He says he 'has to think about things" before deciding if I am his girlfriend
Q. So, I've been kind of seeing this guy for about a month now. We hang out a lot, call each other and text. We haven't told anyone about our "seeing eachother" status, except a couple of my friends know. We haven't had "the talk" yet, where we confirm ...
A. 25 November 2008: Until a boy reaches about 25 years old, there isn't much you can expect from them as far as committed relationships are concerned.
Not a great analogy but boys are like cake in a way. Its not cake until its been in the oven for the full amount o... (read in full...)
I feel as if I'll never be completely happy in my marriage.
Q. Here's my situation. I am 25 years old. Me and my wife have been married for 3 1\2 years and have a 3 year old girl. Our relationship is rocky at best. I love her but I don't get the same respect from her as I give. I have put up with it for 4 years ...
A. 25 November 2008: Being a mother is hard work and will put you in a very bad mood. I think she means she has nothing to do other than be with her child all day.
She might just feel overwhelmed and that is why she isn't respectful of you. That perhaps she thinks y... (read in full...)
Should I allow him to date a girl whose mother may or may not approve?
Q. My 16 year old son (junior in high school) is dating a very nice 16 year old girl. The problem is her mother does not know. Quick history: during their freshman year, Kevin and Lindy, dated briefly. The mother was aware of the relationship and very ...
A. 25 November 2008: Damned if you do, damned if you don't.... (read in full...)
My Mom's drunk BF harassed me and I'm afraid to tell her the truth!
Q. hi i'm 18 and life has never been better for me up until a week ago. i was staying with my mom because she hasn't seen me in a while and wednesday she had to work so i was at her house with her husband. it was his day off and with him being an ...
A. 25 November 2008: Where is your father? It might be better to let him take care of that. You are right,some mothers rather stay in denial about that. Can you ask her if she knows how much he drinks? She will be furious at him when she finds out and there will be ... (read in full...)
Is this how you become gay?
Q. Hi, I have a major problem. I am 14 turning 15 and my whole life I have been sexually attracted to women, I can tell you that. And it's not like because of the society I live in I liked girls to be like others, but I really liked girls. But star...
A. 25 November 2008: When I was 12 I got crushes on anyone who was nice to me, male or female... teachers or neighbors. I never had sexual feelings at that age, but I always had a crush on someone.
Actually, I didn't know about straight or gay back then. I even had... (read in full...)
How do I ask my Mom for tampons without embarrassing myself?
Q. this is more of a female question. I'm 14 and iv had my period since 6th grade but i hate wearing pads.....i feel like i'm sitting in blood and that's nasty. i want to ask my mom if i can do tampons instead but i don't know how....iv hinted...
A. 24 November 2008: What about ... these damn maxi pads are so nasty, what about those cotton push ups? LOL Not funny, sorry. But I do remember being very embarrassed. I think I had a friends older sister buy them for me.... (read in full...)
His best friend is a girl! Is this normal?
Q. Is it normal for a guy to have a best friend who is a girl? My boyfriend's best friend is this girl he has been friends with for 5 years, and any time he tries to tell me about how he can be he always says "just ask (friend's name) she'll tell you ...
A. 24 November 2008: I've had many male friends as just friends. Not all friends like each other in a sexual way. If he says brother/sister, no doubt this is true. Don't worry.... (read in full...)
What should I do to ask him and get him to tell me the truth?
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for over 2 years now. His best friend is always around us and me and his friend have always gotten along. Over the past couple of months the best friend and i have gotten close and i have developed feeling about ...
A. 24 November 2008: Leave the best friend alone! It doesn't matter what he thinks at this point unless he is ready to have one less best friend. But remember this, he will always know that you are a two-timer and will never have 100% respect for you. I say, let it go ... (read in full...)
He stripped down to a candy g-string and I burst out laughing. Now he's not talking to me!
Q. Ok, my boyfriend come home last night stripped down to a candy g-string, I was so shocked I burst out laughing, now he isn't talking to me. What are you suppose to do? HELP !!!!...
