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- I'm 23. Which scares me. I swear I was 17 yesterday!!
- My family are completely disfunctional and I wouldnt have it any other way.
- I work in a nursing home. Yep - bathing old people, taking them to the toilet and playing bingo all afternoon. Ok its not the most glamorous of jobs but i absolutely LOVE it and cant see myself ever doing anything else. I'd rather do a job which is a bit on the disgusting side but someone could not live without me doing for them than sit at a checkout all day saying "would you like a hand to pack?"
- I think I'm a little bit psychic. No really, stop laughing. Sometimes i just "get feelings" about things and then it happens. its weird.
- I fall in love very quickly. Not easily - I have a lot of boxes that need to be ticked before i'll want him, but if i meet someone special who does tick all those boxes, i'm in love in a matter of days.
- Relationships and the thought of being in love terrifies me right now.
- On 4 July 2007 I almost died - it wasnt my time. someone was looking out for me. Thank you.
- I have a big heart and it gets bruised easily.
- I can see things clearer when i'm not involved. situations seem very obvious to me when its happening to someone else, but when its me its a different matter. Basically, i should take my own advice sometimes.
- i love socks
- If all goes to plan, 2008 is gonna be a big one for me! Not much happened in 2007 really and I can only blame myself for not getting off my big fat butt and making stuff happen. So in 08 I'm planning to work in Zante, Greece for 6 months and also hoping to do Volunteer work in Ghana in November.
- i'd rather be told to F**k off than ignored
- I sing into my hairbrush and dance around in my underwear
- Someone on here (i forget who) recommended a book called The Secret to me. It completely changed my life.
- I hate drama. But i have so much drama. If it can happen to someone, it will almost certainly happen to me!
- I dont like being called pretty. Its not a compliment. Tell me i'm nice / important to you / did something that made you feel good or smile. I dont care if i got lucky in the DNA department or not, its not something i've done or achieved.
- Music is my life
- im a big big big believer in fate and destiny and i truly believe that EVERYTHING happens for a reason.
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Never been in a relation, despite of my qualities. Am I inadequate/undeserving in some fashion?
Q. Im about to finish my senior year of high school, and ive never been in a relationship. not for lack of wanting one, but every time ive been with someone, it never lasts longer than a night. i have an above average intillectual capacity, im a star ...
A. 16 September 2007: hey you. first of all you are not inadequate or undeserving in ANY way. you're still in high school - maybe there just isnt anyone suitable for you there. when you leave high school and go to college - if you are intending to - you will be amazed at ... (read in full...)
I told my ex of 2 years ago I wanted to be friends, I think he wouldn't have called or come over if he didn't have any feelings left?
Q. Yeah I recently wrote about how I am still in love with my ex after two years. We dated for two years and and off because I treated him pretty badly because i was jealous and insecure. After we broke up i spent the last two years wanting him ...
A. 16 September 2007: hey, well i would say he must have some sort of feelings for you. if he was completely over you and leaving you in his past he would not have responded to your email - and he definitely would not have gone to your house! you need to try to b... (read in full...)
My wife is 4 months pregant. Is sex safe during the pregnancy?
Q. Hi , My wife is pregnant now, she is now 4 months. Is sex is safe during in this period. Or give me a suggestion....
A. 16 September 2007: my sister is currently pregnant and because she had a miscarriage recently, when she found out she was pregnant this time around the midwife advised her not to have sex for the first 3 or 4 months - not too sure why, i think it was to prevent any ... (read in full...)
Having a sexual relation with a guy who's in a long term. I really like him, need some perspective on this.
Q. I'm having passionate sex with a guy who's got a long term gf. He works in my city alot so shes never found out. Everything was going fine, until i started to have feeling for him after 2 months, i wanted to tell him, although after a conversa...
A. 16 September 2007: I hope this doesnt sound too harsh but you said he has told you he likes you but doesnt want to lead you on - that makes me think his feelings for you arent as strong as yours are for him and by saying he doesnt want to lead you on he means he ... (read in full...)
Having a sexual relation with a guy who's in a long term. I really like him, need some perspective on this.
Q. I'm having passionate sex with a guy who's got a long term gf. He works in my city alot so shes never found out. Everything was going fine, until i started to have feeling for him after 2 months, i wanted to tell him, although after a conversa...
A. 15 September 2007: ok im gonna try to remember its you asking for advice here and not the girlfriend - and i'll keep my feelings on women screwing over other women by getting involved with their men to myself.
i dont see a future for you and him and i think the long... (read in full...)
