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My dad was a married woman's other guy for only a few weeks (about a decade before my mum met him), then realised he wasn't okay with helping her betray her husband. His friend became her other guy, husband came home while they were at it, the guy jumped out of the window and the husband knew, so grabbed a bicycle, chased him and punched him once, going 20mph, so it knocked him out. A couple of relationships later, after getting £15,000 in debt to help a woman leave her abusive husband and getting in a relationship with her, my dad came back from a holiday with his parents and found her with another guy. |
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I think I'm falling in love. Should I still go to Canada or stay here to see how this relationship develops?
Q. So i decided i was moving to Canada last September and have since met a guy (February). i told him straight out i was moving away and he was only out of a very long relationship. We've been seeing each other a few times every week for the las...
A. 3 August 2020: Sorry to hear that. I’m sure life has better in store for you :)... (read in full...)
I would love to ask this waitress out. Any suggestions on how to handle this?
Q. I like a waitress in the town near to where I live. She has served me on several occasions, and said hi and spoken to me. I would love to ask her out, but my bottle always goes!! It was my birthday yesterday, and on the way out she said 'Ha...
A. 13 July 2016: You approached her the right way, OP - don't worry. There's absolutely nothing wrong or inferior about the way you went in there :)... (read in full...)
I would love to ask this waitress out. Any suggestions on how to handle this?
Q. I like a waitress in the town near to where I live. She has served me on several occasions, and said hi and spoken to me. I would love to ask her out, but my bottle always goes!! It was my birthday yesterday, and on the way out she said 'Ha...
A. 29 June 2016: You're still overthinking it. If she's not in, wait until she is. Don't go in more regularly than you normally would because it's kind of obsessive.
If you go in once or twice a week, just keep doing that, don't go in three or four times. Don't st... (read in full...)
I would love to ask this waitress out. Any suggestions on how to handle this?
Q. I like a waitress in the town near to where I live. She has served me on several occasions, and said hi and spoken to me. I would love to ask her out, but my bottle always goes!! It was my birthday yesterday, and on the way out she said 'Ha...
A. 29 June 2016: Not all men and women are the same, though. Many couples are shy or just don't like being "presupposed". A lot of us like more consideration or contribution from both people for the first date and so on.
This isn't just what I'm saying, this is ... (read in full...)
I would love to ask this waitress out. Any suggestions on how to handle this?
Q. I like a waitress in the town near to where I live. She has served me on several occasions, and said hi and spoken to me. I would love to ask her out, but my bottle always goes!! It was my birthday yesterday, and on the way out she said 'Ha...
A. 28 June 2016: You're just overanalysing and takin the fun out of it. Stop twisting yourself into different "what do I do" questions - you said it yourself; "what ifs" drive you round the bend, but so does this. You're obsessing. Forget about it until the time has ... (read in full...)
I would love to ask this waitress out. Any suggestions on how to handle this?
Q. I like a waitress in the town near to where I live. She has served me on several occasions, and said hi and spoken to me. I would love to ask her out, but my bottle always goes!! It was my birthday yesterday, and on the way out she said 'Ha...
A. 28 June 2016: I'd find it obnoxious if you demanded a date and time, so I'd turn you down. Not everyone likes the type of alpha Serpico describes - many do, but a lot don't.... (read in full...)
I want to marry my g/f but she won't do oral sex and its important to me
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for 5 years and she wont blow me. I go down on her and tell her alot how much id like one. She says she might one day but thinks itsgross and awkward. I want to marry her one day but this is important to me. What ...
A. 22 June 2016: OP, thing is, you don't want your opinion on it considered; you want her to do it anyway. She *has* considered how you feel about it, but still doesn't want to do it - that's okay, just like it would be okay for her to want you to do something and ... (read in full...)
I want to marry my g/f but she won't do oral sex and its important to me
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for 5 years and she wont blow me. I go down on her and tell her alot how much id like one. She says she might one day but thinks itsgross and awkward. I want to marry her one day but this is important to me. What ...
