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My dad was a married woman's other guy for only a few weeks (about a decade before my mum met him), then realised he wasn't okay with helping her betray her husband. His friend became her other guy, husband came home while they were at it, the guy jumped out of the window and the husband knew, so grabbed a bicycle, chased him and punched him once, going 20mph, so it knocked him out. A couple of relationships later, after getting £15,000 in debt to help a woman leave her abusive husband and getting in a relationship with her, my dad came back from a holiday with his parents and found her with another guy. |
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I would love to ask this waitress out. Any suggestions on how to handle this?
Q. I like a waitress in the town near to where I live. She has served me on several occasions, and said hi and spoken to me. I would love to ask her out, but my bottle always goes!! It was my birthday yesterday, and on the way out she said 'Ha...
A. 13 July 2016: You approached her the right way, OP - don't worry. There's absolutely nothing wrong or inferior about the way you went in there :)... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend selfish ? He is happy to receive, but will not reciprocate following times when I pleasure him
Q. my boyfriend never goes down on me. one day i asked why don’t you do it, he said he is not comfortable..so he don’t to do it. BUT i love doing it.. i more than comfortable doing it . one time he asked me.. i thought he will reciprocate so i did it.....
A. 29 June 2016: Just because you've done something before doesn't mean you have to do it again. Some people try anal with one partner, but don't want to try it in their next relationship, for example.
If you can't accept that he just doesn't want to do it, whic... (read in full...)
I would love to ask this waitress out. Any suggestions on how to handle this?
Q. I like a waitress in the town near to where I live. She has served me on several occasions, and said hi and spoken to me. I would love to ask her out, but my bottle always goes!! It was my birthday yesterday, and on the way out she said 'Ha...
A. 29 June 2016: You're still overthinking it. If she's not in, wait until she is. Don't go in more regularly than you normally would because it's kind of obsessive.
If you go in once or twice a week, just keep doing that, don't go in three or four times. Don't st... (read in full...)
I would love to ask this waitress out. Any suggestions on how to handle this?
Q. I like a waitress in the town near to where I live. She has served me on several occasions, and said hi and spoken to me. I would love to ask her out, but my bottle always goes!! It was my birthday yesterday, and on the way out she said 'Ha...
A. 29 June 2016: Not all men and women are the same, though. Many couples are shy or just don't like being "presupposed". A lot of us like more consideration or contribution from both people for the first date and so on.
This isn't just what I'm saying, this is ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend selfish ? He is happy to receive, but will not reciprocate following times when I pleasure him
Q. my boyfriend never goes down on me. one day i asked why don’t you do it, he said he is not comfortable..so he don’t to do it. BUT i love doing it.. i more than comfortable doing it . one time he asked me.. i thought he will reciprocate so i did it.....
A. 29 June 2016: Stop pressuring him to do something he doesn't want to do - the "real" reason doesn't matter; he's not comfortable with it and you're bugging him about it. You want it, he doesn't - if you can't drop it, leave him. If you were with a guy pressuring ... (read in full...)
I would love to ask this waitress out. Any suggestions on how to handle this?
Q. I like a waitress in the town near to where I live. She has served me on several occasions, and said hi and spoken to me. I would love to ask her out, but my bottle always goes!! It was my birthday yesterday, and on the way out she said 'Ha...
A. 28 June 2016: You're just overanalysing and takin the fun out of it. Stop twisting yourself into different "what do I do" questions - you said it yourself; "what ifs" drive you round the bend, but so does this. You're obsessing. Forget about it until the time has ... (read in full...)
I would love to ask this waitress out. Any suggestions on how to handle this?
Q. I like a waitress in the town near to where I live. She has served me on several occasions, and said hi and spoken to me. I would love to ask her out, but my bottle always goes!! It was my birthday yesterday, and on the way out she said 'Ha...
A. 28 June 2016: I'd find it obnoxious if you demanded a date and time, so I'd turn you down. Not everyone likes the type of alpha Serpico describes - many do, but a lot don't.... (read in full...)
The guy I like has a best friend who likes me. What do I do?
