Advice needed--is this too soppy to send?
Q. Well basically this guy that i currently like is in the army and leavin on friday for germany. i do like him but want to send him a email because im not sure if i'll be able to talk to him before he goes on friday :(. please be honest, is this to ...
A. 28 January 2009: Ok, yes, this is a very nice sentiment, but you have not really written it very well. It sounds childish and aloof. I am going to rewrite what you have written and see if you like it any better:
I dont know if I will have time to talk to you prop... (read in full...)
My girlfriend doesn't want me to have any female friends.
Q. Written here before many times. My gf has broken up with me many times. We keep getting back togethre. During the last break up, which lasted a month, I met new friends thorugh some old friends. When my gf and I are together she is very jealous. I ...
A. 28 January 2009: If you were going skiing with ~A~ girl or even a group of girls and you, then she would have a valid point. But if this is a group of people, men and women both, and you are just one of many than she is being ridiculous and childish. There is no way ... (read in full...)
Why do older men think they have a chance with younger girls?
Q. ok i'm a 22 year old woman and i have a question about old men, like 40+. basically why do they try and flirt with us younger girls, why on earth would we be interested in someone who is old enough to be our fathers?! seriously, i hate it when i a...
A. 24 January 2009: To the anonymous female who said she is 21 and her husband is 61 and it ISNT about the money. Let me ask you this though ~ he DOES have money thought doesnt he. Does he have enough money to keep you very confortable? Or is he struggleing to pay the ... (read in full...)
Is it cheating to kiss a girl when I have a boyfriend?
Q. I'm bisexual and i have a boyfrind. But is it wrong to check out other girls when i have a boyfriend? Is it cheating to kiss a girl, even though it is a different sex then my boyfriend?...
A. 20 January 2009: Cheating is doing something behind your loved ones back, without their permission, knowledge or consent, that they did not or would not approve of. If you are lying to him and doing it behind his back then yes, it is cheating. The sex of the person ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to get pregnant if your tubes are tied?
Q. i have met this man and i have had my tubes tied now for almost 9 yrs. i was wanting to know could i still get pregent after they have been tied for that long? he knows i can't have anymore and he is ok with it but i know he wants another child ...
A. 20 January 2009: The length of time that they have been tied has nothing to do with your ability to get pregnant.It does not wear off. It has to do with the fact that they ARE tied. I am sorry to say, but unless you have surgery to 'untie' your tubes, you cannot get ... (read in full...)
I didn't enjoy 1st time sex at all
Q. My boyfriend and I had sex last night but none of us had ever done it before.as he was penetrating I felt pain so I stopped him but he was not amused at my act cause he kept telling me he is also feeling pain.he at many times requested me to reach ...
A. 15 January 2009: I am not lying and it is not rubbish and it is not based on ANY bad experience of my own but on what she had to say in her OWN post. Most women feel pain when losing their virginity as something is being torn and broken and stretched. No matter what ... (read in full...)
I didn't enjoy 1st time sex at all
Q. My boyfriend and I had sex last night but none of us had ever done it before.as he was penetrating I felt pain so I stopped him but he was not amused at my act cause he kept telling me he is also feeling pain.he at many times requested me to reach ...
A. 13 January 2009: The first thing you do to have better sex is find a new boyfriend. This one is the pits.
One ~ he did NOT have pain with his first time having sex. Women often have severe pain as the hymen is broken and the vagina stretched to a size it wasnt befo... (read in full...)
What to do for easier labor
Q. hey everyone, again... im just chilling out in my room and i cant sleep! everytime i get settled down the bby kickes, or moves or idk, i just cant seem to fall asleep. and it really got me thinking about birth and labor. i know its going to hurt, ...
A. 12 January 2009: Again, I would NOT recommend running! Too much jarring, like by jogging or high impact arobics or anything where you are bouncing around is NOT good for the baby or the pregnancy. You need to do LOW impact excercise. Walking, swimming, LOW impact ... (read in full...)
