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Have I ruined things by not saying I love you too

Q.   A few weeks ago my girlfriend that i've known for 6 months and been together for 2 told me she loved me. I didn't quite know how to respond, she was upset but said she understood that and it was probably too soon to say it and she wouldn't say it ...

A.   5 January 2009: Don't say anything that you don't mean. You'll know when you really do love her in the way of what love means to you. So if you're not ready yet, then make that clear to her. Also make it clear to her that it is not something wrong with her or the ... (read in full...)

We broke up but we still love each other and I'm really confused

Q.   Im in a scary situation right now and im so unsure about what im doing. my ex and i were together for what would have been two years this may. we broke up in august, got back together on and off for a while and broke up for good on thanksgi...

A.   28 December 2008: Sounds like a real hardship for you. Without knowing what caused you two to break up and get back together and then off again, it's kind of difficult to fully assess how much trust you should place in him and if it is worth this much pain. I'll just ... (read in full...)

Lots of problems all rolled up together

Q.   I have been dating this girl on and off for 3 years (mostly on). We have been through so much stuff. From our family's hating the other, to jealousy, to control issues, etc.) Well, we broke up about two years in for almost four months. We broke up...

A.   28 December 2008: Hi, People can do all sorts of stupid or reckless stuff that seems completely out of character and honestly regret it later. It's been a few months now since your girlfriend did what she did, hasn't it? A lot could have changed in her mind dur... (read in full...)

Does it seem to you like he's cheating? Opinions please!

Q.   Hi I'm 22 nearly 23. I'm a mother of 2 and third one is on the way. My fiancee is nearly 30 and I think my husbund is cheating on me. I'm 7 months pregnant and he hasn't touched me since he found out bascially. He goes out till late, not callin...

A.   28 December 2008: Hi, I'm sorry for what you are going through. This kind of behavior would be stressful enough without being pregnant to help add to that stress! If I were you, yes, I would be suspicious, but he might not be cheating or it might not have come to ... (read in full...)

I'm 13 and ready for sex --how to tell my boyfriend!?

Q.   hi im 13 and my question is how do i tell my boyfriend im ready for sex??? me and my boyfriend been together for along time and told me to tell him when im ready but i dont know how...can u help me oh yea i thought this over for the last 2mo...

A.   28 December 2008: What's your big rush to lose your virginity? Especially to a guy whose probably not going to stick around as long as you'd like him to. Once you lose it, you never get it back. You probably really like him and your hormones are going all funky. T... (read in full...)

Wanting to explore!

Q.   Okay, so this is a strange problem. or maybe it isnt, i dont know. im 19 and in a serious relationship with a guy i know i want to spend my life with, and have been with him for over 3 years. but recently i felt this push from inside, something ...

A.   27 December 2008: I really kinda felt the same way when I was 19. I was living with a long-term bf and loved him, wanted to stay with him. But then I started feeling like I wanted to break loose and just date for fun, flirt and all that. And I was spending alot of ... (read in full...)

Do you think he respects me? Should I send the topless photo?

Q.   My boyfriend said that if i dont send him a braless picture from ma neck to waist he wont go on o2 unlimited on his mobile so he can text me as many times as he wants. I said no and he said so everything you said you will do with me i.e. pleasure n ...

A.   27 December 2008: He doesn't respect you, because he should listen if you say no. And if he turns around and says you don't love him because of it, he's just a jerk. Maybe you should just not call or text him at all for a while and maybe he'll understand that what ... (read in full...)

Boyfriend? or new guy?

Q.   I need some advice!!! I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years now, and we have been living together for 3 years! We had our ups and down during the 5 years together! But recently, I met someone new and although at the beginning I thought it was j...

A.   27 December 2008: I think you should spend some time away from both of them and do some serious thinking. Five years is a long time and all relationships have their ups and downs. Do you love your boyfriend and do you see a future with him in it? What are the main ... (read in full...)

Are guys happier on their own?