Q. So basically I like a guy on my college course however I am not good at letting him know this for instance I accidentally kneed him in the face when he was trying to pick me up. So I would love to try to get with him. However then there is his best...
A. 27 June 2016: There are no men here, just boys/guys. What do you *want* from the guy you like? What do you mean you want to "get with him"?
Does he like you? Picking up friends of different genders happens quite a bit in UK colleges, so I wouldn't assume t... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend selfish ? He is happy to receive, but will not reciprocate following times when I pleasure him
Q. my boyfriend never goes down on me. one day i asked why don’t you do it, he said he is not comfortable..so he don’t to do it. BUT i love doing it.. i more than comfortable doing it . one time he asked me.. i thought he will reciprocate so i did it.....
A. 27 June 2016: Not everyone is comfortable giving oral. Being equal in a relationship doesn't mean down to every little detail. If he does other things to please you, that *is* equal. It's not fair to stop *just* because he doesn't feel comfortable giving oral. ... (read in full...)
Is it weird that I'm reluctant to date a girl so much younger than me? She's 19
Q. Okay so Friday night I went out with a friend of mine, and we met some girls of which one seemed to be taking a liking to me. She looked fairly young and these days girls look a lot older then they actually are. But apparently she's 19 years old. ...
A. 26 June 2016: "she's 19 years old. And I'm 27 is it weird if I'm a bit reluctant to try and date a girl so much younger than me?" - you became an adult when she was 10. You've been an adult longer than she's been a teenager. Personally, when that's the case, I ... (read in full...)
Four months into the relationship, so why is he choosing to sleep in a different bed to me?
Q. Dear Cupid I'm dating a guy younger than me for past 4 months. We hang around in his place during weekend. It's the second time I find him sleeping in living room because he says he steal his blanket and he can't sleep or I turn around a lot. ...
A. 25 June 2016: Sleeping in bed together this early on isn't actually that common. Maybe his age/immaturity causes his defensiveness and such.
I don't see you as well-matched, to be honest.... (read in full...)
How do I tell my parents? What should I say to my Auntie? Is the age gap too much?
Q. My boyfriend of 6 months is 14 years older than me (me, 19 years of age) we are happy together and take our relationship seriously. My parents are still not aware of this relationship as I am worried to tell them just because of his age. However ...
A. 25 June 2016: I don't think a 33 year old has good intentions if they are dating a 19 year old. You have no adult life experiences compared to him. You may be a legal adult, but it's not wise to be with someone not in your life stage or a family member's ex.
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Do I trust my instincts or wait till he asks me to visit him at his place?
Q. Am in a relationship with someone I met through a dating site two months ago. he is very nice and everything seems to be going on well. however he always comes to see me over the weekend whenever he has time due to the nature of his job.. Have n...
A. 25 June 2016: I'd trust your instincts and drop him. I just wouldn't stick around for suspiciousness. Why aren't you going out to places, rather than him coming to your house after only two months?... (read in full...)
Why do some young women go out to night clubs dressed they way they do?
Q. Why do the women at the night clubs dress like s^^ts?? So I'm talking here about women who wear clothes with plunging cleavages, booster bras, short skirts and the like. We went to a club last weekend and there were many women barely dressed. ...
A. 25 June 2016: Why do you care? There's nothing morally decent about sl*t-shaming, especially not based on what they wear.
I warn people about wearing those clothes because it's risky, but I don't judge them as sl*ts. I do think it can look tacky, I wouldn't... (read in full...)
Before I met her she had sex with my cousin. How do I get over this fact?
Q. I met this girl months ago and we've been dating since them, i'm really trying to forget and avoid jealousy but it's not easy! The fact the i have sex with the same girl my cousin had bothers me too much! I think about breaking up but i love her...
A. 25 June 2016: "Sometimes i feel like i just can't date a girl who had sex with my cousin, it's tough and hard for me to acceptI don't know what to do anymore!" - there's your answer. This won't fade away; it will always niggle at you.
Also, I don't think yo... (read in full...)
Do I keep lying to her or tell her the truth? Nothing fits any more.
Q. I been with my gf for 4 years and she has put on weight since. I'm not bothered because she is really attractive with extra weight on. However if I mention it she says she doesn't like it. So I don't mention anything anyway however now all her ...
