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6 May 2009: Ok, we’ve all been there. A relationship we invested so much time in has come to an end one way or another and now you’ve got far too much time on your hands. No doubt, if you’ve been investing all your time into your relationship somewhere along ...
I want my EX back... Do I get back with my EX?
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18 January 2008: I've been through it myself. That stage following the breakup where I can't help but want my EX back. Whether you dumped them, or they dumped you I think everyone goes through these feelings. Here are some reasons to (or not) get back together that ...
How to get over your EX.
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9 January 2008: BACKGROUND Following breaking up with my EX a couple of months ago I’ve been finding it extremely hard to get over her. Sometimes I think about her still and I seem to go through periods of wanting her back, only to then go through periods ...
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How to get over your EX.
Q. BACKGROUND Following breaking up with my EX a couple of months ago I’ve been finding it extremely hard to get over her. Sometimes I think about her still and I seem to go through periods of wanting her back, only to then go through periods ...
A. 28 January 2010: Hi lost-girl and Parimickey,
I'm so glad you found my article useful. It is very difficult at this time of year (Christmas and New Year) and people (myself included) always seem to think the end of a relationship is the end of the World as they ... (read in full...)
How to get over your EX.
Q. BACKGROUND Following breaking up with my EX a couple of months ago I’ve been finding it extremely hard to get over her. Sometimes I think about her still and I seem to go through periods of wanting her back, only to then go through periods ...
A. 3 November 2008: Thanks for your comments Greg. Again I'm glad almost a year on this article is still being read and helps people. I only wish I started my own website and put it on there :)
In your situation it must be hard just being friends and the fact you... (read in full...)
How to get over your EX.
Q. BACKGROUND Following breaking up with my EX a couple of months ago I’ve been finding it extremely hard to get over her. Sometimes I think about her still and I seem to go through periods of wanting her back, only to then go through periods ...
A. 6 October 2008: I'm glad people still find my article useful... You know it's amazing how much your life can change. A year on from all that and I'm so much happier and thinking about the future... I've set up a business which is going well, I'm hoping to move into ... (read in full...)
How to get over your EX.
Q. BACKGROUND Following breaking up with my EX a couple of months ago I’ve been finding it extremely hard to get over her. Sometimes I think about her still and I seem to go through periods of wanting her back, only to then go through periods ...
A. 12 June 2008: Hi anonymous, messy-bess and carrie-anne,
I'm glad you like dmy article. TO be honest I haven't been on here much recently since I've had far too much going on in my life.
Started a new job and working hard. When I look back at my previous post... (read in full...)
How to get over your EX.
Q. BACKGROUND Following breaking up with my EX a couple of months ago I’ve been finding it extremely hard to get over her. Sometimes I think about her still and I seem to go through periods of wanting her back, only to then go through periods ...
A. 12 June 2008: Hi anonymous, messy-bess and carrie-anne,
I'm glad you like dmy article. TO be honest I haven't been on here much recently since I've had far too much going on in my life.
Started a new job and working hard. When I look back at my previous post... (read in full...)
How to get over your EX.
Q. BACKGROUND Following breaking up with my EX a couple of months ago I’ve been finding it extremely hard to get over her. Sometimes I think about her still and I seem to go through periods of wanting her back, only to then go through periods ...
A. 27 February 2008: Hi Angi,
It's hard I know but look at it this way... If he couldn't open up to you and prefers to run from his problems rather than work through them perhaps you're better off without him?
I had a smiliar situation where I was open to talk abo... (read in full...)
How to get over your EX.
Q. BACKGROUND Following breaking up with my EX a couple of months ago I’ve been finding it extremely hard to get over her. Sometimes I think about her still and I seem to go through periods of wanting her back, only to then go through periods ...
A. 25 February 2008: Hi diesel78,
Thanks for your comments :) In relation to your situation it sounds very tricky. I think there's a lot for you to really think about and more questions you need to ask yourself before you can really make up your mind as to what to ... (read in full...)
He said he wanted to try again, but I've just found out he's been seeing other girls. What must I do?
Q. My boyfriend and i have been on a break for a month i have just come back to find out that he has been seeing two girls while i was way but the hole time i was on holiday he was telling me that he wanted to make another go of things. I had to find ...