A. 21 June 2016: The whole point of sex is consent and she isn't happy consenting to oral on you - that's *okay*, just like it's okay for it to be a deal breaker for you. Some people like it and some don't mind, but some people just don't like it and shouldn't be ... (read in full...)
High Libido and still a virgin. Am I weird or is it somewhat normal for my age to use masturbation to relieve my sexual tension?
Q. Hi agony aunts. So I'll be 17 soon and am not yet sexually active. Problem is my hormones have been driving me crazy since I turned 11/12 (when I hit puberty). That is the time when I started masturbating (please don't tell me its a sin or anything...
A. 20 June 2016: I agree with avoiding porn for now; you're at an impressionable age and it's unhealthy to watch, at the moment.... (read in full...)
Am I right to be upset about my boyfriend going on a "men's day out"? no women allowed.
Q. Am I right to be upset about my boyfriend going out for the day with his male friends?. He is going out for the day with his male friends this afternoon. He said no women are allowed. He said they go on a day out together every year. He also to...
A. 20 June 2016: Too soon for a new guy, I think. You barely saw that this current relationship was dodgy, so I think you need to take some time out to re-evaluate your boundaries. What is and isn't okay in a relationship for you? Then, if it's reasonable, stick to ... (read in full...)
I want to marry my g/f but she won't do oral sex and its important to me
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for 5 years and she wont blow me. I go down on her and tell her alot how much id like one. She says she might one day but thinks itsgross and awkward. I want to marry her one day but this is important to me. What ...
A. 20 June 2016: It's your right to want something sexual and it's her right to not be comfortable doing it. She doesn't *have* to try it - if you love her or even just respect her, she doesn't need to "come around". If you "need" this, break up with her. She's not ... (read in full...)
I would love to ask this waitress out. Any suggestions on how to handle this?
Q. I like a waitress in the town near to where I live. She has served me on several occasions, and said hi and spoken to me. I would love to ask her out, but my bottle always goes!! It was my birthday yesterday, and on the way out she said 'Ha...
A. 20 June 2016: I don't really know; it's hard when you don't know anything about them and have no common ground to bring up. I guess you say something about wanting to go for coffee? Personally, I don't think you should, as it could be seen as creepy for asking ... (read in full...)
I want to marry my g/f but she won't do oral sex and its important to me
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for 5 years and she wont blow me. I go down on her and tell her alot how much id like one. She says she might one day but thinks itsgross and awkward. I want to marry her one day but this is important to me. What ...
A. 20 June 2016: YouWish and similar responses are right - oral can be pretty gross, when you think about it. When giving oral to women/pre-op trans guys, the liquid can be avoided fairly easily, but it can be harder to avoid liquid that comes out of people who have ... (read in full...)
How do I stop ending up with girls who ONLY want attention?
Q. How do I stop ending up with girls who ONLY want attention? The earlier posts are EXACTLY what I keep running into! They get all flirty, talk to me for hours, text me cute things all day and when we finally have sex or try to, they say I'm ONLY in ...
A. 19 June 2016: "She had real bad skin was smoking weed and easy to bed even though she was fat" - that's such a spiteful and judgemental thing to say. You don't *deserve* a good girlfriend if you can't respect women. You "helped" her so that *you* would benefit. ... (read in full...)
Are my standards losing me love?
Q. Dear Aunts. Ive never had a long term relationship. The longest ive dated is three months. All the guys i date seem to start questioning the relationship at some point. Ive been told by both girls and guys that im very beautiful and ive the right ...
A. 19 June 2016: Don't change your standards, but stop trying to change other people. They don't *want* to be bossed around by you. Let them live in a dump, just clean what's yours. It's frustrating and annoying for a tidy person to be around that, but you're not ... (read in full...)
His kiss has upset my calm
Q. I have a bf of over a year however recently something happened with a work colleague. The guy from work kissed me after a night out but now has said we can't talk outside of work anymore as his gf thinks there is something between us. I'm feeli...
A. 19 June 2016: You have *nothing* with your colleague. He has a girlfriend and doesn't want any contact outside of work with you.
