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What do his signals mean?

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Question - (22 April 2014) 2 Answers - (Newest, 25 April 2014)
A female Ireland age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Hey everyone! Im really confused with the signals this guy has been giving me and I was just wondering if you could give me some advice on the subject. So last September I started college,and met a guy lets just call him X.X and I started to hang out a lot in college and he was so nice and friendly.We have been getting along great.Recently I have noticed his behaviour changing though.

He seems to talk to me the most out of all the girls in our friend group where he used to talk to all them just as much as he would talk to me(I didn't notice this one of my girlfriends pointed it out).One of the guy's we know asked me out as part of a joke and he cut in saying "she can do a lot better than you" in an odd tone.He has been quiet affectionate recently too like hugging high fiving and things like that. He acts like this for about 3-4 days and then gives me the cold shoulder for a day or two then back to this behaviour.

This behaviour all started around the time I broke up with my boyfriend(last month).When I said this to our friend group he told me that I could better than him and that my ex boyfriend wasn't treating me the way I deserved to be treated.I have never been really good with the opposite sex. I'm quite an awkward person.

Basically my question is what does his behaviour mean ?Thanks for reading guy's I really appreciate it.

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A female reader, Atsweet1 United States +, writes (25 April 2014):

Atsweet1 agony auntHe appears to like you and wants you. Plus he most likely feels he is better or the best quality and fit thats if you want to be treated the way he treats when he is involved with someone he wants and cares about. Also he can be just concern and want you treated with the upmost respect and dignity and to have you respected first and foremost. Its not that he may want you for himself but he most likely wants you to himself or to get to know you better.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2014):

It means nothing. Honestly, OP, it's not worth reading into anything a guy who acts like that does.

You know that Katy Perry song Hot n' Cold? That's him.

OP when a person blows hot and cold like that, it's best ignored because worst case scenarios he's a game playing douchebag, best case he likes you but hasn't got the balls to ever make a move.

He's the type of guy who will probably try it on while drunk and then pretend to not remember the next day.

Just ignore it until he does something concrete, until then OP he's just a game player playing hot n cold.

If you ask me, Op he has no right to be territorial with you in the way he is. No one gets that right until they actually are in a relationship with you. maybe at your age you think that's cut but he's been basically been fucking with your head blowing hot and cold for a month now and not done anything about it.

So watch your back with this guy, OP, even the best case scenario that he's just a ballsless fool without the guts to make a move is a pretty shitty kind of guy to get with when he's acting like this when you're not even together. He's already acting possessive by jumping in that way and cutting people off.

You've been single a month, that's more than enough time to ask you out. What does he do? Play mind games instead.

Ignore it until or even if he ever tries to make a move, my feeling is he'll try and get his dick wet once he's drunk enough to have the courage to make a move on you. Either that or he's not interested and playing you.

Seriously, never trust a guy who is hot n cold, ignore everything they do as a sign of nothing. Guys who are good for you will be consistent in their behaviour and they won't act possessive.

This guy is acting like a child who won't let anyone play with his ball even though he doesn't ever play with himself.

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