A. 13 February 2008: "How will i be able to move on? and how will i stop myself from falling back into this same mess i'm a very week person when it come to things like this i guess thats how i got myself into this mess!" If you really do want out you need to tell him... (read in full...)
My ex is having Sex with somebody knew. It's upsetting me and is making me feel VERY jealous. Any advice?
Q. I'm feeling jealous towards my ex. We've managed to be friends since we broke up nearly a year ago. Even though we are friends, I've never felt like I've truly gotten over her, even though we have both agreed that getting back together wouldn't be a ...
A. 13 February 2008: In my opinion the ONLY way to start the healing process and get over the relationship is to take time out. You need to cut contact with her until you've healed. It was inevitable that following the break-up and remaining friends all the way thro... (read in full...)
I finally got free.
Q. I finally broke up with my emotionally abusive ex. But why didn't I break up with him at the times where it was really ugly between us-like when he was being unreasonable and getting mad at me because I wouldn't smoke or get drunk (which I don't do ...
A. 13 February 2008: Well, I can only talk from my own experience; I was in an emotionally abusinve relationship for 15 months. However, it only became "abusive" after about 6 months. Why did it take me 9 months to leave? Well, I suppose, for me, I'm a very loyal per... (read in full...)
My relationship, its end, and the 7 months of confusion and hurt... that made me stronger.
Q. Hello everybody, this is Andy00. And to all fans who like long articles, this one is a treat for you... Unfortunately, it's a true story. I have been on this site for about 7 months now. I have posted many, many questions over time, but...
A. 13 February 2008: Hi Andy,
"How do you think I can achieve that? Talking to her probably isn't helping"
You're right. Talking to her is actually NOT helping at all. From my experience you will need to cut all contact from her until you have healed. Then and... (read in full...)
He said he wanted to try again, but I've just found out he's been seeing other girls. What must I do?
Q. My boyfriend and i have been on a break for a month i have just come back to find out that he has been seeing two girls while i was way but the hole time i was on holiday he was telling me that he wanted to make another go of things. I had to find ...
A. 13 February 2008: This sounds like an extremely volatile relationship, if you can call it a relationship at all, and from what you describe - a complete mess.
I think you both would be better off apart. Your relationship was built on a very rocky foundati... (read in full...)
Is my emotionally abusive ex bf, finally getting over me?
Q. I broke up with my emotionally abusive ex fiance about 4 months ago, and since then i've had to change my number because he wouldn't leave me alone. anyway, i used to live with him, so my tax forms were sent to his house, and yesterday he sent them ...
A. 12 February 2008: What does it matter? He was emotionally abusive and that's that. He might well be over it or perhaps he's trying to open the door again?
Either way does it really matter?... (read in full...)
My relationship, its end, and the 7 months of confusion and hurt... that made me stronger.
Q. Hello everybody, this is Andy00. And to all fans who like long articles, this one is a treat for you... Unfortunately, it's a true story. I have been on this site for about 7 months now. I have posted many, many questions over time, but...
A. 12 February 2008: Hi Andy,
I really enjoyed reading your article and I too have found myself with similar feelings. However, I'm over my EX now after about 4 months.
My feelings were so hurt I even found it difficult to function properly without her for a while.... (read in full...)
He said he wanted to try again, but I've just found out he's been seeing other girls. What must I do?
Q. My boyfriend and i have been on a break for a month i have just come back to find out that he has been seeing two girls while i was way but the hole time i was on holiday he was telling me that he wanted to make another go of things. I had to find ...
A. 12 February 2008: Hmmm... Whilst I do agree with red1982 to a certain extent. I don't actually agree with seeing other people while on a break until I know exactly where the relationsip stands. However, some people see a break as just that... A break from each other ... (read in full...)
Did he dump me for not having sex or because of his mate?
Q. This is for anyone but like guys to answer as well for there point of view, There was this guy i started seeing at the beginning of the yr,he made the first move and meet up for our first date everything was going well, i stayed round his house a ...
A. 12 February 2008: In my opinion if he did dump you for not having sex then you're better off without him - he was probably only after one thing. Personally, I think it's good you wanted to wait rather than jump right in.
You deserve better :)... (read in full...)
How faithful are men really?
