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... Send *ot My Name a private message | | | *ot My Name's profile:I guess I am an analytical type of person who tries to consider all aspects of a situation from all angles and view it with logic rather than react with emotion. I am an observer of people and oft reflect upon human behaviour including my own which is not always ideal lol) and feel this has given me a pretty good perspective on the varying dynamics of human situations. Well most of the time anyway :-) I've always seemed to be the one being sought out by friends for advice.
I am a spiritualist by religion (yes - talking to dead people) but with a scientific approach. I am considered quite knowledgable in paranormal matters, and oft counsel and empower people having issues in that dept, but as comes with the turf will also help with people's problems. I am not a thou shalt do this and don't do that type tho, that mind control crap in many religions makes me sick! I think we answer to our own conscience at the end of the day and if we grow and learn from an experience no matter how moral or immoral it is percieved by others, then we are progressing as people which is what it is all about at the end of the day.
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Masturbating tools?
Q. how to masterbate and what with what is good for people who dnt feel things easily....
A. 7 January 2010: Pillows? I must be sheltered coz I can't figure that one out ..lol, never mind.
U dont have to put a vibrator inside ya know - incase U think that is what I was suesting U do. You can use it externally on your clitoris only and probably will enj... (read in full...)
Why after an orgasm do men leave women hanging?
Q. Hi. Ok I have a question I no a lot of women would liked answered. Why is when a guy has a orgasm first its over they get up and go on with there day. They just leave the girl hangen they don't even try to finish what they started. Guys what if your ...
A. 6 January 2010: A good question there and it definately does seem like something men do to women more than the other way around - tho I have heard of women doing this too to be fair.
A few possibilities I can think of are -
Maybe self gratification is... (read in full...)
Masturbating tools?
Q. how to masterbate and what with what is good for people who dnt feel things easily....
A. 6 January 2010: Try a vibrator. ... (read in full...)
Thought I wanted a no strings relationship but only with him...
Q. Ok so here's the situation. I am recently seperated from my husband, and started talking to this guy at work. He told me he had a girlfriend. So i chalked it up to harmless flirting. After a while the flirting became more serious. I know that him ...
A. 6 January 2010: How disturbing! If you wanted a relationship with this guy, then whilst not a good way to go about it, I could at least understand somewhat you being so attracted to him that you would want him for yourself.
However, wanting to win him over for... (read in full...)
I struggle to have a good conversation with women...
Q. I'm 22 and I struggle to have a good conversation with women. I talk to guys I know and they say they just click with their girlfriends when it comes to talking wih them. Most/all people seem to meet several/a lot of people that they can talk to ...
A. 6 January 2010: Ask people about themselves - for many, talking about themself is their favourite topic. Don't over do it and turn it in to an interrogation tho :-)... (read in full...)
I need some ideas for good sex toys for couples!
Q. I was wondering if anyone could recommend good sex toys for couples to use. I use to have a vibrator, which I liked, but have not had one in a long time. My current partner (who I have been with for several years) feels that I should not need a ...
A. 6 January 2010: What ever you get, if your guy is not in to bedroom toys you are going to have to take things very slow to avoid running in to issues exceeding his comfort level.
Here is some idea's to get around a guy who has vibrator envy/issues.
Make su... (read in full...)
I'm doing him a big favour... why won't he do this for me?
Q. My boyfriend and i have been dating for 4 years, i've sacrificed almost everything for him, and i still have to do huge favours like me asking for a loan so he make a promising business venture and i'm willing to use my salary to help him because he ...
A. 5 January 2010: Personally I dont get it when people just up and change religions for another person.
How can you just change what you believe? If you believe a given faith system, then at what point and for what reason do you decide to just no longer believe ... (read in full...)
Any suggestions to help me get over the fear of giving oral sex?
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for over two and a half years. I'm really wanting to give him a blowjob, but I can't bring myself to do it. I've had one other boyfriend who wanted me to and when I did, well it was a very very bad experience. And I'm ...
A. 1 January 2010: If he is understanding about your hang up then surely he wont mind you either finishing him off manually, or just going on to other activities.... (read in full...)
Why no contact in the evenings now?
Q. Help Folks! Middle age male here having a 2 year 'full-time' relationship and subsequently on 2nd year a Long Distance Relationship due to work commitments. (she agreed to the long term plannings) First 2 years of Relationship was Very Solid. ...
A. 1 January 2010: 5pm must be when her other boyfriend gets off work and turns up.... (read in full...)
Should I tell my friend that her ex called her fat?
Q. one of my friends just broke up with their boyfriend, and i was talking to him and he called her fat, do you think i should tell her?...
A. 1 January 2010: ...and the reason for it would be what? To hurt your friend needlessly?... (read in full...)
I can feel something poking out when I touch myself! Is it supposed to be there?