I'm 21 want to date a 15 y/o afraid of what people will say
Q. I'm a 21 year old male.... and I found a girl whom I have feelings for.... the thing is she's 15 years old... I'm afraid to date her because of what people might think. Shes a great girl but the age difference is the only problem... Anything ...
A. 10 January 2009: Take it slow. Keep your 'dating' very public. I mean by that to basically always have a chaperone. Be together in a group or at her house when her parents are there, that kind of thing. No dates alone for now. That way no one, including her parents, ... (read in full...)
What to do for easier labor
Q. hey everyone, again... im just chilling out in my room and i cant sleep! everytime i get settled down the bby kickes, or moves or idk, i just cant seem to fall asleep. and it really got me thinking about birth and labor. i know its going to hurt, ...
A. 10 January 2009: While exercise is good for you and can help make you labor easier it needs to be low impact exercise. Jogging is not a good idea. Walking or low impact arobics in a class designed for pregnant women is a much better idea. The breating may seem ... (read in full...)
Inexpensive dating ideas?
Q. So quick question for everybody, i was wondering on some ideas for dates for me n my gf of a year and a couple months??? We are both 19 so i mean we cant really go out to the bars and we have alrady done the dining thing a decent amount. Ummm im ...
A. 10 January 2009: If you guys like to spend time outdoors how about going sledding or cross country skiing? Both are inexpensive and lots of fun. You can usually rent cross country skiis pretty cheap, like $10 each and you dont have to spend a lot on a lift ticket ... (read in full...)
Shouldn't she be past all the romantic little things by now?
Q. quick question: I am with my partner for almost 3 years. I might not be the most romantic of men but I do try.. I will bring home flowers/gifts for her without a reason like a birthday or whatever. Spring a surprise trip on her when I can affor...
A. 9 January 2009: Keep up the kissing and little things if you want this relationship to really last and last happily. It is when a man gets too confortable and feels he can stop these little things that love often begins to die. Women thrive on these small bits of ... (read in full...)
She just "accidentally" happens to be naked when he comes over
Q. I feel uncomfortable with what goes on between my bf and a girl friend of his. On numerous occasions he has gone over her house and shes just 'accidently' been naked- even at times when she KNEW he was coming over- it was pre arranged a time and...
A. 9 January 2009: Ok, he tells you that when he arrived at her house he found her naked. But did he tell you what happened then? Did she imediately get dressed? Did she say or do anything suggestive? Did he? How was his expression when he told you? Was he amazed? ... (read in full...)
Another dreaded penis size question!!!
Q. I know that this question comes up all the time but I'm looking for specific answers. My penis peaks at about 5" length and 4" - 4.5" round and it's really preventing me from pursuing relationships. I'm only just starting to get ready for the dating ...
A. 8 January 2009: I was married for 14 years to a man with a smallish penis, about 4 inches (5-6" being average, you are not small!), so I can tell you from personal experience that size has absolutely nothing to do with how good or bad sex is or how successful a ... (read in full...)
Should I forgive him after he kissed another girl?
Q. I have been with my bf for two years nw. But six months into our relationship. He was at a party. Some girl kissed him, he did nt react straight away. He did tell me the next day. I was devastated., he told me that he pulled away after a few ...
A. 23 December 2008: This happened a year and a half ago!! Your relationship has continued for an additional 18 months!! You NEED to let go of this and move on! If he is truly sorry about it and has proven himself to be a good boyfriend ever since then then you need to ... (read in full...)
So I don't know am I being selfish of should I go crazy at him????
Q. Hey, as you know its nearly christmas. Christmas for me is about spending time with the family and friends, AS you all know I've been engaged for a year now. Anyway, my fiaence is dropping off my presents on the 23rd December for me and I won't be ...
A. 23 December 2008: Are you going to see him on Christmas day? If so, then I really dont see a big deal about him going out with his cousin on Christmas Eve. You dont have to spend ALL your time together! Spend Christmas Eve with your folks or some good friends, then ... (read in full...)
Why would my fiance say this to me?
Q. Before we got engaged, my fiance told me he "is not obligated to do anything for me". What does he mean by this? Why would he even say this to me ?...