However, you have something with your boyfriend that you're not happy with. You break up with him, take a few months out of dating, ... (read in full...)
How should I behave when I meet his parents? They live abroad and I don't speak their language.
Q. Hi agony aunts! So my boyfriend and I have been together for a while now and we've decided to take the next step. Meeting the parents! Problem is his parents live abroad and I can't speak a word of their language. We're staying at his parents...
A. 19 June 2016: I hope this isn't for a few months, as it's important that you learn basics of their language. If not, it'll look like you've put no effort in and you'll be completely left out. Also, staying at theirs for 2 weeks isn't a great idea - it's bett... (read in full...)
Am I right to be upset about my boyfriend going on a "men's day out"? no women allowed.
Q. Am I right to be upset about my boyfriend going out for the day with his male friends?. He is going out for the day with his male friends this afternoon. He said no women are allowed. He said they go on a day out together every year. He also to...
A. 19 June 2016: I think you're missing the point, OP; I know you like this guy, but you really don't have a future with him. I think you know that, but may not be ready to accept it, which is wasting your time.... (read in full...)
Am I right to be upset about my boyfriend going on a "men's day out"? no women allowed.
Q. Am I right to be upset about my boyfriend going out for the day with his male friends?. He is going out for the day with his male friends this afternoon. He said no women are allowed. He said they go on a day out together every year. He also to...
A. 18 June 2016: I see a *major* problem: 8 months "on and off". Why has it already been "on and off" during only 8 months?... (read in full...)
My married man was upset I broke up with him! Was I unreasonable?
Q. I have been involved with a married man for 10 years, I waited until his children were grown up so I could make demands in my lover leaning his wife, they are 17 and 19 so not kids anymore....I asked him last night for us to be a proper couple now, ...
A. 18 June 2016: You did the right thing 9 years and 11 months later than you should have. Well, you shouldn't have even got with a married man because you (and he) have effectively ruined someone's life. How can you justify that to yourself? I know that sounds ... (read in full...)
High Libido and still a virgin. Am I weird or is it somewhat normal for my age to use masturbation to relieve my sexual tension?
Q. Hi agony aunts. So I'll be 17 soon and am not yet sexually active. Problem is my hormones have been driving me crazy since I turned 11/12 (when I hit puberty). That is the time when I started masturbating (please don't tell me its a sin or anything...
A. 18 June 2016: Very few people on here would say masturbation is a sin, so no worries there.
At any age (particularly 14+), it's very normal to masturbate everyday, once a week, once a month or never. The only time it becomes an issue is when you do it multiple... (read in full...)
Why did my boyfriend tell me to be a good girl while he is overseas on a trip?
Q. My boyfriend is travelling overseas to visit his family. He just texted me before boarding the plane saying he will miss me and that he'd see me in a few weeks. Then he told me to be a good girl for him while he is gone. That he will be a go...
A. 18 June 2016: It would only make me cring because "boy" and "girl" isn't normally how you'd refer to adults, but I agree that he was probably going for cute.... (read in full...)
Am I right to be upset about my boyfriend going on a "men's day out"? no women allowed.
Q. Am I right to be upset about my boyfriend going out for the day with his male friends?. He is going out for the day with his male friends this afternoon. He said no women are allowed. He said they go on a day out together every year. He also to...
A. 18 June 2016: His men's day out is a non-issue. If you're worried about women talking to him, that's your insecurity, as he could have that happen at any time - though going to another town and not telling that woman is harsh; they should have just told her more ... (read in full...)
How can I get over the fear of never finding the "one"?
Q. How can I get over the fear of never finding the one? For the last 29 years (im turning 30) all I have focused on was finding a man. I've tried everything - I've lost weight - fixed my appearance- kept up with my degrees- but still I find myself i...
A. 17 June 2016: Firstly - 10 years, not 29. I'll give you since the age of 20, you've been wanting a decent guy - not birth. Part of your issue is exaggerating the "problem". Accept that you don't need to find "the one" right now. If you go out looking for "the... (read in full...)
I have sex daily with my BF and I masturbate. My high sex drive is a problem. What can I do?