A. 25 June 2016: "So this really is a female issue. Ones that are fit and healthy have no issue, ones that are overweight will usually throw the feminist card around. Again I could not care, it's just frustrating when she complains. I observe many people of holiday ... (read in full...)
Do I keep lying to her or tell her the truth? Nothing fits any more.
Q. I been with my gf for 4 years and she has put on weight since. I'm not bothered because she is really attractive with extra weight on. However if I mention it she says she doesn't like it. So I don't mention anything anyway however now all her ...
A. 24 June 2016: Your thoughts on it, if you don't care, *don't matter*.
Stop making this about you and be considerate of her. If you don't like her complaining, break up with her or find out what she thinks will help her. *You're* complaining about her complain... (read in full...)
Will a man in a sexless, long term marriage eventually have sex with another woman?
Q. I have a question and I am curious about what the opinions are out there. If a man is in a long term relationship or marriage and his wife was no longer willing to have sex (ie. she never did like it to begin with, she no longer likes it) with h...
A. 24 June 2016: Sex enhances the emotional bond for most, but I disagree that the bond is less without it because many people I know don't *want* sex in their relationships. There's nothing wrong with them mentally/physically/emotionally, but they need people ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has a fat fetish and wants me to gain more weight! I've already gained 100!
Q. I met my bf almost a year and a half ago and we imediately hit it off great. Then I weighed about 150lbs. The first 4 months were great and he was so caring and attentive always surprising me with my favorite snacks or ice cream and taking me out to ...
A. 24 June 2016: Stop it - stop it now! Break up with him; I mean it! Look, OP, I'm overweight due to a medical condition and the result of my entire childhood being abusive at school and home. Don't *ever* gain weight for anyone else - it's easy to gain ... (read in full...)
I have lost a lot of friends due to jealousy. Why are girls so jealous?
Q. I have lost a lot of friends due to jealousy. Why are girls so jealous? I use to have a lot of girlfriends but they all seem to disappear as my life gets better. Im a very sweet girl. I'm always there for my friends when they need me. I work rea...
A. 24 June 2016: You give off an unapproachable, borderline materialistic vibe in this post - to me, at least. The fact that you work hard is great, but if your "finer things" are thrown in their faces, you won't be much fun to be with.
I know it's off-putt... (read in full...)
I probably shouldn't take him back. Is what I did to him worse than what he did to me?
Q. I was involved with my ex-boyfriend for many years we are friends first so I've known him a really long time. We know each other very very well. He had some substance abuse issues and during that time cheated on me multiple occasions. When I fi...
A. 24 June 2016: What he did to you was betray your trust. What you did to him was publicly shame him. I'd call it even, if not what you did was worse because you can't take things back online and it could ruin his life, whereas you can move on from his cheating. I ... (read in full...)
Beginning to hate this marriage. Is he just trying to control me via money I earn? What should I do?
Q. Really could do with some help. I've just passed a course so I can teach English to foreign students. My husband is from Poland and wants me to go and live there with him. Five years ago I gave him a few thousand pounds which I never saw again and ...
A. 24 June 2016: Are you living together now?
Quite frankly, whilst I agree that money in a marriage becomes "ours", not "mine" and "theirs", he's freeloading with no need for a job because you pay for everything. You're being used. What does this marriage... (read in full...)
Do I keep lying to her or tell her the truth? Nothing fits any more.
Q. I been with my gf for 4 years and she has put on weight since. I'm not bothered because she is really attractive with extra weight on. However if I mention it she says she doesn't like it. So I don't mention anything anyway however now all her ...
A. 24 June 2016: "It's really funny, I'm in bed just relaxing whilst she struggles to fit in clothes and she is frustrating herself by looking fat in those clothes" - funny? Watching her struggle and stress about her weight is funny? If you wrote that right, you're ... (read in full...)
What would you do if faced with these situations from his family and the friends from his country.
Q. Hello I am middle aged and have been married for over 12 years. Both my husband and I are from diff countries and our cultures are different. I moved to Canada and married him, im from UK and hes from another country There have been times whe...