Q. this is 1 for the guys can a lepord really change its spots ? my bf has cheated and sent flirty messages to toher girls and met up with girls behind my back will he change like he says he will do or will this carrie on ? from a mans point of view i ...
A. 11 February 2008: "I think men are always tempted they are like ''dogs'' to a certain extent I will never trust a man, the only one I can trust is my dad"
Oh dear, how sad... It's nice to be branded a dog :)
Despite all my bad experiences with women I'm glad I... (read in full...)
Hope from experience, from me to you
Q. To all those neurotics out there like me who don’t understand what is going wrong – a message of hope from experience. My story is for all those folks out there who think they don’t quite fit in, make a mess of relationships, worry too much, ...
A. 11 February 2008: Excellent article Clarey!... (read in full...)
Loving somebody who is afraid
Q. Fear is one of the most potent human emotions that there is; it's one of the most pervasive there is because it is rooted in our survival instincts, in other words our subconscious mind. In the dim distant past fear would have saved many a early ...
A. 11 February 2008: Just wanted to say great article Dazzerg!... (read in full...)
How to get over your EX.
Q. BACKGROUND Following breaking up with my EX a couple of months ago I’ve been finding it extremely hard to get over her. Sometimes I think about her still and I seem to go through periods of wanting her back, only to then go through periods ...
A. 11 February 2008: Hi Scythe, I'm glad this article was of some use to you :) It certainly has helped me no end and I'm still continuing with the whole treat myself thing now.
It's the simple/small things in life that can really make a difference sometime... (read in full...)
He cheats and cheats and cheats. What to do?
Q. hi i been wid my partner from last 5 years. Several times he has cheated on me, but i love him more than anything . is this just stupid love? evrytime he gets caught he promises me neva again. this has been ongoing. i have considered leaving ...
A. 11 February 2008: I also agree with everyone here... Leave him and never look back. You deserve someone who doesn't treat you like this.
Perhaps if he had cheated once then he may have realised the error of his ways and you could give him a second chance. However,... (read in full...)
Was there something else?
Q. My friend's boyfriend dumped her after 9 months together because, according to her, he was fed up with her texting him and wanting to chat to him every day (thats what happens in a relationship!). I thought this was very strange, seeing that he ...
A. 11 February 2008: If I were you Tommy I'd just leave it and cut her off. Where is this getting you? It's like she wants to be with her man but is constant need of reassurance and emotional support from you. Maybe because this is soemthing that's lacking in her ... (read in full...)
Does a cheater deserve a second chance?
Q. My husband had an affair with his best friend but he says it never got physical. He admits his fault and wants me back. Should I give him a chance?? How do I guarantee that it will not happen again??...
A. 11 February 2008: Well perhaps he's realised the error of his ways and from now on might have changed realising what he did?
I don't think giving him a second chance is necessarily a bad idea but if it were to happen again, that's it, finish it for good.
You two... (read in full...)
My friend's ex likes me, should I go for it?
Q. My friend's ex boyfriend likes me. he and my friend broke up over a year ago. the thing is I am also attracted to him, but this will hurt my friend? So should I or shouldn't I pursue it?...
A. 11 February 2008: I think the best thing to do in this situation is talk to your friend before you do anything and ask her if she's ok with this and take it from there.
That would be the right thing to do in my opinion.
Best of luck :)... (read in full...)
Was there something else?
Q. My friend's boyfriend dumped her after 9 months together because, according to her, he was fed up with her texting him and wanting to chat to him every day (thats what happens in a relationship!). I thought this was very strange, seeing that he ...
A. 11 February 2008: Well Tommy2k, looking at this whole thread I think it's time you just moved on from this. She obviously has very strong feelings for him and it may seem like you're banging your head against a brick wall.
Maybe it will work out for her this tim... (read in full...)
I made my bed now I have to sleep on it
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend. We'd been having issues for almost a year. However, I love him with all my heart and didn't wanna leave him but he left me no choice. Actually, we've broken up a lot of times, and usually came back together after a...
A. 11 February 2008: I too can relate to this. My EX was very similar and there were some things that of course I lied about since I knew the answer would hurt her being so insecure, jealous and possesive.
Ok, so telling lies is generally not a good thing, but I th... (read in full...)