He won't return oral sex, but he shows affection in all other ways. Starting to get fustrated and perceiving him as selfish though...
Q. my boyfriend and i have been together for 2 yrs. the 1st couple of months we were together he had gone down on me, although it only lasted a few times. i had never encouraged him to as i beleive it wasnt of real importance. although lately i feel ...
A. 15 September 2007: well first of all - sorry if this is disgusting and please dont be insulted lol - make sure you're clean down there and there is no possibility of him being put off by any nasty smell. yuck. sorry but it had to be said ;-)
i think he probably... (read in full...)
What time of day should you weigh yourself?
Q. are you supposed weigh yourself at night or in the morning? i thought it was at night but my friend says its in the morning? please help...
A. 15 September 2007: in the morning, when you've just gotten up and been to the toilet but before you have eaten anything. dont weight yourself too much - you'll be confused as hell because your weight changes throughout the day.
and make sure you weigh yourself... (read in full...)
I made out with a mutual friend of my ex and mine, that has a girlfriend. Now I feel low...
Q. i've just come to terms with the fact that my ex doesn't love me, never had, it was a game to him..and ever since then i've been depressed..felt used..felt dirty..as he was the furthest i've been with..but i did a bad thing i was at a party and made ...
A. 15 September 2007: oh dear. what a pickle. ok lets see if we can sort through it together bit by bit.
the ex = loser. dont feel dirty or ashamed, you have done nothing wrong. what you need to do is turn that relationship into a positive experience so you can get ... (read in full...)
Please help me I dunno what to do and whom to believe......
Q. I'm 18 and living in California. I met my boyfriend 19 years of age online and also through mutual friends.. he lives in Florida which is 23,000 miles away and still I have not yet met him in person... when we first started talking on the phone his ...
A. 15 September 2007: sounds like he is lying. if he was as keen to meet you as he says, why hasnt he done it by now? and i dont think his best friend or his sister would be out to get him as he says. you need to trust your instincts, be strong and walk away from him and ... (read in full...)
I left my bf of over 7 years after finding out he was member of a sex chat and hsi net profiles were stated single. Overreacting?
Q. Im 23. I left my boyfriend of 7 years just 3 weeks ago, because i found out he was looking at porn, was a member of a sex chat site (1 that i know of), and he was chatting to many girls and his profiles were stated SINGLE. I only found out due to...
A. 13 September 2007: you're not over reacting at all. you're very strong, very smart and dont take any poop and i really respect you for that. i know it must've been hard but i think you've done the right thing. what the hell did he think he was doing? porn is one thing ... (read in full...)
Thought I was over her. but I'm not! Any tips?
Q. i thought i was over this girl i was with, but i just looked at her myspace. it said "in a relationship" and it really hurt me, so obviously im not over her. i was with her for 7 months, and split 7 months ago, why is it taking me so long to get ...
A. 13 September 2007: you know you probably are over her, its normal to feel like that when you find out someone you dated is dating someone new. i found out via myspace in December that my first love (who was a loser!) is now engaged - we broke up in 2003 but i felt so ... (read in full...)
My best friend died, I will do a speech tomorrow at the funeral, please advise me.
Q. okay this isnt a love problem but the thing is my best friend luke died on the 4th of september and his funeral is tomorrow, ive been asked to do a speech and i need help what do i write about and if there is some poems what people know could you ...
A. 13 September 2007: i'm sorry for your loss, be strong and the pain will get easier. as for what to say, you should try to make it personal and maybe share some of your own memories of him -things that will make people think "yeah that was JUST like him to do something ... (read in full...)
Do doctors prescribe medication to help you cope with a break up?
Q. Has anyone ever been given medication by their doctor to help cope with a break up? Im really really struggling to forget about my ex - it hurts like hell and im torturing myself by thinking about him and crying about him all day and all night to ...
A. 12 September 2007: thanks everyone. i tried the hypnotherapy thing and loved it. its only been about a week or so so i'm just gonna take it easy and be nice to myself - after all that is the advice i would give anyone on here! lol. im gonna see if i can trick my bra... (read in full...)
I still missed an ex 2 yrs later and got in touch with him. But I havent heard from him again. Do you think he still has feelings for me?
Q. Hi! My problem is that im still desperatley in love with my ex boyfriend two years after we broke up. The two years before that we dated on and off. I treated him badly, not because he wasnt good to me but because I was so insecure about myself. Our ...
