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How do I make my cousin love me back?
Q. Hey guys and girls im 14 year old and im 9th grade i love my girl cousin and she lives in another country so only 3 times i saw her 2006 2011 2016 so this year i loved her so much and we had really really good times but she went to her country back ...
A. 11 January 2017: OP, you do not love her. You don't respect her either, or you'd just let go and move on. Accept that you shouldn't be with her and make the active decision to move on.... (read in full...)
How do I make my cousin love me back?
Q. Hey guys and girls im 14 year old and im 9th grade i love my girl cousin and she lives in another country so only 3 times i saw her 2006 2011 2016 so this year i loved her so much and we had really really good times but she went to her country back ...
A. 28 October 2016: That's several months away - stop talking to her until you're over her, then just talk to her as you would talk to a brother.... (read in full...)
How do I make my cousin love me back?
Q. Hey guys and girls im 14 year old and im 9th grade i love my girl cousin and she lives in another country so only 3 times i saw her 2006 2011 2016 so this year i loved her so much and we had really really good times but she went to her country back ...
A. 26 October 2016: That's okay. Now you can get over her.... (read in full...)
How do I make my cousin love me back?
Q. Hey guys and girls im 14 year old and im 9th grade i love my girl cousin and she lives in another country so only 3 times i saw her 2006 2011 2016 so this year i loved her so much and we had really really good times but she went to her country back ...
A. 17 October 2016: That's not a bad thing because you can get over your crush. Leave it be.... (read in full...)
How do I make my cousin love me back?
Q. Hey guys and girls im 14 year old and im 9th grade i love my girl cousin and she lives in another country so only 3 times i saw her 2006 2011 2016 so this year i loved her so much and we had really really good times but she went to her country back ...
A. 9 October 2016: We have, OP. You need to stick with it; it may take a few months.
Talk to her less.
Treat her like a boy cousin.
Don't compliment her on her looks.
Don't be alone with her.
Don't kiss/hug/lean on each other.... (read in full...)
Why does my friend's girlfriend hit on me, flirt with me and then run and tell him?
Q. I can't figure out my friend's girlfriend. When I am at his house and she and I are alone she likes to show me sexy,nude pictures of herself and she's always talking to me and touching my thigh quite often. Sometimes when we talk she tells me things ...
A. 8 October 2016: The thing is, OP, while he should get rid of her, he should also consider getingt rid of you because you still hit on his girlfriend - which shows what *you* are like.... (read in full...)
Losing V card in a hookup good idea?
Q. I've been considering this a lot...I was thinking a hookup would be a good idea. I like the idea because I don't want to be romantic with the guy or see him again. BUT everyone says it's a horrible idea to have a hookup to lose your V card and you ...
A. 7 October 2016: You're not ready, OP - not just because you're aiming for a hook-up, but because you have such a negative view of relationships. Until you see that doing a hook-up to avoid the potential disappointment of a bad boyfriend is somewhat irrational, ... (read in full...)
Is it over or do I need to let things cool off?
Q. I need answers. I am a pisces woman dating a taurus man. We have known eachother for only a month but have been dating for 2 weeks.we met on ok cupid. We took an interest intetest in eachother.we hacecso much in common with interest and hobbies but ...
A. 7 October 2016: Okay, OP, make sure you do see that doctor.
I understand that you feel he's too immature, and he may be, but you also seem quite immature, OP.
Getting a job, even if it's part-time to start with, will really help.
Don't think about rel... (read in full...)
Is it possible for your BF to have a tryst in an hour?
Q. Likely or unlikely? Possible or not possible? Your boyfriend goes to the Home Depot and is gone for exactly one hour. Is it possible for him to leave his car in the Home Depot parking lot, have another woman pick him up, take him somewhere ...
A. 6 October 2016: Also, Anon, therapy would help the OP see logically. Without therapy, OP, you're essentially drowning yourself in negative feelings that cause you and your partner deep trauma.... (read in full...)
Is it possible for your BF to have a tryst in an hour?
