therefore not healthy. You can not get to point C without starting from A and going through B. Life does not end when you are married with kids, it keeps on going. Having a compatible partner with ... (read in full...)
Motorcycle Picture on Facebook ask to be removed caused a breakup
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for 20 months. Both of us are twice married. Her second relationship was very, very bad. It hurts her badly to think of it. It damaged her emotionally and if she could, she has said it was the worse mistake she ...
A. 25 January 2015: It is a common misconception that women want to be on the edge of fixing things. You can not fix the past. While I am sure your suggestion logically meant no harm, these are her problems to deal with and as much as you want to understand and side ... (read in full...)
First she flirted a lot. Now she's not replying. What should I do? Try to contact her asap this week, or wait until next week?
Q. I met a great girl at a friends party on Saturday. She just flew in from the other side of the country since she is moving here (I'm in LA) and we both had a ton of common interests. She started up the conversation with me, playfully hit my ...
A. 23 January 2015: I think you should just take a step back and wait for her to message you if she is actually interested in you. She could have already changed into the party girl type...would not want to get your hopes up just yet. ... (read in full...)
My relationship got too comfortable too quickly, how do I fix this?
Q. I met an incredible man 2 months ago, and he is so amazing to me, he is kind, funny, smart, giving, thoughtful, considerate, hard working, and on top of that, he's handy, he cooks for me, and is adorable and handsome. I'm extremely lucky. Thin...
A. 22 January 2015: I think what we have here is just an issue of time. I believe that every other thing can be dealt with and worked out. The guy is obviously doing his best and includes you in his activities. For him, this is dating. For you, it might feel like there ... (read in full...)
I love her but the mental games are making me wonder
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been together for five years now. Our relationship has not been steady with three breakups coming from my end. I decided to break up three times because I realized her selfish ways were not changing. We used to have a very ...
A. 22 January 2015: Hi fellow Trini,
I would say that you have not mentioned any redeeming qualities and unfortunately it does not seem like the more you try, that she will ever come around. In fact it seems like she knows how to do just the right amount of "lit... (read in full...)
She's 18 and I'm 15. Met online. Never talked on phone. Never met in person. Should I do as we planned or what?
Q. Hello Aunts and uncles! So, I met this girl some time ago (maybe 6-ish months or more) she's 18 and I'm 15. We both have admitted to liking each other, and we've sent pictures of each other (her more than me because it's a bit more difficul...
A. 21 January 2015: Let's talk about things excluding the relationship.
You want to move out but what is your plan B? You have to take things into account if they were to not work out. What if the relationship does not work out and she kicks you out? What if you do n... (read in full...)
I'm caught between two best friends. What to do???
Q. **Don't just assume because of my age that I'm not worth your time, because I could really use the help please** God I can't believe Im actually going through with this..,well, yes I know I'm young but everyone knows that people always date when ...
A. 20 January 2015: To be straight, David is a good guy and has been there for you. It is easy to take these simple things for granted because a lot of people generally miss the things that matter the most.
I get that Cris is broken up and he needs comforti... (read in full...)
He talks a lot but never does what he says he will! I have to do all the planning.
Q. I am quite a bit distraught about my husband. We are married for 6 month, were dating for 2 years and then 1 year after proposal. He is a good man, good natured, generally happy. What I worry about is several of his qualities that started t...
A. 20 January 2015: Procrastination is the root of all evils....having said that I believe some wise men said to make sure to ask "more than once". Actually, asking only once is almost a sin. Nagging is normal in these situations and I fully endorse it. ... (read in full...)
We started to rekindle, but he can't let go of the past!
Q. Ran into my bf the week of new year's. We instantly felt the connection again and we started talking and went out a couple of times. We live in different states now so it's a little complicated. We decided to try to see each other again and keep ...
A. 20 January 2015: You might think he can not forget the past but it seems like you completely forgot the past. He is putting the blame on you and is quite literally, taking advantage of your kindness again. Where is the relationship if he blames you for his cheating? ... (read in full...)
He has 4 kids by different women! How do I ask him about this? How to continue to love someone with so many children?