Q. I have always had a fairly high sex drive even in high school but the past year my sex drive keeps getting higher. It's to the point where I actually can't do daily things. My bf and I have an amazing sex life but he said that he physical...
A. 17 June 2016: Please speak to your doctor; it shouldn't take over your life this much.... (read in full...)
Why is porn condemned by women?
Q. I am curious about this. It seems that to some women the worst sin a man can commit is looking at porn and I don't get it. They are just images on a screen of women he most likely will never meet or ever have a chance with. The chances of him a...
A. 17 June 2016: It's not just a women thing; guys can get insecure about it too. I personally find it too fake and cringeworthy, as well as degrading a lot of the time.
It's fine for some, but it gets obsessive for others and I don't think I'd feel comforta... (read in full...)
My manager sent an angry text on my day off! How should I respond?
Q. My boss has sent me a shitty text message saying the following: "you have authorised 'john' to have this saturday off as holiday and not put anyone in at 8am, so as it stands, i cant enter the store. not your finest rota this week, needs impr...
A. 17 June 2016: I don't think it's unprofessional for him to alert you to an error like this when you've left the place unopened for an hour. The mistake is just that; a genuine mistake, but how would you fix the problem for Saturday, if you don't know about it ... (read in full...)
I would love to ask this waitress out. Any suggestions on how to handle this?
Q. I like a waitress in the town near to where I live. She has served me on several occasions, and said hi and spoken to me. I would love to ask her out, but my bottle always goes!! It was my birthday yesterday, and on the way out she said 'Ha...
A. 17 June 2016: Dating is about getting to know the person, but you normally know something about their personality already that makes you want to know more - right now, all you have is her looks and age, as well as that she's a polite waitress. I'm not saying ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to sleep with my sister's boyfriend's best friend?
Q. I have been single for the last year epically failing with guys and dating.. I can never get past first kiss.. And for a girl with a high sex drive that can be pretty frustrating!! Last night we all went out to celebrate my sister's boyfrie...
A. 16 June 2016: "I understand things could mess up and it could get awkward in the long run, she wants to marry her boyfriend.. but right now I'm only thinking about sex with his friend" - I was on your side with her not being able to "ban" you until you said ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong or right to send flowers to a co worker you like?
Q. I have a question I wanted to ask and ive been debating it. If there is a co worker a male likes and he's into her. Let's say the special day was valentines day. Is it wrong or right to send flowers to a co worker you like? not that I'm intendi...
A. 16 June 2016: There's no point trying to hide that you're the one interested in doing this....
Anyway, I think that the gesture is nice, but too much for someone you're not already dating. Asking her out for drinks is a better idea - it'll give you a clear in... (read in full...)
I told him white lie about my birthday, now what?
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for 6 months now. Things are great and we're in love. Only I feel so guilty about a little white lie I told him at the start of our relationship! He's 21 and when I met him I was 17, literally turning 18 in a month's ...
A. 16 June 2016: I agree with the others; it isn't minor at all because there's a big legal and moral difference between 17 and 18. To be honest, whilst I'm not saying he should break up with you over it, I hope that he's frustrated and disappointed with you for a ... (read in full...)
I would love to ask this waitress out. Any suggestions on how to handle this?
Q. I like a waitress in the town near to where I live. She has served me on several occasions, and said hi and spoken to me. I would love to ask her out, but my bottle always goes!! It was my birthday yesterday, and on the way out she said 'Ha...
A. 16 June 2016: Does her age have anything to do with it for you? I'm only asking because you don't really know anything about her to want to date her personality.... (read in full...)
How can this continue with me losing my sanity? I have a wife and a girlfriend who are both amazing.
Q. I've been having an affair with a much younger, beautiful and sexy woman for over three years. I am in a fairly good marriage and we've been married for 22 years. My wife and I are on the same wave length. We've been through a lot together and are...
A. 16 June 2016: You need to come clean with everyone - especially yourself. Some facts: - she's not your girlfriend; she's your mistress, "the *other* woman"; a girlfriend is someone you commit to and you're not committing at all - you're being *incredibly* se... (read in full...)