A. 23 December 2008: This comment is being taken out of context. Did he just blurt this out with no other sentances or explaination around it? Did you question it at the time? You did say that he told you this BEFORE you became engaged, yet you are now engaged. If he ... (read in full...)
Can someone help me with my family problems?
Q. Hi. I'm 14 years old and I have a problem, although strictly speaking, it isn't about a relationship...like a boyfriend or anything. It's about my family. I have a brother that's two years older than me. Lets just say he's named Connor. Well my Mom ...
A. 23 December 2008: I dont want to belittle your question, but I have to (as a Mom) question the veracity of it. I have two children myself and whenever there is a tussel I try very hard not to take sides, but sometimes I just have to. Whenever that happens whichever ... (read in full...)
How is it cheating if we're not 'official'?
Q. I am talking to this new guy, we are not official nor are we really exclusive, he still talks to she friend girls as I do my guy friends...however we spend most of our time talking to each other, we love each other, but in october I had sex with my ...
A. 23 December 2008: If you spend most of your time together and love each other, how can you say you are not actually 'together'. Does someone have to say "as of today we are official" for it to be real? You go through all the motions of going out, but unless someone ... (read in full...)
I'm needy for my boyfriend because I don't have anyone else! What can I do?
Q. Hi everyone, I am living a situation that have reached its breaking point, I am in United States, but I am not from here, I leave my country of origin 9 years ago, and lived in other country 8 years, during those 8 years I study in the university ...
A. 23 December 2008: I cannot imagine moving to a new place all by myself, let alone to another country where they do not even speak my native tongue. You are a very brave, strong young woman. You have only recently come to the USA and it will take some time to develope ... (read in full...)
Am I stupid for being with him still?
Q. okay, here i am again with my problems. I jus got into it with my fiancee again, n this time i dont even kno where I stand anymore..I am tired of him thinkin that, what im trying to do for my son, he thinks im doin it for myself.. I ask...
A. 23 December 2008: First off, are you gay? Because your post says that you are a 36-40 year old MALE. Just checking, not that it matters to the answer that much.
I dont know the history of your relationship and from your posting you imply that this kind of beha... (read in full...)
I feel like he has a secret life and fantasies!
Q. em i crazy been with a guy 10 years he thinks i want and need sex all the time with him and he thinks i have other parnter he always has but he says he loves me he recently wanted me to exlpore and tell him about it after words so i tryd we meet ...
A. 23 December 2008: Your post is a little confusing, but did I understand correctly that he has another lover and wanted you to have another lover as well? If so, why are you trying to have a baby if he is not commited to you? Or IS he commited? Is this other lover ok ... (read in full...)
Will he get restless and leave me if we don't have sex?
Q. ive been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now. i love him alot but we havent had sex or anything. do you think its time or should we wait longer and if i do, will he get restless and decide to leave me? please answer...
A. 23 December 2008: You have already had some excellant advice from Ukmale and Sirena. You will never have regrets if you wait and you may well have regrets if you dont. You two have been together for a long time (and eternity in teen years!) so obviously you care very ... (read in full...)
My question is, why won't my FWB commit?
Q. So, my best friend and i started to become friends with benefits about 4 months ago. earlier this year i went through a hard time with my ex and he always helped me through it. for the past few months, my friend has begun to act like my boyfriend: ...
A. 23 December 2008: Besides what the other aunts have already suggested I am going to add that he also probably feels very leary of getting hurt. You state that you went to a dance a few weeks ago with another guy and that after spending the whole evening at a party ... (read in full...)
Why has my friend's behaviour changed? Are we cheating on our partners?
Q. well, i have a strange problem..i am in love with a boy who appears to be my best friend for past seven years.. although we first made love(that too just kissing and body play) only six months back..it was only after we had both got our respective ...
A. 23 December 2008: Yes, you are cheating on your girlfriends. Unless they know of and approve of your romantic relationship with your boyfriend it is cheating. Cheating is anything that is done behind the back of your partner, lying to them and doing something you ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my girlfriend for reasons that are not physical.