How faithful are men really?
Q. this is 1 for the guys can a lepord really change its spots ? my bf has cheated and sent flirty messages to toher girls and met up with girls behind my back will he change like he says he will do or will this carrie on ? from a mans point of view i ...
A. 11 February 2008: Of course men can be faithful and you cannot generalise. Yes, some men cheat and so do some women.
Given your situation you could give him one last chance, but this is the final chance. If he does it again then ditch him and move on.
Sometim... (read in full...)
How to guess which women are okay with an age difference?
Q. The women I most often have chemistry with are usually in the 20-24 age range. Why? It might be that I'm basically young at heart. It might be that my values and culture are closer to Generation Y than Generation X. But at the end of the day, it ...
A. 11 February 2008: I don't think there's any way to tell just by looking at a girl whether they prefer older men or not, or whether they feel comfortable with it.
I'm 29 and I tend to go for the 22-25 age range since I'm still very much young at heart. However,... (read in full...)
Do I forfeit university to stay with him???
Q. I recently posted a question about my boyfriend ignoring me for the last 2 weeks, well I actually found out why, I have recently been accepted to a really good university which is 4 hours away from our home. He really doesn't want me to go, and ...
A. 11 February 2008: Oooops... just picked up on this bit...
"I recently posted a question about my boyfriend ignoring me for the last 2 weeks, well I actually found out why"
This is out of order and perhaps you are better off out of this relationship? Ma... (read in full...)
Do I forfeit university to stay with him???
Q. I recently posted a question about my boyfriend ignoring me for the last 2 weeks, well I actually found out why, I have recently been accepted to a really good university which is 4 hours away from our home. He really doesn't want me to go, and ...
A. 11 February 2008: I'm sorry but I have to say as I read some of these replies I get the impression people on here think your boyfriend is trying to hold you back.
I'm more under the impression that he doesn't want to lose you but won't stand in your way if it's wha... (read in full...)
My ex won't visit "our" pub knowing I could be there as well, I feel guilty about this self-imposed restriction, what can I do?
Q. my ex said we should stay mates when he split with me but ive not heard from him since im new to the dating stuff,and i over heard a mate of his saying that my ex wont come to the pub anymore because im there,i want to carrie on going to the pub but ...
A. 10 February 2008: Also, just thinking about this... Perhaps he isn't ready and the fact it's "our" pub as you put it brings back all those memories of you two together too?
Just an afterthought :)... (read in full...)
Do I forfeit university to stay with him???
Q. I recently posted a question about my boyfriend ignoring me for the last 2 weeks, well I actually found out why, I have recently been accepted to a really good university which is 4 hours away from our home. He really doesn't want me to go, and ...
A. 10 February 2008: Hmmmmmmm difficult this one. I can relate to this completely since I forfeited going to university when I was 18 since I was completely in love with my first ever girlfriend. I got a job after my A-levels and we were together for 6 years before ... (read in full...)
My ex won't visit "our" pub knowing I could be there as well, I feel guilty about this self-imposed restriction, what can I do?
Q. my ex said we should stay mates when he split with me but ive not heard from him since im new to the dating stuff,and i over heard a mate of his saying that my ex wont come to the pub anymore because im there,i want to carrie on going to the pub but ...
A. 10 February 2008: I agree with baby duck. You shouldn't feel guilty at all. Perhaps he isn't comfortable with bumping into you? It can be a bit awkward with "history" there. Maybe he just needs time and is keeping a safe distance for the time being?
At the end of t... (read in full...)
What's your opinion about porn?
Q. Ok every time I write that i have a problem with my boyfriend watching porn i always get this answer that all guys do it and to expect it. I just want to see more peoples thoughts on it cause if its so harmless, why am I getting so hurt by it? Ill ...
A. 9 February 2008: Hiya,
"He compares... He starts asking for things I can't/don't want like doing it in the ass, or he'll comment on how im not tan enough or i should do the blonde with the black streaks or if he can cum on my face(which i can't stand) and other th... (read in full...)
My gf calls my best friend "hun," is that a form of flirting?
Q. hey just want to know what you guys think, i just got back, i was away from my gf for a year and 4 months; i was reading some of her msgs and that's when i seen msgs of her calling my friend hun, for example "hun dont worry about it" - would u say ...