Q. Likely or unlikely? Possible or not possible? Your boyfriend goes to the Home Depot and is gone for exactly one hour. Is it possible for him to leave his car in the Home Depot parking lot, have another woman pick him up, take him somewhere ...
A. 6 October 2016: Anon, you sound like you could be the poster, trying to support this post.
However, in case you are not, I don't think you understand how much torture the OP is putting herself through. This is self-destructive and cruel, both for herself and the ... (read in full...)
Losing V card in a hookup good idea?
Q. I've been considering this a lot...I was thinking a hookup would be a good idea. I like the idea because I don't want to be romantic with the guy or see him again. BUT everyone says it's a horrible idea to have a hookup to lose your V card and you ...
A. 6 October 2016: If people are saying your viewpoint is naive, it should be considered as possible, not an insult.
Guy or girl, regardless of age, I'd be suggesting waiting for someone you care about who cares about you. I said nothing about someone with experien... (read in full...)
Is it over or do I need to let things cool off?
Q. I need answers. I am a pisces woman dating a taurus man. We have known eachother for only a month but have been dating for 2 weeks.we met on ok cupid. We took an interest intetest in eachother.we hacecso much in common with interest and hobbies but ...
A. 6 October 2016: OP, you haven't said anything about seeing your doctor. You're focusing on the wrong thing - the most important thing is finding out if you're pregnant or not.... (read in full...)
Is it over or do I need to let things cool off?
Q. I need answers. I am a pisces woman dating a taurus man. We have known eachother for only a month but have been dating for 2 weeks.we met on ok cupid. We took an interest intetest in eachother.we hacecso much in common with interest and hobbies but ...
A. 5 October 2016: You need to see a doctor and find out if you're pregnant, as well as checking for diseases and whether medication would help you. It's unwise to not be in counselling or on medication for ADHD.
This hasn't B been a serious relationship, which is... (read in full...)
Losing V card in a hookup good idea?
Q. I've been considering this a lot...I was thinking a hookup would be a good idea. I like the idea because I don't want to be romantic with the guy or see him again. BUT everyone says it's a horrible idea to have a hookup to lose your V card and you ...
A. 5 October 2016: You don't seem to understand, OP, most guys who go for hook ups don't *care* what you want - regardless of you telling them.
We shouldn't need to convince you that it's a bad idea; I don't mean to be rude, but common sense says it's a terrible... (read in full...)
Is it over or do I need to let things cool off?
Q. I need answers. I am a pisces woman dating a taurus man. We have known eachother for only a month but have been dating for 2 weeks.we met on ok cupid. We took an interest intetest in eachother.we hacecso much in common with interest and hobbies but ...
A. 5 October 2016: I'm sorry, OP, but this really isn't a healthy relationship for a baby to be brought into. Please see a doctor and get family support to help you navigate this.... (read in full...)
How do I make my cousin love me back?
Q. Hey guys and girls im 14 year old and im 9th grade i love my girl cousin and she lives in another country so only 3 times i saw her 2006 2011 2016 so this year i loved her so much and we had really really good times but she went to her country back ...
A. 5 October 2016: It may be legal, but they are close family members and if there's a break up, it could pull the family apart.
You don't have to stop talking to her, just don't be alone together and treat her like you would with your boy cousin. Don't flirt, d... (read in full...)
Is it over or do I need to let things cool off?
Q. I need answers. I am a pisces woman dating a taurus man. We have known eachother for only a month but have been dating for 2 weeks.we met on ok cupid. We took an interest intetest in eachother.we hacecso much in common with interest and hobbies but ...
A. 5 October 2016: Please see a doctor about pregnancy and diseases - contraception and protection *must* be used *every* time. You let him rush you into sex, but you don't have to - it's not your job to satisfy his urges.
Please don't try to handle this on your own... (read in full...)
Losing V card in a hookup good idea?
