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writes: My husband and I have been separated for nearly 3 months now and despite all that has happened (he cheated and became very nasty) I am still in love with him, miss him and care very much for him. Over the time we have been getting closer again, but he will not leave his "girlfriend". I feel stupid for believing him when he tells me he is still in love with me and doesn't want a divorce. I know he is not in a good place at the moment but I am unsure how much of his problems were caused by his horrible childhood. I would like for us to go to a relationship counsellor but he is against this idea. I am just so confused.
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reader, shania  +, writes (19 December 2005):
 Your husband says he loves you,thats why he is still screwing his girlfriend.Come on,this man is taking you for a fool and you deserve better then that.He wants his cake and eat it.He has got you dangling on a string,just in case things dont work out with his bit on the side,he will have you as his back burner.So what,if he had a unhappy chilhood,does that give him the god bearing right to make a fool out of you? Your his wife not his shrink! Walk away from this marriage before he drags you in to the gutter.
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reader, Ms Mebaby +, writes (18 December 2005):
When are you going to realize that you deserve only the best that life has to offer? This is certainly not the best. Stop wasting your time on this fool and free yourself for something awesome to come your way.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (18 December 2005):
 I'm afraid you are wasting you time on this marriage. The real tragedy here is that you still care for this scumbag. Proceed with the divorce knowing that you have honor and can hold your head up whereas he looks like the fool that he is. You should also know that here is a man out there who will cherish the ground you walk on. You will find each other, I promise.
P.S. Lots of people who have had lousey childhoods grow up to be loving and caring spouses, it's just a matter of choice not excuses.
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reader, kellyO +, writes (18 December 2005):
 Hi dear, i feel for you. I am abit angry with your husband here cos this just reminds me of my past. Please what he is doing to u is so unfair to you and so wrong.How can he want to keep both u and his lover. His childhood is no excuse. If he still loves u then he should be able to end things with this woman. He is obviously playing on ur good and loving nature.u dont deserve this and u have to be very strong. My dear i will be harsh but u have to open ur eyes and see. u r the only one here making the attempt to save this marriage. IS not what he is saying that is important but what he does. Why doesnt he even want to go with u to a relationship counsellor?
The decision is yours really whether to continue in this marriage with your husband who obviously is hceating on you and he doesnt consider refraining from it and isnt even trying to work on the marriage or end it.
wish u all the best u r indeed a very forgiving and loving wife i hope he realises this before he looses u cos ur type is very hard to find and come by.
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