A. 24 June 2016: I'm with Cindy; she didn't apologise verbally, but she's more than made up for *one* immature, drunk attitude thing. Believe me; I know how hard it is to move on, but this really isn't that big of a deal because she's been polite, respectful and ... (read in full...)
Is rejection good or bad? How does one accept and deal with rejection?
Q. I asked a female who is beautiful from work on social media if she fancied meeting me for a coffee to get to know me better. This was today, we are good friends on social media, and I decided the time was right to ask her and to seize the day. And...
A. 24 June 2016: It's bad because it can hurt. It's good because it happens in life, so it gets you used to dealing with it.
Asking her out was good because you have to take risks sometimes.
Don't overthink whether she lied or not; being rejected is hard... (read in full...)
What if he doesn't know to communicate? How can I bring back our sex life in our marriage
Q. Married my LDR husband after 9mths and a baby 5mths later. I will have to say things happened so fast that I failed to realize we will have to put in work to spice up our sex life. Our current situation is not allowing us to step it up. He just mov...
A. 23 June 2016: Rushed *way* too fast. You were strangers in a honeymoon period who got married and had a baby. Forget sex, for a minute; you barely know each other. You skipped the dating stage for marriage and parenting. You don't even know if you have the same ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my husband nicely that due our circumstances its not a good idea to have his kids at our home?
Q. My husband wants to get his kids (16 boy,13 girl, and 8boy)today but we both work from 6am-6pm M-F. There was no date given when they will be going back home (mothers house), last visit they stayed 3wks. We are having some financial issues right now ...
A. 22 June 2016: Such late notice isn't fair to you; you should at least get a day's notice. Other than that, you seem to be coping well.... (read in full...)
I'm shocked my boyfriend broke up with me because I wanted to communicate! Your thoughts?
Q. We have been going out 6 years on and off. We are students (23) He started working a few weeks ago. He didn't reply to my msg for 3 days, I heard from him the 4th day saying how much he loves me etc...he sent me a msg saying he will take me out...
A. 22 June 2016: "We have been going out 6 years on and off" - this shows that your relationship probably wasn't healthy or right for either of you. "When I worked before I went back to college, I spent all my free time with him and prioritized him" - this is g... (read in full...)
If this relationship is dead how do I leave?
Q. Hello, I am struggling with my relationship of four years. I feel like I don't love my boyfriend anymore. He is 23 amd I am 20. The first two years I was im love with him and he was with me. But as I get older, I realize that I probably won't have a ...
A. 22 June 2016: "my relationship of four years....He is 23 amd I am 20" - to be honest (no judgements, just an observation), you were a young, impressionable 16 year old being given attention by a 19 year old. It's possible the first year or so was more infatuation ... (read in full...)
Are there problems for wife swapping or threesomes?
Q. Friends, Me and my wife are very god friends and talk about any of our feelings each other. Some two years back I have spoke to her about couple swap or threesome she was also interested in and had similar fantasies. Now that we know there are r...
A. 22 June 2016: Sometimes, this works out well for people, but rarely. You have to be prepared for your relationship to break down and not be reparable, if you go ahead with this.
The pros?
It *can* spice up your sex life.
The cons? (*much* more common than... (read in full...)
How do I deal with his hateful family?
Q. I'm married to a man from a different country than myself. I cannot stand his family. They are very controlling and using people, and I don't want to know them. Is there anything wrong with that? I don't believe that just because I married my husba...
A. 22 June 2016: Okay, I'm going to say that you need to respect them and accept that they are his family - the saying "you can pick your friends, but not your family" is correct. You *do* need to accept them because you married him, but you don't need to be dragged ... (read in full...)
I want to marry my g/f but she won't do oral sex and its important to me
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for 5 years and she wont blow me. I go down on her and tell her alot how much id like one. She says she might one day but thinks itsgross and awkward. I want to marry her one day but this is important to me. What ...
A. 22 June 2016: OP, thing is, you don't want your opinion on it considered; you want her to do it anyway. She *has* considered how you feel about it, but still doesn't want to do it - that's okay, just like it would be okay for her to want you to do something and ... (read in full...)