A. 7 February 2008: I think ur reading too much into this... i get called hun, babe, darling, sweetie and alsorts from female friends/acquantances so I don't think so.... (read in full...)
I'd like to ask her out but the age difference makes me hesitate. How should I handle this?
Q. I'm 35 yrs old and I am intersted in an 18 yr old. We've talked a few times and I enjoy talking with her. I'd like to ask her out but the age differnce is making me think about it. How should I handle this?...
A. 7 February 2008: I agree with angelblueeyes when she says she "can never understand what is wrong with being with someone that is older/younger than you. At the end of the day age is just a number..."
However, I think the ages you are DO matter. So there's ... (read in full...)
She doesn't see anything wrong with posting trashy pics of herself on line. Am I being out of order?
Q. I'm going to try to be as fair on this question as possible. I'm not going to leave anything out, even things that I did. My girlfriend and I have been together for years. Toward the beginning of the relationship, she posted a picture on one o...
A. 7 February 2008: Just wanted to say having been here myself with my EX I agree completely with Richard_EMids.
My gf had a myspace site which she used to put pics of her up and it didn't bother me at all. I was never fussed about myspace. It all seemed more has... (read in full...)
I worry that he thinks she's prettier than me.
Q. I broke up with my fiance 4 months ago, and I know it's stupid that I looked at his myspace just now, but I did and there was a picture of him with a girl at a club, and in one of the pics she is kissing his cheek. He is wearing a necklace with a ...
A. 7 February 2008: Hi, I agree with the other replies here so won't go over that but about 3 months ago I split with my girlfriend due to the emotionally abusive nature of the relationship... In fact it was far more complicated than that.
Whilst going through ... (read in full...)
Porn is somewhat ruining our relationship, as he enjoys watching it whereas I think it's a sin! How to convince him?...
Q. Hi, I have a boyfriend who likes to watch girl on girl porn, but unlike him I hate it, it's wrong and version of porn and I know it's a sin. How do I help him understand how I feel about it and why it's so wrong because he seems to think it's per...
A. 6 February 2008: This seems to be a common question on here at the moment. I think it's worth taking a look at the answers to this post from a girl earlier today:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/whats-your-opinion-about-porn.html
I think it's also useful to l... (read in full...)
I am finding it very difficult to get over the break up. Can anyone see a way forward?
Q. My boyfriend of nine months finished the relationship 4 months ago but I am finding it very difficult to get over this. I still find myself crying a lot and unable to sleep at night. At the beginning of the break-up we did communicate by text but ...
A. 6 February 2008: Hi, I've been there myself and found treating myself a very effective way to dealing with a break-up. My EX and I were together for over a year and it took me a few months to get over it... However, I think it would've taken longer had I not done ... (read in full...)
How can I respond sensibly to my girlfriend when she asks why I look at porn sometimes?
Q. Hi this looks like a nice site. Hoping I can get some sensible advice. I'm living with my girlfriend, and we have been talking about getting married. Been together more than 2 years. She can be cool, knows I go to strip clubs with the guys some ti...
A. 6 February 2008: For more answers from a girls perspective take a look at this question and answers:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/whats-your-opinion-about-porn.html
I think it's useful to see both sides :)
p.s. It's great you both were able to sit do... (read in full...)
Is this a strange habit of my boyfriend's?
Q. My boyfriend masturbates whilst playing on his xbox360. several times i have walked in on hhim holding the controller in one hand and his penis in the other. he does it with many different games, from racing games to war games. i've tried to ignore ...
A. 6 February 2008: Are you sure? Perhaps he also has porn on there and switches it over when you catch him? Otherwise I'd have to say I don't think this is common or maybe I'm missing out on something :)
Still, whatever floats your boat I suppose. There are some wei... (read in full...)
Should I live my life based on horoscopes?
Q. i want to go out with this boy who is realy funny and i think he likes me as a friend, but i dont know weather to ask him out because my horoscopes in a magazine say we shouldnt go out. what should i do???...
A. 6 February 2008: I'd have to agree with TELLULAH. Star signs are a load of rubbish and the very idea you should let them rule your life is ridiculous.
"Think about it!! everyone born on 1st Febuary is an Aquarius. What!! we all have the same things happenin... (read in full...)
