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23 December 2009: Hey all RAINORFIRE here just want to say HAPPY HOLIDAYS Wishing everyone the best in the up coming new year, Spend some quality time with the ones that are important in your life live to the fullest and make the best of life. This is t...
Women who need to take control
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21 December 2009: Hello all RAINORFIRE here, OK Thanks to the Blizzard of "09" i had time to write this. The topic is Women who need to take control. There are many post on here where Females are telling the tail of the jerk boyfriend or husband whose ...
Failure and weak men
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21 December 2009: Well hello all Its RAINORFIRE, I felt it is about time I jump into the mix. I have something to talk about, Men who are weak Cheating seems to be a huge issue it always has in relationships then there's the porn, post after post wives ...
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I know I should wait to have sex, but I think I'm ready.....is this the right choice?
Q. im 14 and like other teen girls i think about sex A LOT and i think im ready to have sex with my boyfriend but im scared of the pain or what could happen if we (Im) not carefull......you might think "oh all he wants is sex" not really i told him i ...
A. 20 June 2011: hmmm iguess it could go two ways the sex can be amazing the first time or a complete disappointment... in my opinion when you gotta sneak around its not as fun.. you wouldnt even be able to tell anybody about it. I think you should wait untill you ... (read in full...)
What am I to him? Why did he lie about having a girlfriend?
Q. I am super confused and i need relationship advice now so here is my scenario: I recently started going to a new high-school and i met a new guy. I have never been the dating type so i was a little skeptical at first. We kept our distance from e...
A. 20 June 2011: you need to end your sordid relationship with this guy...stop calling him fawning over him thinking about him its time to move on.let him live his life hes lying because he caresabout you im sure and doesnt want to hurt you and your not making it ... (read in full...)
Living in a foreign country and about to return home, my ex has asked if I can buy her some jewellery which she will pay for - shall I buy it? Should I tell my wife?
Q. Hi guys, I have been living in a foreign country for two years with my wife and plan to return to our home country soon. Yesterday, my ex surprised me with a call asking me to buy her some jewellery but made it very clear she would pay for it. I ...
A. 20 June 2011: yeah ask your wife shes your partner and should be your second counsel right after God. lol i dont think you should buy your ex anything its a global economy she can get the same imporetd jewelry at wallmart imported straight from jersey made in ... (read in full...)
Should I ask her if she likes me?
Q. hi i posted a question yesterday but it got misinterpreted so here it is in a different way. so ive know this girl as a friend for 10 months i have liked her ever since i first met her. she has sort of given signs to say that she likes me but i h...
A. 20 June 2011: interesting... this cold go several ways but if your posting in here i doubt you have what tit takes to pull the best ways off...
I would do this.. walk up to said hot chick and start a conversation basically focusing on how hot she is... eventual... (read in full...)
My ex ignores me completely, but I feel I need closure
Q. My friend is currently going out with an ex of mine.They have been goin out since march and im still slightly in love with him but im happy that him and my friend have a good relationship and are happy with each other. When we broke up and it got a ...
A. 20 June 2011: why did you break up? You sound like a nice woman and rational... im guessing you didnt cheat on him.. but whatever happened hes really pissed off... why dont yo ask your friend to mediate.. she might not want to get involved.. maybe hes afraid his ... (read in full...)
Should I one day try and have sex with a woman? To see if it will stop these feelings?
Q. I am a 39 year old 'male ' and have never had sex, not even a kiss!I was very,very,very,very, shy when I was growing up. I could not dare go near a girl!!!! One day when I was off ill form school , age 14-15, I wondered what it was like to be ...
A. 15 June 2011: hmmmm.... hmmmmmm..... hmmmm...... Well its worth a shot.
You might be surprised women arent so bad yah they nag and whine and have predictable moodswings but there often very loving and soft and smell good and some can even cook halfway dece... (read in full...)
15 yrs. sudden ED?