Should I feel guilty? I told every one he has a "needle dick" after he was playing games with me!
Q. Should I feel guilty? Hi I'm Ellie and I'm seventeen years old. In a nutshell, I had this boyfriend we had a thing since september, so about 8 months. I met him when I moved schools for sixth form and we had chemistry right away. In Febuary I fou...
A. 22 June 2016: He's a cheater, but you played a very low card, insulting something you knew he was already self-conscious of. I know you were hurt, but that's never an excuse to play on people's insecurities like that, *especially* to other people. Don't apo... (read in full...)
Can a friend forget about you while they are away?
Q. I have a friend who is abroad at the moment, she hasn't spoken to me for three to four weeks. I've not heard from her by social media and I'm beginning to lose patience. She's helping abroad and providing water to disadvantaged people and trying t...
A. 22 June 2016: Don't be immature, OP. "Giving her a taste of her own medicine" is what children and teenagers do - not grown adults. You completely missed that that was the point of what Honeypie and I said. However, I actually think it would be very good to ign... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend saying I'm not that attractive to be hit on?
Q. I would say I'm okay looking, when I'm done up I think I can look quite hot. Anyways I get hit on by guys on the way to work quite often, yesterday I had two guys actually approach me. One was when I was sitting on the bench and the guy said, can I ...
A. 21 June 2016: He didn't say you weren't pretty, did he? You just assume he may mean that.
I think he's just uncomfortable that you told him about guys hitting on you. Don't mention it next time, unless you were harassed.... (read in full...)
We kiss but don't make up
Q. I have an ex. We broke up cause a simple reason six months ago. But until now, he still ask me to meet him. Not just a simple meeting, but we do more than it. He asked to kiss me. I don't know what he really felt about me. I still love him and I ...
A. 21 June 2016: Honeypie is right - cut contact permanently because he doesn't want to date you again, just get the perks, when he wants them.... (read in full...)
Pulled a gorgeous female from work, organised the date. But how do dates work? Help.
Q. Dear agony aunts I pulled a beautiful girl at work, who ive been keen on for ages and have organised a date with her, and she said yes, and it was quite literally music to my ears. How do dates normally work? I know you have to look smart, and ...
A. 21 June 2016: I'd avoid using the term "pulled", as it's not a great way of saying "kissed"/"made out with" - but that's not too major. For the greeting, see what her body language says - often a hug is done, but one kiss on the cheek sometimes happens too. ... (read in full...)
Why does he give gifts to ex's kids but plays the "gift game" with me?
Q. Hello my bf and I have been together for two years. He's had a close relationship with his ex during this time. Texting, emailing, calling, and seeing her. He's also very close to her daughters. He attends their games, buys them gifts and keeps ...
A. 21 June 2016: He's being manipulative - why are you with him? That's a genuine question just because he's toying with you and his relationship with his ex seems inappropriate unless he practically raised her kids.... (read in full...)
I fell in love with my much older professor. Help!
Q. Okay I just graduated from a medical school. So I should feel blessed as being able to become a doctor after 5 years of hardships. But it do not turn that way, as I could not forget one of my professor at all. Well he is too old, now he is 70+ . and ...
A. 21 June 2016: I understand that you're hurt and confused, OP; I'm sorry you didn't get a nice goodbye. However, you need to be realistic about this and remind yourself that it's not killing you at all (I know that's just a phrase) and you were infatuated with ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my husband nicely that due our circumstances its not a good idea to have his kids at our home?
Q. My husband wants to get his kids (16 boy,13 girl, and 8boy)today but we both work from 6am-6pm M-F. There was no date given when they will be going back home (mothers house), last visit they stayed 3wks. We are having some financial issues right now ...
A. 21 June 2016: It's never a good idea not to have a routine. What about their schooling? You should always set lengths of a stay *before* they are due over.
How often does he see them? Why haven't they got a proper schedule of who has them when? Why does he ... (read in full...)
I want to marry my g/f but she won't do oral sex and its important to me
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for 5 years and she wont blow me. I go down on her and tell her alot how much id like one. She says she might one day but thinks itsgross and awkward. I want to marry her one day but this is important to me. What ...
