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writes:Me and my coworker became ftf's, fwb, cuddy buddy's whatever u wanna call it a year ago. I knew what I was getting myself into and I understand a ftf is not meant to last but I thought I knew what I was doing. He's starting to act different and I honestly don't understand why and what does he mean by him acting the way he does. I'm having the hardest time trying to figure outif he is acting this way because he's not into " it " anymore or he's ashamed and he regrets it. I don't know. Maybe you can help me understand ...Before we started this : we enjoyed working with eachother. We could make trouble and laugh all the time. When he would see me on the phone he would tease me and say " awww you talking to your boyfriend. Aww I love you baby " he comments about my friends bring me lunch or when my friends would drop me off. We would even go out drinking with eachother (as a group) to strip clubs, concerts, partys. I honestly enjoyed his friendship.When it started : His flirting started more agressive and he started to talk shit about us getting together. I kinda backed off at first because the last thing I needed was a guy who just wanted to get into my pants and after he tells everyone at work and make my work place feel very very awkward. But one day we both said our terms and conditions ... his was no strings attached, no-one will find out, and I wasn't all talk. Mines was we will remain as if nothing ever happen, we will not awkward with each other, and it is what it is. Basically we both know nothing will ever come out of this.FOR THE PAST YEAR : So when we first started messing with eachother he acted like he did before ( I was impress he followed our rules sooo well ) but @ the same time he would grab my hand as we pasted things to each other. He would touch me when there was other people around when they couldn't see. Couple times he tried to hold my hand behind the counter while I was talking to customers. He would refer to sex with word " fuck ". He would go out of his way to make sure I knew he was around. And for a little while it got to the point where if anyone saw how we would look or glance @ eachother they would at lease question themselves just by the look on our face. Then we had a shift change. He went from mid day to closing. I went from the night crew to mid day. Then we started acting different and making me feel just a little awkward. When we would pass each other he would give me the fakest smile ever. He would hold a conversation with me if people was around. He wouldn't come into my work area unless we were already talking " shit" to each other through text. I got really close with the night crew (that work in his department) but its honestly all just platonic. He would just act different when he would see us talking after work, walking to out cars after work. There was one time I told him bye and when my other co workers was ready we started walking to my car. Just sooo happens he was moving one of our company vehicles and saw us. He spend of and made a loud obnoxious sound with the car before he drove pass. By this time I started to get alittle irritated. Why is he acting like this ??? And why only now ??? I would totally understand if he acted like this when we first started having sex but out of now where act like this. I felt like I lost a friend. We still have our cuddy buddy momments. At lease once every 2 weeks. It is what it is. But I can read him at all. Especially when he used the words " I wanna make love 2 you " about 3 time within this past month. Can you please help me understand. Because I really really miss my friend.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (24 September 2011):
 IF a girl puts out for a guy... then HE has gotten all he wants and needs... and anything that YOU want and need doesn't make any difference....
Does this shed any light on your question?????
Good luck....
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