Q. Okay, so when I'm fingering myself. *Masterbating* I hook my fingers up, and I can feel something poking out, nearly touching the other side of the inside of my vagina. But... I can play with it, and it feels great! Like, I'm about to orgasim...
A. 1 January 2010: Am not sure if you are referring to the inside of your labia, or the inside of your vaginal canal.
If the first I would have to assume it is your clitoris, ...if the second I would assume it is your cervix.
Deep penetration hitting the cerv... (read in full...)
Stomach hurting head spinning after sex
Q. what does it normaily mean when your stomack starts hurting and your head starts spinngin after a guy cums in you...
A. 1 January 2010: Well I dont think this normally happens to tell you what it normally means, ... but perhaps the tummy pain was something to do with being penetrated deep or hard, ...and the head spin, ummm, maybe you just had a really good orgasm that blew your ... (read in full...)
Everything Happens For a Reason - WHY?
Q. I am a firm believer that "Everything Happens For a Reason!" The problem is that we don't know the reason! We can drive ourselves mad asking ourselves "WHY?" Why do people touch our lives and then disappear? Why is there so much pain and h...
A. 1 January 2010: In my opinion, we are here to learn from experiences, mistakes, interactions both good and bad, and ideally work through issues to refine and enhance our spirit/soul/self. (insert whatever term you like - or dont if U think I sound flaky lol - no ... (read in full...)
I can't stop phoning and texting him!! Help!
Q. i'm seeing someone new now. i've just come out of a 2 year relationship.............i can't stop ringing him, texting him all the time. how do i get a handle on the crazy????...
A. 1 January 2010: I think it really depends on how he feels about you as to wether you come across to him as 'crazy' or wether he is getting all warm and fuzzy on the inside about your apparent devotion to him.
If you can control yourself tho, try, (at least fo... (read in full...)
22 & still living with parents, would it put girls off?
Q. My question is mainly for the girls, but anybody can answer I don't care. Would it really put you off if a guy at 22 is still living with his parents? Right now I'm trying to get my school debt paid off and it will go so much faster if I stay with ...
A. 1 January 2010: As long as you were being treated as and acting as an adult, then the reason you choose to stay would be quite acceptable and valid at your age - imo.
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Problems with IUD
Q. i have an I.U.D and have had one for 1 1/2 yrs. just recently i have had really bad cramping and heavy period like bleeding it happened every other day for a week then just like it started it stopped. then i have had an increase of vaginal discharge ...
A. 1 January 2010: I have not had an iud myself, but my mum did, had similar symptoms to yourself, and it turned out that part of the iud had embedded/ grown in to (somehow) her uterine wall and resulted in her needing a hysterectomy.
Pretty over the top really s... (read in full...)
Want to have child with another woman since wife gave me 3 daughters and I want a son!
Q. I am married but want a son with another woman because my wife cannot have children any more and we have three daughters. Please give me advice...
A. 1 January 2010: The sex of a baby is determined by the chromosomes in the male's sperm, so there is absolutely no guarantee that impregnating another woman will result in the birth of a son. Just ask my friend who would love a son but instead gets to love and adore ... (read in full...)
She forces me to wear condom and I always lose my erection
Q. okay picture this... me and my girl are messing around im getting turned on she is ready for me i am hard as rock and then i go for the condom. in thre time it takes me to get the condom, put it on and start tryinf to go in i lose my stiffness. I ...
A. 1 January 2010: Maybe you could try masturbating with a condom on to get used to it???
Dunno, just a thought :-)... (read in full...)
Just friends when he thinks the woman is sexy?
Q. Can a male and female just be friends if he thinks the women is sexy?...
A. 1 January 2010: Nope, sooner or later, even if it takes years, someone will most likely jump someone. The most likely outcome to that is that they will either get it on and move beyond 'just friends', or it will ruin the friendship entirely. ... (read in full...)
Would you still marry your spouse if you knew then what you know now?
Q. To all the married couples, ten years or more: 1. If you can go back in time knowing what you know now about your spouse, would you still marry him or her? 2. If you won a large jackpot lottery of millions, would you stay with your spouse?...
A. 1 January 2010: I left my partner earlier this year (oh hang on - last year now lol)and umm, to address the subsequent question - he did cheat on me 17 years ago which was hell and took years to work through to a point where I could again trust him.
That said - y... (read in full...)
I don't like my husband's best friend
Q. So my husbands best freind is somebody who I dont care for. When i first met him, he bragged about how he was cheating on his girfriend to me and my husband. So I dont HATE him, I just wouldnt trust him if i were a girl. Well he has a fiance now ...
A. 1 January 2010: I dont think you have much to go on here so if you do ask, be very calm and open about it.
She may have a new number coz she has a new phone, was simply transferring numbers across and unsure of the number/contact, texted to see if it was some... (read in full...)