A. 24 November 2008: Laughter is sometimes just a nervous reaction. I guess he thought he looked pretty good? LOL ... (read in full...)
Has my online man lost interest in me?
Q. I met this guy through an online dating site. I responded to his profile and He immediately responded back. after a couple of messages we sent back and fourth I ended the conversation given him my email address. He sent me an email message the next ...
A. 24 November 2008: Sometimes real life happens. There is no way to know if he is married, or has a girlfriend, or just got out of prison! You just don't know who he really is or what he really does. Best to meet people after contacting them, and someone near by.
... (read in full...)
We aren't allowed to see each other, and my heart is broken.
Q. myself and my girlfriend split 2 weeks ago under strange a very strange situation. neither of us decided to call it a day but because of problems with the neighbours and a fight we had i was not allowed to contact her or go near the address. for the ...
A. 24 November 2008: Don't panic. If she loves you just give it time - you never know what to expect tomorrow. She might just need time to think things over.
Tell her when you speak next that its up to her and for her to give you a call when she is ready. In the mean... (read in full...)
A little blood and slight pinching after masturbation...
Q. Hello! I was just looking for some advice/ information. My boyfriend and I live together and have been dating for sometime. He left for work and school today, its my day off. Anyways I was missing him and was a bit horny so i masturbated, shortly ...
A. 24 November 2008: Sounds like a question for an actual doctor. ... (read in full...)
I love a married man! I don't expect him to leave his wife, but I suffer so much when not being with him, what can I do??
Q. hello, i dont want any hurtful or rude comments, iam writing to everyone here because i think this is a site for evryone to write about their problems and feeling's. Well, iam seeing a married man. i have ben seeing him for 2 1/2 years now. i got ...
A. 24 November 2008: --- i rather be with him than anyone else because other man have lied to me and hurt me and deceived me ----
But he is lying and deceiving his wife and family. WHich makes him a dirt bag. He is obviously manipulating you and until you have the... (read in full...)
How do I know if I'm ready for sex?? And why is he acting like this??
Q. i am 13 and i have a boy friend who is 13 to. i dont no wat to do we have been going out sence we were ten and havent broke up once our relation ship has been the best thing that has ever happend to me in the world. well my boyfriend asked me one ...
A. 24 November 2008: Sorry to be mean about this, but if you can't spell, you aren't ready for sex. Stick to your studies!
Take heed to Dr. John!... (read in full...)
Everybody says I'm cute! But why don't guys ever hit on me??
Q. Why dont guys hit on me?!! I need advise!!? People always tell me i am one of the nicest and kindest people they know. Girls also constantly tell me on how pretty i am and how they wish they were as pretty as me. I constantly get stares or looks fr...
A. 24 November 2008: If guys at your age aren't hitting on you that is actually a good thing. They are more interested at this age in a lot of girls and a lot of sex. They probably see you as a decent girl with morals and won't put out.
So, don't worry. In a few year... (read in full...)
I'm engaged to be married but can't get this other guy out of my head! Am I making a mistake here? Should I call the wedding off?
Q. Hi everyone, I'm engaged to be married next year but haven't set a date yet, however, my fiance and I broke up in Febuary and I went on a date with a work colleague. When my fiance and I got back together my colleague moved to another branch a...
A. 24 November 2008: You are too young to get married! If you still love another its not fair to your current boyfriend or you either. If you aren't 100% with a man, why plan on spending the rest of your life with him?
25 years old is the youngest anyone should r... (read in full...)
Me, my boyfriend, and my ex-best friend / his ex-girlfriend have history, and he's still friends with her. Help?
Q. Okay, there is a long story behind this question, so please bare with me while I try to summarize it: Basically, my current boyfriend is friends with his ex-girlfriend/my ex-best friend. Me and my boyfriend (I'll call him Eugene), have do...