Q. I've been considering this a lot...I was thinking a hookup would be a good idea. I like the idea because I don't want to be romantic with the guy or see him again. BUT everyone says it's a horrible idea to have a hookup to lose your V card and you ...
A. 5 October 2016: It's only a big deal if you make it one. If you want to have sex for the first time with a stranger who doesn't give a crap about you, that's your choice, but it's not a wise one. If you went that route, I'm 99% sure you'd regret it more than being ... (read in full...)
Why does my friend's girlfriend hit on me, flirt with me and then run and tell him?
Q. I can't figure out my friend's girlfriend. When I am at his house and she and I are alone she likes to show me sexy,nude pictures of herself and she's always talking to me and touching my thigh quite often. Sometimes when we talk she tells me things ...
A. 5 October 2016: In what world is it okay to ask your friend's girlfriend out?! Really, OP; I'm surprised you're not blocked from his life!
She likes the drama and attention, rather than who gives it to her. Don't be alone with her if you can't be a decent f... (read in full...)
We had our ups and downs should I go back to my ex?
Q. My ex is recently single and I miss him a lot. Should I go back? Weve had ups and downs when we were together but the sex was off the charts amazing and hot and everything you can imagine. We use to laugh a lot but our relationship was...
A. 4 October 2016: OP, you can say you like him as a person all you want, but it's clear you only want the sex. Quite frankly, it doesn't seem like he was ever a boyfriend, just a FWB.
Leave it in the past. Find a new relationship, if that's what you want, or an FW... (read in full...)
How do I make my cousin love me back?
Q. Hey guys and girls im 14 year old and im 9th grade i love my girl cousin and she lives in another country so only 3 times i saw her 2006 2011 2016 so this year i loved her so much and we had really really good times but she went to her country back ...
A. 4 October 2016: It means you're both acting inappropriately. If you won't block her, you need to treat her like a boy cousin, not let her lay on your chest or hold hands.
It's normal to have a crush, but it's a bad idea to allow it to continue.... (read in full...)
How do I make my cousin love me back?
Q. Hey guys and girls im 14 year old and im 9th grade i love my girl cousin and she lives in another country so only 3 times i saw her 2006 2011 2016 so this year i loved her so much and we had really really good times but she went to her country back ...
A. 4 October 2016: Stop talking to her for a while. Tell her you need a break and block her. This isn't going to work out, OP. You need to find someone who isn't a relative and who lives closer to you, so you can get to know them. Your cousin isn't a real person in ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend diagnosed with bipolar disorder! Break up?
Q. I've been dating my girlfriend for a year and recently she found out she has bipolar disorder. Now I understand why she has always been hot and cold with me, I'm thinking about breaking up as I'm not happy anymore. She' taking BP medications but ...
A. 4 October 2016: You can't handle it and that's fine, but she didn't choose this, so I wouldn't tell her it's because she's bipolar, just that you don't feel there's a future together.
Contact a family member or friend of hers whom you trust to look after her and ... (read in full...)
Why can't I find someone to date?
Q. So about 2 months ago I broke up with my boyfriend. It has been my most meaningful relationship to date, because we lived together. At first it was all a dream. I was crazy in love, we had the chemistry that only happens in movies. And I felt loved ...
A. 4 October 2016: I'm sorry this has happened, OP, but I think there's a simple solution: stop rushing things.
Take some time to be a single woman. You'll feel more unlovable when rebounding with dodgy (incompatible) guys, than being single, if you accept that bei... (read in full...)
Is it possible for your BF to have a tryst in an hour?
Q. Likely or unlikely? Possible or not possible? Your boyfriend goes to the Home Depot and is gone for exactly one hour. Is it possible for him to leave his car in the Home Depot parking lot, have another woman pick him up, take him somewhere ...
A. 2 October 2016: Possible, but not likely. What *is* definite is that you've gone way too far. You should *never* put a GPS on your partner, like he's a runaway pet.
Seriously, OP, this is borderline abusive because it's so controlling and manipulative.
Please ... (read in full...)