A. 21 June 2016: The whole point of sex is consent and she isn't happy consenting to oral on you - that's *okay*, just like it's okay for it to be a deal breaker for you. Some people like it and some don't mind, but some people just don't like it and shouldn't be ... (read in full...)
Can a friend forget about you while they are away?
Q. I have a friend who is abroad at the moment, she hasn't spoken to me for three to four weeks. I've not heard from her by social media and I'm beginning to lose patience. She's helping abroad and providing water to disadvantaged people and trying t...
A. 21 June 2016: You're 26 - 29; "giving her a taste of her own medicine" is petty and immature. You clearly view this friendship as much more than she does. Stop fretting about it; if you were really her best friend, you'd be happy for her and not offended by her ... (read in full...)
Feeling really depressed that I have never been asked out. How should I approach this problem?
Q. I get really depressed because I have never been asked out despite putting myself out there. I volunteer, I also work in retail. No guys like me and I see other girls who are always asked out and hit on but I am always left out. I am 5'6 and w...
A. 21 June 2016: Weight isn't a reason for anyone not to get love, so please don't feel like being overweight would mean no boyfriend. You're really young and sometimes we just have to wait for the right guy to show up. It's hardly worth it to be asked out by the... (read in full...)
Can a friend forget about you while they are away?
Q. I have a friend who is abroad at the moment, she hasn't spoken to me for three to four weeks. I've not heard from her by social media and I'm beginning to lose patience. She's helping abroad and providing water to disadvantaged people and trying t...
A. 20 June 2016: "I've not heard from her by social media and I'm beginning to lose patience. She's helping abroad and providing water to disadvantaged people and trying to make a difference to them and their lives" She's busy helping people and saving lives, bu... (read in full...)
High Libido and still a virgin. Am I weird or is it somewhat normal for my age to use masturbation to relieve my sexual tension?
Q. Hi agony aunts. So I'll be 17 soon and am not yet sexually active. Problem is my hormones have been driving me crazy since I turned 11/12 (when I hit puberty). That is the time when I started masturbating (please don't tell me its a sin or anything...
A. 20 June 2016: I agree with avoiding porn for now; you're at an impressionable age and it's unhealthy to watch, at the moment.... (read in full...)
Am I right to be upset about my boyfriend going on a "men's day out"? no women allowed.
Q. Am I right to be upset about my boyfriend going out for the day with his male friends?. He is going out for the day with his male friends this afternoon. He said no women are allowed. He said they go on a day out together every year. He also to...
A. 20 June 2016: Too soon for a new guy, I think. You barely saw that this current relationship was dodgy, so I think you need to take some time out to re-evaluate your boundaries. What is and isn't okay in a relationship for you? Then, if it's reasonable, stick to ... (read in full...)
I want to marry my g/f but she won't do oral sex and its important to me
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for 5 years and she wont blow me. I go down on her and tell her alot how much id like one. She says she might one day but thinks itsgross and awkward. I want to marry her one day but this is important to me. What ...
A. 20 June 2016: It's your right to want something sexual and it's her right to not be comfortable doing it. She doesn't *have* to try it - if you love her or even just respect her, she doesn't need to "come around". If you "need" this, break up with her. She's not ... (read in full...)
I would love to ask this waitress out. Any suggestions on how to handle this?
Q. I like a waitress in the town near to where I live. She has served me on several occasions, and said hi and spoken to me. I would love to ask her out, but my bottle always goes!! It was my birthday yesterday, and on the way out she said 'Ha...
A. 20 June 2016: I don't really know; it's hard when you don't know anything about them and have no common ground to bring up. I guess you say something about wanting to go for coffee? Personally, I don't think you should, as it could be seen as creepy for asking ... (read in full...)
I want to marry my g/f but she won't do oral sex and its important to me
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for 5 years and she wont blow me. I go down on her and tell her alot how much id like one. She says she might one day but thinks itsgross and awkward. I want to marry her one day but this is important to me. What ...
A. 20 June 2016: YouWish and similar responses are right - oral can be pretty gross, when you think about it. When giving oral to women/pre-op trans guys, the liquid can be avoided fairly easily, but it can be harder to avoid liquid that comes out of people who have ... (read in full...)
