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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Ok would like opinions from both guys and girl here please! :)Whats with a guy when...1) he talks to your friends and starts converstaions with them on msn but doesnt with you! He only talks to you if you talk to him.2) when he chose to sit next to u for a year in class but hardly spoke and then in places like in a common room if he could wouldn;t sit next to you on a table3) when he says to you your a great friend to him anf stuff thats happened in the past shows that but then he tells other people he doesn't like you at all. (bare in mine if the people didnt like you in that clas for no good reason and they didnt like you being friends)4) when if your alone he will willingly talk to you and make the converstation(bare in mind im pretty quiet n shy) but when your with others he'll alwyas talk to them over you, yea he'll let you join in but he wont talk directly alone to you like he would others)...seems like a bit of a communication problem5) when he tells one of his friends something that makes them wanna get you both together and make you happy and then when it comes to meeting up he says he doesn't like me, but then after that goes back to the im a greta friend etcPlease bare in mind this lad is not a player, hes a busy guy but tbh i cant seem to figure this out!im not sure whats going on its like ive been told by people hes said he doesnt want a relationship with anyone atm but its the way e acts thats makes me wodner if he just dosnt know what he wants!?Other stuffs happened before n stuff ad i keep thinking that because i kinda shyed away i recked any chance...Ok just like foregt the idea that he doesnt want a gf right now and in egneral if a guy did these things what could it be showing? Any advice appreciated.Please bare in mind i jsut want an insight to what could be going on, i cant actually ask him about this myself at this moment in time. I wanna get my head sorted first
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reader, RAINORFIRE  +, writes (23 July 2009):
 Hes just a boy leave hm alone dont get your head and heart strings all wound up over hm n ten years you wont remember his name or care go do something interesting with your young life ignore this guy if he wants to be friends fine but dont sweat it if he doesnt talk to you on msn.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (22 July 2009):
 He sounds young, immature, rude, socially awkward and very rough around the edges. Not exactly charming, polite, attentive, kind, gentle, sweet and generous. Yet. Give him time to mature.
I have one other observation for you, one lesson I learned the hard way: when a guy says he's not ready for a relationship, he means it. Take him at his word. He's being honest. Don't imagine that you can change his mind, you'll only end up breaking your own heart. Take it from one who's been there, done that.
If I were in your shoes, I'd only pay him a tiny amount of attention, and only if he somehow is directly in your line of vision, or somehow crosses your path. Otherwise, get on with your life, laugh with your friends, make fantastic, fun plans, don't dwell on some guy with irregular hours and irrational behavior pattens. Coulda, woulda, shoulda. If someone had taken me aside and told me this when I was interested in an emotionally unavailable guy, it would have saved me a lot of wasted time, energy and missed opportunities.
Take care!
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