I miss my ex sometimes but am afraid to tell my girlfriend
Q. I miss my ex from time to time. We were together for 4 years. I have a gf and we are honest about everything. I feel bad for not telling her. We have been dating for 5 years. I never use to understand why people kept secrets between someone the...
A. 2 October 2016: This isn't keeping a secret, so much as something that wouldn't benefit anyone to admit out loud.
You miss your ex - fine, that's normal, but is it enough to end your relationship? If you can't get over her yet, you're not ready to be with som... (read in full...)
My mother was ok with my brother's Gf visiting but she is not as welcoming towards my Bf. Why would my mother react this way?
Q. I'm 13 with a 14 year old boyfriend who's parents are super chill and unrestrictive of most things, but mine are sometimes restrictive sometimes not which can be a real pain in the rear. My older brother, who is 16, had a girlfriend when he was ...
A. 2 October 2016: "Get most of my homework done"? So, you do still have more and your mum knows that?
OP, this may come across a little patronising, but I'm going to try to explain to you why it's like this.
You're professing being in love at an age where you're... (read in full...)
Is being called ''plain and simple'' a compliment?
Q. Is being "Plain and Simple" a compliment? We were having dinner the other night and I asked my husband of over 20 years did it taste ok. I said its just plain food, meaning unprocessed. He said "Yes, Plain and Simple,just the way I like my women"...
A. 2 October 2016: See a doctor about your depression and consider therapy for yourself and as a couple. You need to communicate what you want your husband to do (like compliment you more) or he won't think to do it. Many people would forget after such a long marriage ... (read in full...)
Seventeen, and my fear of rejection is so strong that I discourage guys when they make a move. How can I learn to trust myself and stop being this way?
Q. Hiya I'm 17 and I've never had a boyfriend but have had "situations" that could have led to a relationship. Problem is I suck at opening up to guys. Well opening up to anybody in fact. Probably because rejection in any form terrifies me so I'd ...
A. 2 October 2016: It's really sensible of you to wait for love before sex - it's just a case of knowing the difference between love and infatuation, which can be hard at any age, but particularly with hormones all over the place!
Guy 1 is a good example of when it ... (read in full...)
How can I start talking with her, without coming off as desperate or creepy?
Q. There's this girls I like. Or I should say really like. I've asked my friends what I should do, but the advice they give me keeps on contradicting what they're all saying, so instead, I'm asking a bunch of strangers for advice. What I need help with ...
A. 1 October 2016: It's important you have a reason to talk to her, like sharing a class together or something that isn't just going up to her randomly.
Do you have anything in common? What do you know about her?
As an adult, it's a little easier to just go up to... (read in full...)
I'm worried he's getting fed up with me! I think he wants perfection!
Q. Hi, I am a female, 24. My husband and I have been married for 2.5 years now. We were one of those couples who fell in love and got married soon without a big ceremony. We loved each other to bits. I still do. Last night he was at a friend's place ...
A. 1 October 2016: Are you not getting enough sleep?
Are you not able to sit with your husband and rest your head on his shoulder?
Are tweezers very expensive?
He sounds like he's being too picky, but I'm not sure what he could do to be affectionate in publi... (read in full...)
I lost the ring my wife purchased for me. She'll be very cross. What should I do?
Q. My wife left for Paris last week, and instead of going to work, coming home to a lovely empty apartment and playing video games like I been doing, my brother convinced me to hang out with him for the night. When I got there all the boys were the...
A. 1 October 2016: I agree that it would be hard for a ring to come off in a fight. Why was your wife asking about the ring, unless you fight often?
OP, why doesn't your story add up?... (read in full...)
I still have feelings for her. Should I keep in touch? She's about to marry another girl.
Q. So I need a little help. Last year around this time, I started seeing a girl. She was beautiful, smart, educated, sweet. All things I look for in a relationahip. Honestly nothing was really lacking and we were pretty great together. We dated fo...
A. 1 October 2016: OP, take some time off from dating. Assess your life and figure out what you want from the next few years. What do you want from a relationship? Join a new hobby. Focus on yourself.