A. 12 September 2007: just tell him you have missed him and wondered if he would like to get to know each other again. You're not with him and you survived 2 years without him so you have nothing to lose and potentially everything to gain. remember that after 2 yea... (read in full...)
During break from my guy I got pregnany by someone else. How can I get my guy to take me back?
Q. my x R and i were recently on a break. well during this "break" i should have continued to be faithful but i wasnt. i had a one night stand and i am currently 5 1/2 months pregnant. as soon as i became aware of the fact that i was pregnant i told my ...
A. 12 September 2007: i dont think there is anything more you can do. you have explained your feelings to him, and explained you love him and why you want to be with him - not because you dont want to be a single mum but because you love him.
its up to him what hap... (read in full...)
My 17 yr old boyfriend has dumped me and I've been staying off school and started smoking. How do I get over him?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend nearly 7 months. I really love him. Im 16 and he's 17. The past week or so he's been acting very weird and it seemed like he was avoiding me. This was very usual as he's normally quite clingy. We havent argued or ...
A. 12 September 2007: hi hun, i know that it is painful but i think you need to move on. you really dont want to hear this and i understand that, but it sounds like he's moving on and is interested in this other girl that goes to college with him.
The way he broke up... (read in full...)
His mum said he had another gf, but he said he doesn't! Now he's saying he doesn't want his mum to know we're back together! Is he seeing someone else?
Q. is he seeing someone else? i have been with my boyfriend for 3 years on and off. we split up a month ago an got back together. when we was split up his mum told me that he had another girlfriend, when i asked him he said no. now that we are back...
A. 12 September 2007: i think rhythmandblues2's advice was excellent and i am more or less going to mirror it!
I think he was seeing someone else. I cant see any reason why his mum would lie and say that he was. But i can see plenty of reasons why he would be the one ... (read in full...)
How can I stop feeling guilty for cheating on my girlfriend?
Q. I have cheated on my girlfriend after 3years of being together, i kissed another girl. Can anyone help me get rid of the guilt that continuosly pesters me every second and every hour. Im struggling to forgive myself and it is affecting my ...
A. 12 September 2007: im sorry and i hope this doesnt sound mean in any way but i think you deserve this guilt. it is nothing compared to the hurt she will feel if she finds out (assuming she doesnt know already). And if she doesnt know, think about whether or not ... (read in full...)
I think I messed up on the second date. Tell me what you think?
Q. Just wondering here... If I were to really screw up our second date so she no longer talks to me (not sure what I did exactly, but I know I did something wrong) do you think there is anything I could say to get a fresh start? Our last date was 3 ...
A. 11 September 2007: i dont think it would be about the name thing, but it sounds to me like she's probably gotten back with her ex. i mean if she liked you, then he came back on the scene and suddenly she's gone cold that just seems like the logical explanation.
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I think my girlfriend wants to cheat on me, what can I do?
Q. I think my girlfriend wants to cheat on me. What do I do? Here are somethings that have happened: First of all, my girlfriend and I both have herpes. We both know this and talked about it a few months ago. Just the other day I saw in her search ...
A. 11 September 2007: i think deep down you already know that she is up to something. you should trust your instincts. she IS acting very suspiciously and it does sound to me like she has met someone else. dont put up with that, just put all of the points you have made ... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend might be sexually involved with his sister!
Q. im feling totally diasturbed! i have a boyfriend of 4 yrs who has a sister that is 3 yrs older than him ( she's 24 ) and i think they are sexually involved. no. 1 they sleep in the bed together and thinks its totally okay! shes totally okay with ...
A. 11 September 2007: yeah but there's being close to his sister...and then theres touching his sister and sleeping in the same bed as his sister. they are not kids anymore this is completely inappropriate.
no wonder you're freaked out. my jaw was nearly on the floo... (read in full...)
He's in my thoughts constantly, I don't want to be hurt if he breaks up with me, what do I do?
Q. me and my boyfriend have been together 8 months..i love him alot..im 15 and hes 17 but i have a problem! A big problem..I can't get him out of my thoughts! He is there constantly..anything i do he is in my brain. Its destracting to me, so i need ...
A. 9 September 2007: aww sounds like you are in love my sweet. unfortunately the risk of being hurt is one we all take and if its going to happen its going to happen, you cant see into the future so you dont know if you will be hurt or not. try not to think about it... (read in full...)
Why do I keep having these fantasies about having sex with a DOG?