A. 24 November 2008: This is why people should stick to one person and stop meddling in other's affairs. No way out of this mess until you meet a different set of people and don't create so much drama.
This is a learning situation. Hopefully you learned and won't re... (read in full...)
Am I just another student or am I special to her? Do I tell her how I feel?
Q. Hey I really love my teacher. Have always but i am very shy and never spoke to her really. I was always her favourite student. Recently we have been IM each other and i've even visited her. Im leaving school now and i'm gonna miss her. She said she ...
A. 24 November 2008: Each student is special in their own way. It is very very common for students to "be in love" with their teachers. Just tell her you will miss her, you love her and then just stay in touch. But don't tell her you have romantic feelings. Just love ... (read in full...)
Is my online date just playing around with me, or what is going on? Should I agree to meet with him, or not?
Q. My problem starts when i met this guy in a chat room which i frequent often,however after chatting a couple of times,things were starting to change,and we started to connect,of course he told me these feelings will get more serious ,which it ...
A. 24 November 2008: I have yet to understand how people "love" people they have never met and are only words. You need to examine your projecting an ideal on a phantom person who exists in cyberland only - from what you said, you haven't met.
This is a very unstable... (read in full...)
My husband had an affair and now she and her sister won't leave me and my family alone! What can I do to stop them bothering us?
Q. Heres my problem my husband had a brief affair with neighbor we lost our home his Job we are doing better we went to counseling and keeping our family together. She is also back with her husband well i keep getting messeges from her and her sist...
A. 24 November 2008: Record the phone conversations and press charges for harassment.
When they call try to keep calm. Not get pulled in to the drama. Have a phone machine that records or something to record the calls and just keep saying uh huh uh huh...
You can... (read in full...)
Can someone please help me to untangle my love life?
Q. Ahhhh I suck at relationships! It's pissing me off! I'm 19 and I love my ex boyfriend more than anything, and he's in love with me. But he moved away a while back, so we're not together. I don't fancy a long-distance relationship. So that's Guy #1. ...
A. 24 November 2008: You have to know that boys love to gossip.
If you enjoy being passed around, don't mind having a reputation, and you don't get hurt, well, I don't know what to say to make it less complicated. Does having sex with all these boys really bring yo... (read in full...)
Am I simply his 'odd encounter'?
Q. Started seeing this guy 6 months ago, and found out 2 months ago that he is married. He is in a sexless marriage - of course that is only heresay! I only get to see him about once a month as he's often away on business, and is terrified of...
A. 24 November 2008: He's a cheat and a liar for waiting so long to tell you what's going on.
If you're fed up now, it will only get worse and that's reality. Sorry that you fell for a lying cheater. If you stick around he will see how easy it is to take advantag... (read in full...)
I keep having vampiric sexual fantasies.. whats going on?
Q. My problem is I've discovered some strange things about myself.I think I'm bisexual and I'm completely in love with my best friend (I'm female and I'm 16), I think about her all day and all night, recently I explained to her my feelings. She told me ...
A. 24 November 2008: Perhaps you might try writing short stories and publishing them. A much healthier activity for sure.
I recommend Poppy Z Brite stories in case you need an example for your own creativity.
Best not to get mixed up in all that darkness in real... (read in full...)
Will my true feelings interfere with us being "friends with benefits"?
Q. Just recently my best friend had suggested we have a friends with benefits with her and I accepted. We're both 16 and know about safe sex and everything but there's one problem, I've always liked her more than just a friend but never told her.... ...
A. 24 November 2008: Condoms break or come off... are you ready to chance being a father accidentally or end up with an std?
Its really sad to see how young children these days are getting mixed up in all this random sex. Sex is not just a physical activity. Your emo... (read in full...)
He has been a cheater all his life, do you think he will ever change and finally become a faithful loving husband?
Q. I have a friend who has been a cheater for most of his life. He played a game with two women for about 6 years. The one women he had for about 8 years (she was married), after 2 years he picked up another women, he could keep them separate due to ...