Newly married but feel so guilty about my cheating. What should I do?
Q. I got married to my boyfriend recently whom I was with in a long distance relationship for 3 yrs. We still live apart as I have not moved to his city yet as he could be taking a transfer to mine. I have dark secret which haunts me even now. Las...
A. 16 June 2016: You weren't making love, you were having sex. There's a big difference. He only wanted sex and you didn't. Cut all contact with that guy. As for your husband, you should probably get a divorce. You married someone you don't really love and you don... (read in full...)
I feel broken and replaceable in my marriage. I just want some affection!
Q. Hi, I am (28) married for about 10years now my husband is 32. I can't help but feel like there is something wrong with me. He is the only man I had ever been with. He taught me how to give blow jobs, and even got me got me to me to try anal. And I ...
A. 16 June 2016: He's not treating you like a person. You need to show him you're more than just the mother of his children, his maid and his sex toy. Get a part-time job, maybe 2 days a week or a couple of half days. Save up some money, especially in case you need ... (read in full...)
I would love to ask this waitress out. Any suggestions on how to handle this?
Q. I like a waitress in the town near to where I live. She has served me on several occasions, and said hi and spoken to me. I would love to ask her out, but my bottle always goes!! It was my birthday yesterday, and on the way out she said 'Ha...
A. 16 June 2016: How old are you? I know this may not seem important, but it could be because it may affect my advice. Why do you like her? Have you had a conversation with her? Why would you like to ask her out?... (read in full...)
I am going through hell with my 15 year old!
Q. Not sure if this is the right place for this question I am currently going threw hell with my 15 year old daughter, she's my 4 th and youngest child. She's in with the wrong crowd and whilst not involved in drugs or drinks... She's involve...
A. 15 June 2016: I do want to clarify that all of this should be done with your therapist first - as in talking it through with them and seeing if they'll talk to her (confidentially). I do think there's definitely an underlying problem, but kicking her out isn't ... (read in full...)
How do I get over my needs for a boyfriend and for sex? I'm 16 and a virgin.
Q. Hi so I'm 16. Obviously I'm a teenager so I have'needs'... Well they're more desires than needs. My first desire is to find someone to love who will love me back. Someone I can trust and talk to who understands me. Will I find him soon? Who know...
A. 15 June 2016: "The only thing stopping me from having sex is my need to lose my virginity to somebody who actually shows me that they love me. Not necessarily planning on waiting until marriage but it has to mean something" - please, *please* stick to this! This ... (read in full...)
I feel broken and replaceable in my marriage. I just want some affection!
Q. Hi, I am (28) married for about 10years now my husband is 32. I can't help but feel like there is something wrong with me. He is the only man I had ever been with. He taught me how to give blow jobs, and even got me got me to me to try anal. And I ...
A. 15 June 2016: You can cover childcare if you both work. I don't think housewives/househusbands are a wise decision because you're completely dependent on someone and, in a situation like this, you have no money to your name to leave, if necessary. That really ... (read in full...)
If he has a girlfriend then why is he around me?
Q. Hello, I have been talking to this boy for 3 years on and off and in the mean time we have both had partners. We first started talking at the start of college and it's normal for us to talk all day, everyday. I have met him twice and kissed him both ...
A. 15 June 2016: It is hard to cut contact, but you need to. You're talking to a cheater. You know it's wrong and it says a lot about you if you keep going back - you *can* stop yourself, but you *choose* not to. Don't be that person.... (read in full...)
4 years with my Bf. Do you think I am wasting my time?
Q. After 4 years with my bf i asked if we will ever move together and he started mentioning its too expensive and he just wants to live at his mom's house. Does this mean im wasting my time in here?...
A. 15 June 2016: Does he work? Does he have ambitions? Are you both 22 - 24 or 25, nearly 26? Those would be important to show whether this is laziness or genuinely too expensive.
Honestly, most people in my area can't afford to move out from their parents ... (read in full...)
How do I bring up that I'm interested in a casual relationship with no sex?