Q. Dear cupid. Im 35 years old with no kids and never been married. Just met a guy i love so much, i went into his facebook account just to find out about before i can be serious about our relationship. To my suprise he has 4 kids with different woman ...
A. 20 January 2015: SO he left those women and does he even support those other kids? And you had to find out about it on his facebook account? Not sure that this is the guy you want to spend your life with. ... (read in full...)
Can my girlfriend overcome her troubled past enough for me to learn to trust her again?
Q. To give a quick run down on the situation, my girlfriend of now over 6 years and I have been through some horrible times. I will preface this by apologizing for the length of this, there was a lot to say! Firstly let me give you the ru...
A. 20 January 2015: I do not believe therapy is a solution with immediate results. Finding a therapist that suits you and are comfortable with is an expected challenge. A therapist wont immediately solve all of life's issues. Even when you find a therapist, it takes ... (read in full...)
Can my girlfriend overcome her troubled past enough for me to learn to trust her again?
Q. To give a quick run down on the situation, my girlfriend of now over 6 years and I have been through some horrible times. I will preface this by apologizing for the length of this, there was a lot to say! Firstly let me give you the ru...
A. 19 January 2015: I believe change is a choice and that anyone can change including cheaters. It does not mean that they actually do want to change nor would it mean that change is easy. Having said that, I would not continue a relationship after being cheated on ... (read in full...)
I'd like to stay friends but I know that'd be unwise currently.
Q. Should you tell your ex you're going no contact, or should you just disappear? My ex and I broke up after almost 1 yr. We talked daily for about a month afterwards. Then he invited me to see him for some talk and possibly sex. I turned him down....
A. 19 January 2015: You can tell him if you have made up your mind and you have your reasons figured out. If he does throw crap your way then do not be surprised by this. But at least you've said what you wanted. DO what makes you the most comfortable. ... (read in full...)
I'd like to stay friends but I know that'd be unwise currently.
Q. Should you tell your ex you're going no contact, or should you just disappear? My ex and I broke up after almost 1 yr. We talked daily for about a month afterwards. Then he invited me to see him for some talk and possibly sex. I turned him down....
A. 18 January 2015: Well...he's your ex and he wanted sex I guess he got upset that you rejected him. It's usually best to avoid communication after breaking and I am sure I do not need to say why. ... (read in full...)
I take an abnormally long time getting over relationships
Q. Hi Everyone, So, I am getting over a bad break-up that happened 7 months ago. The thing is, I general take a long time letting go of a relationship. Abnormally long I would say, we are talking several years. I have been to therapy over this issue ...
A. 18 January 2015: While I do agree that time heals all wounds, I think the willpower is just as important. You can't say "well I texted my ex a while ago which means I am still into him/hard to let go" but this is not how it works. You have to resist all contact and ... (read in full...)
Should I talk to him about putting off sex until he feels he can trust me again?
Q. I am in a rut in my relationship. Long story short I cheated, There was no physical cheating. I was texting my manager and deleting the messages..they were not in any way inappropriate but I knew the fact bothered my fiancee so instead of nipping ...
A. 18 January 2015: I don't think punishing him or yourself are methods of winning back trust (even though everyone wishes it was like this). Trust is something that has to happen over time and if you or he is not comfortable about something then I think you should be ... (read in full...)
She's completely undermined my sexual confidence with her comments about her ex
Q. Let me apologize in advance for another penis post . LOL I can relate to the commentS I have read about being rejected and worrying my penis is inadequate. I am average but thick. 6" long and 6" around and she still tries to make me feel goo...
A. 17 January 2015: I'm not really sure what advice you are looking for but you are the only one making things an issue and making things worse. Your own self pity actually makes you worse in bed and this is not manly at all. You say she is rejecting you but you are ... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm losing a friend. So should I just let it go?
Q. I've been friends with my best friend for almost 2 years now. We met via PSN (PlayStation Network) and met in person this past November in Washington, D.C when I was visiting family. He's the type of friend that I could always go to when I need ...