You're at a stage in your life where you should probably want som... (read in full...)
Is being called ''plain and simple'' a compliment?
Q. Is being "Plain and Simple" a compliment? We were having dinner the other night and I asked my husband of over 20 years did it taste ok. I said its just plain food, meaning unprocessed. He said "Yes, Plain and Simple,just the way I like my women"...
A. 1 October 2016: He's chosen you for most of his life - unless he shows you no love at all, it's clear he *wants* you.
Plain and simple can be a compliment. You have a different sense of humour and I'd question it too, if my boyfriend said it to me, but your hus... (read in full...)
I still have feelings for her. Should I keep in touch? She's about to marry another girl.
Q. So I need a little help. Last year around this time, I started seeing a girl. She was beautiful, smart, educated, sweet. All things I look for in a relationahip. Honestly nothing was really lacking and we were pretty great together. We dated fo...
A. 1 October 2016: The first thing I'd like to say is that it's pretty easy to not have any fights or major issues in the honeymoon period. In fact, if you'd had any problems in the first four months, it would be a red flag.
I understand you have a lot of history ... (read in full...)
My future husband doesn't want to raise a family where I want raise a family. How can we reach middle ground and negotiate a solution?
Q. Dear Cupid, My boyfriend and I are the perfect match. We are contemplating marriage early next year which will take place in my families backyard in Atlanta. It will be a small, intimate wedding because we want to take the remaining funds we'v...
A. 1 October 2016: Okay, you have to be able to trust him not to go back on it last minute. Location is a big deal, so you can't get married until it's sorted out properly.
Is there not a place in between that has what you both want? The solution may not be NYC or A... (read in full...)
My dad seems suspicious of me and I'm afraid he'll have my aunt restrict me!
Q. Hi everyone I really need some advise.. I recently moved to a different country to study and even though I'm living my aunt, my dad keeps on calling me everyday and honestly, it's a very intensive course and sometimes I don't pick due to the fact ...
A. 1 October 2016: It's not so much an honesty at all costs; it's a case of safety. Nobody knows she has a boyfriend and that's one of the first things police ask, if anything happens. If the OP belongs to a culture where dating is not okay yet, then it should be ... (read in full...)
How long does it take somebody to get over nonstop lying, cheating & betrayal??
Q. Hi All!! Im praying that somebody out there will have some answers to my massive confusion in my relationship. 4 months after starting a relationship with the guy im still with currently. He proposed to me. I accepted due to being massively head ...
A. 1 October 2016: You leave and don't look back. Don't accept a proposal so soon and never allow yourself to be with a man who has no respectful boundaries, like not cheating, not flirting with a relative and not flirting with an underage girl!
Sorry, but I'm quit... (read in full...)
I lost the ring my wife purchased for me. She'll be very cross. What should I do?
Q. My wife left for Paris last week, and instead of going to work, coming home to a lovely empty apartment and playing video games like I been doing, my brother convinced me to hang out with him for the night. When I got there all the boys were the...
A. 1 October 2016: I'd be really hurt that it was gone, frustrated because it was expensive and upset that my other half had been in a fight - it may even take me a little while to get over it, but I wouldn't hold a grudge. If your wife couldn't get over it, you're ... (read in full...)
My dad seems suspicious of me and I'm afraid he'll have my aunt restrict me!
Q. Hi everyone I really need some advise.. I recently moved to a different country to study and even though I'm living my aunt, my dad keeps on calling me everyday and honestly, it's a very intensive course and sometimes I don't pick due to the fact ...
A. 30 September 2016: You can't lie about relationships; it's important that you can be trustworthy and mature - which a secret relationship isn't. I know it's tough, but it's important to play by the rules until you're able to be independent. Own up about your boyfriend ... (read in full...)
Do I have to worry that I'm always the first to message "I love you"? He says it first in person!