I just found out that he has a girlfriend, I'm distraught, what should I do?
Q. Ive been talking to this guy from ireland on msn for about 7 months and im really in love with him. He told me he really wants to come see me and that hes saving up to see me. I never btw pushed him to come visit me it was all him and his idea. I ...
A. 1 January 2010: How do you know that YOU are not the girl he considers himself to be in a relationship with?
Why don't you just ask him about it?... (read in full...)
Speedo watcher
Q. I am in love with a guy at the gym who wears speedos! I can't take my eyes off him when he gets in or out of the pool. He is tall and thin but looks incredible in those skimpy speedos. When he gets out of the pool, I have asked him some question...
A. 1 January 2010: Nothing wrong with a bit of package peeking ..lol.
Don't know that admiring a hot body tho means you should ask someone out. Unless you just want a better 'peek' at the package, then you might wanna keep it to talking for now and see if there is... (read in full...)
I don't like the person I've become since I've gotten married
Q. Let me set the stage for anyone who's reading: I've been married for 10 years with children. My wife and I got married at a very young age because of our first child or should I say, I married my wife because of our first child. After that...
A. 1 January 2010: It's sad when we ALLOW others to mould us. Yes - allow! You can't blame this all on your wife - you have to wear some of the responsibility for becoming this person you no longer like.
What you can do now tho, is stay put and keep being a lifele... (read in full...)
How do I find a good strong man?
Q. How can I find a good, emotionally strong man for a shoulder to cry on, hold me, listen, etc? I'm 5oish woman in southern California, USA....
A. 1 January 2010: Positive qualities bring positive attention from positive people!
Love yourself, show confidence, strength, joy, optimism, and others will look at these things as attractive and want to share this feel good vibe with you.
Be a misery guts, att... (read in full...)
I lost interest in a lady fast
Q. Please i dont know what to do or say to make a girl say 'YES' instantly for a relationship.I usually lost interest when she decide to play hard to get....
A. 31 December 2009: If you lose interest fast, it suggests to me that you were not that interested in the woman as a person to begin with. Sounds more like you are interested in what is between her legs.
Smart lady for not giving it up to someone with that attitude... (read in full...)
Can I get an abortion at 14 without my parents approval?
Q. hello... 3 weeks ago i lost my virginity but we didnt use a condom and i went and got the morning after pill. but now i am sore and red and itchy in my virgina and i have white liquidy stuff coming out my virgina, it drips out when i use the b...
A. 31 December 2009: You may have contracted a sexually transmited disease. Go see a doctor about it and get them to do a pregnancy test whilst you are there.
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Unsure what to do...pregnant at 15!!
Q. well without a doubt im pregnat. 15 years of age thats the bad thing about it. with me being sexually active i had only one partner wich is my boyfriend. we have been together for two years now, and we always used a condom. i just dont know what to ...
A. 31 December 2009: Your parents will have to find out one way or another.
If you plan to keep it then you are going to eventually have a baby bump and later a child that you can't hide.
If you plan to terminate, then at your age you are probably going to need pa... (read in full...)
Our affair..does it stand a chance to last?
Q. I have been in a relationship with a married man for 18 months we call and text daily. I am seperated from my husband he moved out 4months ago due to my affair. Last week my estranged husband confronted my lover informing him he is naming him in ...
A. 31 December 2009: I agree that married men rarely leave their wives for another woman, and if they do, the new relationship rarely works out in the long run, ...however it is not unheard of.
I know 4 couples who were initially having affairs and ended up marrying... (read in full...)
He said he wants a divorce over my refusal to have sex without a condom...how can I prove I love him?
Q. I have been with my husband since i was 15. we have been togethor for 5 years. and married for 1 year. we have 2 children. a 3 year old and a 6 month old. we have been through alot together. after a huge fight last year we were able to patch things ...
A. 31 December 2009: Could you possibly use another form of birth control until you can get your iud inserted? I think the pill or a depo injection or something would work out cheaper in the long run than condoms anyway.
Hubby should just use one if you request ... (read in full...)
My husband went to sex therpist promised to be with me,and lied!
Q. WellI caught my husband masterbating after he promised he would come to me after we went to a sex therpist, he is addicted for sure, please only decent replys, any proverbed replies will be reported. sure everyone masterbates, but a husband doesn't ...
A. 31 December 2009: Unless he is not having sex with you, then I don't understand what the problem is. Got an itch, scratch it! ... (read in full...)
First time sex and he wants me to plan everything
Q. Me and my boyfriend are going to have sex it is my first time but not his. He wants me to plan everything but idk what a comfortable position is. Can anyone please help me and tell me so i know. He also wants to know if he should finger me and eat ...
