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Im in hairdressing but want to go into property, how can make the change ??

Q.   I am currently in hairdressing, I want to either get into property development, or recruitment, where do i go from here to train to do these?...

A.   27 December 2006: hey, property development and recruitment are totally different - which one are you really interested in?? Have you seen a career counsellor to help you decide on an appropriate career?? If you decide on property development, you're going to ... (read in full...)

Should I move to melbourne to continue my nursing course?

Q.   Hi I am a tasmanian student completed 1st yr nursing. I have been offered the same course in Melb. The reason why i applied coz I know people ther and wasnt happy being here. The problem is that the uni in melbounre cannot know how much credit t...

A.   27 December 2006: hey there, hope this answer helps and gets to you in time. firstly, I would suggest you look at the reason why you're not happy in Taz. If it's got anything to do with your course, then I think that even moving to Melbourne won't help that. ... (read in full...)

Will this girl be able to tell I'm a virgin?

Q.   I am a 20 yr old male seeing this girl now that is a little more experienced than me do you think she will be able to tell during sex ...

A.   29 November 2006: I don't think she'll be able to tell. Treat her with respect, listen to what she's telling you (really this is important) and you'll be fine. Have a good time! Anon2907 ... (read in full...)

Why is it important to have a pap smear?

Q.   Why do I have to have a pap smear? I don't like doctors and haven't been to since i was probably about 12. Why is it important for women to have a pap smear, i'm fairly strongly against this because i believe that the female or anybody for that ...

A.   29 November 2006: Hey, I'm not a medical person, but I do know it's important to check on things once in a while. Think of your body as the engine in a car. If you only take the car to the garage when it's broken down it's not a very successful way to run a car... (read in full...)

How do I start talking to my friends again when I havent spoken to them for months?

Q.   How do I start talking to my friends again when I havent spoken to them for months? Ive been working so hard over the past few months and only saw my closest friends at the weekends. Then the other day I was going through my phonebook and re...

A.   4 November 2006: rhythmandblues2 is right. Your friends will understand you've been busy and it's likely they have too, if you've not heard from them either. It's easy to lose touch with people, but wonderful to make the effort. Ring up, say Hi and go from t... (read in full...)

How do I find out if he likes me without asking him directly or having others do it for me?

Q.   A few weeks ago I had started work. Sinse my first day I had layed my eyes on a man there. My problem is that I was recently told by work collegues he likes me too but they could have been joking because they are like that. No one knows that I like ...

A.   4 November 2006: Hey, You could text him, or email him. Or you could ask to meet up after work for a drink and see how that goes. If it's going OK, ask him there. Or find someone at work you can trust who could ask him, but it's always going to sound be... (read in full...)

Trying hard to avoid a crush at work as I'm married with kids! Any advice ?

Q.   Hi there. I'm A happily married man. I dearly love my wife and we have 2 beautiful children. We are together since we were 16 and have never had any other partners. However I have got this wee crush on another Woman in work. I know its a non r...

A.   4 November 2006: Hey, I would say it depends on what the girl at work is like. Would she be able to talk about it with you, be flattered and understand where you're coming from - or would she want to progress things - and how would you deal with that? Avoidan... (read in full...)

My Mother is nice but she drags me down, at times. What should I do?

Q.   My mother is so lovely and nice but sometimes when I talk with her about friends or how I deal with certain situations she keeps asking me the exact words I said or how did I do it when talking with someone and then passes critics on me supposing it ...

A.   4 November 2006: Hey, I can relate to this, my mother can behave in the same way and sometimes it feels like a real shame. It'd be nice to have that unconditional support you feel you're looking for. For me I've learned to take what she says with a pinch of ... (read in full...)

Why is it that the women I try to talk to..are so cold and rude to me? What should I do?

Q.   why is it that i find that many girls are so cold towards me...can someone ( preferably female) tell me if these scenarios are normal ? 1)I like to say hi or smile to girls in the street, but they rudely walk by without saying hi back. 2)Or i...

