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writes:What would you do if you found your husband who's 40 in bed with a girl between the ages of 18-21? The girls blonde, young everything he would like and i even found texts on his phone where he told her she was hotter than me, and would prefer her over me, could this be true or could he just be telling her that?And she said things like shes skint and he says he will take her shopping and his credit card bill was so much higher than usual
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reader, dearkelja  +, writes (28 July 2009):
 I honestly do not believe I could stay with a man if I had to live with that picture of finding him in bed with someone else, young old or otherwise. So, I think I would have to leave. Trust is a big deal to a marriage and even if I could find a way to trust again, still have that picture in my brain.
You ask if that could be true that he thinks this young woman is hotter than you? Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. The woman slept with a married man. She accepted gifts in exchange for being with him. To me, she falls short of beautiful, at least on the inside. And, who cares what your husband thinks right now, he's only thinking with his male anatomy.
All the best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2009): I really feel for you, this must be heartbreaking. But He has lost loyalty to you, and your relationship. Take the facts as they come. You deserve sooo much better. I would get as much proof that he is cheating that i could like forward all the msgs to your phone from his, credit card statements, even secretly record yourself confronting him about it, and get yourself a good lawyer, because I assuming after being married for that long, you have a lot more than a husband to lose. Keep your dignity, don't let people treat you like this. Cut him loose. All the best.x
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2009): I really feel for you, this must be heartbreaking. But He has lost loyalty to you, and your relationship. Take the facts as they come. You deserve sooo much better. I would get as much proof that he is cheating that i could like forward all the msgs to your phone from his, credit card statements, even secretly record yourself confronting him about it, and get yourself a good lawyer, because I assuming after being married for that long, you have a lot more than a husband to lose. Keep your dignity, don't let people treat you like this. Cut him loose. All the best.x
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2009): Lol. There was an ad on this page for Arab women. But it's gone now. Get your Arab woman, fifty percent off!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2009): You know, I am relieved. I wrote what came to mind, and after clicking "add your answer" I regretted it. I thought, "oh maybe that was not appropriate. I will lkely get much redicule for that.." Pwhew.. I am glad to these senses of humour.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2009): yes. yes i am with the potatoe pealer idea haha!
seriously though, leave him. you deserve someone who is faithful.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2009): Hey Satin, what do you think of these sexy Arab girls?
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reader, Olivia(Y). +, writes (28 July 2009):
 I agree with Sincerely Yours. I think the idea is amazing.
Yes i would confont him, Dump him because you can do and deserve much better than him, then feed him to the pet :)
Livia
xoxox
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reader, quarky +, writes (28 July 2009):
 Potato peeler!
That is truly inspired!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2009): Well 1st off i wouldnt leave him although you may feel like that,after i had calmed down i would want to talk and ask the reason why it happened,you deserve an explaination then you make your decision what to do next,you never know why unless your prepared to listen
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reader, straight to the truth +, writes (27 July 2009):
i dont care what age she is i would leave him! he obviously has no respoect for you at all and this marriage is obviously over!
me personally i would have hit him and more than likely knocked him out and i would have done the same to her.
I am not a violent person and i would not reccomend this to anyone lol but the rage would be too strong.
you dont get married until your wife gets older and trade her in for a newer model! you are not a mobile phone that he can upgrade! you were his WIFE!
do not give him another chance and because of the messages and the spending this just proves this wasn't a one off drunken mistake (which i dont condone either) but this was him trying to wooo the young girl!
she is more than likely a letch that has latched on to an older man who is using him for his credit card and gave him what he wanted so that she could still get what she wants from the shops.
You'll probably find that if you left him she will reliase she is left with a 40 year old (dirty old man) letching after a girl who is too young for him and she is now stuck with him as he no longer has his wife to go home to.
He will be left old and lonely letching after young girls.
You will be free to start you life again with a man who respects you and wants to be with you.
I really hope you get the strength and self respect to leave this man as i am sure you wont want to live with this heartache for the rest of your life.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (27 July 2009):
 My first impulse was say "leave him", but in real life such a decision is not that easy. You have been cheated on, maybe for a long time, and it is obvious you cannot believe everything is "business as usual". What you will do will depend on what your situation is.
In my opinion, "leaving him" would be the ideal solution. I would check how far I could go in that direction.
Hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2009): The girl would be in the ER due to potato peeler injuries and the husband would be in a bloody pulp in.. several areas of the room.
~Sy.
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