Q. hello all, i am 15, 5'11", 170 lbs. and can't seem to get a boner recently... It started a few weeks ago I guess. I have a UTI where it hurts to pee, it's gotten A LOT better now but it still hurts when i just finish emptying my bladder. The ...
A. 15 June 2011: hmmmmm one word Doctor! but in the mean time you can try drinking a ton of coffee and keep your hands out your pants for a few weeks... (read in full...)
Why does the end of a relationship bother me so little?
Q. Hi! I like to think that I am a very loving, caring person and I form close relationships with people, especially men. However, when a relationship ends, it seems I just get cold inside and just want to replace the person, like changing clothes. ...
A. 15 June 2011: probably just your coping mechanism is your age correct well i can see how an older person after having lived through everything doesn't want t be bothered with all that heart break and stuff leave it for the school girls... (read in full...)
I'm impatient. Is it usually this difficult to get a guy's attention?
Q. Hi! I've decided to ask for advice here because I'm sure there's someone who has gone through this. I like a boy from my school. I'm not trying to make him notice me because we already know each other but I've never thought it would be that hard to g...
A. 15 June 2011: guys aren't that complicated he probably likes you some what your a girl hes a guy you have boobs long hair pretty eyes and generally smell good guys like that.. generally i put you all in three categories girls that give me the butterfly feeling ... (read in full...)
How can I tell my Mum that I want to remain friends with an ex-bf--whom she hates?
Q. I have quite a delicate matter that i need to tell my mum about and just want some advice on how to go about it. Well, as those who have read my posts before, my ex and i have massive history together. Mum doesn't like him at all (mainly because ...
A. 15 June 2011: At your age you can do whatever you want your an adult you dont need to tell Mum anything.... (read in full...)
Why would my male best friend get sexual with me when he already has a gf whom he says he loves?
Q. Okay so me and my male best friend were foolin around a little and we ended up having dry sex and him fingering me. He has a girlfriend whom he's been dating for 7 months and he told me a few days back that he loved her. If he loves her why would he ...
A. 15 June 2011: if he had sex with you he likes you and he probably does love his GF sex and love are to different things you probably have a favorite outfit but its nice to on something new....For guys its easier to separate sex from emotions and all that stuff... ... (read in full...)
I lost my friend/lover over a year ago when I was caught in a lie. Is there still a way to get that person back?
Q. I made a mistake and hurt someone I love by lying to them. I'm not a bad person but I did make a bad choice and lied because of my insecurities. Because of the result of my actions I had to pay a huge cost-the end of a relationship with someone I ...
A. 15 June 2011: what was the mistake/ everyone has there own forgiveness level you may not be forgiven just take it as a lesson learned... (read in full...)
What is sexy to men?
Q. what is your ideal weight and look of a woman? I am 15 and i wanna know what men think is sexy. I dont wanna look tramp-ish but not too nun-ish. I wear short shorts and tees often and I wear regular converses. I have mid length brown wavy hair. I ...
A. 15 March 2011: Well a 15 yr old shouldn't be sexy to men.... as for what's sexy in a woman our media driven society pretty much spells it out what do you see plastered on billboards and magazine covers ... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and pregnant - what will happen to my child, and the father?
Q. I'm 14 and pregnant and i'm not getting rid of it, but if I don't what will happen to the father of my child?, and would social services take it off me? ...
A. 25 February 2011: i think you will be allrite find a support group to get information on what to do you have to tell your parents hopefully they will support you aswell... (read in full...)
Loss of physical attraction
Q. Im currently 22 years old and have been trying to date the girl in question on and off for close to 8 years. About 3 months ago we finally got together. Things went amazingly well for the first 2 months. We would constantly be together. I couldn't ...
A. 25 February 2011: stay in contact but dont over do in when she said she wasnt attracted to you she probably meant your whiny clingy insecurness... thats just not attractive... you need help get over all your problems dont dump them on her... (read in full...)
First date at home and private? Does it mean anything?