A.   23 October 2006: Hey, I'm not surprised by your scenarios at all, which is a bit of a shame. I have to say, if someone said hello to me in the street I'd think they were mad - or after something. The door thing - that's just rude girls - lucky escape! ... (read in full...)

Am I over-reacting to the noisy neighbours?

Q.   We rent a house in a lovely peaceful area. Peaceful excpet for the children next door who wake extremely early and scream quite loudly. Peaceful apart from the other neighbour who plays his music loud and until late at night. Back in June, with the...

A.   23 October 2006: Hey, There are laws in place in the UK to help prevent noisy neighbours - although the instances you are describing, while annoying in their own right, are infrequent and as such the chances of you suceeding in a complaint against your neighbou... (read in full...)

My periods are bad...will the pill help me?

Q.   I've heard that if you go on the pill, it tricks your body into thinking your pregnant, and you won't get your period. I have really bad periods, bad bloating, unbelievable pain, terrible moodswings, constant tiredness, etc.etc., would going on t...

A.   17 October 2006: Hey, there are a number of different types of pills out there which apparently do different things. I've never really investigated. I know people have gone on the pill for what you describe - and I did for a while. However, for me the const... (read in full...)

What can I do if a person finds my ID and wants more than on line relationship without my consent? Help..advice needed!

Q.   What happens if a person gets your ID from internet, can he find out where you live or find a way to harm you? What can I do if a person finds my ID and wants more than on line relationship without my consent? thanks a lot...

A.   16 October 2006: Hey, I guess it depends what you mean by ID, but there are ways of getting information about people - but then it can depend on what info you share online. No one can legally have a relationship with you without your consent. EVER. If you'... (read in full...)

I'm starting to give up on waiting to have sex with the right person! Should I visit a prostitute?

Q.   I'm starting to give up on waiting for the right person to have sex with. I can't a girlfriend because I'm unattractive (my parents say thats not true but it is) all my friends are having sex and I'm theonly one who hasn't. I read a question on here ...

A.   16 October 2006: Hey, Cliche first - beauty is more than skin deep. You may feel unattractive on the outside, but this isn't going to help you at all. You will inevtiably give off a vibe of a lack of confidence - people notice it, even if they can't put their fi... (read in full...)

Gambling, misogyny, porn...all he does makes me feel low down and bad. What should I do?

Q.   My boyfriend and I are always on/off. He looks at porn all the time but ONLY lesbian porn.. sometimes mature women sometimes younger. Sometimes I have gone to bed and he is still at it.. I have unfortunately caught him with his trousers down. I ...

A.   16 October 2006: Hey, This guy sounds sexually agressive (if there is even such a thing). Misogynistic? Perhaps. Ultimately thought it boils down to whether this is something you want from a relationship? If you think you can cope with it for the next 10,... (read in full...)

I think of him all the this a crush or what?

Q.   hi im 15 and whats wrong wiv me!?! im not sure if i have ever fancied someone cos basically... i have a mate thats a boy and we are quite good friends. the thing is i have started to think about him when im not with him all the time, and i mean ALL...

A.   14 October 2006: Hey, Don't forget that fancying someone is about more than just looks. There are all sorts of things that make some attractive - such as their sense of humour, their personality as a whole, their attitude to life, the way they treat you - and ot... (read in full...)

I think of him all the this a crush or what?

Q.   hi im 15 and whats wrong wiv me!?! im not sure if i have ever fancied someone cos basically... i have a mate thats a boy and we are quite good friends. the thing is i have started to think about him when im not with him all the time, and i mean ALL...

A.   13 October 2006: Oh yeah, you fancy him. Either that, or you hate him!! It's funny isn't it how you can be happily doing something and then find yourself thinking of someone. A classic sign that you like them though. Maybe he likes you too??... (read in full...)

I'm unhappily married do you think this man I like is backing away because I am married or is there another reason?