A. 30 December 2009: I'll spare the lecture coz others have already said what I would say about your age, experience, protection, etc, so if U are gunna do it anyway, I would suggest you go on top as that way you can control the depth, pace, etc, to suit your comfort ... (read in full...)
How do you make it bigger?
Q. my penis is not so large and some time feel ashamed while havin sex how can i increase its lenght ...
A. 30 December 2009: There is a traction type device (dunno what it is called - google penis enhancement or something similar) that actually has proper medical approval that supposedly can not only add 3-4 cm to length, it supposedly can also straighten out curvature. ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend asked if his was biggest
Q. I wanted to be honest and open with my boyfriend who I adore. It was about my past in bed, past boyfriends. I was only serious with one other. The question of size came up. It wasn't good, actually bad with my first serious boyfriend. Is great ...
A. 30 December 2009: Why do guys set themselves up with such questions? You never hear of girls running around asking for comparisons on how tight the ex was ..lol . Well I have never known of anyone doing that anyway - please tell me girls don't actually do that ... (read in full...)
I told my net lover I'm a larger cup-size and now he wants to meet me
Q. Hey guys, Im 24 and i met an amazing guy in a chatroom and we hit it off right away.We had great chemistry from the start.Although it was all cybersex i didnt even realise he'd fall for me the way he did. He writes me the most romantic messages...
A. 30 December 2009: I agree with those who think men wont even notice a difference.
Last night my man saw a bra amongst the shopping I had just done and asked 'whose bra is that?'. I said 'mine'. His response, ... 'nah, you're not that big' (lol). I told him it w... (read in full...)
Are the things he says to me normal? Do other women accept this?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for almost two years. Aside from all of the false accusations of infidelity (that seem to be habitual for him...and kill me inside), he uses depression and unemployment as excuses for his harsh words about me, my ...
A. 30 December 2009: What a dog! Get rid of him ASAP! ... (read in full...)
How do I make up to my gf with actions, not just a simple sorry?
Q. I have been in a relationship with my gf for 4 and a half years now. She has gone back to her home country for 2 months and will be returning in February next year. The thing is that she's hurt by my actions and wants me to make it up to her to ...
A. 30 December 2009: Ok, I feel a bit devious saying this, but if you really love her, and are sure she really loves you, - Cry in front of her.
Yep, I am serious, (hide some onions in ya pocket or something if need be - tho U should not need to if what you feel is ... (read in full...)
Should I let the ex see his baby, even though he says it's not his?
Q. ok so im new here and just want to know wat u people think i should do? ok here goes... i have a three yr old child and im currently pregnant again my babys dad and i arnt together he left me wen i was pregnant. hes a dumb @ss. n e wayz about a yr ...
A. 30 December 2009: Three words - "contraception" and "dna test".
After that, once conclusively established to his satisfaction, I think it is up to the father to make an effort/ show an interest in seeing his child. You cant force him to, nor is it right to deny ... (read in full...)
Might be Pregnant again after break up
Q. ok here goes... I've been in an on again/off again relationship with a mn 11 yrs older then me since February this year... its been a wild ride including a miscarraige ... the thing is before I found out I was pregnant I had given up on the idea of ...
A. 30 December 2009: Try this, ... 'I'm pregnant!'.
Why pussy foot around the issue, ..are you trying to spare him something he was not knowingly risking by putting his end in to start with?
Sorry, but blunt and in ya face would be my approach,... and his reaction... (read in full...)
It sticks out a bit. Is this normal?
Q. It is a bit embarrassing to talk about. So,I have a large clitoris. I wonder ,if it means anything.Some people says ,I could be more of a lesbian because of that. I', confused. Is this normal? Its not like a penis,but if there is a naked picture, ...
A. 30 December 2009: I fail to see how the size of your clitoris could impact upon your sexual preference.
We come in all shapes and sizes, and as far as I can imagine, the size of your clitoris probably only adds to you being easily stimulated. Can't think of anyth... (read in full...)
At what age do the majority of people settle down?
Q. At what age do the majority of people settle down at? In a sense of have a relationship that will work and last....
A. 30 December 2009: It depends on the person. I got in to a relationship in my teens that lasted almost 2 decades. Yes, we have split now (under very amicable and super friendly conditions)but it wasn't a bad innings I suppose given the time frames I have seen many ... (read in full...)
If porn is no big deal, it shouldn't be hard for him to choose, right?
Q. Is there something wrong with me? At the beginning of my relationship with my boyfriend of years) i told him i hate porn. If he watched it, he's gone. End of story. Reasons being, the girls are someones duaghters, yet they allow themselves to have ...
A. 30 December 2009: Sounds to me like the problem is less with the porn than it is of you comparing yourself to the 'plastic fantastic' bodies in it and attacking the owners of them coz they threaten your own body image or sense of self.
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