A. 14 January 2015: You guys are both young and have different life paths. Where you might feel like you are behind older people in your life and you have an urgency to catch up, he prefers to be laid back and he will do it when he sees the need.
I think problem ... (read in full...)
Can a single man genuinely love and accept a woman who has children?
Q. I am in the process of reconsidering my marriage due to a lot of mental abuse. I have told my husband about this. A few months ago I made an acquaintance with a man and he knew I was married and have 2 children. The fact that I have children did not ...
A. 13 January 2015: It is extremely possible for men to completely accept women even if they have kids. A lot of men don't even see this as anything negative but something instead to look forward to. I think, though, you should slow down and do one thing at a time. ... (read in full...)
I'm fed up with letting the past year haunt me!
Q. Hi everyone. Can I firstly say thanks to everyone who reads this questions and reply. Please don't judge me as I'm finding it hard hence why I'm asking for advice. Il try to cut it short. Me and my boyfriend started dating when I was only 16. Fiv...
A. 12 January 2015: A sad story but the way I see it, is that anyone can change but it does not happen over night. You will need to start from baby steps, small ones and give up the habits of checking his actions. I'd imagine 5 months of bad behavior seems like a bad ... (read in full...)
He's always ditching family things
Q. Been with my bf for five years, broke up three times within that time...he's 14 years older and now, we're trying again. My little sister (10) is the most important person in my life, he knows this. Lately, he's complained we never spend time etc so ...
A. 12 January 2015: Seems like this relationship is going no where so I do not think you are over reacting. ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is becoming distant and cold!
Q. I know this sounds kind of common but my boyfriend is becoming very distant and cold fast. I'll tell him something that's important in my life right now, and he seems to ignore it and either try to talk about something unrelated or basically tell me ...
A. 10 January 2015: How does he treat his mother? Are you finding yourself having to baby his feelings? Then I would advice to step back and give him some room to grow. Surely, his crazyness does not have to stop you from enjoying life :) ... (read in full...)
Nobody wants to be my friend once they see me!
Q. I am a quieter , non scene gay, feminine female and I have been trying to meet women for f/shop and dates online for years, on and off. Resting at times and these pas 2 t months becoming active in searching again. I have made a 3 friends, who ...
A. 10 January 2015: There is more to it than you are willing to admit.
Attraction is visual and this is just human nature. You do it as well whether you agree or not. Your photo may not be conveying something that sparks an interest. No one is asking you to change t... (read in full...)
Its only been five months but he is pushing me to move in
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for 5 months. I am 32 and he is 37. Both of us never been married without children. He is being kind of pushy lately about us progressing forward. Meaning wanting to move in together, looking for rings, and talking ...
A. 10 January 2015: Five months is not enough time.
No one should ever pressure you with their own goals and dreams.
It is hard to gauge if his actions are genuine, reason being he might just say anything you want to hear just so he can meet his goals.
I do ... (read in full...)
Why would a man be so stingy?
Q. I (25/F) and Art (30/M)recently broke up from a 1 year relationship. The problem: he barely paid for our dates, even after I told him it bothered me. He wants to get back together, but I'm unsure. Art is a smart, sensual, and charismatic man....
A. 10 January 2015: Never let your standards drop. If you don't like things and you've considered his situation more than enough times then make it known that its not acceptable and you are not budging. With some guys they only try their best when they feel like the ... (read in full...)
Got no response from him. Should I write back and tell him what I think about him?
Q. Hello everyone, I posted a question here not too long ago about a man who had shown me tons of interest and who gave me long gazes, and asked me to go visit him at his work place and repeatedly asked me to call him. When I wrote him an email a f...
A. 7 January 2015: Sometimes being nice can be taken as a sign of flirting. It can't be help in today's society.
I don't really see why you are upset by this. It is not like you two were dating and I don't think he did anything so grand for you. You "sending... (read in full...)
My married boyfriend of two years is torn. He cannot give me up but he cannot leave his marriage. How do I handle this?
Q. I have deep feelings for a man who has been married for 20 years. I have been with him for almost 2 years. It happened because I suppose we met at the right place and the right time and we had this undeniable connection... right from the very st...