Q. Hello everyone. I am 19 a 19 year old college girl. I have a pretty good sex life, but lately I have found myself masturbating more and fantasizing about k9. I swear to you I have never done it and have not even touched a dog down there, I don't ...
A. 9 September 2007: i think it depends on if its something you think about or something you actually want to do. i mean a lot of people fantasize about things they would NEVER actually do or even about people they should not be thinking things about such as a partners ... (read in full...)
My friend spoke to her on MSN pretending to be me saying some perverted stuff and now she won't talk to me! What can I do?
Q. What can I do here? Alright I went on a few dates with a girl and things were going great, but now she ignores me completely, and although I like her I can accept that and move on. But the other day my friend (who was very drunk) was on my MS...
A. 9 September 2007: just email her or text her saying what you have said here. just say that you get that she is mad but just wanted to apologise for what was said and that it wasnt you it was your friend, maybe even say you are mad at him for saying it then leave it ... (read in full...)
My husband gets so unreasonably angry to our children about everything, I feel as though I'm failing them for not being able to avoid this!
Q. Hi,I'm really down,my husband has a serious drink problem,he turns from such a nice person into a real nasty person after a few hours, Always sorry next day,but its the kids i'm worried about,the nightly abuse from his words to them is heartbre...
A. 9 September 2007: i think you need to sit him down when he is sober and explain to him that you have a duty to protect your children and you would not let anyone else hurt them like that so you cannot let him do it either just because you are married to him. expl... (read in full...)
My ex has just got married but I'm still not over him! How can I move on?
Q. please help, am suffering from a traumatic break-up. its eating away at my soul and i feel like ending it all. i broke up with a guy 9 months ago when i found out he had a serious relatinship he was hiding from me, we went out for 3 months but those ...
A. 9 September 2007: i really feel for you because i can completely relate, you are hurt and angry because you thought you had something amazing and special and then it was taken away from you - he betrayed you, he lied to you and he deceived you and yet it is you in ... (read in full...)
I took some risque pictures on a family camera. Have since deleted them but I'm worried they could still be somewhere?
Q. i took risque pictures of myself in the nude, using my own memory card in my mom's camera. i put the memory card in my own computer, deleted the pictures from the card, and made sure there was no saving onto the camera i borrowed. is there a cha...
A. 9 September 2007: no i dont think it is likely that they could be restored. sounds like you did a pretty thorough job of deleting them and making sure they were gone for good. its just your conscience and fear of your mum finding them thats making you paranoid (cos ... (read in full...)
I'm dead nervous around boys and I'm thinking of cancelling this date!
Q. I'm going out on a date with a nice lad i met over shop the problem is i'm dead nervous around boys and although i really want to go i'm thiking of cancelling and i dont want to its just my confidence is really low and im really shy and probably ...
A. 7 September 2007: you will only be nervous for the first 10-15 minutes then you will relax. if he is confident he will help you feel better because he will be doing most of the talking anyway! and if he is shy then that will probably also help you because lets face ... (read in full...)
I had genital warts years ago and I'm worried it could come back at any time. Please help me put my mind at rest!
Q. Hi. About 9 years ago i had genital warts which were treated and gone. and my mate came around last night and told me she has got clamydia which brought back memories for me, so this morning i went and did some research on the net to read that once ...
A. 7 September 2007: ok i can help you with this one as my sister recently got it and i went with her to all of her hospital appointments so i know the medical side of this.
genital warts are caused by a virus. once you have caught the virus there is no way to get r... (read in full...)
Could he be a player?
Q. I met this guy online... not on a dating site but on nexopia. He's cute, sweet, and funny (not to mention he has an AMAZING body). He makes me feel great about myself for the first time in a while. I was snooping his page looking at his frie...
A. 7 September 2007: i hate to say this to you hun, but i have had a lot of experience with people who make up fake profiles (in fact i am an admin on a site dedicated to getting rid of them) and it sounds to me like the pictures arent even him. its classic behaviour of ... (read in full...)
Am I crazy?
Q. After breaking up 3 months ago an engagement of more than a year and a relationship of two years I'm fluctuating between happiness and feeling all motivated about my new single life and depressive crying spells when I remember about him. Am I ...
A. 6 September 2007: i hope not! cos if you are, we all are! its tough when a relationship ends and everyone has good days and bad days afterwards, think of it as if you were recovering from an operation and dont expect too much from yourself. soon you will realise the ... (read in full...)
