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writes:Hello there! well I'm 18 years old girl ,studying in college English honours.I'm an artist as well as I'm an independent singer/song writer.I'm in love with a person since two years who is 26 years old. He's my friend's cousin brother. Ofcourse it's a hopeless story about an unrequited love. Well, practically i had fallen in love with him since i saw his pictures in facebook and started talking to him. I thought it was just a casual fun chatting on social networking site , but then we started knowing eachother but it was not at all serious for him 'cause we never met actually. i knew he must be,after all we all chat with unknown person around the world ,so i knew it wasn't serious at all for him. He used ask me to sing songs for him and that's the wonderful feelings I'd ever had, i love singing songs for him, i also made lots of portraits for him,to make him feel special. Oneday i told him that i was in love with him. Obviously how could someone be in love with a person whom she had never seen,i understand .so i never forced him ,i knew i was not the only one for him. He never actually answered, i guessed it was a huge NO. it's his silence that kills me.He once had a girlfriend, and she ditched him and since that he's single. And he is from an orthodox family. I know i have no chance to be that special one. Well suddenly he stopped talking with me...I felt horrible those days,and i know it sounds so stupid,we all have faced or face problems in our lives,being happy is the ultimate fact so i never think about these heartbreaking stuffs. Whenever i miss him i write songs for him,i compose my songs,sing...i make portraits of him...think somehow he'll notice them and atleast he will reply me back.Then oneday on 2nd December, it was his sister's wedding night. I was invited, and i was so excited and happy to know that i was going to see him infront of my eyes for the first time. After one year on that 2nd December night i saw him walking ten feet away from me. He was on the white suit..wow! :')He talked to me a lil,starred at me... i don't know what he was thinking of me, might be thinking "how stupid i am ".After that day i wrote many songs for him,recorded...uploaded on YouTube, he listened but didnt say anything about it. I felt bad . Yeah may be I'm a kid,I'm not beautiful enough to have him ,but atleast i expected a comment over my creativity (my songs for him).I got hurt, all i wanted is to talk a lil bit. But he's so busy.Then one night 3:17 am,he messaged me "can you sing the song the heart wants what it wants by selena gomez"I told " okay i will"But i didn't send the song 'cause im a human too. I was hurt enough.Then one day i was listening to that song,and was missing him so recorded the song and sent him. No reply came yet he was on. Then i made a portrait "my masterpiece "No reply came.I know its funny..that im still having a hope you know.. i dont expect much. Just i wanna talk with him, i wanna know him better,i wanna be the cure he needs to heal his pain.My friends keep on telling that he doesn't worth your pain,move on,there's many guys behind you blah blah. But still im stuck with this.Is this really possible to be in love with a guy you never dated,or seen him only once in two years?? I thought it must be an infatuation .but i still write songs when i miss him, i still look at his pictures and sketch his face. Why?Im a kid ,only 18 years old..he's 26. I know he must has choices too,i respect his choices...so i dont expect much. Its okay. Its alright for me. But my question is...Why does he ignore me after knowing all these?I dont know, im not weak... everybody has their own choices to live their lives,so i turn this heartbreak into some creativities so that i can be someone i wanna be.Does he really hate me??Im not some partyass girl, im kinda boring though.What will i do to get a lil bit of his attention? Just as a friend. I love him soo much.Winning his heart isn't the main thing for me,i just want the reason ,why does he ignore me?He talks to me when he wants to,ignores me when he doesn't want to. :'(Im so hopeless.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2015): HiMy guess would be that you came across as too 'full on' Too much, too soon. If you were chatting to someone you had never met and they suddenly said that they loved you, would you feel a bit freaked out by it? I know I would. People on line have to be careful as they have no idea what the other person is like, so if you say something to alarm them, they will back off. Be really careful next time you chat to someone you like. Think, 'Would I be okay reading this?' 'Is it appropriate'? Some things you did, were, in my opinion, a bit over the top and it all sounds a bit dramatic. You don't love him sooo much or at all, because you don't know him. Start talking to others, but you really have to play down anything over the top and too much chasing and posting etc etc. Be cool and friendly. I'm sure you're a lovely girl, just a little lost about how to act with others. Let them get to know you slowly, keep any over the top feelings to yourself until you meet them and after you've got to know them, because there is every likelihood that you won't be interested once you've met them. It's easy to build things up in your mind and persuade yourself it's the truth. I think you showed you had done that with this man and he knows it can't be real, so I think you did scare him off. Good luck next time!
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (14 April 2015):
 He is ignoring you because he isn't interested. Sorry :(
No matter how many songs or cute posts you make.. YOU can not make him LIKE you back with the same intensity as YOU feel for him (or think you feel for him - you don't REALLY know him as a person, who knows he might be a total jerk, he might not)
I'd say, start ignoring him, block him or remove him. There is NO point in having him as a "friend" when the LAST thing he is.. is a friend.
Time to let go of this crush.
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