Am I right to be upset about my boyfriend going on a "men's day out"? no women allowed.
Q. Am I right to be upset about my boyfriend going out for the day with his male friends?. He is going out for the day with his male friends this afternoon. He said no women are allowed. He said they go on a day out together every year. He also to...
A. 19 June 2016: I think you're missing the point, OP; I know you like this guy, but you really don't have a future with him. I think you know that, but may not be ready to accept it, which is wasting your time.... (read in full...)
Am I right to be upset about my boyfriend going on a "men's day out"? no women allowed.
Q. Am I right to be upset about my boyfriend going out for the day with his male friends?. He is going out for the day with his male friends this afternoon. He said no women are allowed. He said they go on a day out together every year. He also to...
A. 18 June 2016: I see a *major* problem: 8 months "on and off". Why has it already been "on and off" during only 8 months?... (read in full...)
High Libido and still a virgin. Am I weird or is it somewhat normal for my age to use masturbation to relieve my sexual tension?
Q. Hi agony aunts. So I'll be 17 soon and am not yet sexually active. Problem is my hormones have been driving me crazy since I turned 11/12 (when I hit puberty). That is the time when I started masturbating (please don't tell me its a sin or anything...
A. 18 June 2016: Very few people on here would say masturbation is a sin, so no worries there.
At any age (particularly 14+), it's very normal to masturbate everyday, once a week, once a month or never. The only time it becomes an issue is when you do it multiple... (read in full...)
Am I right to be upset about my boyfriend going on a "men's day out"? no women allowed.
Q. Am I right to be upset about my boyfriend going out for the day with his male friends?. He is going out for the day with his male friends this afternoon. He said no women are allowed. He said they go on a day out together every year. He also to...
A. 18 June 2016: His men's day out is a non-issue. If you're worried about women talking to him, that's your insecurity, as he could have that happen at any time - though going to another town and not telling that woman is harsh; they should have just told her more ... (read in full...)
I would love to ask this waitress out. Any suggestions on how to handle this?
Q. I like a waitress in the town near to where I live. She has served me on several occasions, and said hi and spoken to me. I would love to ask her out, but my bottle always goes!! It was my birthday yesterday, and on the way out she said 'Ha...
A. 17 June 2016: Dating is about getting to know the person, but you normally know something about their personality already that makes you want to know more - right now, all you have is her looks and age, as well as that she's a polite waitress. I'm not saying ... (read in full...)
I would love to ask this waitress out. Any suggestions on how to handle this?
Q. I like a waitress in the town near to where I live. She has served me on several occasions, and said hi and spoken to me. I would love to ask her out, but my bottle always goes!! It was my birthday yesterday, and on the way out she said 'Ha...
A. 16 June 2016: Does her age have anything to do with it for you? I'm only asking because you don't really know anything about her to want to date her personality.... (read in full...)
I would love to ask this waitress out. Any suggestions on how to handle this?
Q. I like a waitress in the town near to where I live. She has served me on several occasions, and said hi and spoken to me. I would love to ask her out, but my bottle always goes!! It was my birthday yesterday, and on the way out she said 'Ha...
A. 16 June 2016: How old are you? I know this may not seem important, but it could be because it may affect my advice. Why do you like her? Have you had a conversation with her? Why would you like to ask her out?... (read in full...)
I would love to ask this waitress out. Any suggestions on how to handle this?
Q. I like a waitress in the town near to where I live. She has served me on several occasions, and said hi and spoken to me. I would love to ask her out, but my bottle always goes!! It was my birthday yesterday, and on the way out she said 'Ha...
A. 15 June 2016: How much younger?... (read in full...)
I would love to ask this waitress out. Any suggestions on how to handle this?
Q. I like a waitress in the town near to where I live. She has served me on several occasions, and said hi and spoken to me. I would love to ask her out, but my bottle always goes!! It was my birthday yesterday, and on the way out she said 'Ha...
A. 14 June 2016: How old is she?
If she's about your age, go for it. Though, "Have a nice day. See you later" is what they get paid to say to everyone, so don't think anything of that.... (read in full...)
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