Q. I got this girl's number from one of my classes a couple weeks back and after a few days of txting and getting to know each other, i ask if she wanted to go to lunch and a movie, so we made a time and place on the phone, and so that day when i went ...
A. 3 December 2010: shes a lonely college girl that wants to actually spend time with you dude dont screw this up stop asking questions,,,, just go with it the sky is blue cuse its blue if it was neon pink with orange highlights then you could question it. take one for ... (read in full...)
He's been my crush, my brother, and my friend
Q. Hi, I've known this one guy literally my whole life. Over the years he's been my crush, my brother and my enemy figure. When I was smaller I was...well fat, but i've lost the weight now. When he saw me, he kind of looked surprised. And when I met up ...
A. 3 December 2010: hes to old for you get over it.... he likes you your a girl boys like girls but hes to old this is all baddd youve been warned... ... (read in full...)
No love for a 22 year old virgin
Q. Well, basically I'm 22 turning 23 in February and I'm still a virgin and some times it makes me sick to my stomach to think about it, to make it worse my reserve unit is leaving for the middle east soon, so that pretty much means I can count not ...
A. 3 December 2010: good luck keep your head down if you really wanted to loose your virginity you could always hire a profesional being that your going to war and all it might be your last chance... just a thought. just dont get her pregnant or fall in love either way ... (read in full...)
My Mom doesn't want me to go to college!
Q. Hey I need advice real bad. Ok I want to start school in Jan and I really really want to start. I've been trying to my GED for 2 years and I finally got it. I was soooo happy. But before I found out I passed the test, I got a job working with my ...
A. 3 December 2010: you should go to school work part time if you have... your mom cant make you do anything she being irrational.. can i ask what are you going to go to school for and congratulations on getting your license... (read in full...)
He leaves me alone, I feel isolated and resentful, what do I do??
Q. My husband and I just moved to London from Birmingham for post-grad studies, and I'm having an absolutely miserable time here. He's never around because he always has a lecture, a seminar, a project meeting to go to, even at the weekend, so I ...
A. 20 November 2010: hmm you could try reading books you would be surprised at how much a good book helps pass the time.. i think you should stick it out with your hubby but he does need to treat you better... an make time for you. i think clubbing an hangng out is ... (read in full...)
Please interpret his words??
Q. Dear Cupid, I just want to ask about my boss.He told me I am special and He like me..I am still thinking about those words what He said.What is the real feeling of a guy if He said that words to a girl? ...
A. 20 November 2010: he probably likes you it doesnt take much for a guy to like a woman..men are simple creatures ..but do you want to get involved with the bosss?... (read in full...)
How do I help my parents understand me??
Q. I need advice on how to deal with my parents.You see,I am an african american and so are my parents.my mom is 41 and my dad is 53,so theyre old-fashioned people.I am very much into rock music(hardcore,punk rock,christcore..etc)the emo/scene/gothic ...
A. 20 November 2010: you are who you are just put your foot down.. your parents are being bullies but they cant make you do anything. Bill Gates parents probably didnt want him to hang out with the nerds. dont even waste your time there just stubborn.. what can they ... (read in full...)
How can I tell my future husband about the past sexual abuse?
Q. I was sexually abused over a period of four years, I was eight years old when this took place. I lost my Mother at the age of twelve. After my Mother's death my Father used to suggest that I invite a group of girlfriends over for the weekend,...
A. 20 November 2010: you shouldnt marry a man that cant accept you.what happened to you was wrong.. but bad things happen its apart of life. i think at your age you should focus on your schooling and career, a husband should be along way off.
an don blame your sist... (read in full...)
Men only! Does this work for you??
Q. For the boys, would you not wana date a girl who says the following: 'if u want, u can call me,' and 'i'd like to come see u orrr like in a flirty way ask 'y did u add me on fb' (hint hint) I was just tryna flirt but maybe it backfired? i suck at ...
A. 20 November 2010: hmmm thats tricky... the problem i find when women are agressive is the guy starts to ask himself whats the catch why is this hot chick talking to me this never happens.so alot of times that can turn the guy off hell he might assume your a dude. ... (read in full...)