Could these antibiotics have caused thrush?
Q. Hi, i dont think i should be too worried but i just want to put my mind at ease. I lost my virginity 3 days ago and it was protected sex as he wore a condom. I have also been ill and have been on penicillin tablets due to tonsilitis. I have noticed ...
A. 31 August 2007: you should see your doctor. they will be able to give you a different antibiotic. there is no point in spending money to clear it up if you are still taking the meds that caused it x... (read in full...)
My sister and I are in love. Should we continue our relationship?
Q. I've always thought of my self as an ideal big brother. My household has always been unstable home. Having a natural protective nature to those close to me since birth, In my infancy I had made it my silent duty to defend my little sister from ...
A. 31 August 2007: I dont want to patronise you but i think you are getting your feelings confused. it is entirely understandable that you have developed such strong feelings for her - you have been through so much and had such a lonely life with your family problems ... (read in full...)
I am a pathological lier
Q. I've lied so much, about stupid things (pregnancy, boyfriends that don't exist) but I don't know why I do it. I sort of black out and I just say things I don't mean, but I can't tell the truth because people will think I'm doing it on purpose and ...
A. 30 August 2007: you are making up these stories to get attention and to make your life seem really interesting to other people, but the chances are people know you are lying (i mean you can only fake a pregnancy for so long cant you?) so rather than making yourself ... (read in full...)
We met online and now he wants to meet me but I'm not who I said I am and I'm already married!
Q. Theres this guy I met online while selling him a membership to an adult site. Anyway, To make a long story short we ended up talking on MSN and on the phone for about a month already and now he wants to meet me. I have already made up several ...
A. 30 August 2007: ok everyone else seems to think you should tell the internet guy the truth but i disagree and will give you my honest opinion regardless of what others have said.
you need to get out of this. quickly. and preferably without anyone being hurt. lu... (read in full...)
Is a £95 necklace enough or too much for my girlfriends birthday?
Q. Hey .. i was just wondreing.. its my gf birthday a few days after our 6 month...and i got her a £95 white gold heart necklace..do you think thats too much or too little (or just right lol).. thank you :):)...
A. 28 August 2007: sounds good but depending on the girl she may feel embarrassed so be careful. you wouldnt want her to feel like she has to get you something equally as expensive or you would be disappointed, but realistically she wont know the price because it is a ... (read in full...)
I have a date lined up but i still think about my ex!!! help!
Q. Hello everyone, A brief synopsis of my recent history with my ex follows: She broke up with me nine and a half weeks ago. Other than a few stupid things I did via Facebook, I never initiated any contact with her. About two and a half weeks ...
A. 26 August 2007: It gets easier in time. I am glad to hear you have made a conscious decision to go 90 days without contact. Thats an excellent idea. just take it one day at a time and remember that one day you WILL be over her!! you wont be 60 years old and still ... (read in full...)
Why do people call me ugly????
Q. People always call me ugly every single day,either that or they ignore me or are really nasty to me.I personally don't think I am ugly(I don't think I'm beautiful but I would definatly say I am attractive at the least) but no one else seems to think ...
A. 26 August 2007: first of all, with a best friend like that you will never need an enemy. get rid of her. and it sounds like the girls are jealous. if you really WERE ugly, your best friend would not say it because she would be embarrassing you and because its ... (read in full...)
I crumbled when I saw my ex talking to a woman..I can't face anyone
Q. Hi everyone, I need helo, I was out at the weekend got pretty drunk and saw my ex talking to another girl (we have been kindof seeing each other again lately) he wasn't kissing her or anything just talking, anyway with the bboze i got upset and ...
A. 26 August 2007: god, the i cant believe i did that when i was drunk thing. its the worst feeling in the world! but i promise, its a million times worse to you than it actually is. nobody else noticed it, and if they did notice they didnt care. they probably had ... (read in full...)
My MOM or my PARTNER? Who do I choose?
Q. if you had a choice between your mom and your partner who would you choose?...
A. 6 February 2007: depends on the situation. you gotta give more details ;) x x... (read in full...)
I would like another child but my partner says no way!
Q. I want another child but my boyfriend doesn't. Our son is 3 years old now and idon't want him to be a only child. Money is not a problem....
A. 6 February 2007: thats not very much information. why doesnt he want another one? is your relationship strong enough for another? you cant make him want something he doesnt want so i would say just to talk to him about why he feels like this and wait because he may ... (read in full...)
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