Q.   Hi agony aunts and uncles. The past couple months I have been trying to understand the confusing male psyche and this forum has always been helpful, but there's still alot more that I don't get. My main question is this: a guy says he doesn't ...

A.   27 December 2008: I'm glad for all the responses, even if they are harsh. There are some things that might not be clear though. He doesn't want to be with anyone not meaning he just wants to have fun being single so he can have lots of girls. He's not looking for ... (read in full...)

Period pain/cramp.

Q.   I'm 16 and I started my period when I was 12 and every month I have unbearable pains I think it's geting worse every time. I always miss a day off school if I start on a school day. I cry out in pain and throw up all day. I've taken (at different ...

A.   6 December 2008: I was the same way for a long time. In my early teens on the first day of my period it felt so horrible I couldn't do anything and no medicine seemed able to make it bearable. It would feel like daggers in my stomach, my lower back and all the way ... (read in full...)

I want to break up and have my time of FUN, but what if it's not possible to return to my boyfriend later? Should I take the chance?

Q.   So I've been in a relationship with my bf for about a year and a half and I am pretty sure that I want to end up with him. The problem is, I'm only 19 and I feel like I haven't gotten to do a lot of the things I'd like to do. I live with him, so ...

A.   18 November 2008: This almost sounds like me from two years ago. I was living with my bf and hadn't dated anyone else since junior year of high school. I loved him more than anything and wanted to marry him, but also felt like I was missing out on what else was out ... (read in full...)

I need a new girl in my life, but first I have to get this one out!

Q.   How do I get over somone who cheated on me. I see her alot too, around campus, which sucks. I still have feelings for her, for some reason, and I think about her more than I should. It's been over a month now and I still think about her everyday. ...

A.   14 November 2008: I hate to say this, because if you've been having a hard time with this you've probably heard it enough, but it will get better over time. I went through something similar a few months ago, my boyfriend of 3 years cheated on me and left me and I was ... (read in full...)

We broke up a month ago and finding out he may be in a new relationship hurts me so much. What can I do to stop this?

Q.   Dear cupid, My ex boyfriend and I have been broken up for about one month. He basically dumped me because he said we were having problems. We were together for four years. Now I sometimes go on his myspace page ... I guess because I really miss hi...

A.   10 September 2008: I feel for you so much as I'm going through a similar thing as you, also about a 4 year relationship. I've been going through it about a month so far, a month of crying and feeling hurt and like I'm not good for anyone, made worse by the fact that I ... (read in full...)

Should I be worried about my boyfriend's trip?

Q.   Well I'll start by saying that my boyfriend and I have been together for almost four years and we've had our share of arguments, but we've both pretty much always been on the same page. It's a serious relationship and we're both aiming towards ...

A.   12 August 2008: Well he came back and I got to talk to him today. He was honest with me and I had every right to be worried. It went so far within a week that he told her he loved her, and he doesn't love me the same way he used to. As much as I prepared myself for ... (read in full...)

I am upset with my legs, cannot wear any mini-skirt or bikini.. please help!

Q.   Dear Cupid Friends, I always feel unhappy when looking at nice mini skirt, bikini...I can never weare one because i don't have beautiful legs and some more, i have a lot of scars on them. I am thinking of going for cosmetic surgery (scar ro...

A.   10 August 2008: I'm not sure how keen you are on them, but an easy immediate remedy to your problem would be pantyhose, at least for wearing skirts, depending on the degree of your scarring. For bikinis, that obviously wouldn't work. As long as the scar is healed, ... (read in full...)

I'm scared about sex - I just feel so exposed!

Q.   Hi there. I'm a virgin and am in a relationship with my boyfriend of 6 months, who isn't (and who's pretty experienced). I've watched a fair amount of pornography and read a lot about sex, so I'm pretty clued-up about it. But.. I'm really nervo...

A.   9 August 2008: I understand your concern about the situation. Sex is very naked! It's the most intimate thing you could possibly engage in. That said, I'm sure you care about your boyfriend very much, but giving away your virginity is a one-time thing- make sure ... (read in full...)

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