Q.   I am currently married but v unhappy in my relationship - we are in the process of splitting up... Aside from this, a few months ago I met a man who I also have some business dealings.. The first time we met we were both very drunk and he made a pa...

A.   13 October 2006: Hey, I'm not entirely sure about this one...... Obviously he likes you a lot - that's clear - otherwise would he email you all day?? The fact that you kissed and then he said it was a bad idea, followed by you making a pass and that b... (read in full...)

What does it mean when a man winks at you?

Q.   What does it mean when a man winks at you?...

A.   13 October 2006: It means that the wind has blown dust in his eye!! But seriously, it probably means that he thinks you're cute. But it could be cute as in - he really fancies you, or cute as in - he thinks you're a sweet girl and he's being friendly. No easy... (read in full...)

If I date this guy then that means we have to snog and I don't want to do that! What shall I do?

Q.   Hey, I'm a 13 yr old girl and this lad fancies me quite a lot. I like him a little bit. He's just asked me out but I really don't know because I know if I say yeah, I'll have to go with him (snog him) but that's a reason why I don't want to. ...

A.   13 October 2006: Hey, If you like the guy enough (you'll know!) go out with him. If you feel comfortable with him, then snogging him will be fine, you might be nervous, but it'll be nice!! He's never going to know if you've kissed other boys or not - you can ... (read in full...)

He's unhappily married and wants me to give him "a happy ending"! What should I do with this guy??

Q.   a man that I really like wrote me a letter which was vague and said "that he wanted a happy ending". I know that he is unhappily married, and like him too but would never want to break up a marriage. He ended the letter with " p.s Don't forget the ...

A.   13 October 2006: Hey, You're right, happy ending is vague. It could mean anything, but maybe that's the point?? It seems to me like he's cautiously made an approach towards you. There's no indication though whether this is a romantic approach or just a friendly... (read in full...)

I have trust issues from my past relationship--so how do I stop doing this before I lose my current bf?

Q.   I am a single mother who just got out of the relationship with my child's father in April. I dated around for a while and in May I found a man who is what I have been looking for in a guy. He loves me and we have both been hurt by our exes in the ...

A.   13 October 2006: hey, It seems to me, that if you want to tackle an issue like this, the biggest, hardest hurdle is admiting to it and recognising it could be a problem. So first hurdle - and you've tackled it head on! I'm not convinved that the time ... (read in full...)

I have braces, spots and glasses! Is this why I can't find a bf? Help!

Q.   Feeling abit upset recently about my looks. I was told i would get my braces off and guess what i still have them. I also have glasses and spots. I get really annoyed and think things like hey why not go the whole way and get fat too! I burst into ...

A.   12 October 2006: kat, You're not ugly, you're suffering from low self esteem. OK, so you still have your braces on, but they'll be off soon right? - and does it really make a difference? I bet a load of kids your ages have them. And look at Tom Cruise, he got t... (read in full...)

My coworker is moving to another section..should I tell him how I truely feel before he goes?

Q.   I have wrote to this site before for advice, and all the help received was really appreciated. However due to my nerves of the fear of rejection I have not acted on any of the advice given. My problem is I have fallen for one of my co -workers, ...

A.   12 October 2006: hey, I guess the question is 'what's the worst that will happen?' If he's moving to another section you won't see him that much anyway, even if he doesn't feel the same - right? And if he does - well then you'll be happy as larry! Maybe ... (read in full...)

I'm asking for advice of grown adults who have minds

Q.   I need your advice... I bet you all get sick of teenagers like me. I'm telling you this and asking for your advice because most of you are grown adults who have minds, and have been through it before and know what to do, or know what advice to g...

A.   8 October 2006: Hey Ben, It sounds to me like you've been through a massive roller coaster of emotions, first falling in love, then breaking up the hard way. Ouch! I think your question ultimately was whether to go for it with Laura again?? Well, is she in ... (read in full...)

What do you think of men?