Q. First things first, I must establish that I'm interested in getting married in the next 4-5 years, but I'm currently busy on placement in another state. I will eventually have to return either to my home state or move to another country for work, ...
A. 15 June 2016: Please don't use an asexual dating site - firstly, some aces do have sex and secondly, don't use someone's asexuality as a stop-gap relationship reason until you want sex. I'd to say you'd find what you're looking for, but most who are looking ... (read in full...)
I would love to ask this waitress out. Any suggestions on how to handle this?
Q. I like a waitress in the town near to where I live. She has served me on several occasions, and said hi and spoken to me. I would love to ask her out, but my bottle always goes!! It was my birthday yesterday, and on the way out she said 'Ha...
A. 15 June 2016: How much younger?... (read in full...)
I think I'm falling in love. Should I still go to Canada or stay here to see how this relationship develops?
Q. So i decided i was moving to Canada last September and have since met a guy (February). i told him straight out i was moving away and he was only out of a very long relationship. We've been seeing each other a few times every week for the las...
A. 15 June 2016: I'd say stay, but you really haven't known him very long and you don't want to miss out on furthering your future. Why not try long distance, if he's interested in you? You don't *have* to miss out on both.... (read in full...)
I feel broken and replaceable in my marriage. I just want some affection!
Q. Hi, I am (28) married for about 10years now my husband is 32. I can't help but feel like there is something wrong with me. He is the only man I had ever been with. He taught me how to give blow jobs, and even got me got me to me to try anal. And I ...
A. 15 June 2016: I think you may have got married too young and potentially married the wrong guy - someone selfish who molded you into his ideal sex partner, maid and housewife (do you work?) who does absolutely everything for him (not healthy). He's been getting ... (read in full...)
If he has a girlfriend then why is he around me?
Q. Hello, I have been talking to this boy for 3 years on and off and in the mean time we have both had partners. We first started talking at the start of college and it's normal for us to talk all day, everyday. I have met him twice and kissed him both ...
A. 15 June 2016: Did you know he had a girlfriend when you kissed him? If so, that was unfair of you.
Look, I know what it's like to get attached to someone and talk all the time, but he's effectively cheating on his girlfriend and you shouldn't be a part of that.... (read in full...)
I think this is beyond a crush or I'm going mental
Q. I met this guy in November and we met because he frequently eat at Subway, where my friend works and I stop by all the time as well. He's always picking and I pick back. I have always found him extremely handsome and I have expressed multiple times. ...
A. 15 June 2016: Your post is a little confusing to me - picking? Did things you shouldn't have? You expressed you thought he was extremely handsome often? Maybe that came across overbearing. You just stop waiting for him to show up and do other things with your ... (read in full...)
When we aren't together I feel like I'm single
Q. My boyfriend, early 30s, is a successful entrepreneur. We have been together three months. Over the past month, his workload has increased quite a lot and I've only seen him twice. First time we had dinner at his place and he was exhausted but I ...
A. 15 June 2016: This is a new relationship, so try not to invest too many feelings too soon. This does sound like someone who's just incredibly busy, rather than he's not interested. Most business owners are constantly busy, so you have to figure out if that's ... (read in full...)
I would love to ask this waitress out. Any suggestions on how to handle this?
Q. I like a waitress in the town near to where I live. She has served me on several occasions, and said hi and spoken to me. I would love to ask her out, but my bottle always goes!! It was my birthday yesterday, and on the way out she said 'Ha...
A. 14 June 2016: How old is she?
If she's about your age, go for it. Though, "Have a nice day. See you later" is what they get paid to say to everyone, so don't think anything of that.... (read in full...)
Should I accept this? My Boyfriend wants to sleep around and then come back to me.
Q. This is my first post so I'll try not to make it too wordy. I've been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years. About 10 months ago, I broke up with him because I felt like I needed more sexual experience before we settled down. He was heartbroken and ...
A. 14 June 2016: You lost him when you broke up 10 months ago. It's not healthy to break up, sleep with others, then get back together. Quite frankly, once you find the person you want to spend there at of your life with, you won't feel the desire to get more ... (read in full...)
