Why is he still lying? Yet begging to resume our relationship? Will he change or continue to go on dating sites if we get back together?
Q. I dumped my boyfriend about 3 weeks ago for going on dating sites and sex texting with girls. He could not even explain who these girls were, so I assumed they were from dating sites. He is still lying and says he never went on those dating s...
A. 22 December 2012: I should also add that I was in a relationship like yours. For 4 years this dating site shit went on. He also put his photo up on the dating sites that he`d denied being on, after we broke up over it. Nothing different about him or any other dating ... (read in full...)
Why is he still lying? Yet begging to resume our relationship? Will he change or continue to go on dating sites if we get back together?
Q. I dumped my boyfriend about 3 weeks ago for going on dating sites and sex texting with girls. He could not even explain who these girls were, so I assumed they were from dating sites. He is still lying and says he never went on those dating s...
A. 20 December 2012: Whether he wants you back or not is of not important. He will be on dating sites regardless. His behavior has told you that.... (read in full...)
I can't get past the fact that my husband had lap dances from strippers before we were married.
Q. I have known my husband for abt 10 yrs now, married for 6 and we both are very happy, committed and loving to each other, expecting our first baby now. But just the other day, I was talking of pregnancy stretch marks and he goes - dont worry ho...
A. 20 December 2012: He never got any extras like hand jobs and blow jobs because of strict club policy. How strict was your policy on your one night stands? At this moment he`s the one who`s owed.... (read in full...)
Her parents are staying with us over Christmas, but I've found she is having sexual conversations with strangers on the internet! Should I confront her now, or wait until her parents have gone? I'm really disgusted and thinking about leaving...
Q. My girlfriends parents are due from overseas to visit and stay over christmas. It will be the third time I have met them and we get on great. I have now discovered my girlfriend is having relationships and sexual conversations with strangers over ...
A. 19 December 2012: I would just leave now. When you do challenge expect to hear a full on lie. If she realises that telling lies is useless, that is when she may try to switch the blame to you. Expect the "didnt pay me enough attention" line or "made me feel ... (read in full...)
If he really loves me and wants to marry me, then why does he keep joining dating sites?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years. The last 2 have gotten rather bumpy because he keeps talking to girls on dating sites. He has asked me to marry him but because he lies to me about his dating sites it makes me too afraid to marry ...
A. 18 December 2012: He will be an online dater for the rest of his life. If he thought that much about you he wouldnt risk losing you.... (read in full...)
She wont give up the dating sites and chat rooms, what can I do? I don't want to leave our son....
Q. I have been living with my common law for 6 years and we have a 5 year old boy. For the last 18 months we have constantly argued over her use of dating and adult related chat room type websites. Just as always, I think we are getting back on the ...
A. 17 December 2012: I have to comment on the anonymous females reply to you. You are an equal partner, not a slave to anyones constant need for attention, and its not your sole responsibility to make her feel good. You should not be under the constant threat of your ... (read in full...)
She wont give up the dating sites and chat rooms, what can I do? I don't want to leave our son....
Q. I have been living with my common law for 6 years and we have a 5 year old boy. For the last 18 months we have constantly argued over her use of dating and adult related chat room type websites. Just as always, I think we are getting back on the ...
A. 17 December 2012: Another dating site/chat room problem. I have been where you are. Unfortunately I began to think that these people on dating sites are a breed of their own. It`s as if they are gambling addicts. I say that because they knowingly gamble their partner ... (read in full...)
Now I'm being punished for what goes on in her mind only!
Q. For the past two years or so, my girlfriends insecurity has got worse and worse. I am constantly told who I am looking at, who I find attractive and told I am flirting with everyone she believes I find attractive. I have put up with a lot. I now ...
A. 13 December 2012: Since writing on here myself, It surprises me how common it is getting to use online dating sites as a way of cheating. What seems by some as an easier way of cheating, is in fact a far easier way of getting caught. I do not for a moment believe she ... (read in full...)
Does he just prefer being married or does he really not know how to behave?
Q. My boyfriend of 4 and half years has been pressuring me to marry him. I have been unsure because we have been making up and breaking up perpetually, over his use of dating sites. He seems to overlook how much it upsets me, even though he doesnt go ...
A. 11 December 2012: It looks like he is one of those who thinks that being on a dating site is harmless. If you was registered on one, then his view would change, I assure you of that. He has all the hallmarks of an abuser and a cheat. ... (read in full...)
Am I responsible for my B/f sleeping around? Did I drive him to do it?