A. 23 November 2008: Right, he's spiritual! LOL He's so full of himself. LOL... (read in full...)
Is she trying to do the right thing or is there another agenda here?
Q. Hoping people can give me a bit of a hand here. I broke up with a guy at the end of August. I was feeling bad about it for a bit but am much better now and am dating again and having fun. He has a new girlfriend. I have seen them together and I have ...
A. 22 November 2008: Yeah, sounds like she is being helpful so you don't get hurt and is nervous for you. At least that's what it sounds like in your description.... (read in full...)
He want's to commit, I don't like his personality, Is it time to break up?
Q. I just started dating a man an after a month he is asking for a commitment. Not marriage but he wants me to tell him it is him and only he that I will be dating because he wants to see where this will go. I don't want to lose his friendship but I ...
A. 22 November 2008: How to get out of it is the problem. All you can say is that you don't share the same feelings and you are sorry. That you are not interested in a serious relationship at the moment.
Its not a good idea to remain friends because he will become m... (read in full...)
I feel like there's something wrong inside of my head and I need guidance.
Q. I really hope this doesn't sound stupid. :( In the last few years, I've had a few problems in my life, as everyone does. My brother attempted suicide two years ago and it kind of put my family in a really awkward situation.. Like, everyone was los...
A. 22 November 2008: This is not about complaining when you are in serious emotional pain, but want to convince yourself its not a big deal... otherwise, to deal with the pain could be more than you are comfortable with.
You have experienced a lot of loss so please b... (read in full...)
I like my boss, I think he feels the same, but we both have partners and he has kids!
Q. What do I do, the chemistry is there, the eye contact is there, we still blush even though we've been working together 3 months now. I think about him almost everyday and when he goes home on a friday im the last person he says goodbye to and he ...
A. 22 November 2008: some crushes can last years. Thing about it is, sometimes its more fun to just admire someone without getting involved. If your heart is racing, it doesn't mean love, that is anxiety! LOL
Just enjoy liking him and the excitement it brings, ... (read in full...)
I like my boss, I think he feels the same, but we both have partners and he has kids!
Q. What do I do, the chemistry is there, the eye contact is there, we still blush even though we've been working together 3 months now. I think about him almost everyday and when he goes home on a friday im the last person he says goodbye to and he ...
A. 22 November 2008: Just because he might be attracted to you doesn't mean there is a void in the relationship. Men never have enough women. Office romance happens every day and has ruined many lives for those in existing relationships.
Don't fool yourself thinking... (read in full...)
How do I tell my 14 yearold boyfriend that I am pregnant?
Q. I am 14 years old and about 3 months pregnant. My family already knows and was upset. Now they are dealing with it. However my boyfriend (14 years) does not know. We had sex for the first time and used a condom. I got pregnant anyway. I am scared of ...
A. 22 November 2008: Maybe your parents need to speak with his parents.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is acting distant and won't talk to me.....
Q. Hi, I really could use some advice concerning my girlfriend. We have been seeing each other for about a year. I am 30 and she is 39. She works two jobs and I work and go to school, so we would really see each other on the weekends and onc...
A. 22 November 2008: This is indeed a very confusing situation. Just leave her a message to say you are confused about what is going on. You aren't a mind reader and if she won't open up to you - that you are at a loss. Then tell her its up to her to contact you. Does ... (read in full...)
I can't move on...
Q. hi me and my boyfriend broke up in the summer and since then he has moved on with a girl in my college. and i have tried so hard to move on-i've met some guys but i've never been that into them eventhough they are perfectly fine and i am trying r...
A. 22 November 2008: I know what you are going though! Its very difficult to heal from a broken heart, but you will eventually.
Stay away from him as much as possible. The less you see him, the easier it gets.
Your feelings are normal and difficult to deal with, bu... (read in full...)
Our relationship has gone KABOOM! How do I get us back on track?