Q. My boyfriend and I are very close, and we may be in love. We've shared a few new experiences together, and he spoils me in every way possible and for that I'm so lucky to have him. Over messaging eachother, most of the time I have been the one to ...
A. 30 September 2016: It's a young relationship and it's new, so don't rush it. Puppy love is something to enjoy, but not take too seriously. Most boys talk less about their feelings. Take things slow and don't expect too much, other than PG affection and genuine ... (read in full...)
Do you think I my married lover is tiring of me? In the beginning we talked. Now he only sends a text
Q. I've been friends with this married man for 8 months now, who doesn't have sex with his wife I guess. He is 38 and I am 22. He was my first lover. He took me to his house 3 times and we never had actual sex because I said I want to remain a virgin. ...
A. 30 September 2016: He'll never have you because he's not leaving his wife. This isn't love, this is infatuation with a man you can't have. Well done for not having sex with him, but you need to stop talking to him because he's not single. Find someone who is.... (read in full...)
I think I broke my hymen. Am I still a virgin?
Q. so this is pretty embarrassing??? but i was masturbating with a hairbrush handle and it was rather large and i like popped my cherry??? i didn't bleed or anything but i felt the pinch-y stretching feeling and now i'm like looser??? like is this ...
A. 30 September 2016: Masturbation is normal and healthy, yes, but a hair brush handle (or other object) is not safe. If you must insert something other than your fingers, you mus but something that is specifically for that (a vibrator/sex toy) and lube. You could do ... (read in full...)
Is becoming angry a normal reaction to being accused of cheating?
Q. If you accuse your boyfriend of cheating and he says he is remaining calm because if he doesn't he will become violent and walk out the door and never come back, would that raise a red flag? He said he doesn't like being called a cheater. Is t...
A. 30 September 2016: He can't cheat on you because he's not yours and, by the sounds of it, he never will be (which would actually be best for you!).
Yes, anger is a normal response.
No, violence/threats are not acceptable.
You should leave this aggressive ch... (read in full...)
How Can one forgive BETRAYAL of someone you love, cheating and now the the woman is pregnant?
Q. I met the man of my dreams, my best friend over a year ago. we live together and his kids come over every other weekend " I Love Them". we went on vacation 5- months ago and I saw a girl kept calling? I asked who is she then my life forever cha...
A. 29 September 2016: I'm sorry for your loss, but he can't be trusted. Not only was he disrespectful enough to cheat on you, but he was reckless enough to not use sufficient contraception and STD preventatives.
Ultimately, it's your choice, but I don't think you shou... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend but am concerned that love isn't enough
Q. I have been in a relationship for just over a year with my boyfriend - I'm 25 and he is 23. He is an amazing boyfriend, he is my rock and my best friend. He got me through a tough time and is totally supportive of me, we rarely ever argue. My family ...
A. 29 September 2016: Love isn't enough. Life, in reality, is composed of so many things that compatibility in those things is incredibly important.
Ultimately, life is full of core components:
- Jobs/Careers
- Locations
- Daily Commutes
- Savings
- Earnings
- ... (read in full...)
I think I broke my hymen. Am I still a virgin?
Q. so this is pretty embarrassing??? but i was masturbating with a hairbrush handle and it was rather large and i like popped my cherry??? i didn't bleed or anything but i felt the pinch-y stretching feeling and now i'm like looser??? like is this ...
A. 29 September 2016: First of alll, it's dangerous to shove things up there, especially without lube and if the object isn't made for exactly that. You could really hurt yourself and end up explaining to a doctor how you did it.
Secondly, you're a virgin until yo... (read in full...)
Please help me draft a post to my sister for her birthday
Q. Hey everyone!! I'm not good with writing or words but I want to write a message to my sister on her birthday!So please help me I will just tell in brief what I want to write. My younger sister is my best friend I can't imagine my childhood withou...
A. 28 September 2016: Honestly, write the way you have here. It needs to come from you. It's a lovely idea and you just need to think about what you'd like to tell her and write it down :)... (read in full...)