What's your opinion about porn?
Q. Ok every time I write that i have a problem with my boyfriend watching porn i always get this answer that all guys do it and to expect it. I just want to see more peoples thoughts on it cause if its so harmless, why am I getting so hurt by it? Ill ...
A. 6 February 2008: "i'm not sure where i read this, in some magazine probably, but there was a survey on this and 67% of the large sample of women viewed watching porn as cheating"
Surprising since according to an Oprah Winfrey Show 70% of men between the ages of ... (read in full...)
I met him on line, do you think he is a pervert?
Q. I'm a 13 year old girl and I need some opinions from people. I have msn and lately some one added me on their msn list. I clicked him/she and asked them and it was a boy. He said he gave me his email. He said he was 17 and I saw his display pic so ...
A. 6 February 2008: "He also said I was sexy and called me sexy. He said he had feelings for me and would like to see me. He said stuff about my body like I had nice b**bs and a**..."
How someone can have feelings for you already having never met you and only rec... (read in full...)
How can I respond sensibly to my girlfriend when she asks why I look at porn sometimes?
Q. Hi this looks like a nice site. Hoping I can get some sensible advice. I'm living with my girlfriend, and we have been talking about getting married. Been together more than 2 years. She can be cool, knows I go to strip clubs with the guys some ti...
A. 6 February 2008: Well... to put it bluntly sometimes you want a "snack" and sometimes you want the full three course meal.
Tell her it's nothing compared to the real thing with her and you love her and that makes it all the more amazing.
However, if i... (read in full...)
How do I stop thinking about my ex and her relationship?
Q. I keep having nights where I can't get my ex out of my head. We broke up a year ago next month, so I would have liked to believe that she would have left my head by now, even if we were together for 2 years. But no. I still think about her, and it ...
A. 6 February 2008: I've been here myself... but I was in a relationship for 6 years and it took me a year to get over the break-up. Unfortunately, there are no limits as to how long it can take to get over somebody special. Horrible thought being in the place you're ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my boyfriend's best friend that I will break up with my boyfriend to begin a new relationship with him?
Q. I have feelings for my boyfriend's best friend, we have a lot in common and I really can imagine us dating. How do I tell my boyfriend's best friend that I will break up with my boyfriend to begin a new relationship with him?...
A. 6 February 2008: You always want what you can't have. Do you really have feelings for him or is it just lust or an infatuation?
At the end of the day there are certain rules which shouldn't be broken and one of them is stay away from boyfrien... (read in full...)
She asked me if I found her friend attractive, I said yes, now she's mad, whats the go?
Q. My Girlfriend asked me if I was attracted to one of her friends, and I never want to lie to her so I told her the truth, that I thought her friend was attractive, but I don't want to be with her friend, I only want to be with my girlfriend and I ...
A. 6 February 2008: "You fell for the classic 'Is my friend good looking'... What you were supposed to answer was 'She's nothing compared to you baby'.
Hit the nail on the head there! Questions like do you think I'm fat? and does my bum look big in this? are a bit of... (read in full...)
How to get over your EX.
Q. BACKGROUND Following breaking up with my EX a couple of months ago I’ve been finding it extremely hard to get over her. Sometimes I think about her still and I seem to go through periods of wanting her back, only to then go through periods ...
A. 29 January 2008: Hi KayKay,
I was with my EX... lol... (read in full...)
How to get over your EX.
Q. BACKGROUND Following breaking up with my EX a couple of months ago I’ve been finding it extremely hard to get over her. Sometimes I think about her still and I seem to go through periods of wanting her back, only to then go through periods ...
A. 21 January 2008: Thanks for your comments. They're much appreciated and makes me feel it was worthwhile writing it :)
Best of luck!... (read in full...)
Was there something else?
Q. My friend's boyfriend dumped her after 9 months together because, according to her, he was fed up with her texting him and wanting to chat to him every day (thats what happens in a relationship!). I thought this was very strange, seeing that he ...
A. 9 January 2008: "My friend's boyfriend dumped her after 9 months together because, according to her, he was fed up with her texting him and wanting to chat to him every day (thats what happens in a relationship!). I thought this was very strange, seeing that he ... (read in full...)
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