Q. Look i need help on how to get back in line with my relationship. I love this girl and we hit it off great but after 5 months things just seemed to go kaboom, i really need someone to help me patch up my mistakes and help me get us back on track. ...
A. 22 November 2008: Either write her a letter and tell her all the things you feel bad about and want to apologize for or call her and tell her. Maybe that would help?... (read in full...)
I feel like there's something wrong inside of my head and I need guidance.
Q. I really hope this doesn't sound stupid. :( In the last few years, I've had a few problems in my life, as everyone does. My brother attempted suicide two years ago and it kind of put my family in a really awkward situation.. Like, everyone was los...
A. 22 November 2008: You have been though A LOT of intense emotional trauma! You really need to find a caring adult to talk with. It is very normal to be depressed with everything you have been though, all the loss and abandonment! You seem like a very caring and strong ... (read in full...)
Can a boy kiss a girl he doesn't love?
Q. hey everybody this question might be stupid but i am really thinking about it i kissed a boy on our 3 date but i knew him for 3 weeks before that i am afraid he doesn t love me or he just like me he did not said i love u but he asked all the time ...
A. 22 November 2008: Attraction is not love. Infatuation is not love. Try to take things slow and please be patient for love to develop. If a boy respects you and doesn't pressure you to have sex, that shows more love than a kiss. But certainly a boy is going to kiss a ... (read in full...)
How can I get him out of my head and have him not affect me in the future?
Q. I cant get over a guy i met couple months ago. When we first was talking everything was going good, till I found out that he was bestfriend with my Ex.... Of course ex's get jealous so he basically brain wash the guy i liked n told him differe...
A. 22 November 2008: Nature will take care of that for you. In the future though I suggest you stay away from one night stands as it results in emotional torment, as well as embarrassing moments, (though the throwing up is funny!) a reputation for being easy to use and ... (read in full...)
There are things my boyfriend does that upset me, am I too sensitive?
Q. Hello, I have been with my boyfriend for a year in febuary. Thursday night we we're on the phone talking about someon on the telly and he said what the one with masive boobs and I said yeah, how do you know shes got massive boobs and he said well ...
A. 22 November 2008: He is too young to act like a man. You'll need patience and keeping your emotions in control in order to show him the way a girl likes to be treated. IF he is rude, tell him he's rude and don't get in an argument. If he continues being rude and ... (read in full...)
What should I get my boyfriend of six months, for Christmas?
Q. What do i get my bf of 6 months for christmas? thanks!...
A. 22 November 2008: Making a music cd for him is always good. That way there is much for him to think of you with!
... (read in full...)
I am depressed, have a girffriend who understands me, but I don't want to lose her by talking about my problems, what should I do?
Q. I'm a freshmen in highschool and me and my girlfriend have been going on a good six months now,and we love eachother.We don't see eachother alot,but we don't care because we're both willing to try and be comitted. But the problem with me is that I'm...
A. 22 November 2008: When anyone considers killing themself its only because they wish things would change. Depression comes and goes. Its part of life unfortunately.
You are correct in not discussing it with your friend. Meds only make things worse. Maybe that's w... (read in full...)
People keep calling me frigid!
Q. I went out with a boy in my year for about 3 weeks and we didnt kiss, and we only hugged about once! He dumped me yesterday because he didnt think that it was going very well. But now everybody in my year thinks that i am frigid and now none of ...
A. 22 November 2008: If he dumped you for not giving him what he wants, he is using you. Most boys his age are experimenting with girls and they will call you names to pressure you to give them what they want.
You are too young to get mixed up with boys and sex. If ... (read in full...)
He has been a cheater all his life, do you think he will ever change and finally become a faithful loving husband?
Q. I have a friend who has been a cheater for most of his life. He played a game with two women for about 6 years. The one women he had for about 8 years (she was married), after 2 years he picked up another women, he could keep them separate due to ...
A. 21 November 2008: You have to be kidding (yourself that is). This is a really messed up asshole and unless you have a magic wand, I suggest you run away like hell.... (read in full...)
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