Considering my reasons for going in, my boyfriends comment, my age and his age and our desire to have kids, is it too late to join the military?
Q. For some time now, it has been a dream of mine to join the military. I was in ROTC for a bit in college but to be honest, did not succeed very well. I got out after a year but then after graduating with my degree about 2.5 years ago, I got the same ...
A. 28 September 2016: Don't give up on this for a guy, OP, especially when your reasons sound very valid.
Follow this goal and only settle down when you're ready to, not just because of your partner's age - you both need to be ready and committed to each other and pare... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is moving into a house with a guy she once cheated with. I'm not happy about this!
Q. Hi, My girlfriend recently moved out into a student house. I've been with her for a few months but shes moving into a house with the boy who she cheated on her boyfriend with previously. He has no respect for boyfriends and always tries to hit on ...
A. 28 September 2016: She shouldn't be living with him and she shouldn't get drunk if she knows she can't control herself around people.
I'm in with the "please leave her" idea.... (read in full...)
Considering my reasons for going in, my boyfriends comment, my age and his age and our desire to have kids, is it too late to join the military?
Q. For some time now, it has been a dream of mine to join the military. I was in ROTC for a bit in college but to be honest, did not succeed very well. I got out after a year but then after graduating with my degree about 2.5 years ago, I got the same ...
A. 28 September 2016: Ignore your boyfriends age; he's not at the same life stage as you, so you still have time to do things you want to do. There are very few times it's a good idea to pass up exploring your own desires for your partner and this isn't one of them.
... (read in full...)
Should I act now? I don't want things to go too far, but I like my tutor and I think he likes me. What should I do...?
Q. I'm a 24 year old girl who just started college 6 months ago. For the last 3 months I've been getting help from a tutor in a class that I had trouble keeping up in. The tutors at my college are students that have shown excellence in their past mon...
A. 28 September 2016: Never make a move on a tutor while you still learn there.
You have a crush, a very normal one, but it's unlikely he's deliberately treating you differently, so I don't think there's anything there and you should let your crush fade.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend touching my breast didn't do anything for me
Q. Hello, I'm 15, and I'm still a virgin. My boyfriend of about 4 months and I have shared quite a few new experiences with eachother, and as of yesterday he had touched my breasts. My bra was on, and I have to say I didn't really feel the sensation. ...
A. 28 September 2016: OP, I'd like to tell you a little bit about my first time, as most of us can relate to the urge to lose our virginities too soon.... I was 19 and I had never had a boyfriend before. I waited until I was ready, as I'm very self-conscious. ... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend keep making jokes about kids?
Q. So been dating my boyfriend for 5 1/2 months and lately he been making jokes about me having his kids or when we do it he ain't pull out! What does he mean by this? Why he keep making jokes about babies? Do he wnt kids secretly? Where is this coming ...
A. 27 September 2016: It's hard to say what he's thinking, but you *have* to use condoms *every* single time you have sex! Do not end up pregnant by this guy so early on, please!
He seems to be testing the waters, but it's too early to be seriously thinking about or... (read in full...)
I told my chick friend who has kids that I won’t date women who have kids and she seems to have taken offense?
Q. A couple of months ago I moved to a bigger city along with my chick friend who has kids. We don't live together but since we don't know anybody in this town we occasionally hang out. We are both really close since we went through a big ordeal in our ...
A. 26 September 2016: I did wonder if maybe she has feelings for you, but I was assuming there was a different reason you both moved....?... (read in full...)
I told my chick friend who has kids that I won’t date women who have kids and she seems to have taken offense?
Q. A couple of months ago I moved to a bigger city along with my chick friend who has kids. We don't live together but since we don't know anybody in this town we occasionally hang out. We are both really close since we went through a big ordeal in our ...
A. 26 September 2016: I don't think you need to apologise for your preference, but maybe the insensitivity. As has been said above, being short or broke isn't the same as having kids, so it can be a more sensitive thing to talk about, in terms of turning someone down ... (read in full...)
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