Q. I'm in love with my girlfriend for reasons that are not physical. I care about her deeply, but strangely, I do not feel a need for sex. While it is nice, I never crave it. I am physically attracted to her, but I just don't see sex as a necessity. Is ...
A. 23 December 2008: As long as you do have sex at least occasionally and she is ok with the level of activity, you are fine. If you are very off balanced with her feeling neglected because she wants more sex then you have issues that will become problems if not ... (read in full...)
I need a better job, any suggestions?
Q. Goodmorning my fellow earlybirds : ). My problem is related to finance and my relationship. I'm 18 and my bf is 21 and he makes like 3.5 times as much as i do. I work at starbucks and I've been working there for like 8 months now, and its my 1st j...
A. 23 December 2008: This suggestion will not get you the money you are after but it may help. Try UPS. My ex husband went to work for UPS several years ago because he could work there part time (he had his own business to run during the day) at night. The have the ... (read in full...)
He said he has to 'hook up' with another girl in order to be with me? Is he right?
Q. okay i am in desperate need of help. I fell madly in love with my current boyfriend almost two years ago in high school. we first became friends, and on my birthday he asked to be his girlfriend. i was the happiest girl alive for months, it was ...
A. 22 December 2008: Good riddence. He just burned the bridge. I think you would have to be a huge fool to ever take this man back. Move on to better things now.... (read in full...)
Why is it so unfair? Why do I get treated so badly?
Q. does any thinks this is unfair?? guys reject me and hate me all the time.The guys who reject me always find a NEW girlfriend and NEW JOB even if a few months! but me i get nothing only yet another broken and cold rejection and only good things...
A. 22 December 2008: I made no such assumption so I have no 'high horse' to get off of. As I said, from all of YOUR posts (and this is again assuming you are the author of all these very similar sounding posts) it APPEARS that you are picking men out of your league. You ... (read in full...)
He said he has to 'hook up' with another girl in order to be with me? Is he right?
Q. okay i am in desperate need of help. I fell madly in love with my current boyfriend almost two years ago in high school. we first became friends, and on my birthday he asked to be his girlfriend. i was the happiest girl alive for months, it was ...
A. 22 December 2008: He has absolutely no right to be angry at you for ALMOST hooking up with some other guy before the two of you even MET!!! First off, it was an almost. Second, you didnt belong to him yet, you were not cheating on him as you werent even together yet! ... (read in full...)
Is he justified in making my life hell because he 'loves' me?
Q. Well theres this guy I work with hes 30, I'm 19, was 18 at the time. He kinda manipulated me into a 'relationship', making me feel sorry for him, etc. He used to accuse me of sleeping with guys, having AIDs,go through my bag and my phone, he was ...
A. 22 December 2008: Do not erase his texts. Document, document, document. Keep a log of all the things he says and does. Contact the police immediately. This is very wrong and he should know it. As another poster said, trying to blame you for HIS bad behaviour and for ... (read in full...)
Why is it so unfair? Why do I get treated so badly?
Q. does any thinks this is unfair?? guys reject me and hate me all the time.The guys who reject me always find a NEW girlfriend and NEW JOB even if a few months! but me i get nothing only yet another broken and cold rejection and only good things...
A. 22 December 2008: There have been a lot of very similar posts like this lately. I do not know for sure if you are the same person who posted all the other similar questions and if you are not forgive me. But I am going on under the assumption that you are the same ... (read in full...)
Going insane with narcissism?
Q. Back in highschool I was in an on again off again relationship with a girl who I thought was perfect for me (minus a few social ideological issues) and because of my greater interest in that relationship I eventually was dumped for another guy... ...
A. 22 December 2008: Part of the problem here is that, yes, you may be a little too narcissistic. But another huge part of the problem is that you are idolizing your high school sweetheart. She was not perfect and you are not with her for some good reasons. Stop ... (read in full...)
I just really need to talk to my ex from 15 years ago.
Q. I have a 5 kids and recently split with husband. My ex is from 15 years ago. We were engaged etc. I left him not because I didn't love him or he love me that's for sure. It was because of a bad habit he had that I thought me leaving him might make ...