Not sure if I want to marry him now! Help!
Q. Hi i've been with my bf for 5 years and although i love him the fear of getting closer to marriage kinda scares me. It's so weird b/c marriage is all i used to think about with him..during our 2nd and 3rd year dating were were looking at rings for ...
A. 23 August 2010: you should marry him if you love him... just dont have any chilldren till your sure its the life you want.. you have a guy that loves you and wants to be with you... your not going to find anything better out there playing the field.. plus its wrong ... (read in full...)
Is porn just mental cheating?
Q. I understand that porn isn't technically cheating. But I feel like my boyfriend may have a slight obsession with it. He looks at it every day of the week, maybe only 5 or 6 days some weeks, but for the most part, he does it every day. We are in a ...
A. 23 August 2010: I guess it is cheating he wants to see a woman besides you.
But your technically just his gf so technically he has no vows toward you so technically it may not be cheating..... (read in full...)
He didn't want to be my boyfriend he just wanted me for sex
Q. i have been talking to this guy for about 3-4 mon.. i thought that he wanted to be in a relationship with me... he brought up the whole i really want a girlfriend and i really like you etc.. so i said ok we can give it a try... when we first started ...
A. 23 August 2010: He didnt take your virginity you gave it to him.. you cant blame him for this... people change their feelings and circumstances change you made a decision live with it and move on. hopefully you enjoyed your experience thats all you can ask for.
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Why Does My Family Hate Me?
Q. Why does my family hate me? Me and my mother dont have a relationship at all. We dont talk about anything serious and she doesnt like it when I talk a lot and sometimes tells me to shut uo or to go away or go somewhere else. My older sister hates me ...
A. 23 August 2010: Low self esteem lack of confidence is a weakness others can sense... if people realize your weak they will exploit that and take advantage of you.I always say even if your a minnow think like a shark..and people will fear your bite even if you cant ... (read in full...)
14, he's 17, what can we do that isn't against the law?
Q. just a question i am 14 and i like this 17 year old and he like me and if we did get together what am i acctually allowed to do with him without it being against the law ??? ( i know not sex ) thanx :)...
A. 23 August 2010: theres usually a three yr limit for sex if your not more then 3 yrs apart you should be ok but check your local state and gov laws...to be sure.other then that anything you dont feel comfortable doing dont do.... (read in full...)
Why did he hug me so long?
Q. Me and my boyfriend went on our first date yesterday. at the end, he hugged me for ages, i mean like really ages. afterwards, i suddenly became shy, he was going to kiss me, but i turned my head away. i havent heard from him since. what i really ...
A. 21 August 2010: hes your BF but youve only been on one date... so how is he your bf exactly? Well any way its funny you ask this question.. he might have hugged you because it was his first hug maybe it was because he really likes you.. but i hug girls for a long ... (read in full...)
Life falling apart and feeling confused and helpless
Q. i need abit of advice please my boy friend is a few years older than me and had at least 2 serious reltionships the last one he ended up marrying her well they were together 8 years when they got married 3 years after they got marrie...
A. 21 August 2010: WOW! i didnt know things like this happened outside soapoperas ... you need to have a good straight to the point talk with this guy... he needs to choose you or her... if he chooses you he needs to get the divorce borrow the money thats the first ... (read in full...)
Why Men Visit Strip Clubs
Q. Quite a few of you have written to me in regards to your boyfriends (and a few husbands) frequenting the mens den, called Strip Clubs. This issue is a concern for most if not all women in a relationship and I can understand that. So today, I decided ...
A. 21 August 2010: hmmm this is interesting... Well i dont agree with the whole real men wouldnt date a stripper line i have male freinds that have strippers for gfs... they know what there women do and there kool with it the bills get paid.. many of the strippers i ... (read in full...)
How do I make things okay with my ex?