A. 6 January 2015: Seems like you both have manipulated each other into a fake relationship.
There are 2 things I want to point out here.
He has no commitments with you so any relationship you think you have or will have, will never happen else it would have h... (read in full...)
Confused about an ex?
Q. Hey guys first time I ever used this site and I guess there is a lot to my question so I'll get down to it. So me and my ex girlfriend were together for 5 years and some change. We recently broke up a few months ago because of family issues ma...
A. 6 January 2015: Not sure if I was reading an erotic novel or someone needing advice but here goes.
You are looking for answers stemming from an already unclear relationship. You went to her place knowing that you both did not have a status. And even though y... (read in full...)
We've been dating for 2 years and I've never met his friends or family?
Q. Hey everyone, so I have two issues I need help with. The first one is my boyfriend or whatever you wanna call him we broke up in June but then worked through it and he moved back in. But we aren't boyfriend and girlfriend. We do everything boyfriend ...
A. 4 January 2015: You said, he "moved back in"? I may not understand the lifestyle too well but I don't think you should let "someone" live with you if you aren't sure about the relationship, much less who he is as a person. It does not seem like he has any close ... (read in full...)
I verbally abuse my boyfriend!
Q. I verbally abuse my boyfriend and I am aware that it is wrong. However, I do it so he can pay attention to me. This time I did it while visiting his job. He ask me for a hug and I told him that I did not want to hug him. Then, I proceeded to tell ...
A. 30 December 2014: At the end of the day you are your own enemy. An intuition is poor excuse to mistreat someone, irregardless of who they are. If you are finding the relationship is not working out, I think talking this out is the best answer and if that doesn't ... (read in full...)
Should my b/f have told hix ex why I blocked ber on facebook?
Q. My boyfriend of six months has a really hot ex girlfriend. I have spent a lot of time looking at photos of her on Facebook and feeling jealous. She dumped him after a few years together and he was heartbroken. I decided to block her on Facebook so ...
A. 30 December 2014: I can see why you have issues with this ex if your bf can just immediately tell her your weaknesses/insecurities. If he doesn't understand why, try to break it down to him in terms of you telling another guy how your boyfriend doesn't like him ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's mother won't let go
Q. Sorry that this is pretty long! Hope this doesn’t sound selfish, but she’s driving me crazy! I kind of feel like this may be too soon to address this issue in the relationship, since we have only been dating for a short while (9 more days until ...
A. 20 December 2014: It is too soon in the relationship to address the family issues. Further more, you should not be spending so much time in his mother's place. Going out is fine but you really do not need to stay over at his place. And if staying over is the only ... (read in full...)
How to tell a friend he/she can't stay in your apartment?
Q. I have no idea how to tell my friend that she can’t stay with us this spring. And this is just a tip of the iceberg. Background: We’ve known each other for about 15 years. We have common interests and I love our talks. We have fun together. Our li...
A. 11 December 2014: True, a well said piece of advice right there. Change begins with "you". You can't expect someone else to change if you don't try as well.
I hope it all works out either way, let us know how she reacts :) ... (read in full...)
Is he just playing me? Could he really like me? Or has he met someone else?
Q. I met a man on an online dating site. We exchanged long emails for about a month before meeting, out of circumstance. When we met things got pretty intense quickly. He obviously liked me a lot (I liked him too) and he started sending a lot of text ...
A. 11 December 2014: I am not sure if it makes any difference if you knew his reasons for disappearing, but the guy is married and those kinds of relationships seldom go anywhere. Don't put your heart where it doesn't belong. ... (read in full...)
I don't want to pay for her martinis and lobster plate.
Q. I have a question on what to do in this situation., We go out once a month with my girlfriends. we usually split the check equally., We noticed long ago that one of the girls when we re out orders in exess. By that I mean: she orders always t...
A. 11 December 2014: Separate checks, or just plainly say you are not paying that much extra and the other person has to put up their own share. You all are adults and even with my group of friends, we make sure everything is at least fair. ... (read in full...)
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