A. 22 December 2008: I do not think you should contact this man as I feel that the reason you feel so compelled to contact him at all is out of a deep sorrow for where your life is right now. Often when we are at our lowest we reach out to those we cared about in the ... (read in full...)
Why do older men think they have a chance with younger girls?
Q. ok i'm a 22 year old woman and i have a question about old men, like 40+. basically why do they try and flirt with us younger girls, why on earth would we be interested in someone who is old enough to be our fathers?! seriously, i hate it when i a...
A. 22 December 2008: Why do they think they have a chance? Because quite often they DO! We have had way too many posts on this site from couples with the girl in her ealy 20s and the man much older, even in his 50s to be ignored. My own boyfriend dated a girl who was 27 ... (read in full...)
Should I just suck it up and forgive him?
Q. I have been married for 11 years and recently separated from my husband. We have 5 children together, the youngest is under 6 months old and was a total surprise. I already knew I wasn't happy and wasn't planning any more children at that point in ...
A. 22 December 2008: This is an incident that happened 6 years ago, right? You found out 2 years ago that it had happened 4 years prior. That is 6 years! You have had a lot of life go on between then and now. How has that life been? Is this the only real problem you ... (read in full...)
Why does he want me to 'bond' with his current fling?
Q. My best friend of 8 yrs is an ex-boyfriend of mine, he wants to introduce me to a female he is currently dating. Says the both of us are alike in so many ways, knows that we will get along without a doubt, and possibly would like us to spend ...
A. 19 December 2008: Perhaps she is not a fling. Perhaps he really likes this girl and sees the potential for a future with her. If that is the case then he would certainly want his best friend to get to know her!... (read in full...)
What do you think he's trying to tell me?
Q. hi ..l just met someone online and we r gettin along so good so far then when l told him l will be leavin myspace then he replied back to me sayin tht ( u cant leave me and l need you ) !!! now what is he tryin to tell me ??? does he like me or mo...
A. 19 December 2008: I have a hard time believing that you are really 41-50 as your post says as I would think that someone of that age would have the maturity and life experience to know that someone saying not to leave myspace because "I need you" means that that ... (read in full...)
Which pen to get my girlfriend for Christmas?
Q. For christmas I am going to get my girlfriend of a month an engraved pen as she loves stationary - would it be meaningful enough just to put her name on it or should i add a message too and if so what should that message be considering we've only ...
A. 18 December 2008: So? Which one did you get? What did you engrave? What was the end result? Oh, and afterwards, let us know how she liked it!... (read in full...)
After everything she has done to me is it worth trying to be with her or am I flogging a dead horse?
Q. Hi everyone, this is my first question on here. And I'm using this service because I am in complete bits over recent events with my ex-girlfriend. I am 30 years old, am in a top job at a top bank in Canary Wharf, London. Career is going brilliantl...
A. 18 December 2008: Yes, you do deserve to be shown love and affection. It is not something you should just KNOW as you have said, it is something you should be shown on a consistent basis. Quite often it is the little things that show this ~ folding your laundry for ... (read in full...)
Which pen to get my girlfriend for Christmas?
Q. For christmas I am going to get my girlfriend of a month an engraved pen as she loves stationary - would it be meaningful enough just to put her name on it or should i add a message too and if so what should that message be considering we've only ...
A. 16 December 2008: I personally like the first pen you presented. It is beautiful and even the case is pretty! It also seems an appropriate amount of money to spend. You have only been dating a month, so the swarovski one at 60 pounds seems to me a bit extravagent. ... (read in full...)
After everything she has done to me is it worth trying to be with her or am I flogging a dead horse?
Q. Hi everyone, this is my first question on here. And I'm using this service because I am in complete bits over recent events with my ex-girlfriend. I am 30 years old, am in a top job at a top bank in Canary Wharf, London. Career is going brilliantl...
A. 16 December 2008: The only positive things you had to say about this young woman are that she is beautiful ~ physically. Other than her physical beauty you mentioned not one redeeming quality. She is lazy, insecure, demanding, cold, delusional, irrational, self ... (read in full...)
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