Q.   i think a man is like a emty vesel most of the time just waiting for a woman to fill him up. they pretend they are manly but mostly a mother brings up a son not a husband,so by the time we get them it seems like we gain a son rather than a ...

A.   8 October 2006: sleepysly, You sound like a woman who's suffered/suffering from a bad experience. I'm surprised your post didn't get some more responses, especially from the guys on this site. I was kinda disappointed by your generalisation, it seems so unfa... (read in full...)

After watching a movie, it made me send a loving text message. She never responded. Was I stupid?

Q.   hey, last night i watched this film and it really got me thinking about how much people mean to me in my life and i text this girl late at nite (one in the morning) and told her that when she moves from holland back to england im going to give her a ...

A.   8 October 2006: Although it was sweet to act on impulse and tell someone how you feel, I do wonder if it might have been better said during the day - or by email??? I know it makes me nervous when peoeple text me late at night - I don't even know if I could ... (read in full...)

How can I forget him and find someone who wants me for me?

Q.   I am 34 and met this guy over 2 years ago, and fell big time for him - everyine warned me whathe was like i.e. totally not looking for a relationship and would mess my head around with his mind games! now 2 years on, I have slept with him numerous ...

A.   8 October 2006: Hey, I'm not clear from your post whether you guys are together or not. You imply you are by talking about the first 16 months and then imply the opposite talking of when you bump into one another. The way I'm seeing it, is that you're in a... (read in full...)

Why is it taking so long to get over my ex? Its been 7 months!!

Q.   hi im 15 and used to go out with this boy the same age as me that i had a massive crush on. then he dumped me for some reason. i was really upset. but that was 7 months ago and i still cant stop thinking about him and i still wanna go back out with...

A.   7 October 2006: Hey, Getting over someone is about more than time. If you constantly think about someone and still want to go back out with them, despite not seeing them for months, then you're not making it easy for yourself to move on. You need to be getti... (read in full...)

I argued the case of homosexuality in ethics, now my entire year think I am gay.

Q.   Hi, I'm 13 In school it's kind of "evil" to be gay or a gay sympithiser. But In an RE lesson under ethics this boy went on about how homosexuals are sick and wrong ect. So I publicly argued with him over it and now my entire year thinks I'm gay...

A.   5 October 2006: Hey, At school there seems to be a huge thing about people being gay and yet they say that 1 in 10 of the population are, so think about how many that actually is in your school. My feeling about this is that the ones who are calling you ... (read in full...)

How can I choose a birthday card for my boyfriend? His parents do not know about us, so I don't want to hint at love.

Q.   I have been trying to pick a birthday card for my boyfriend and it is proving difficult. He lives with his parents but hasn’t told them we are together yet because he wants to see how long it takes to suss us out as they have been trying to get us ...

A.   5 October 2006: Hey, If your relationship is special to you both then any card from you will be meaningful to him. Instead of the usual lovey-dovey card, why not go for a funny card and get him a gift that shows how you feel?? That way you get to send the ... (read in full...)

Why are my cliquey workmates treating me so badly? I am so puzzled!!

Q.   I got a job 2 years ago but seems like only a couple of months. The previous post holder seems to have left under a cloud and her name is never mentioned except she had a big row with one of the two bosses. I asked one of the bosses, the one she had ...

A.   23 September 2006: Hey, The first thing I thought when I read your message was that the women were jealous of the relationship you have with one of the men in the office, in as much as you have a close working relationship with him, and you have noticed them loo... (read in full...)

SITE NEWS: New features? What other sites do you use? .. and please tell a friend!

Q.   Hi everyone Andrew, site guy here! I ask this periodically... 1. What new features would you like to see? 2. What other websites do you use regularly? 3. Where are you from? Thanks to all the agony aunts, moderators and of course...

A.   22 September 2006: Hi Andrew! There's been some great suggestions I think from people here - I would like to add my vote to seeing who's online (and an option to not show if you are online!) and a spellchecker. I'd also like to vote against a chat room for various ... (read in full...)