Q. I am 24 and my boyfriend is also 24. We have been together for four years on and off after meeting while working in the same bar. I was at uni at the time and after i became pregnant, i left my final year with the hope of going back to university ...
A. 10 December 2012: He is 100% to blame. He made his choice to cheat.... (read in full...)
She accused me of cheating, but she's on a dating site?
Q. I have had to constantly re-assure my girlfriend since day one. I have put up with allegations that I am cheating or will end up cheating on her. I am often accused of finding others attractive when we are out. Despite this, I have tried to ...
A. 10 December 2012: I have also been where you are. It lasted years and it never stopped. Do not look for explanations or closure because you wont get none. The chances are, if you keep on asking, then she will switch and blame you. Watch for yourself if you dont ... (read in full...)
Why did she want me back, only to end up on the dating sites again?
Q. I had lost count on how many times I had found my girlfriend on dating sites and chat rooms that focus on flrting. She either lied to me about being on them or played it down to them just being harmless internet friends and me being jealous. I ended ...
A. 4 December 2012: Everything you wrote matches my ex`s behaviour. It went on for 3 years and I never got 1 answer. I think you would be better just not having any contact with her again. ... (read in full...)
While house-sitting for my girlfriend, I discovered she is not the person she lead me to believe she is.
Q. So I have been with my girlfriend about 4 months and I thought things were going great. We got serious very quickly however and ended up spending almost every day together. Lately I've felt very uncertain about several things I've discover...
A. 2 December 2012: I would like to start by taking issue with the anonymous females reply to you. Being someone who was on the receiving end of such behavior, she is far too self absorbed to know or even care about what it feels like. No doubt, she would take a ... (read in full...)
Saw my best friends fiancée on a dating website. Should I tell him?
Q. I have joined a dating site. I have seen a profile of my life long best friends soon to be wife. She is active on it and it says she is single. What do I do? If I told him would it end up where she lies to him and I get classed as a trouble causer? ...
A. 2 December 2012: Show him exactly what you have seen. It is likely that he does not know she`s an internet cheat. ... (read in full...)
I dumped him because of the dating sites, but he's still on them meeting new people! How do I overcome my anger?
Q. I have broke up from a 2 year relationship. It was my decision. He would not stop visiting datimg sites and always lied to me about it or said he went on them because I nagged him all the time. Now, the same account he said wasnt his is still there ...
A. 30 November 2012: No contact and no checking up on him is the best thing for you. You knew all this all along so why do you keep needing it confirming?... (read in full...)
Is there any hope of turning this around? I keep finding my Gf on dating sites.
Q. My life seems like a constant cycle of catching my girlfriend on dating sites, breaking up and then somehow ending up back together. When I have caught her she has lied by denying it, blamed me for neglecting her, accused me of jealousy, abuse, i...
A. 26 November 2012: I dont think you should be planning any kind of future with her. She is abusing you mentally and it puzzles me why you would even think about wasting any more of your life on her.... (read in full...)
Is there any hope of turning this around? I keep finding my Gf on dating sites.
Q. My life seems like a constant cycle of catching my girlfriend on dating sites, breaking up and then somehow ending up back together. When I have caught her she has lied by denying it, blamed me for neglecting her, accused me of jealousy, abuse, i...
A. 26 November 2012: I do not think you will ever change her. I have been on the receiving end of the mentioned internet behavior. Attached people who do it are not ordinary people like the rest of us. You will never understand their logic and I don`t think they ... (read in full...)
He cried, real tears, but guess what!
Q. Just over two months ago I left my dating site obsessed boyfriend of four years. I accepted dating sites were part of his life and always will be. He has suddenly started trying to get me back again with the same old bull shit and accused me of ...
A. 24 November 2012: Thank you everyone. Yes, I think using dating sites comes across as very desperate, but each to their own, depending on why they use them. To use them to cheat shows a real determination. My mind is made up and there will be no contact. I have heard ... (read in full...)
He cried, real tears, but guess what!
Q. Just over two months ago I left my dating site obsessed boyfriend of four years. I accepted dating sites were part of his life and always will be. He has suddenly started trying to get me back again with the same old bull shit and accused me of ...
A. 23 November 2012: Thank you. He has been in touch again. I told him what I had seen and he told me it is none of my business as I dumped him. He then told me I am invading his privacy. I reminded him that he had told me his dating suite days are over and I only l... (read in full...)
Is it common for people to be in a relationship and signed up to online dating sites?
Q. I have noticed this kind of question comes up a lot on this website. Is it very common for people to be signed up to dating websites whilst in a relationship. I have found my boyfriend to be doing it and lying about it. when he is not able to lie, ...