I worry my partner willnot accept my parents
Q. Hello I hope you can help me with my problem. I live in Canada; divorced and have a 7-year-old daughter. My parents are permanent residents and they travel back and forth. They have been there for me to take care of my daughter while I was in school ...
A. 14 June 2016: OP, I'm more reassured by your latest post, but I really do think it's worth cancelling the fiancée visa and just having him get a prolonged holiday visa for visiting friends. I know it sucks to wait longer to be with him, as I'm in a long distance... (read in full...)
I feel very confused by her. First she flirts with me. Then she didn't invite me to her birthday celebration. What's happening here?
Q. I am lusting after another female colleague. She is also bi-sexual. I've known her a year but only recently did we start getting to know each other better as she has moved into my office at work. We flirt a lot by teasing each other and play fig...
A. 14 June 2016: By the way. I also agree with the others that you've (both) gone *way* over what's acceptable at work. I know she initiated and encouraged it, but it was unprofessional and you shouldn't have let yourself get caught up in it. Flirting at work needs ... (read in full...)
I am going through hell with my 15 year old!
Q. Not sure if this is the right place for this question I am currently going threw hell with my 15 year old daughter, she's my 4 th and youngest child. She's in with the wrong crowd and whilst not involved in drugs or drinks... She's involve...
A. 14 June 2016: Get therapy for yourself and see what they say about your situation. Read up on the laws of kicking your child out. It's drastic, but she'll learn. If she comes to your work and kicks off, leave for a moment and she'll probably follow you. If n... (read in full...)
I feel very confused by her. First she flirts with me. Then she didn't invite me to her birthday celebration. What's happening here?
Q. I am lusting after another female colleague. She is also bi-sexual. I've known her a year but only recently did we start getting to know each other better as she has moved into my office at work. We flirt a lot by teasing each other and play fig...
A. 13 June 2016: Distance is good. Maybe say "I hope your birthday celebration is fantastic" and genuinely smile.
I think this may just be a work "flirtationship", rather than something she wants to act on. If you want to continue flirting, without hope for a re... (read in full...)
I worry my partner willnot accept my parents
Q. Hello I hope you can help me with my problem. I live in Canada; divorced and have a 7-year-old daughter. My parents are permanent residents and they travel back and forth. They have been there for me to take care of my daughter while I was in school ...
A. 11 June 2016: OP, I know you care about your daughter, please don't move a stranger in. You love him, but your daughter needs to get to know him properly first. There's no need to rush this marriage, you need to focus more on your daughter and her comfort. Don't ... (read in full...)
I worry my partner willnot accept my parents
Q. Hello I hope you can help me with my problem. I live in Canada; divorced and have a 7-year-old daughter. My parents are permanent residents and they travel back and forth. They have been there for me to take care of my daughter while I was in school ...
A. 7 June 2016: I'm glad you feel like you've already started resolving the parents dilemma, OP, but please do wait longer before marrying him - you no doubt prioritise your daughter normally, but you need to give her more than two months before a stranger (to her) ... (read in full...)
I worry my partner willnot accept my parents
Q. Hello I hope you can help me with my problem. I live in Canada; divorced and have a 7-year-old daughter. My parents are permanent residents and they travel back and forth. They have been there for me to take care of my daughter while I was in school ...
A. 7 June 2016: You can't marry a man your daughter doesn't know - that's irresponsible. Don't get married so soon, please, for your daughter's sake. There are so many things here about how hard it will be for him and how he doesn't even want to live in Canada, it ... (read in full...)
I worry my partner willnot accept my parents
Q. Hello I hope you can help me with my problem. I live in Canada; divorced and have a 7-year-old daughter. My parents are permanent residents and they travel back and forth. They have been there for me to take care of my daughter while I was in school ...
A. 6 June 2016: Please can we clarify some things first?
How long have you known him? Where did you meet him? When are you getting married? How much time have you spent together in person? How does your child feel about him? Has he met your parents? How do they ... (read in full...)
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