Why is it so hard to ask a friend on a date?

Q.   Hi all. Been a regular and even given a few advice of my own. I am at the moment unhappy and tired of being alone. I am in my mid 20's and never really had a long term relationship. Longest been 1 month. I have never had a one night stand...

A.   22 September 2006: Hey, You find it hard to ask out your friend because there's a chance he/he'll say no and that'd cause a problem in your friendship. I wish I could invent a way for someone to check the feelings of their friends before they ask them out - I'd be... (read in full...)

6 years with this crush... What should I do?

Q.   when i was 15 i developed a crush on my high school teacher/coach. i'm now 21, out of high school, and still can't stop thinking about him. i've kept in touch with him this whole time, and he has constantly been sending me mixed signals (which i...

A.   17 September 2006: Ew, weird. I could get the whole thing, apart from the gf knowing how you feel and yet continuously keeping in contact with you - that just sounds weird. I can't quite see where they're coming from on this. I guess both the guy and his gf a... (read in full...)

In a long distance relationship-what do you do about your sex drive?

Q.   In a long distance relationship. What do you do about your sex drive?...

A.   17 September 2006: I presume you mean because you have a sex drive that wants sex more often than you see the person in the relationship?? How about 'phone sex' with your long distance partner?? Or you could chat online with each other - use webcams and so on. ... (read in full...)

My husband looks very old and I'm ashamed to be seen in public with him! How do I deal with this?

Q.   My husband is 43 but he looks atleast 55 - greying, balding and generally cares a damn. I'm 38 but look much younger (as per others) and often nowadays people mistake him for my father. Perhaps sounds really immature but I feel really ashamed to be ...

A.   17 September 2006: Hey, I think perhaps this assumption that people make is partly down to you as much as it's about his looks. People make judgements, rightly or wrongly, about the people they meet and the relationship those people have and so on based on more... (read in full...)

Can someone try and help sort through this mess in my head.. Im scared of making the wrong choice with the wrong guy!! (very long)

Q.   Hi, First of all I am just warning you that this could possibly be the longest letter you have ever received but I wanted to tell you every little thing so you have the perfect picture. I was hoping you could help me make a decision as I ca...

A.   6 September 2006: Yikes! You're right - it's like a novel! OK, some observations..... Danny doesn't sound like he's the good guy you first met and first liked. I'm not convinced that his 'lies' about the other woman in his bed and the 20 other women actua... (read in full...)

How do I deal with the mother of his child when she hates me?

Q.   I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year. He has a six year old daughter who lives with her mom. My boyfriend and I will take her out for some weekends and we are doing very well together. However, my boyfriend's ex-wife seems to ignore m...

A.   5 September 2006: hey theskycastle, it sounds to me like the break up between your bf and his ex-wife was no amicable. If it was, I doubt her behaviour would be like this. She sounds unhappy with the way things turned out - angry and perhaps jealous. If thi... (read in full...)

What's going on - Is he interested, or not!?

Q.   Hi, I'm 25 and iv met this guy from my work who has now left. We were working together for 2 months and did not speak the whole time until his final week, and that was because I contacted first. Basicaly his friend said he liked me and i thought...

A.   4 September 2006: Hey anon.... It does sounds like he kinda likes you - but is *very* shy. Could also be he's not texted cos he's not got much credit on his phone???? Could you talk on MSN or email instead? Maybe suggest another meeting up and then you ... (read in full...)

I worry about divorce - even though I'm not married yet!

Q.   Hi I'm 18 years old and going to uni, but i keep thinking of the future. Should I be thinking about divorce at this moment in time and trying to think of ways to prevent it from happening to me? Also I read a question on here about divore, would ...

A.   30 August 2006: Hey, It's fine to be thinking about the future and to be cautious of the things which bother you, but don't dwell on it too much. These days being in a long term relationship and not getting married is not so taboo - and there's no divor... (read in full...)

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