A. 23 November 2012: I was like you. I was looking for reasons and wondering how I would change things. I`d had it all. I was lied to, made to believe I was seeing things, made to believe I was being jealous, I was called abusive, I was told I was invading his privacy, ... (read in full...)
Is it common for people to be in a relationship and signed up to online dating sites?
Q. I have noticed this kind of question comes up a lot on this website. Is it very common for people to be signed up to dating websites whilst in a relationship. I have found my boyfriend to be doing it and lying about it. when he is not able to lie, ...
A. 21 November 2012: I am one of those who has put up this type of question. I feel for you because I know about the confusion, all the anxiety and misery you will be going through. The only realistic answer to this is to dump him 100%. No contact, do not read his bs ... (read in full...)
I feel I've lost so much. How can I get my life back on track after breaking up? Life's really tough for me right now.
Q. Please ladies explain this to me. I'm on my own for the first time in my life and I'm 36 now. Two long term relationships, 2 children and I'm ashamed to say with both women. The first I thought was love. The second I walked out on in the mi...
A. 17 November 2012: I have been on the receiving end of what you did. You sound exactly like my ex did after being caught numerous times. You have no thought about the hurt and mistrust you caused. Do you actually know that what you did was wrong? You have lost ... (read in full...)
We had an incredible week long affair and now 3 months later nothing! What happened?
Q. It's the usual affair story....I've been married for 19 years to a good man, hard worker, who would do anything for me. The problem is, he is extremely negative, has no friends, is suicidal at times, is a drinker and his family is rotten. I have ...
A. 14 November 2012: I think you should not get in touch with that guy again. forget him just like he seems to want you to. Working on your marriage or getting out should be your priority.... (read in full...)
Caught my boyfriend on dating sites, after calling me a slut and a stalker he then claims it was a virus!
Q. I have found out my boyfriend has been going on dating sites. When I asked him about it he went mad at me and started calling me a stalker, said I dont trust him because I myself am not to be trusted, called me a slut and then turned it around to ...
A. 10 November 2012: Oh dear. I have been here and I have seen this reaction. What followed was "I" was putting "him" through "mental abuse". I was making unusual allegations. I was so jealous that I was imagining things. I was at fault for not recognizing he had ... (read in full...)
I was dating a guy who wanted to date other women so I finished it. Did I do the right thing or overreact?
Q. Hello aunties and uncles. I'm a bit confused and bewildered about a recent dating experience and I'd like some opinions or advice. I met a guy via online dating. We had several (4) really enjoyable dates over a few weeks. We chatted freely and...
A. 6 November 2012: Who does he think he is? "The date site Cassanova" Move on. He wont be thinking about you right now.... (read in full...)
B/f and I broke up got back together and he lied and told me that there had not been anyone else!
Q. Dear Cupid, My boyfriend and I broke up for a couple of months. We got back together and at the time I only let him back because he said he had not been with any other woman. I have since found out that he spent a week during our seperation with ...
A. 6 November 2012: Everyone will probably say you was not with him, so it is nothing to do with you. He lied because he knew you wouldnt take him back otherwise. If you cannot accept that he jumped on someone else so quickly after breaking up, then you have every ... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend getting on line and chatting because she is at home and bored?
Q. While I am out at work my girlfriend does nothing all day except chat to guys and flirt on the internet. I have found out about this now for the fourth time in a year. We almost broke up for good, and now I find she is doing it yet again. It is hard ...
A. 1 November 2012: I have been in your situation. I feel sorry for you, because I understand the anxiety, paranoia and confusion you will be going through right now. Whatever her real reasons are, only she will know. It is important to understand that it is her fault ... (read in full...)
Did I ruin things before they could even begin?
Q. Dear aunts and uncles. Please help me. I have totally muucked things up with a guy who I really like and who I think was perfect for more. I feel sick at what I have done, or more importantly how stupid I have acted. I am 31 and can't beleive...
A. 30 October 2012: Some men register on dating sites to get quick sex by pretending they are looking for a serious relationship. It is like a sport to them. I would not take it as anything you did wrong.... (read in full...)
Why does my husband keep going on dating sites looking for women? he knows I know. So why does he keep on hurting me like this?
Q. For at least the past 6 months I was coming across my boyfriend going on dating sites to chat to different women. Of course, he has always denied it and called me weird and neurotic. He knows that I know, so why won`t he tell me if there is somet...
A. 24 October 2012: Your boyfriend or husband keeps going on dating sites to date other women. What else are dating sites there for? He knows he is getting away with it and you wont leave, so he has nothing to lose. He`s not bothered about hurting you as long as he ... (read in full...)