Q. I miss my ex.Our relationship was good - he always called, we hung out alot and never flaked but at the end he flaked and never even apologized for flaking, why he did it and didnt return my calls after a handful of calls/emails from me ...
A. 21 August 2010: "I know hes currently goin thru a custody battle/he lives w/ his mom and is tryin to move out/get a car.. - i dont want to call the house cause its the house phone/he doesnt have a cell.."
Is he really worth all the stress... or was it just tha... (read in full...)
Why is he distant now that I'm pregnant?
Q. My boyfriend treats me like a princess and we get along very good but ever since I've been pregnant he spends every spare minute out in the garage distant from me. He is 38 and I am 36 this is both our 1st child and both wanted this child. I am just ...
A. 21 August 2010: yeah its normal... ive seen alot of guys go through that phase.. i have friends that got there girl prego and where all kool and excited at first then its like they never want to be home wanna hang out and chill when they are home we chill in the ... (read in full...)
Why do people keep photos of their ex?
Q. Why do people keep photos of their ex'? I girl i've been seeing for almost a year keep photos albums of her ex' on her bookshelf in the living room. There must be hundreds of them. Should i be freaking out here? She gets angry if i keep anything ...
A. 21 August 2010: wow hundreds she has issues dont give her any pictures to add to your collection and break up with her...... (read in full...)
Curious about penis size
Q. I've read a lot here about average penis size being about 5-7 inches. I have not been with many men, but they have all been at least 6 or so. About the same for my girlfriends, except for one, whos been with a guy who was huge. I'm just ...
A. 21 August 2010: "if he cant make the best out of it then move on....." wow thats really shallow..
any way I read a study on average penise size... and they based it off of of the Americas and europe and maybe some where in asia.. the study said italians had the ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend isn't interested in sex anymore!
Q. I’m 29 years old been with my boyfriend for the past 2 years we have an awesome relationship until recently he’s not interested in having sex anymore. Everything else in our relationship is fine but when it comes to being intimate he’s always too ...
A. 2 August 2010: he could just be going through a phase where he physically doesnt want sex.. maybe an erectile problem... who knows there could be so many reasons... i suggest not stressing him about it if he has had a loss in sex drive or an erectile problem.. ... (read in full...)
Addicted to masturbation and exhibitionist. Am I normal? What can I do?
Q. Ok, I'm a 18 year old guy and I've been wanking about 3x daily since I was 14. It used to be just when I was bored or in my room, but lately I have been feeling horney all the time. I've tried wanking more often (in school even) but that did not...
A. 2 August 2010: If you feel addicted its bad in my opinion... it means youve lost control...
secondly it may not be healthy to do it that mutch your body needs time to repair and recuperate,,rejuvenate etc..
the whole being watched online thing thats in m... (read in full...)
Zero experience with guys
Q. I'm 18 and going to college and generally excited to be on my own. The only thing I'm worried about is that I have practically zero experience with guys. I've only had one boyfriend and that was a year ago, but I only went out with him because I ...
A. 2 August 2010: why dont you just focus on your school work getting involved with guys will just lead to problems.
dont tell them your a virgin either and dont believe anything guys tell you..thats my advice.... (read in full...)
I feel like everyone hates me and that I just don't matter.
Q. Hi All, My life feels so weird lately, I have friends on Facebook that take their friendship away without giving a reason, I get ignored on Facebook, anything I post doesnt even get a response! I feel like I dont exist, at a works party recently...
A. 1 August 2010: the only way to get an answer to this question is to ask the people who make you feel this way... ask that guy we he ignored you... ... (read in full...)
Why won't my girlfriend touch me?
Q. My girlfriend will not touch me. We've been together almost seven months and I'm depressed every day. We recently started being more sexual, and I touch/please her, but all I get in return is making out. I don't think this is fair, but I don't want ...
A. 1 August 2010: shes lying about something maybe she doesnt like but stays with you cuse she doesnt want to hurt you... stop doing all the stuff you do for her... shell get the hint... (read in full...)
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