Why does my husband keep going on dating sites looking for women? he knows I know. So why does he keep on hurting me like this?
Q. For at least the past 6 months I was coming across my boyfriend going on dating sites to chat to different women. Of course, he has always denied it and called me weird and neurotic. He knows that I know, so why won`t he tell me if there is somet...
A. 23 October 2012: If you let it carry on, you will end up "weird and neurotic" like he says you are. He calls you weird and neurotic to put you on the defensive and distract you from his hideous behavior. You are going to have to leave and there is no escaping that.... (read in full...)
She tells me she's happy so why is she on dating sites?
Q. I have been dating for just over 3 years. For the past 9 months I have been finding bits about her being on dating sites again. I caught her out on one last year and her aggression after being unable to carry on denying it when I asked her, caused a ...
A. 17 October 2012: I need to continue from what I wrote earlier. I have sympathy for you, and why? because I went through the same cycle for years. I would catch him, he would deny it, blame me for his actions or lie. We would break up, he would find me and either ... (read in full...)
She tells me she's happy so why is she on dating sites?
Q. I have been dating for just over 3 years. For the past 9 months I have been finding bits about her being on dating sites again. I caught her out on one last year and her aggression after being unable to carry on denying it when I asked her, caused a ...
A. 17 October 2012: I have been in a situation very similar to yours. I see no other outcome than you eventually breaking up. ... (read in full...)
Do some people throw away their real relationship for the sake of online affairs?
Q. I am wondering after ending a relationship due to his compulsive cyber cheating, whether it can be seen as something addictive. I have noticed a lot of questions on here about it. Do some people throw away their real relationship for the sake of ...
A. 15 October 2012: Thank you everyone. I will not be going back, but I do know I would not have left if it was n`t for his dating site obsession. ... (read in full...)
Do some people throw away their real relationship for the sake of online affairs?
Q. I am wondering after ending a relationship due to his compulsive cyber cheating, whether it can be seen as something addictive. I have noticed a lot of questions on here about it. Do some people throw away their real relationship for the sake of ...
A. 14 October 2012: To the anonymous reply who suggested something was missing. I did ask several times but whatever was missing was not easy to work out when he always lied and denied about being on them. ... (read in full...)
She said she just felt like talking to a guy on line! Your thoughts please? But why would she start talking to a stranger online?
Q. I've been with my GF for almost 3 years. When I first met her she was always online chatting and I know she has done a lot of stuff she regrets while she was chatting.. She had promissed me to stop that because I said I would leave her and her 2 ki...
A. 9 October 2012: I have been through very similar. I would not bother looking for answers, as it just becomes more confusing. Let her live her life how she is choosing. I am sure you will find someone more caring and grateful than she is.... (read in full...)
I'm breaking up with my boyfriend because I found him on dating websites
Q. hi, not going to be a long question but, i found out my boyfriend of nearly a year has been going on dating websites. He knows i know now and i told him im leaving him, but hes begging me not to saying he loves me and all that waffle, honestly im ...
A. 27 September 2012: I have been through very similar. Dating sites are for dating. Accept no bs. I would walk before you start to lose your self worth. ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with a married man who is ready to leave his wife for me but I don't want to break up a family. What should I do?
Q. I am in love with a married man. I am 23 he is 29. He is willing to leave his wife for me. She lives in another country. I don't know what to do, because ever though we are deeply in love with each other, i don't want to break up a family. They ...
A. 20 September 2012: I would be very surprised to learn he had left his wife for you. He is dishonest and you know he is.... (read in full...)
This picture pops up on Facebook of my boyfriend and this girl looking like a couple....is it reasonable for me to have a problem with this photo?
Q. Hi, so my boyfriend just came back off holiday, we've been quite rocky for a while but since he came back we've been really happy havnt argued once until this photo was uploaded on facebook. I just want advice on whether I'm being in reasonable with ...
A. 20 September 2012: I think you definataly need to get to the bottom of it.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend of 4 years won't stop going on dating sites. Is it worth trying to sort this out?
Q. Hi, I am new on here and would really like some advice on what to do. I have been with my boyfriend 4 years. He wont stop going on dating sites. I have caught him doing it and seen it with my own eyes 3 times, I have also got to the point where I ...
A. 8 September 2012: Thank you everyone. This has been a cause of us breaking up and getting back together regularly for the past 3 years. In the times we have broke up he goes on them and puts his photo on. I have allowed him to talk me round every time, only to find ... (read in full...)
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